Top 10 Empowering Breakup Songs
As we’ve discussed before, there are two types of breakup songs.
Songs that depress the hell out of you: These songs help you wallow in your breakup. You hear one of these songs, and suddenly you are sobbing and miserable. They remind you of everything that sucks about your breakup, about your ex and about your whole damned life. Good activities while listening to these songs include thinking about the last time you and your ex kissed, staring at pictures of the two of you when you were blissfully, sickeningly happy, and eating Ben and Jerry’s in your pajamas after not showering or leaving the house for days. Here’s a list of these songs. Oh, and be sure to read the comments for some great additions to my initial list.
Songs that empower you to move forward: These songs make you realize you are going to be okay. They inspire you to move on, and maybe help you develop some healthy anger toward your ex. These songs remind you of how much better you are without him/her, whether it’s because he/she was a jerk or because he/she just wasn’t right for you and now you can find “the one.” Good activities while listening to these songs include singing like a maniac in your car, dancing in the shower and rocking out with your friends while drinking wine and eating ice cream. Ice cream is a must for either set of songs – this is a breakup, after all.
Without further ado, here is my top 10 list of empowering breakup songs:
10.
Song title: You’ll Think Of Me
Artist: Keith Urban
Best lines:
Take your records, take your freedom
Take your memories, I don’t need ‘em
Take your space and take your reasons
But you’ll think of me
And take your cat and leave my sweater
‘Cause we have nothing left to weather
In fact I’ll feel a whole lot better
But you’ll think of me, you’ll think of me
Someday I’m gonna run across your mind
But don’t worry, I’ll be fine
I’m gonna be alright
While you’re sleeping with your pride
Wishing I could hold you tight
I’ll be over you
And on with my life
9.
Song title: So What
Artist: Pink
Best lines:
And guess what, I’m havin’ more fun
And now that we’re done
I’m gonna show you tonight
I’m alright, I’m just fine
And you’re a tool so
So what? I am a rock star
I got my rock moves
And I don’t want you tonight
8.
Song title: Better In Time
Artist: Leona Lewis
Best lines:
Thought I couldn’t live without you
It’s gonna hurt when it heals too
It’ll all get better in time
Even though I really love you
I’m gonna smile cause I deserve to
It’ll all get better in time
Since there’s no more you and me
It’s time I let you go
So I can be free
And live my life how it should be
No matter how hard it is I’ll be fine without you
Yes I will
7.
Song title: Fighter
Artist: Christina Aguilera
Best lines:
After all of the stealing and cheating
You probably think that I hold resentment for you
But, uh uh, oh no, you’re wrong
‘Cause if it wasn’t for all that you tried to do
I wouldn’t know just how capable I am to pull through
So I wanna say thank you
‘Cause it makes me that much stronger
Makes me work a little bit harder
It makes me that much wiser
So thanks for making me a fighter
Made me learn a little bit faster
Made my skin a little bit thicker
Makes me that much smarter
So thanks for making me a fighter
6.
Song title: Carousel
Artist: Laura Izibor
Best lines:
Every day has its ups and downs
You think you’re lost
You will be found
Most of us want the same old things
Someone to love
What it brings
I know it’s hard it gets tough sometimes
You gotta hold on, like a carousel
Going around and around and around and around
5.
Song title: Irreplaceable
Artist: Beyoncé
Best lines:
So since I’m not your everything
How about I’ll be nothing, nothing at all to you
Baby I won’t shed a tear for you, I won’t lose a wink of sleep
‘Cause the truth of the matter is replacing you is so easy
To the left, to the left
To the left, to the left
To the left, to the left
Everything you own in the box to the left
To the left, to the left
Don’t you ever for a second get to thinking you’re irreplaceable
4.
Song title: I Saw The Sign
Artist: Ace of Base
Best lines:
I, I got a new life
You would hardly recognize me I’m so glad
How could a person like me care for you?
(Why?) Why do I bother
When you’re not the one for me
Ooooo, is enough, enough?
I saw the sign and it opened up my mind!
And I am happy now living without you
I’ve left you, oh-oh-OH!
I saw the sign and it opened up my eyes I saw the sign
No one’s gonna drag you up to get into the light where you belong
3.
Song: Believe
Artist: Cher
Best lines:
What am I supposed to do
Sit around and wait for you
And I can’t do that
There’s no turning back
I need time to move on
I need love to feel strong
‘Cause I’ve had time to think it through
And maybe I’m too good for you Ohh Oh
But I know that I’ll get through this
‘Cause I know that I am strong
I don’t need you anymore
Oh I don’t need you anymore I don’t need you anymore
No I don’t need you anymore
2.
Song: Survivor
Artist: Destiny’s Child
Best lines:
Now that you are out of my life,
I’m so much better,
You thought that I’d be weak without ya,
But I’m stronger,
You thought that I’d be broke without ya,
But I’m richer,
You thought that I’d be sad without ya,
I laugh harder,
You thought I wouldn’t grow without ya,
Now I’m wiser,
You thought that I’d be helpless without ya,
But I’m smarter,
You thought that I’d be stressed without ya,
But I’m chillin’
You thought I wouldn’t sell without ya,
Sold nine million.
Thought I couldn’t breathe without you,
I’m inhalin’
You thought I couldn’t see without you,
Perfect vision,
You thought I couldn’t last without ya,
But I’m lastin’
You thought that I would die without ya,
But I’m livin’
Thought that I would fail without ya,
But I’m on top,
Though it would be over by now,
But it won’t stop,
You thought that I would self-destruct,
But I’m still here,
Even in my years to come,
I’m still gon’ be here.
DRUM ROLL FOR THE #1 MOST EMPOWERING BREAKUP SONG:
1.
Song title: I Will Survive
Artist: Gloria Gaynor
Best lines:
First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
Without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
Thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on…
Go on now go walk out the door
Just turn around now
‘Cause you’re not welcome anymore
Weren’t you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
You think I’d crumble
You think I’d lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
As long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I’ve got all my life to live
I’ve got all my love to give
And I’ll survive
I will survive
What songs would you add to this list? It definitely needs to be rounded out with a few more male artists, because poor Keith Urban is there all on his lonesome. I’d love to hear your additions!
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Great list! I definitely listened to some Beyonce after break ups. I also liked Over You by Daughtry and Where Have You Been by Reel Big FIsh.
Ooh, thanks. I’ll have to check these ones out! Especially the Daughtry one!
Over You by Daughtry is great,
also try Had Enough – Lifehouse feat. Chris Daughtry (lead of the band Daughrty)
Another Daughtry song, Ghost of Me
I find it really funny that I never realised what The Sign was about when I blasted it on my boombox in the early 90s
Ashley,
LOL I thought the same thing. It wasn’t until after my breakup when I was brainstorming a song for a drunken night of karaoke that I realized what “I Saw The Sign” REALLY was about! And I really did see the sign… so it’s been my official karaoke song since the spring!
Yeah, this happened to me, too. I randomly heard ‘The Sign’ on the radio one day, post break-up, and it was like a revelation. An Ace of Base revelation, haha. I had the same thing with U2’s ‘Who’s Gonna Ride Your Wild Horses’.
Haha, streetlightpeople12. Love “An Ace of Base revelation.” 🙂
my boyfriend broke up with me cuz im not his type the day after the dance
Darlin, no one is his type, except maybe Monkey Girl. More fool he.
my bf broke up with me after a year a half because i was going through a hard time and was busy getting help so apparently i changed therfore he doesnt love me anymore ouch
I don’t know my live-in bf of 4 years broke up with me after he asked for my parents blessing. His only explanation was “we’re different”. Sometimes people just suck!
That does suck Emily. I’m really sorry. You’ll find someone who would never lead you on that way. Take care of yourself.
Emily, same thing with me. its Just sad.
Same here!! This is a great list by the way! Making my friend a break-up cd now and you’ve given me great ideas!
Thanks for checking the list out! So nice of you to make a break up CD for your friend. I’ve never had a mix tape made for me… so jealous!
I just sent a text to my friend telling her that exact same thing..
I’m cracking up that Ace of Base and Cher are on this list.
Songs I would add? Of course, I have to give it to my boyfriend John Mayer and his song, “In Repair”—best lines: “And now I’m walking in the park and all of the birds, they dance below me, maybe when things turn green again, you can tell your friends it’s good to know me.”
Also, Adele’s cover of, “That’s it, I quit, I’m movin’ on,” can’t forget Alanis Morrissette’s “You Oughta Know,” Amy Winehouse’s “Tears Try On Their Own,” and Carrie Underwood’s “Undo it.”
-Lucky
Lucky,
Don’t you know I’ve hardly listened to music since the 90s?? OF COURSE my list of full of Ace of Base and Cher — I don’t know of anything else!! Haha. Another funny note, my supervisor at my company knows about the blog, and he one day came into the office and told me that he’s been thinking about it, and my theme song should be Believe by Cher. He suggested I have it play in the background of the blog. LOL!
I’m definitely going to have to check out these songs, I haven’t heard most of them. Oh, and “You Oughta Know” was almost on this list – if this was a top 11 list, it definitely would have made it. 🙂
Cher the Love! 🙂
Ok heres a few Ideas, Keep me hanging on kim wilde, get out jojo, I hate everything about you, no love lil wayne Eminem. I have been with same man 21 years and the past six have been hell! Hes an alcoholic pill popper who steals from his kids and wife. I have left him several times and prick keeps finding me telling me he gonna change, he can’t live without us etc. He hasn’t had a job in six years and I need to listen to as much hate songs as possible to get through this. Any suggestions, similar to what I have suggested? Thanks, Anita
“You Oughta Know” came to the forefront of my mind also.
I’ll add to the chorus for Daughtry and Alanis, suggesting a few others that empower me at the gym: Maroon 5’s “Makes Me Wonder,” “Gives You Hell” by All American Rejects and Carrie Underwood’s “Before he Cheats.”
And while I’m not a country girl, Terri Clark’s “Better Things to Do” is pretty damn funny.
🙂
Good suggestions, thanks! I almost added “When He Cheats,” because wrecking someone’s truck is super empowering, lol. But if I started down the cheating song path, I’m gonna have to include “It’s Not Right, But It’s OK” by Whitney Houston and “As Good As I Was To You” by Lorrie Morgan 🙂 Lots of good cheating songs to add to this list!!
Kelly Clarkson’s Since You’ve Been Gone. “But since you been gone I can breathe for the first time
Im so movin on Yeah yeah Thanks to you Now I get
What I want Since you been gone”
Oooh! That’s a good one! 🙂 Thanks for the suggestion!
Another good one is Jessie James- I look so good without you!!
And Boston’s Don’t Look Back. Not a break up song, but a great motivator.
Will have to check that one out, thanks!
I happen to be a fan of All American Rejects “Gives You Hell” and Jo Dee Messina’s “My Give A Damn’s Busted.” I don’t know how you are with R&B but one of my FAVORITES is a song called “I Heard it Through the Grapevine” by a group from the 90s, Brownstone.
“I heard it through the grapevine/that you weren’t feeling too fine./Well I hope that you feel much better/yes I do-oo-oo-oo./ It happened on the day I left/Since that day you haven’t been the best./Hope that you feel much better/ yes I do-oo-oo-oo.
Never do something that will catch up to you/You did me wrong and told me lies/never do something that you’ll live to regret/you hurt me so bad, baby/Deep in my heart I feel sorry for ya/You had to lose a damn good thang/Loving me could’ve been good/ Losing my good love was such a shame.”
Who doesn’t want to think of their ex being sick over them and feeling only pity about it (and not the desire to crawl back)?
I could go on forever, but I love your list! 😀
Haven’t heard of any of these!! I need to expand my music horizons :). Will check them out tho..the Grapevine one sounds awesome!
@2blu2btru : : Thank you for reminding me about this song! I used to LOVE Brownstone. Whatever happened to them???
“Forget you” by Cee Lo Green
“I see you driving ’round town
With the girl I love and I’m like,
Forget you!
Oo, oo, oooo
I guess the change in my pocket
Wasn’t enough, I’m like,
Forget you!
And forget her too!
Said, if I was richer, I’d still be with ya
ha , aint that some shh?
And although there’s pain in my chest
I still wish you the best with a…
Forget you!”
The original version is probably better if your a little angry 😉
Haha yeah that’s a good one. I realized on the way to work today that I totally forgot that one!! Thanks for the comment.
There’s actually another Ace Of Base song that’s even more empowering, from the same album. “Don’t Turn Around.”
if you wanna leave
i won’t beg you to stay
and if you gotta go darling
maybe it’s better that way
i’m gonna be strong
i’m gonna be fine
don’t worry about this heart of mine
just walk out that door
yea see if i care
go on and go now
How’d I forget the best Ace of Base song EVER??!!! Thanks for the addition 🙂
“The same album.” Was there more than one, lol?? Gah, I wore my cassette OUT! Loved Ace of Base!
Thé break-up song for me and my friends is one you most likely won’t know (and won’t get too much power from, lol) since it’s in Dutch – Ik leef niet meer voor jou (I don’t live for you anymore) by Marco Borsato. It just crossed my mind since you were still looking for “male” break-up songs.
I don’t live for you anymore/Gone have all the years/When I believed/That we were happy.
And now life belongs to me again/My heart is free again/I am so happy it’s over.
I don’t live for you anymore/There’s no use in trying/To stay here/And dominate me.
I have had to go through too much/I’ve had it with you/So it’s time to send you away.
I don’t live for you anymore/The nights have gone/In which I was waiting for you/All alone.
You have lied to me too hard/Deceived me and cheated on me/So dry those tears in your eyes.
So get the hell out of here/I can’t stand it anymore/And if you wanna leave/That would be a blessing.
You have failed me too many times/I’ve had it with you/Just pack up and go.
I don’t live for you anymore.
Lies – OMG that is awesome!! I love those lyrics. Something so empowering about just saying, “I don’t live for you anymore,” and know it’s true. Thank you for sharing!
I actually listened to Kelly Clarkson’s Breakaway CD on repeat in my car for about 4 months after I broke up with my University boyfriend… It is filled with all kinds of amazing break up songs. And of course, my favorite blow off steam break up song is “F*ck you” by Cee Lo Green!
TL,
Thanks, sounds like Kelly Clarkson is a good girl to listen to during a breakup! F*ck You is definitely a good one too – I can’t believe I forgot it for this list! 🙂 Thanks for your comment!
My husband and I are in the process of divorcing, after 13 years together and what turned out to be many, many affairs. For the first few months I lived on a steady diet of “You Oughtta Know” and Justin Timberlake’s “What Goes Around Comes Around”. I still crank them on the treadmill.
Let me paint this picture for you, baby
You spend your nights alone
And he never comes home
And every time you call him
All you get’s a busy tone
I heard you found out
That he’s doing to you
What you did to me
Ain’t that the way it goes
When you cheated girl
My heart bleeded girl
So it goes without saying that you left me feeling hurt
Just a classic case
A scenario
Tale as old as time
Girl you got what you deserved
And now you want somebody
To cure the lonely nights
You wish you had somebody
That could come and make it right
But girl I ain’t somebody
I’m out of sympathy
Andrea,
I’m sorry to hear about your divorce, I can only imagine how hard this time has been for you. Thanks for you suggestions – You Oughtta Know is PERFECT when you are pissed at an ex and have been done wrong!! “Are you thinking of me… when you F her?!” is like one of the most powerful lines in a song ever, I think.
Take care of yourself! Thanks for reading/commenting!
Have you ever looked up which song was top of the charts when you were born? Mine (in the UK charts) was I Will Survive! I think that’s a good song to be born to as well as a good post-break-up-empowerment song!
Matt,
No I hadn’t until you just mentioned it! The #1 song when I was born was “Like A Virgin” hahaha!
Too funny about I Will Survive! That is a good song to be #1 when you were born (much better than Like a Virgin anyway haha!)
Thanks for the comment!
I think I more particularly like Cake’s remade version of “I Will Survive”. It has a little more of an upbeat feel and nothing can beat…. “I would’ve changed my F*cking lock, I would’ve made you leave your key, if I’d have known for just one second, you’d be back to bother me…”
Yeah, a few people mentioned Cake’s version. I still need to check it out. Thanks for stopping by!
When you put the original post on Twitter, I took the other approach. As a joke growing up my female friends and I used to think of songs that told the OTHER person — it’s done — get out of here, and stay out.
Some of those included:
GNR: I used to love her (but I had to kill her)
Motley Crue: Don’t go away mad (Just go away)
Meatloaf: Two out of three ain’t bad
Your other readers have made some awesome selections.
Ross,
That’s a funny approach; I’ve never thought about it that way. Have you heard “Rest Stop” by Matchbox 20? This is the song I could see giving to someone to listen to as my form of a breakup song…Here’s some lyrics:
Just three miles from the rest stop
And she slams on the breaks
She said I tried to be but I’m not
And could you please collect your things
I don’t wanna be cold
I don’t wanna be cruel
But I gotta find more
Than what’s happening with you
If you’d – open up the door
She said – while you were sleeping
I was listening to the radio
And wondering what you’re dreaming when
It came to mind that I didn’t care
So I thought – hell if it’s over
I had better end it quick
Or I could lose my nerve
Are you listening – can you hear me
Have you forgotten
Oh this is a great post!
My contribution:
“Ten Steps” Marit Larsen
Quite possibly the most chipper break up song Ive come across.
Such a joyful happy tune, you can just picture her skipping out the door. Ahhh,it makes me feel happy.
[Lyrics]
I got a secret I’m dying to tell you
You’re sound asleep, I don’t wanna wake you
I’m about to break your heart and you don’t know
You don’t know
I’ve got my suitcase it’s locked and loaded
And just in case you haven’t noticed
I’m about to break your heart or so I hope
So I hope
Ten steps from your bed to your door
Ten steps and I’ll see you no more
I’ve tried and I, can’t cry tonight
I’ve tried and I, can’t cry tonight
Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye
You look sweet like when I first saw you
Heaven knows how I once adored you
I’m about to kiss your mouth one last time
No dream under your eyelashes
Could ever prepare you for this
I’m about to break your heart like you broke mine
(repeat chorus)
Serene
Serene, thanks for the addition! I’ve never heard this song, but it sounds awesome! I loved the “I’m about to break your heart like you broke mine.” Very intense!
Woooohooo. Totally jazzed about Ace of Base as well!
In addition to some of the other great suggestions provided above, I’d like to include Ben Folds’ “Song for the Dumped” and several Tom Petty classics such as “Don’t Do Me Like That”, “Don’t Come Around Here No More” and “Listen to Her Heart”:
She’s gonna listen to her heart
It’s gonna tell her what to do
She may need a lot of lovin
But she don’t need you.
Oh, and I know Aretha Franklin’s “Respect” is intended for those in a relationship, but boy, I think it’s a great song no matter the subject!
Oohhh good call on the Respect. Hadn’t even thought of that one, but it might be a really good empowering breakup song! Thanks for all your suggestions 🙂
Great post! Sometimes you just need a song to depress the hell out of you, but then there are times you just need to hear a song that says…hey yeah I’m so worth much more and I’m moving on! C-ya! 😉 Here are some empowering songs I like!
“Undo It” Carrie Underwood
You stole my happy You made my cry
Took the lonely and took me for a ride
And I wanna Uh-uh-uh-uh-uh undo it. You had my heart, now I want it back I’m starting to see everything you lack
Boy, you blew it You put me through it
I wanna Uh-uh-uh-uh-uh undo it
“Watch Me Shine” Joanna Pacitti (Legally Blond ;-))
Bet you don’t think I can take it. But my mind and body are strong. Bet you don’t think I can make it
It won’t take long. Bet you don’t think I can take it
But my mind and body are strong. Bet you don’t think I can make it. It won’t take long. Now watch me shine…
“Sucks to be You” Danielle Peck
I tried to love you baby. But I couldn’t make you happy
And it just really shouldn’t be so hard. I gave and you kept taking. You made some big mistakes and
You were always careless with my heart
I’m happier now. Ain’t it funny how
All it took was leaving you. To finally feel good again
You say you’re sorry now. That you figured out
Just what it was that you had to lose. Well it sucks to be you.
“Over It” Katharine McPhee
Wanting you,to be wanting me. No that ain’t no way to be.
How I feel, read my lips,because I’m so over..
Moving on, it’s my time, you never were a friend of mine.
Hurt at first, a little bit, but now I’m so over.I’m so over it..
“Since You’ve Been Gone” Kelly Clarkson
“Goodbye to you” Scandal
2NewBeginnings: Great suggestions! I like “Over It” a lot! The best part of this post is reading all of your comments…. my iPod is really lacking some good breakup songs! 🙂
I was going to write kelly clarkson, “Since you’ve been gone” but i see someone else already suggested it. Can you like a comment? 🙂
Funny story about Beyonce’s Irreplaceable:
I was dating a guy, who I refer to as colby on darcy dates (see yankees vs. red sox). after a year of serious dating he broke my heart into a million tiny pieces by breaking up with me suddenly 2 days before christmas and a week before my step brothers wedding. His ring tone had always been Beyonce’s irreplaceable, as it had come out two months a month into dating him and it reminded me of him for some reason. Fast forward, 3 months after dumping me suddenly and me crying my eyes out for 2 of those months, he contacted me, claiming he had made a terrible mistake and he wanted to get back together. I texted him back:
“To the left, to the left, everything you own in a box to the left.” It was one of my favorite texts I had ever sent. I may have to write about that on Darcy Dates! Great post catherine!
Darcy,
What a great story!! Thanks for sharing. I LOVE your text response. I hope you saved it – how liberating!! I definitely think you should write about it!
Im married but I still get a kick out of singing these types of songs when I’m by myself! They are still empowering no matter what stage of life you are at, they can really help motivate you… It’s all in the attitude of them. “Who Are We Fooling?” by Brooke Fraser is a beautiful song too, but more about a mutual break-up. Very well-written.
Great post Catherine!
Littecurio, thanks for your comment! I agree, some of these songs you can enjoy even if you are happily in a relationship. I think we all have felt heart ache at some point though, so we can all empathize (in some way) to some of these songs. I never heard that Brooke Fraser song, but just checked out the lyrics… great stuff! Thanks for sharing.
I looked through my breakup playlist, Catherine, and absolutely NONE of them are empowering! haha whoops! Guess I’ll need to start on a new playlist 🙂
Maggie, haha, trust me, I have the same problem. Most of them are depressing as hell – maybe that’s why this list took me so long to finally write! Some great suggestions in the comments, get downloading!
hehe, I meant songs like “I will survive”! Don’t worry, no one’s dancing to “All by myself”! 😉
Hahaha, great clarification. No judgement here… I definitely sang Bonnie Raitt’s “I Can’t Make You Love Me” to myself even while I was blissfully happy! lol!
Catherine, I just read your comment from December, about my life, on Jessica’s blog. Thank you so much.
Now for your current post–I always try to match my posts with music from Playlist–Sometimes it works, and sometimes, not so much!!
Judie,
No problem! As far as music – I’ve never been much of a music buff, so trying to match every post to music would be IMPOSSIBLE for me! Good luck with that!
Mockingbird by Rob Thomas.
I have a letter to best buy guy up 🙂 i think it’ll make you laugh
Oh awesome. Heading over there now. Thanks for the addition!
Okay..I think the best song post-break-up is “I Pray For You”. I pray your brakes go out runnin’ down a hill.
I pray a flowerpot falls from a windowsill
And knocks you in the head like I’d like to.
I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls
I pray your flyin’ high when your engine stalls
I pray all your dreams never come true
Etc……I don’t really like country songs per se but this one warms my soul!
Hilarious! My sister really likes this song too. Right after my breakup she sent it my way. Thanks for the addition!
The absolute best song ever, funny that i first heard it with my now ex. I guess this song is the only good thing i got out of the relationship!
Have just spent all of last night and all of today reading this blog.. You really are an inspiration to us all! Although I am in a loving long-term relationship right now (knock on wood!) I too have had my share of breakups and pain, and since I am a total music-buff, I thought I’d share my 2 cents 🙂 There are a few sad songs, and a few screw-you songs, but instead of dropping a few songs on each respective blog entry, I’ll get them all down here..
PS. Congrats on your 100th post! 🙂
Kelly Clarkson – Behind these hazel eyes:
“Seems like just yesterday, you were a part of me
I used to stand so tall, I used to be so strong
Your arms around me tight, everything felt so right
Unbreakable, like nothin’ could go wrong
Now I can’t breathe, no, I can’t sleep
I’m barely hanging on.
Here I am, once again, I’m torn into pieces
Can’t deny it, can’t pretend,
Just thought you were the one
Broken up, deep inside
But you won’t get to see the tears I cry
Behind these hazel eyes”
Savage Garden – The lover after me:
“Here I go again I promised myself I wouldn’t think of you today
It’s been seven months and counting
You’ve moved on
I still feel exactly the same
It’s just that everywhere I go all the buildings know your name
Like photographs and memories of love
Steel and granite reminders
The city calls your name and I can’t move on”
Fefe Dobson – Don’t let it go to your head:
“Just cause I can’t go on
Just cause I die when you’re gone
Just cause I think of you in bed
Don’t let it go to your head”
Three Days Grace – I hate everything about you:
“I hate everything about you
Why do I love you”
Alter Bridge – Ghost of days gone by:
“The misery I know
Like a friend that won’t let go
Is creeping up on me now once again.
Do you feel the same
For what once remained
Yesterday is gone, we can’t go back again
Do you ever cry for the ghost of days gone by.”
Alter Bridge – Shed my skin:
“I am not alone
I live with the memories, regret is my home
This is my true freedom
Express all the feelings of what I’ve become
I watch the rising sun
I hope I find some peace today
It seems I’ve gone away
It seems I’ve lost myself
It seems I’ve really lost my way
It seems I’ve lost myself
It seems I’ve
Shed my skin”
Default – It only hurts:
“Can hold my breath only for a little while, ’til reality starts sinking in,
Once again I’m settling for second best; turn the pages, skip to the end.
It only hurts when your eyes are open, lies get tossed and truth is spoken,
It only hurts when that door gets open, dreams are lost and hearts are broken.”
Dead by April – Stronger (Warning: Metal song!)
“So I got my escape out from your prison
Feelings of fear, feelings of joy, nothing can get me now
Feeling alive may take me longer than I ever expected.
And now it’s time to show them all, what I am, who I am, what I think!
Answer me for all that I’m asking
Taking back what I’ve been missing
Looking back making me stronger
My despair breaks me no longer”
Lostprophets – Last train home:
“To every broken heart in here
Love was once a part, but now it’s disappeared
She told me that it’s all a part of the choices that your making
Even when you think you’re right, you have to give to take
But there’s still tomorrow, forget the sorrow
And I can be on the last train home
Watch it pass the day, as it fades away
No more time to care, no more time, today”
Lily Allen – Fuck you
“Fuck you, fuck you very, very much!”
And then on the days that you feel that you’re done being sad, broken, angry, bitter, etc etc.. When you feel you’re finally ready to throw yourself out there again, here’s arguably the most beautiful song in the world. It’s my boyfriend’s and my song – but if you ever need it, I’ll lend it to ya 😉
Note: When you play this, switch off everything else, close your eyes and REALLY listen to these lyrics. Prepare for tears. And prepare to feel GOOD about life and love.
India Arie – Ready for love.
I’m not going to post the lyrics here because I think you should hear them from India herself the first time. And anyway, I’d just end up posting the whole song… 🙂
Wow, thank you so much! These are some amazing additions and I’m off to listen to the India Arie song.
I also appreciate your kind words and your reading the blog. It means a lot to me, and I’m so happy that you have enjoyed it. It’s not always easy to put this all out there, so I really appreciate it when I get some an amazing comment such as yours. Sort of made my day, hell, my week… so thanks!!
Yea I completely understand – and think you’re kickass for baring your soul and being so brutally honest about it all!
Let me know what you thought of India Arie when you’ve had a chance to listen 😉
Wow, I had forgotten to check out the song until I saw your comment. I’m so happy you reminded me. I just listened to it – it is so beautiful!! She has such a wonderful voice and I really like the message. It actually made me tear up a bit – I’m not quite ready for love, the way she seems to be/says she is… but I hope to be there someday. And I know I’ll listen to this song and it’ll mean even more to me when I’m ready. Thanks again!
Great blog… I’d like to add just one more song to this list…
My Immortal by Evanescence… mesmerizing music… depressing song…
“My Immortal”
I’m so tired of being here, suppressed by all my childish fears
And if you have to leave, I wish that you would just leave
‘Cause your presence still lingers here and it won’t leave me alone
These wounds won’t seem to heal, this pain is just too real
There’s just too much that time cannot erase
When you cried, I’d wipe away all of your tears
When you’d scream, I’d fight away all of your fears
And I held your hand through all of these years
But you still have… All of me
You used to captivate me by your resonating light
Now I’m bound by the life you left behind
Your face it haunts my once pleasant dreams
Your voice it chased away all the sanity in me
These wounds won’t seem to heal, this pain is just too real
There’s just too much that time cannot erase
When you cried, I’d wipe away all of your tears
When you’d scream, I’d fight away all of your fears
And I held your hand through all of these years
But you still have… All of me
I’ve tried so hard to tell myself that you’re gone
But though you’re still with me, I’ve been alone all along
When you cried, I’d wipe away all of your tears
When you’d scream, I’d fight away all of your fears
And I held your hand through all of these years
But you still have… All of me, me, me…
Wow this is a depressing song! Thanks for sharing it. I’d have to say it’s a better fit for the list linked below, for when you are really down in the dumps (and just fine with staying there!) Appreciate your comment 🙂
Ohh yeah these are “empowering” songs and My Immortal is in no way such a song! lol it does belong to the other list.
🙂
I’ve got to say, “my immortal” is on my empowering list because it shows me that its ok to still love him, but i’m done wiping his tears, fighting his fears, and holding his hand just as i HAVE done for all these years for nothing in return, he will always be my immortal but i’m moving on(:
Girl – Destinys Child
I hate you so much right now – Kelis
I dont need a man – Pussycat Dolls
Fuck It – Eamon
Im a survivor – Destinys Child
Get out – Jojo
I wanna dance with somebody – Whitney Houston
Im a bitch – Meredith Brooks
I will survive – Aretha Franklin
You outta know – Alanis Morrisette
No scrubs – TLC
Great additions, thanks! Survivor from Destiny’s Child is definitely a good one. I can’t believe I missed that one the first time around!
I was going to be SO ANGRY if I Will Survive wasn’t at the top of the list…er, bottom of the list? How about Jar of Hearts? I feel like that is a modern, emo version of I will Survive.
Oh, and, Charley, I Will Survive is NOT Aretha Franklin — hello GLORIA GAYNOR! Kids these days.
Crystal
LOL. Kids these days. They don’t know their female empowering breakup music!! haha 🙂
You seriously can’t do this list without I Will Survive. Actually, I think I Will Survive is the reason I even decided to compile this list!
I recently broke up with my partner and I compiled my own break-up playlist. It has been in the loop for 2 days now. These are just 6 songs i randomly selected. Be well and happy all 🙂
(1) Never (Past Tense) – Rock Project feat. Tina Arena
(2) Incomplete – Alanis Morrisette
(3) In the Dark – Morgan Page
(4) It’s not my time – 3 Doors Down
(5) Madonna – Sorry
(6) Giggling for no reason – Alanis Morrisette
Mustapha,
Sorry to hear about your break up. Thanks for sharing some of your play list… I hope you feel better soon and can change your playlist to a more upbeat one 🙂
I’m in the process of ending a 5 year relationship
So i made a new playlist..
Here’s a few picks to add to your list:
1]”The Wreckoning”-Boomkat
2)”All the Single Ladies” – Beyonce
3)”What the Hell” – Avril Lavigne
4)”Swing Swing” AND “Move Along” -The All-American Rejects
5)”Dog Days Are Over”-Florence + The Machine
6)”Stronger” -Britney Spears
7)”Not Big”- Lily Allen, or “Smile” -Lily Allen
8)”Single”-Natasha Bedingfield
9)”Don’t Ask Me”-OK Go
10)”Nothing Better” -The Postal Service
11)”Hit the Road, Jack”- Ray Charles
Enjoy all, & Chin up.
Glorianne,
Sorry to hear about the end of your relationship. I imagine this is a hard time – but hey, at least you have a good play list to get you through! You have some great additions here. I particularly like What the Hell and Stronger. Thanks for your comment!
great choices!
Thanks!
Heyy i saw all these songs and man do they really help out. I have a suggestion for you also.
You Could Be Happy by Snow Patrol
Its pretty much about a guy who regrets all the things he has done to push her away but in the end he realizes he loves her to much to want her to stay miserable. I thought it really helped me get over my ex because even though i did resent her for breaking up i realized that i rather see her happy with someone else than miserable with me. I know it doesn’t go with this motif of empowering here but i thought that sinced it helped me it could help someone else =)
Be warned it starts of really sad but it does get better =P
Ah i and i forgot to add
You Give Love a Bad Name – BonJovi
Here I Go Again – White Snake
Marchin On – OneRepublic
Hope you like them =)
Great additions, thank you! Love a male’s perspective on good break up songs. Really helps round out the list!
All popish entries?
what about
-Bif naked ‘i love myself today’
– 10 years ‘So long goodbye’
– U2 ‘one’ <- living off of this one so far
– Theory of a Deadman 'By the way'
– Rufus Wainwright 'hallelujah'
-Nirvana 'heart shaped box'
-shinedown 'crow and the butterfly'
-kelly clarkson 'already gone'
Great additons, thanks. I’m no good at anything but pop (very sheltered in my music over here), so I really appreciate you diversifying the list a little! Thanks for stopping by and commenting.
“Go Ahead” by Alicia Keys
Great addition, thanks Marina! Love Alicia Keys.
Girl From the Gutter– Kina *******This is the best song EVER!!!
Me– Kina
Best Days of Your Life- Kelly Pickler
🙂
Mandi,
Thanks for the additions. I totally forgot about the Kelly Pickler song – good choice!
Sara Evans – A little bit stronger
Good add – thanks!
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There’s nothing but a great empowering song to get you out of you’re depressed state. Just going through a really rough break-up myself. He broke up with me for someone else and won’t stop contacting me. So I needed to release some anger and these songs helped quite a bit. Thanks =D
I would love to add a few songs to the already amazing list(not in particular order). So here goes:
1.) Simple plan – you suck at love.
2.) Christina Perri- bang bang bang. All her songs are amazing but this one is amazingly moodlifting =D.
”I heard she did to you, what you did to me, 5, 4 , 3, 2, 1
Bang bang bang boy, you’re going down down down boy
To the ground where you left my heat to bleed
Bang she shot you, karma tastes so sweet!
3.) ”Black + blue” – Christina perri: Black+blue. My heart isn’t black and blue anymore 😉
4.) Christina Perri- jar of hearts .Eventhough really sad, it still has this power vibe to saying who the hell do you think you are!
5.) Kesha- blind. I know kesha isn’t the first thing that you think of , but the song is great for break-up. ”I’m sick and tired of the mess you made me. You never gonna catch me cry.You must be blind if you can’t see.You’ll miss me ’till the day you die”
6.) Pixie Lott- Doing fine(without you). You’re a let down from what I remember, and I’m not missin your love lalalala.
7.) Lisa Marie Presley- idiot : ”I’m gonna tell you what I think about you in that unforgivable way I do. You’re an idiot and I hate your guts”. Pretty clear eh =D
8.) Adele – rumour has it . ”Bless your soul, you’ve got your head in the clouds,
You made a fool out of me, and boy your bringing me down…now rumour has it he’s the one I’m leaving you for”
9.) Hilary Duff – so yesterday. New days new chances. You’re in the past boy!
10.) Graffiti 6- Stare into the sun. This one never fails to cheer me up! Great to song along in the shower. I’m feelingg blueeeee cause love is gone, guess I loseeeee but life goes on!
11.) enrique Iglesias ft. Ciara – takin’ back my love. I’m taking back my love, HA!
15.) Julian Perreta – wonder why. Don’t really know if this counts as a break up song. It just always cheeres me up so much when I’m down cause of my break-up. ” don’t you ever wonder why, I was never by your side”
17.) Diana ross and the supremes- you keep me hangin on. I hate the way he won’t let me move on. ”Let me get over you, the way you’ve gotten over me! get out my live why don’t you baby!
18.) Christina aguilera – you lost me. Just so very beautiful and strong and sad. It just had to be listed.
19.) New years day- You’ll only make it worse. ”Don’t try to make it better, you’ll only make it worse.”
That’s it for now =D again very sorry for the length >>
Sorry for the numbering 😛 took the most accurate ones form my playlist and forgot to change it x)
Haha no worries!
Wow, great post! No apologies needed for the length, I just really appreciate your input! Great songs. You are right, I never would have thought about Kesha for a breakup song, but those lyrics you posted are beautiful! ”I’m sick and tired of the mess you made me. You never gonna catch me cry.You must be blind if you can’t see.You’ll miss me ’till the day you die”
for me, its John Mayer’s Slow dancing in a burning room
Thanks for the addition!
When you’re really feeling ready to let go and you’re ready to move on and open your heart again:
If You Love Somebody Set Them Free by Sting
Thanks for this Susan 🙂 I never would have added a Sting song, just because I’m not that familiar. Love the diversity all the comments add to this list!
First, apologies for the stupid long post!
Awesome list, thank you for saving my night. I’m now happily engaged to a wonderful man, but my abusive ex just got back in touch this evening after constantly emailing me for the last year, to tell me that he’s over me dumping him, and that I’m a waste of space, that I had the chance to be someone amazing but now I’ll be nothing without him etc etc etc. What a loser. So I cracked out the old breakup playlist.
To add to the already EPIC list you guys have compiled:
1) Ani DiFranco – Just Ani DiFranco. She’s the queen of empowerment, whoever you are, and her album “Dilate” is my go-to. It’s like breakup processes 101.
Highlights include “Untouchable Face”
[tell you the truth i prefer
the worst of you
too bad you had to have a better half
she’s not really my type
but i think you two are forever
and i hate to say it but
you’re perfect together
so f*** you
and your untouchable face
and f*** you
for existing in the first place]
through to the title track
[and you are so lame
you always dissapoint me
it’s kind of like our running joke
but it’s really not funny
and i just want you to live up to
the image of you i create
i see you and i’m so unsatisfied
i see you and i dilate
so i’ll walk the plank
and i’ll jump with a smile
if i’m gonna go down
i’m gonna do it with style
and you won’t see me surrender
you won’t hear me confess
‘cuz you’ve left me with nothing
but i’ve worked with less]
….and basically every other song on there…. just get on Amazon and download it. Seriously.
Try “Fire Door” (the “Living in Clip” live version) for when you’re feeling a bit more flippant about things, and “Gravel” from “Little Plastic Castle” for when you’re feeling extra stabby –
[i heard the sound of your bike,
as your wheels hit the gravel,
then your engine in the driveway
cutting off
and i pushed through the screen door
and i stood out on the porch
thinking figh, fight, fight
at all costs,
but instead i let you in,
just like i’ve always done
and i sat you down and offered you a beer
and across the kitchen table
i fired several rounds,
but you were still sitting here
when the smoke cleared.
and you came crawling back
to say that you wanna
make good in the end
and oh, oh,
let me count the ways
that i abhore you,
and you were never a good lay
and you were never a good friend
but, oh, oh, what else can i say…
i adore you]
2) “Stolen Car” by Beth Orton.
[You walked into my house last night
I couldn’t help but notice
A light that was long gone still burning strong
You were sitting
Your fingers like fuses
Your eyes were cinnamon
You said you stand for every known abuse
That was ever threatened to anyone but you
And why should I know better by now
When I’m old enough not to?
While every lie speaks the language of love
It never held the meaning I was thinking of
And I can’t decide over right or wrong
I guess sometimes you need the place where you belong]
3) Catherine Feeny. She has a few, but try “Leave you on the pavement” and “He’s like you, only better”. (Yeah, these might have seen a LOT of airtime)
4) “Stronger Woman” by Jewel.
[I guess you could say I’m one of those girls
That’s always been with one of those guys
You know the type
Like right now, he sleeps while I write
But it’s better than crying
I’m worn out from trying
From loving a man who always makes it clear
I’m not welcome here
Just till he’s horny and hungry
or needs something cleaned
And you know what I mean
But not tonight
‘Cause come the morning light, oh
I’m gonna love myself more than anyone else
Believe in me, even if someone can’t see
The stronger woman in me
I’m going to be my own best friend
Stick with me till the end
Won’t lose myself again, never, no,
‘Cause there’s a stronger woman,
A stronger woman in me]
5) Thea Gilmore. Your mileage may vary, but her album “Burning Dorothy” has a few good ‘uns in there. Recommend “Sugar” and “People Like You”.
6) Tori Amos. Try “Caught a Lite Sneeze”, “She’s Your Cocaine”, “Crucify”, “Precious Things” and “Silent All These Years” –
[Excuse me but can I be you for a while
My dog won’t bite if you sit real still
I got the anti-Christ in the kitchen yellin’ at me again
Yeah I can hear that
Been saved again by the garbage truck
I got something to say you know
But nothing comes
Yes I know what you think of me
You never shut-up
Yeah I can hear that
But what if I’m a mermaid
In these jeans of his
With her name still on it
Hey but I don’t care
Cause sometimes
I said sometimes
I hear my voice
And it’s been here
Silent All These Years]
7) “Don’t Think Twice” by Bob Dylan, among others. Great when you feel like nothing more than a two fingered salute to your wasted time.
8) When angry, why not just put on Linkin Park’s album “Meteora” and work it out of your system.
Personally, I found Evanescence to be great for working out some emotions, but suffice to say that if you’ve just got out of an abusive relationship, some of their songs cut a bit close to the bone.
Right, there’s my survival list. Good luck you guys. And remember, whatever you do, step AWAY from the Joni Mitchell, unless you also have your best friend, a bottle of red and/or a tub of ice-cream to boot. 😛
You are right! What a loser! Don’t let that guy get you down. You are so much better off without him. Thank you so much for the additions and take care of yourself! Thanks for reading 🙂
Great list!
I was browsing over the internet looking for break-up song I might download that really hits home.
Your song choices were brilliant and extremely helpful in moving on.
Moreover, I still have some suggestions that might help your readers move forward in life aside from the songs Adele and Taylor Swift wrote about their ex-es:
1. Til I Get Over You ( Michelle Branch)
“Everytime I feel alone
I can blame it on you
And I do, oh
You got me like a loaded gun
Golden sun and sky so blue
We both know that we want it
But we both know you left me no choice”
2. I look so Good (Without You)
“Hey boy, I would have thought that
When you left me I’d be broken
With my confidence gone, so gone
Hey boy, I would have thought that
When you said that you don’t want me
I’d feel ugly and sense something was wrong
Standing in front of the mirror
My skins never been clearer
My smiles never been whiter
I look so good without you
Got me a new hair due
Looking fresh and brand new
Since you said that we were through
Done with your lies
Baby, now my tears dry
You can see my brown eyes
Ever since you said goodbye”
3. Breaking Us in Two ( Mandy Moore) – this one should be sang if you are in the brink of breaking up.
“They say two hearts should beat as one for us
We’ll fight it out to see it through
I say that you won’t bee too much fun for us
Though it’s oh so nice to get advice it’s oh so hard to do
Could we be much closer if we tried
We could stay at home and stare into each other’s eyes
Maybe we could last an hour
Maybe then we’d see right through
Always something breaking us in two”
4. Pray for You (Jaron and The Long Road To Love) – the lyrics are kinda painful. Well, if you do the suggested acts by the singer in this song.
“I haven’t been to church since I don’t remember when
Things were going great ‘˜til they fell apart again
So I listened to the preacher as he told me what to do
He said you cant go hating others who have done wrong to you.
Sometimes we get angry, but we must not condemn.
Let the good Lord do His job and you just pray for them.
I pray your brakes go out running down a hill
I pray a flowerpot falls from a window sill and knocks you in the
head like I’d like to
I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls
I pray you’re flying high when your engine stalls
I pray all your dreams never come true
Just know wherever you are honey, I pray for you”
5. Don’t Love You No More ( Craig David)
“For all the years that I’ve known you baby
I can’t figure out the reason why lately you’ve been acting so cold
(didn’t you say)
If there’s a problem we should work it out
So why you giving me the cold shoulder now
Like you don’t even wanna talk to me girl
(tell me)
Ok I know I was late again
I made you mad and dinners thrown in (the bin)
But why are you making this thing drag on so long
(I wanna know)
I’m sick and tired of this silly game
(silly games)
Don’t think that I’m the only one here to blame
It’s not me here who’s been going round slamming doors
That’s when you turned and said to me
I don’t care babe who’s right or wrong
I just don’t love you no more.
[CHORUS]
Rain outside my window pouring down
What now, your gone, my fault, I’m sorry
Feeling like a fool cause I let you down
Now it’s, too late, to turn it around
I’m sorry for the tears I made you cry
I guess this time it really is goodbye
You made it clear when you said
I just don’t love you no more”
6. Why – Rascal Flatts
“It must’ve been in a place so dark you couldn’t feel the light
Reachin’ for you through that stormy cloud
Now here we are gathered in our little hometown
This can’t be the way you meant to draw a crowd
Oh, why? That’s what I keep askin’
Was there anything I could have said or done?
Oh, I had no clue you were masking
A troubled soul, God only knows what went wrong
And why you’d leave the stage in the middle of a song”
7. The One That Got Away- Katy Perry
“Summer after high school when we first met
We make out in your Mustang to Radio head
And on my 18th birthday we got that chain tattoos
Used to steal your parents’ liquor and climb to the roof
Talk about our future like we had a clue
Never plan that one day I’d be losing you”
8. Exit Wounds- The Script
“I’m falling through the doors of the emergency room
Can anybody help me with these exit wounds
I don’t know how much more love, this heart can lose
And I’m dying, dying from these exit wounds
Whoooooaa uuuh where their leaving, the scars you’re keeping
Exit wounds, where their leaving, the scars you’re keeping”
9. Look What You’ve Done ( Jet)
“Take my photo off the wall
If it just won’t sing for you
‘Cause all that’s left has gone away
And there’s nothing there for you to prove
Oh, look what you’ve done
You’ve made a fool of everyone
Oh well, it seems like such fun
Until you lose what you had won”
– Fuck It (Don’t Want You Back) – Eamon
“See, I dont know why I liked you so much
I gave you all, of my trust
I told you, I loved you, now thats all down the drain
Ya put me through pain, I wanna let u know how I feel
[Chorus:]
Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
Fuck all those kisses, they didn’t mean jack
Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back”
I Look So Good ( Without You) is by Jessie James.
Wow, great additions. Thanks Robin! Really liked al these lyrics.
These are great songs but Why by Rascal Flatts is actually a song ab suicide not ab a breakup. But still yet a great song! 🙂
Well, I personally think my favorite song for when you break up or if you’re just depressed from being single is Vermilion and Vermilion Pt. 2 by Slipknot simply because of this line –
“But I won’t let this build up inside me, I won’t let this build up inside of me”
Great line, Jon. Thanks for your addition to the list!
I love this blog. There’ is a fantastic collaboration of break up songs from so many different genres of music. The one common thread that I keep seeing with so many of these songs is the reference of someone having been unfaithful, and there seems to be a plethora of unlimited songs out there that fit this description. I’m going through a difficult break up as we speak and I wanted to hear some music that relates to my situation being pushed away because of extreme jealousy, and insecurities and having your partner constantly trying to control you. So the songs I’m providing have different reasoning behind them, but I think this list may be beneficial for someone else who may also have gone through this type of break up. (I I did not list all of the lyrics to most the songs because it would be way to long!) lol.. I feel like these are empowerment songs for someone going through a break up like mine.
Billy Joel – Innocent Man:
I know you’re only protecting yourself
I know you’re thinking of somebody else
Someone who hurt you
But I’m not above
Making up for the love
You’ve been denying you could ever feel
I’m not above doing anything
To restore your faith if I can
Some people see through the eyes of the old
Before they ever get a look at the young
I’m only willing to hear you cry
Because I am an innocent man
I am an innocent man
Oh yes I am
Linkin Park- Numb:
[Chorus:]
I’ve become so numb, I can’t feel you there
Become so tired, so much more aware
I’m becoming this, all I want to do
Is be more like me and be less like you
Can’t you see that you’re smothering me,
Holding too tightly, afraid to lose control?
‘Cause everything that you thought I would be
Has fallen apart right in front of you.
(Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
Every step that I take is another mistake to you.
(Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
And every second I waste is more than I can take.
Emerson Hart- If You’re Gonna Leave:
aybe i’m the joker
Maybe i’m the fool in your eyes
Maybe i’m the weak one
Maybe i’m a lie in disguise
Maybe i’m angry
Cause i’m the one whos always wrong
Maybe i’m not the one whos so strong
But did ya think about it
Did ya pull it in and pull out
Could you live without me
Did you ever really have a doubt
But do you understand it baby
When you say its over its done
Maybe i’m not the one
3 Doors Down- Let me be myself:
I guess i just got lost
Bein’ someone else
I tried to kill the pain
Nothin ever helped
I left myself behind
Somewhere along the way
Hopin to come back around
To find myself someday
Lately i’m so tired of waiting for you
To say that it’s ok, but tell me
Please, would you one time
Just let me be myself
So i can shine with my own light
Let me be myself
Would you let me be myself
I’ll never find my heart
Behind someone else
I’ll never see the light of day
Living in this cell
It’s time to make my way
Into the world i knew
Take back all of these times
That i gave in to you
Default- Wasting my time:
Well I don’t want to see you waiting
I’ve already gone too far away
I still can’t keep the day from ending
No more messed up reasons for me to stay
[CHOURUS]
Well this is not for real
Afraid to feel
I just hit the floor
Don’t ask for more
I’m wasting my time
I’m wasting my time
You can’t stop the feeling
There is no reason
Let’s make the call
And take it all again
Woah again
Months went by with us pretending
When did our light turn from green to red
I took a chance and left you standing
Lost the will to do this once again
Aaron Tippin- Kiss This:
Why don’t you kiss, kiss this
And I don’t mean on my rosy red lips
Me and you, we’re through
And there’s only one thing left for you to do
You just come on over here one last time
Pucker up and close yours eyes
And kiss this goodbye
Simple Plan- Time to say goodbye:
I just don’t want to waste another day
I’m trying to make things right
But you shove it in my face
And all those things you’ve done to me I can’t erase
And I can’t keep this inside
It’s time to say goodbye
On the first day that I met you
I should have known to walk away
I should have told you you were crazy
And disappear without a trace
But instead I stood there waiting
Hoping you would come around
But you always found a way to let me down
[Chorus]
It’s time to say goodbye
(I just don’t want to waste another day)
It’s time to say goodbye
(Cause things will never be the same)
It’s time to say goodbye
(You make me think I need to walk away)
It’s time to say goodbye
It’s time to say goodbye
After all the things I’ve done for you
You never tried to do the same
It’s like you always play the victim
And I’m the one you always blame
When you need someone to save you
When you think you’re going to drown
(Think you’re going to drown)
You just grab your arms around me and pull me down
[Chorus]
It’s time to say goodbye
(I just don’t want to waste another day)
It’s time to say goodbye
(Cause things will never be the same)
It’s time to say goodbye
(You make me think I need to walk away)
It’s time to say goodbye
It’s time to say goodbye
Now I’m gone
It’s too late
You can’t fix
Your mistakes
I was trying to save you from you
So you scream
So you cry
I can see
Through your lies
You’re just trying to change me
(Trying to change me)
Somewhere in the distance
There’s a place for me to go
I don’t want you to hate me
But I think you need to know
You’re weighing on my shoulders
And I’m sick of feeling down
So I guess it’s time for me to say goodbye
Michael,
Sorry to hear about your breakup. I’m glad you liked my list, and thanks for making it better! Good luck with everything.
I think there are a couple good ones like
Chris Young-Tomorrow!
Keith Urban-Stupid Boy
The Band Berry-You Lie
Sugarland-Stay
Sarah Evans-Alittle bit stronger
Ashton Shepherd-Look it up
Elizabeth – thanks so much for your additions! I actually haven’t heard of a single one of these songs, so I’ll have to check them out when in need of an empowering break up song!
Got dumped the day before our 6month
These are modern songs
Fly solo wiz khalifa
Ill be ok addison road
Ridin solo jason derulo
I’m not locked down treal
I’m single again trina
xoxo,
Thanks for your additions. Sorry to hear about your breakup.
Irreplaceable is such an awesome song! i must have replayed it atleast 20 times !! 😀
SInce you’ve been gone by Kelly Clarkson is my all time favorite!!
And i think Jolene is an empowering song! not a break up song though!
Great playlist! 😀
Thanks, wildchild! Irreplaceable really is a good one.
Without You – Hinder
Definetly The Best Break Up Song EVER!! XD
Thanks, Heaven! Haven’t heard of this one but have to check it out.
The album isn’t out yet, but Selena Gomez’ new song “Bang Bang Bang” (which you can find on youtube) is a must for empowering, upbeat breakup songs: “Bang bang bang I’m breaking in, I’m stealing all my love back, and I’m giving it to him; Bang bang bang this time I win, I thought your love was deeper until I let him in.”
Ohh, that does sound like a good one beingforthebenefitof. I like the lyrics. I also really like Selena Gomez – she has done such a good job being a role model.
Fighter, Irreplaceable and Survivor…..def. empowering songs!
Thanks Things You Realize..love the blog name 🙂
I think “She Let Herself Go” by George Strait is candidate for the list, which includes the lines:
Let herself go on her first blind-date:
Had the time of her life with some friends at the lake.
Let herself go, buy a brand new car,
Drove down to the beach he always said was too far.
Sand sure felt good between her toes:
She let herself go on a singles cruise,
To Vegas once, then to Honolulu.
Let herself go to New York City:
A week at the Spa; came back knocked-out pretty.
When he said he didn’t love her no more,
She let herself go.
Tamarah – wow, love the lyics. Definitely very empowering!!! This should be any newly single girl’s theme song.
“So What” is my favorite breakup song of all time. Thanks for the list!
Thanks, Maggie!
Yay for Freshly Pressed!!!!
I go a different route when handling a break-up. Instead of listening to empowering “I will survive” type songs, I listen to songs that have nothing to do with love at all. I go into full-on denial mode. Not denial of the break-up, denial that the relationship even took place at all. Lots of Broadway and Hip-Hop. 🙂 I’m just the picture of mental health aren’t I?
Girlonthecontrary!! I have to tell you that you were the first person to say that I was Freshly Pressed, and I learned it from you. Which is awesome because I love your blog 🙂
Smart strategy regarding listening to songs that have nothing to do with love at all. I say it’s pretty healthy – better than wallowing!
Try ‘Song for the Dumped’ by Ben Folds Five for angry moments, or ‘See the Sun’ by Dido if you’re in the mood for a good cry…
Ha, Nicky, will do. Thanks!
Catherine!!! Freshly pressed!!! go you! so exciting! xoxo
Darcy,
I know! I was so happy and excited. Thanks for sharing it with me 🙂
Great list! Thanks for sharing!
No problem – thank you! My list is NOTHING compared with what it is now with all these awesome suggestions in the comments!
What a great list! Congrats on Freshly Pressed!
Chris
Thanks, bridgesburning!
Not sure if this was already suggested (there are a lot of comments!) but what about “Gives You Hell” by All American Rejects? Its lyrics are really more a mix of the two break-up genres, I think, but the driving music makes it more empowering than depressing!
caitlinamartin,
I don’t think that one was suggested yet. Thanks for for addition!
I love this post! I just wish I’d found your blog a year ago, when I really, really needed it!
Lara,
Thanks! I totally know what you mean. I found this site “There Goes the Bride” for women who cancel their weddings….about 6 months after I needed it. Oh well – better late than ever! Thanks for stopping by.
Love your Purple Butterfly Banner- BEAUTIFUL!!!
And I am going to throw Neyo in the ring to help out Keith Urban.
Go On Girl ( I have conveniently changed the lyrics to match the heterosexual female perspective)
I can’t get it back,
But I don’t wanna back up,
I realize that,
She don’t know how to act,
Never been a dumb dude no I’m not dense,
I just had a slight lack of common sense,
I was the good guy, she was the bad girl,
I’m thinkin one girl, she’s thinkin me earl, james, and jimmy
Yea she had plenty,
But love for me she didn’t have any,
[Pre-Chorus]
I was inviting her into my heart,
She was out riding in some other man’s car,
She was my nighttime, thought I was her star,
Guess I was wrong, but see I’m strong,
Won’t take long for me to move on,
[Chorus]
Please don’t worry bout me I’m fine,
(please don’t worry bout me I’m fine)
Only gonna play the fool one time,
(only gonna play the fool one time)
Trust me when I say,
That I’ll be okay,
Go on girl (go on girl)
Go on girl (go on girl)
Go on girl
[Verse 2]
I can’t get it back,
But I don’t wanna back up,
I realize that,
She don’t know how to act,
Try to settle down and look what I get,
Thought it was my time but I guess not yet,
She’s at the bar, gettin drinks from many men,
I’m at the house, thinkin she’s with her girlfriends,
Just not knowin, truly not knowin,
I look back now like man I was open,
[Pre-Chorus]
[Chorus]
Liber7tdsoul,
Thanks for the suggestion and for helping Keith out. Definitely helps that you edited the lyrics for my mostly female readers 🙂
Oh crap! How could i forget Chris Brown’s “Dueces”!!!???
Not only does it talk talk about leaving his former boo, but the rappers that chime in on the song taunt the old flame mercilessly about the angelic qualities of the new boo!!! LOVE IT!!!!
🙂
Haha, thanks! Love your comments – hope you’ll stick around! 🙂
You know “I Will Survive” by Cake? 🙂
For me I guess I’ll add “One Headlight” by Wallflowers.
7des7iny,
Ohhh “One Headlight” is a good one. I will have to check out the Cake song, thanks for your additions!
Happily married for 8 years and I still love this list. One of my favorite all time lines is “And take your cat and leave my sweater!” Maybe that’s because I’m a dog person. Of course I love Beyonce too and who could argue with that No. 1. Great post.
Katherine,
Thanks for the comment and glad even happily married couples can appeciate a good breakup song list 🙂 I LOVE that line “and take your cat and leave my sweater”, it’s so true to how you feel in a breakup with the division of assets. Thanks for stopping by Simply Solo!
Great list, Survivor is my favorite
Thanks! Survivor is the best, for sure 🙂
Great Approach to break up songs! I usually wallow in the depressing ones, but ENOUGH of that!
Ha, Beckyyk, I have a history of being quite the wallower myself.. but sometimes you just have say enough is enough and get on with it 🙂 Thanks for your comment!
Great post…I would add Maroon 5’s Not Coming Home. Congrats on being Freshly Pressed
Thank you!
hey hey! Great list! I played all except Ace of Base (not really my scene) and am busy downloading Keith Urban – thanks for the suggestion! The rest were right there on my play list. As mention, You Oughta Know by Alanis was there, and “Gives You Hell” became an athem! Chin up girl! He’s not worth it!
sillymoose,
Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it! You Oughta Know is on my angry breakup song list, lol 🙂 Enjoy the Keith Urban!
Not Meant to Be – Hinder
“It’s like one step forward and two steps back
No matter what I do you’re always mad
And I, I can’t change your mind
I know it’s like trying to turn around on a one way street
I can’t give you what you want
And it’s killing me
And I, I’m starting to see
Maybe we’re not meant to be”
Whoops, I said Hinder dang it …meant Theory of a Deadman and I couldn’t stop the post comment button fast enough. lol SORRY…
No worries! Thanks so much for contributing to this list! With everyone’s comments it’s become quite comprehensive! 🙂
I ran off to make dinner and whilst grating cheese remembered the following:
1) Fuck you very much by Lily Allen is helpful as well as According to You (Orianthi) – You don’t have to be dating somebody else for this song to work… the other him could be like your dad or God or whatever. and
2) *aNthem…. heaven knows what an athem is.
sillymoose,
LOVE That you were still thinking of this after already commenting 🙂 Appreciate your additions – have never heard Fuck You Very Much, but by the name, I think it sounds like quite the breakup song!!
I’ll survive you by BC Jean
shattereddreamx,
Thanks for your addition!
Excellent list. Of course, “I Will Survive” has to be #1. I once used the soundtrack to “Phantom of the Opera” to get over a guy. Not your typical break-up songs, but the singers did all the angsty emoting for me. By the end, I was done being sad and ready to move on to the guy who turned out to be “the one.” 🙂
Maureen,
LOL! Can’t say I’ve ever heard anyone using “Phantom of the Opera” for a breakup soundtrack, but hey, whatever floats your boat! 🙂 So glad you found “the one!”
LOL Yeah, Survivor used to be my song lol
Lakia,
It’s an oldie but a goodie 🙂
wow, lots of stuff on here! my last monstrous break-up, i was a big fan of “duck and run” by 3 doors down, pretty much anything by linkin park (chester bennington has a lot of pent-up angst over women who did him wrong), oh, and “limp” by fiona apple. that is probably the best break up song ever written: “when i think of it/my fingers turn to fists/i never did anything to you, man/but no matter what i try/you beat me with your bitter lies/so call me crazy, hold me down/make me cry, get off now baby/ because you’ll be lying limp in your own hand”
oh, and garbage “heaven is wide” and “how’s it gonna be” by 3rd eye blind.
Wow, that song sounds intense. And definitely sounds like a good breakup song. I LOVE “How’s It Gonna Be” by 3rd Eye Blind. Not sure how I forgot about that one!
Yes- Gloria Gaynor all the way!! Excellent selection. My heartbreak songs are anything by The Carpenters…lol… yes, a bit of 70s vibe for those Rainy Days and Mondays…;o)
Ha, I can’t honestly say I’ve ever listened to the Carpenters, but if I need some 70s breakup music (because really, breakups are timeless!), I’ll def go to them 🙂 Thanks for the comment.
Congrats on the Fresh Pressing.
Kate Voegele, “No Good” sort of captures that time in the middle… the “I want to be over it, I’m getting over it, sometimes I am over it… I’m not quite there but I totally will be because I know you’re no good for me” time period.
Thanks aaka gringita! Those lyrics are absolutely perfect – exactly how I’ve been feeling. Thanks for sharing!
How did Daughtry’s “Over You” not make this list? This song helped me so much! Although I do give props to you including Keith Urban’s “You’ll Think of Me” and Leona Lewis’s “Better in Time.”
Haha, Kristin, sorry for that oversight! Thanks for the addition 🙂
Definitely, I Will Survive is no.1! But this song should be included too:)
Try It On My Own – Whitney Houston
“I’m wiser now
Im not the foolish girl you used to know
So long ago
I’m stronger now
I’ve learned from my mistakes which way to go
And I should know
I put myself aside to do it in your way
But now i need to do it all alone
And I am not afraid to try it on my own
I don’t care if I’m right or wrong
I’ll live my life the way I feel no matter what I’ll keep it real
You know
Time for me to do it on my own”
tarajevo,
Thanks for sharing! I don’t know how I made it to 26 without hearing this Whitney Houston song! Appreciate your sharing 🙂
I never recognized “I saw the Sign” as a breakup song…i will now listen in a whole new light…great list…loved it!
kristenmac,
Thanks! So many people told me that they never connected that song with breakups till I pointed it out. I really do think that “The Sign” by Ace of Base is one of the best breakup songs. It was my go to karaoke song all last summer, that’s for sure 🙂 Appreciate your comment!
KT Tunstall: Suddenly I See
Her face is a map of the world
Is a map of the world
You can see she’s a beautiful girl
She’s a beautiful girl
And everything around her is a silver pool of light
The people who surround her feel the benefit of it
It makes you calm
She holds you captivated in her palm
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
This is what I wanna be
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
Why the hell it means so much to me
I feel like walking the world
Like walking the world
You can hear she’s a beautiful girl
She’s a beautiful girl
She fills up every corner like she’s born in black and white
Makes you feel warmer when you’re trying to remember
What you heard
She likes to leave you hanging on her word
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
This is what I wanna be
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
Why the hell it means so much to me
And she’s taller than most
And she’s looking at me
I can see her eyes looking from a page in a magazine
Oh she makes me feel like I could be a tower
A big strong tower
She got the power to be
The power to give
The power to see
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
This is what I wanna be
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
Why the hell it means so much to me
Interesting addition, habituallearner. I haven’t ever really seen this as a breakup song. Thanks for sharing.
nice list! I really like Gloria Gaynor’s “I will survive”, it’s been a favorite song of mine!
you could also add up Ceelo Green and Lily Allen’s “F*ck you” in the breakup songs list, lol!
Tala Chan,
Ceelo Green’s F*you is a great song for this list. Thanks!
Love the latter half of the list! LOVE~~
Thanks! Appreciate your stopping by.
“I Don’t Want You Now” by KT Tunstall
The title alone tells me that’s a great song. THANKS!
Going waaaaay back for this one. “It’s Just A Matter Of Time” Brook Benton……oops…I think I just dated myself. Rats.
Haha, thanks for the addition. Just say it’s an oldie you heard in your parents’ car and you’ll be good. ha!
Heart of the Matter – India Arie
Actual best song ever…
That is a good song. Thanks for adding it to the list!
I think I was humming some of these the other night when I got a flat. They are for for more than just break ups, its break downs as well….
Haha… hope you got your tire fixed safely. 🙂 glad that these breakup songs got you through a break down 🙂
Hannah Georgas’ – Mama’s Boy
http://radio3.cbc.ca/#/bands/Hannah-Georgas (listen to it @ this address)
You marked your territory
All over this place
You left a cold heart
And a name I never wanna hear you say
Did you ever think about me
Did it ever cross your mind
Your sick and selfish needs
Will catch up to you in no time
Love don’t live here
Love don’t live here
I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
I guess it’s easy when you’re left out on your own
No point in fixin something that’s already broke
No point in tellin it where to go
I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
You’re such a mama’s baby
Did she forget to wipe you on the way out
Did you remember to tell her what you need
Cuz she’s the only that you figured out
Did you ever think about me
Did you even care to ask you’re too caught up in your stories
And too confused about your past
Love don’t live here
Love don’t live here
I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
I guess it’s easy when you’re left out on your own
No point in fixin somethin’s already broke
No point in tellin it where to go
I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
I guess it’s easy when you’re left out on your own
No point in fixin somethin’s already broke
No point in tellin it where to go
I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
Wow, this song is intense! Thanks for sharing.
Perfect World by Simple Plan and Rest in Pieces by Saliva were two of my go to songs back in high school 😉
Ohh, you just reminded me about Simple Plan… totally forgot about them 🙂 Appreciate your comment.
oh thanks for the post
i’m not going through a break-up, but I dig this list. and i’m sure there’s more heartbreak to come, so i’ll keep these songs handy.
I HOPE you don’t have any hearbreak to come 🙂
You forgot OVER YOU by Daughtry that’s another perfect song 🙂
There are some definite Daughtry fans out there! Thanks for adding this to the list 🙂
OBVIOUSLY, you need some Ben Folds in your life. 🙂
Song For The Dumped- Ben Folds Five
Time- Ben Folds
Gone- Ben Folds
On it. Thanks for the tip 🙂
Excellent list. I posted once about how I’m obsessed with break up songs even when I’m not actively breaking up. So this was a great reminder of some songs I want to listen to 😉
xoxo The Blonde
Thank you! Yeah, nothing wrong with enjoying these songs even when you aren’t going through a breakup! They are still pretty great!
Man Man’s “Ice Dogs” always seems to work. I’ve often also found solace in Operation Ivy’s “Sound System.”
Shenanitim,
Thanks for the additions. Haven’t heard of these before, but will need to check them out!
Don’t forget “Gives You Hell”! It’s the best!!
Thanks for adding this on!
It is the best. : )
I just went through a breakup and my empowering song is “Rolling in the Deep” by Adele. I put it on repeat and sing it very loudly 5-6 times in a row and I feel much better and smile. 🙂
Ruglovermary,
Rolling In the Deep is one of the best breakup songs of all time, i think. I actually just discovered it recently and can’t get enough of it. So beautiful and so relevant. Thanks for the comment.
If you are looking for another good song, Carole Samaha is an Arabic Singer. I found her video for this song by accident on youtube and even though i had no idea what she was saying, i could sort of feel what she was talking about when i saw the concept of the official video. The song is called “Khallik Behalak” sometimes its good to see what foreign artists bring to the table. I found a youtube link with the translation to the lyrics. it just shows pictures of her but i love how she expresses pain in her voice well.
elihar,
Thanks for the addition! This is definitely not a song I would know about otherwise. She has a good voice – and this just shows you all cultures know heartbreak!
great blog! i going though a breakup currently so ya ):
life is all about colours,
Thanks for stopping by. Wishing you luck with recovering from your breakup… it’ll get better 🙂
Yes! Yes! Great list. Thank you! I needed this today!
No problem! Glad it could help. Good luck to you 🙂
The one I have been listening to now for a while is: Single Girls by Laura Jansen. I haven’t decided yet in which category I should put it, cuz it makes me cry my eyes out every time, though it is about getting over him. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-479ojoLgxg&feature=relmfu
Best lines:
“One more glass of wine. Before I turn off the lights this time. This time I’ll be fine. I’ll be fine. I’ll be fine. I’ll be fine”
Of course, Adele is ALWAYS a good one, especially Rolling in the Deep, as suggested above. And when I get angry I like Given Up by Linkin Park (really loud!)
PS. I like your blog a lot! 🙂
I like boys who wear glasses,
I love your blog name! Adele is the best, for sure. Hell, her entire album is a break up list :). Thanks for your addition to this list!
I am sure that a case could have been made for including “Jingle Bells” on this list had you gone to the top 15. Really where can you stop with such a popular theme? Terrific post and comments.
annonnickus,
Ha, yeah I could go on forever with this list! Between my list and the comments, we have quite the comprehensive breakup song list! Thanks for your comment.
I haven’t read all of the comments, so please forgive me if I am repeating a song that has already been listed. Sugarland’s *Stay* is a very empowering break-up song. It is sung from the view of the ‘other woman’ and how she is crying in the beginning for him to *stay* with her when his wife calls…then the song progresses and at the end she is telling him to ‘stay’ at home. The video is very emotional.
Trish,
Thanks for sharing! That does sound like a really good song. Not often you get to hear from the “other woman,” huh?
Female singers or groups which are very known.
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I don’t know if anyone said, but Adele’s recent hit, “Rolling in the Deep”, is a great song for this list as well. it seems like the best songs, the ones we all remember are written from a place of sorrow or despair typically accompanied by a breakup or lost loved one. We tend to identify with those songs more than any others.
Rach,
I totally agree, Rolling In The Deep is an amazing song. I wish I’d know about that song when I wrote this list! I think we can all identify with songs like these because we’ve all been through some sort of loss, and we can still feel a bit of it when we think about it. Thanks for your comment.
Nice Collection. Thanks. Have bookmarked it for future reference 😉
Thanks 🙂
What a great list…….ahhh but none of these were in my top 10! I must be too into the sad, sappy love songs ***sighs***
Romantic Asian Guy! Good to see you, it’s been a little while :). I’d love to see your list of sad, sappy love songs!
Try “How Am I Doin'” by Dierks Bentley to add a male singer to your list.
Thanks, this list really needed some male blood 🙂
This, along with your other “breakup song” posts, is quite good. I can’t see past my dislike for the artists in #10, 7, 5, and 2, but, hey, we can’t all agree on what’s good music–that’d be a dull world. 4 other thoughts about breakup songs:
1. Why in the world did it take so long for this to get freshpressed? You wrote it in January?
2. Being the “dumpee” is so much better than being the “dumper”, because the music is so much better (future blogpost of mine).
3. Really loved that you mentioned “You Oughta Know” in one of your posts; I’ve always loved the idea of the dumped person being crazy enough to show up “in the middle of dinner” to tell him that she sees that he’s still alive even though he told her he’d hold her until he died, till he died.
4. My all-time favorite “you dumped me, but go screw yourself; I’m gonna have fun” song is “Sail On” by Lionel Richie and the Commodores:
“It was plain to see, that a, small town boy like me, just,
Wasn’t your cup a tea, I was, wishful thinkin’…
I gave you my heart and I tried to make you happy
You gave me nothing in return
You know it ain’t so hard to say, would you please just go away?
I’ve thrown away the blues, I’m tired of bein’ used,
I want everyone to know, I’m lookin’ for a good time……
…..Oh sail on, honey, good times never felt so good….”
Thank you for the entertaining posts!
trailertrashdeluxe,
Thanks so much for stopping by the blog and looking around and I’m glad you’ve enjoyed some posts! I have no idea what made them Freshly Press this after it’s been up since January, but I am thankful because I had a chance to meet so many new people and really flesh out this list! I look forward to your future blog post about why being the dumpee is better than being the dumper 🙂 Come back and let me know when it’s up so I don’t miss it! 🙂
Hi–I hope things are going well. I finally wrote that post tonight about why being “the dumpee” is better. It’s not really my best, but then, I put a whopping 15 minutes of effort into it, so what the heck.
Great list! I think I put Survivor and I Will Survive on repeat one afternoon…guaranteed to lift the spirits. Adele’s ’21’ album is also proving to match the mood of both melancholy and empowerment after a break up 🙂
lamilne
Thanks for stopping by and for your comment. Agreed, Adele’s 21 is an awesome mix to get anyone through a breakup!
Just discovered your blog, and loved this post – great, great list.
Thank you, Jonathan! I hope you’ll stick around for a while 🙂
Love this post, when I got divorced many years ago I used to listen to several songs. My favorite was ” I Will Survive” because my ex thought I would never have anything with out him.
nomoregluten,
Thanks for your comment. I think many of our exes think we won’t be able to do anything without them…all we can do is prove them wrong and survive, huh? Seems like you are doing just that!
Great list but I have to add Mariah Carey’s I’ll Be There to the first list. I broke up with my now husband once and heard the line, “If you should ever find someone new, you know she better be good to you” and completely broke down. Damn Marah. She does it to me every time. Speaking of Mariah, how about your next list includes the top 10 songs you should give birth to? Just a thought…
Mariah’s I’ll be There is a good song, thanks for the addition. Ha, i don’t know about the top 10 songs you should give birth to… I may be a bit biased, as giving birth scares the bejesus out of me! 🙂
That’s a nice list! I would have added Smile by Lily Allen, though. That song always makes me feel better 🙂
I have to admit that when I read “Top 10 Empowering Breakup songs” on wordpress I couldn’t resist the temptation, haha. Congrats on being freshly pressed 😉
Greetings from Chile ^^
Javi.
Thanks, Javi! The best part about being Freshly Pressed is being able to meet people from so many different places! Love that you are commenting from Chile! Appreciate your reading.
I just remembered my high school because of the song I Saw the Sign. 🙂 Didn’t expect that actually.
Sony,
Haha, Songs do have a way of bringing up old memories. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!
Great list! I love how everyone keeps commenting w/ even more great songs.
My favorite empowering breakup song is Whitney Houston’s “Salute”.
“Cause I’m a soldier girl, in this world
I Stand alone, I can be strong
I walked the miles, and made home
It’s good to know without you I made it
Soldier, girl, in my world
I took the fall now I stand tall
Fought the pain and all, I made it through
And now all I gotta say to you
I Salute you, ay, ay
I Salute you, ay, ay”
More lyrics: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/w/whitney_houston/#share
Sara,
Thanks for this addition! It’s funny, I’m being introduced to all these Whitney Houston songs through this post that I had never heard of! I usually focus on her songs about cheaters, lol 🙂
What an awesome idea 🙂 I created a “single” playlist (about two days before I met someone, go figure) and I wish I’d included some of these on it! One of the most empowering breakup songs, to me, is “I Look So Good Without You” by Jessie James. Makes me smile. Great list!
Thanks, Valerie! Funny, creating a “single” playlist and then meeting someone. The Jessie James song is a good one. Thanks!
HAHA THERE WAS A TIME WHEN I NEEDED ALL OF THESE SONG!! HOPEFULLY THEY GIVE SOMEONE A HELPING HAND!
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Thanks, Alex. I hope so too.
A song that empowers “Fire Bomb” Rihanna….
I think that’s the first Rihanna addition, thanks!
Definitely “My Tears Dry on Their Own” by Amy Winehouse. Well, that falls in the middle of depressing/empowering. Or maybe depressing can be empowering? No, probably not.
Ha, Yr. Blogger, I’m not sure depressing can be empowering. BUT – I think we all have to go through the stages, and there is a place and a need for the depressing songs too! Thanks for sharing.
Add me to the list of those who were recently broken up with. I enjoyed your list very much and added a few of your suggestions to my own playlist!
More ideas: “Pressing On” by Relient K is good for when you are thinking positively. The album “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” by Miranda Lambert travels the whole spectrum of breakup emotion – anger, sadness, loneliness, moving forward.
Also, if you aren’t feeling particularly romantic, give “If I Didn’t Have You” by Tim Minchin a try (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeZMIgheZro). Here’s a sample of the funny and clever lyrics:
“If I didn’t have you to hold me tight
If I didn’t have you to lie with at night
If I didn’t have you to share my sights
And to kiss me and dry my tears when I cry…
Well I, really think that I would…have somebody else.
If I didn’t have you, someone else would do
Your love is one in a million
You couldnt buy it at any price
But of the 9 point 9 hundred thousand other loves,
Statistically some of them would be equally nice.”
Good luck to everyone else currently struggling with breakups. You are far from alone!
Kristen,
This is such a good addition! I’d never heard it but those lyrics really spoke to me. It sort of says the “There’s plenty of fish in the sea” without being annoying 🙂 Thanks for commenting.
Hey all! What a great surprise it was this morning to be Freshly Pressed! Definitely makes for a really fun day. I will be reading through and responding to all of your comments, I promise! There are definitely some great song suggestions here – with all your comments incorporated, this is one hell of a breakup sound track. If there is one thing we can all empathize with, it’s the pain of a breakup. Thanks so much for taking a moment to stop by my blog and it’s nice to meet you all!
Congratulations on being Freshly Pressed! This post was definitely worth that title. Another song that has helped me get over someone is Boys II Men – Doing Just FIne
Lotus,
Thanks!! It was definitely an exciting day. I appreciate your adding Boys II Men to this list – it definitely needed them to round it out 🙂
i love this entry! now getting a file of keith urban’s song! 🙂
Iya,
Thanks! Hope you enjoyed it 🙂
Oh, you don’t have my favorite yet!
“Red Rubber Ball”
I should have known you’d bid me farewell
There’s a lesson to be learned from this and I learned it very well
Now, I know you’re not the only starfish in the sea
If I never hear your name again, it’s all the same to me
And I think it’s gonna be alright
Yeah, the worst is over now
The mornin’ sun is shinin’ like a red rubber ball
You never care for secrets I confide
For you, I’m just an ornament, somethin’ for your pride
Always runnin’, never carin’, that’s the life you live
Stolen minutes of your time were all you had to give
And I think it’s gonna be alright
Yeah, the worst is over now
The mornin’ sun is shinin’ like a red rubber ball
The story’s in the past with nothin’ to recall
I’ve got my life to live and I don’t need you at all
The roller-coaster ride we took is nearly at an end
I bought my ticket with my tears, that’s all I’m gonna spend
And I think it’s gonna be alright
Yeah, the worst is over now
The mornin’ sun is shinin’ like a red rubber ball
Oh, I think it’s gonna be alright
Yeah, the worst is over now
The mornin’ sun is shinin’ like a red rubber ball
Wow, Claire.
Great song, thanks for sharing it. Nothing like an oldie to remind us that people have been going through rough breakups forever! 🙂
I love how you described EXACTLY how some songs make us feel so depressed about the failed relationships in our lives!
I’m so happy that I know at least half of the songs that “empower” us xD
And yes!!! “I will survive” is definitely the number 1 empowering song! 😉
Finaleproject,
Glad you know many of these empowering songs. Appreciate your comments 🙂
This is so great! Love the post, and the many comments! I haven’t made a break-up mix in years, but I made one for myself many years ago after a particularly tough break-up. There was another woman involved for him (emotionally, but not physically, but still), and so I had all sorts of songs to put my emotions into! I called it “Bitter Grounds” and I still play it when I want to wail my heart out in the car! Some favorites from my mix:
Jealousy by Natalie Merchant
Bulletproof by The Nields (a former folk-rock duo from Western Mass)
Snowman also by The Nields
Hole in My Head by the Dixie Chicks (this one is PERFECT!)
One Thousand Sarahs by Eddie From Ohio
Let Me Down Hard by John Eddie
I Won’t Cry Over You by Ellis Paul
Get Out of This House by Shawn Colvin
There’s more, but those are my faves! With all these awesome suggestions, you could go into business selling break-up mixes!
aliving,
Now that’s an idea! We should take all the comments on this post and make the ultimate breakup soundtrack. We can sell it on itunes and make a fortune 🙂
Thanks for sharing your breakup song list. Dixie Chicks have some good ones for sure, I love “Sometimes.”
You forgot “Big Pimpin'”
Best line: “I parts with nothin ya’ll be frontin’ me give ma heart to a women, not fa nothin’ ever happen I be foreva mackin”
LOL, Cathy. Never thought of “Big Pimpin” but I have to admit, I can see how that would be an empowering breakup song 🙂
Whoa, you got freshly pressed again!??!?!!!! I wonder if you are the first person that has ever happened to. Amazing accomplishment, congrats!
Sheri,
Thanks!! I know of a few of the blogs I read being Freshly Pressed twice, but it does feel like lightening striking in the same place twice! I feel so very lucky. Thanks for stopping by 🙂
Omg! I seriously just read through all these comments to make sure nobody else had suggested it, but one that always gives me a perverse sense of pride and accomplishment is No Reins by Rascal Flatts:
She left that loser in a dust cloud / Heart in his hands, chin on the ground / Cried her last tear for that clown / She can see a little clearer now. She says / who-oa, I’ve gotta go and find me / who-oa, she found the strength to break free / Like a painted wild mustang / Flying out across the open range / Finally gets to live her life that way / No fear, no fences, nobody / No reins. / All she’s ever felt is held back. She says / It’s kinda nice to hear myself laugh / She’s gonna do a lot more of that / She’s making plans and making tracks.
And not quite as wonderful, but still makes me feel empowered, also by Rascal Flatts, How Strong Are You Now:
When she told you goodbye, you didn’t flinch / When she looked back, you didn’t even budge an inch / You stood there like a stone / But now that she’s gone / How strong are you now / Without her around / You can’t even keep one little bitty tear from falling down / How strong are you now. When she left you told yourself / It can’t hurt that much / But now you’re doubled over like / You took a punch / No, she ain’t coming back / Tell me how much can you take of that / How strong are you now
Lauren,
These are great songs! Thanks for sharing. I can’t believe you went through all the comments…. you must be exhausted 🙂 haha. I LOVE the lines “All she’s ever felt is held back. She says it’s kinda nice to hear myself laugh.” What a great sentiment.
Speaking about empowering breakup songs, have you ever heard “I Learned From The Best” by Whitney Houston? I think its quite matched with this theme.
By the way, i REALLY like to read all comments here… 🙂
mesarah,
I hadn’t, thanks for sharing! One thing I learned from all the comments is there is a lot of music out there that I’m missing out on! Thanks for adding to the list.
great post!!! beyonce’s irreplaceable, gloria gaynor’s i will survive and cher’s believe were my anthems long time ago. might i add: LARA FABIAN’S I WILL LOVE AGAIN and GABRIELLE’S Out of Reach are great too!!!
Thanks for sharing your faves!
Oh man, after a breakup, usually the following weekend, I go out for karaoke and belt out Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive” at full volume. I don’t care if that makes me a romantic comedy cliche.
One song I like that is kind of full of sass is “Gorgeous” by Girl Next Door. The line says it all: “I only loved you because you’re gorgeous.”
http://grooveshark.com/s/Gorgeous+slipcritical+Remix+/2Qr7S0?src=5
“I hate to break it to you, we had nothing in common
We were so far apart
You liked Top 40 radio and I had my Joni Mitchell
We were helpless from the start
You wanted something more than I could ever give
You wanted to feel my kiss from the heart
But I only loved you because you’re gorgeous”
NOTHING is better than karaoke, Gloria Gaynor and a bad breakup. Glad I’m not the only one. I have to say, The Sign and karaoke is pretty good too 🙂
Thanks for adding to the list. I hadn’t heard this song before!
Mine is Afterlife by Avenged Sevenfold..the guitar work and the drumbeat…make you realise that..everything gonna be okay..it’s a very cool song!!! Try listen to it.. ❤
Will have to check it out! Thanks for sharing.
“I don’t care anymore” by Phil Collins.
Ahh, Phil Collins. He’s a must-add to this list! Thanks for your comment.
Just to name a few others:
U& Ur Hand-Pink
Kerosene-Miranda Lambert
Gunpowder & Lead-Miranda Lambert
Only Prettier-Miranda Lambert
Best damn thing-Avril Lavigne
Turn on the radio-Reba
The one in the middle-Sarah Johns
Coolorange,
Thanks for these! U & Ur Hand by Pink is a really good one 🙂
hello this song from indonesia ,,We Can (Official Song Sea Games 26th-2011 Indonesia)
I really really enjoyed listening to and watching Cee Lo’s – Forget You, although the uncensored version is much more fulfilling to my ears :). Great list by the way! And congrats on the being freshly squeezed out of the wordpress mountain of blogs.
Thanks!! Very excited to be Freshly Pressed. Appreciate your stopping by 🙂
nothing beats daughtry when it comes to break up songs. =)
Shad,
This is what I’m hearing! I had no idea! Thanks for stopping by.
nice collection…
Thanks!!
Awesome! When I had a really big, really bad breakup a few years ago, Christina’s “Fighter” came on the TV and I just knew then I would be okay. Better than okay! “Survivor” too, that song was a good one, as was Kelly Clarkson’s “Since You Been Gone”, already mentioned I think! Also, at the time a friend of mine sent me a song called “My Goddess” by a band called The Exies. Although it’s specifically about a girl, the sentiment, I think, is universal!
“You were counting on a freefall,
You laid your bet I would lose all.
Chalk up one less crucifixion
I kicked that sick old addiction.
Gone, I don’t believe in you now
I’ve seen too much
I don’t believe in you now
My Goddess.”
Phytoplanktonic,
I’ve never heard that song! Thanks for sharing it – the lyrics are great!
This isn’t a song so much as it is kind of a spoken poem over music, but Meryn Cadell’s “The Sweater” always gives me a lift when I’m down, particularly when it’s all about love and breaking up. This has been “out of print” a while (though you can still see the video for it on YouTube, so here it all is):
(Apologies in advance for the length! But I hope you enjoy it)
Meryn Cadell’s The Sweater
Girls,
I know you will understand this
and feel the intrinsic incredible emotion
You have just pulled over your head the worn,
warm sweater belonging to a boy
Now, you haven’t had a passionate
kissing session or anything,
but you got to go on a camping trip with him
and eight other people from school
And you practically slept together,
your sleeping bag right next to his
And you woke in the night to watch him as he slept
but you couldn’t see anything ’cause it was dark
so you just laid there and listened to his breathing
and wondered if your heart might burst
The sweater has that faintly goat-like smell
which all teenage boys possess,
and that smell will lovingly transfer
to all your other clothes
If you get to keep it for a few
days you can sleep with it
but don’t let your mom see, ’cause she’ll say,
“what is that filthy thing, and who does it belong to
besides the trash man?”
So you have to keep it under the covers with you
You can kind of lie it beside you,
or wrap it around your waist,
or touch it on your legs, or whatever
That’s your business
Now if the sweater has, like, reindeer on it
or is a funny color like yellow… I’m sorry,
you can’t get away with a sweater like that
Look for brown, or grey, or blue
Anything other than that, and you
know you’re dealing with
someone who’s different
And different is NOT what you’re looking for
You’re looking for those Teenage Alpine ski-chiseled features
and that sort of blank look which
passes for deep thought
or at least the notion that someone’s home
You’re looking for the boy of your dreams
who is the same boy in the dreams of all your friends.
Now the sweater isn’t going to fit you of course,
you kind of have to roll up the sleeves in a jaunty way that says:
this is the sweater belonging to a boy,
and the boy is a genuine hunka hunka burning love,
and this is not just some hand me down from your brother or your father
Monday, wear the sweater
to school
Be calm, look cute
Don’t tell him about the dream you had
about the place the two of you would share
when you get older
Just be yourself
The best, cutest, quietest version of yourself
Definitely wear lip gloss
He looks at you, and then he looks away
And then he walks away
and the smell of the sweater hits you again suddenly
like ape-scent gloriola
and you get a note passed to you
by a girl in History that says
“He needs that sweater back.
He forgot you put it on in the tent on Saturday
and he’s been looking for it.”
And you don’t have to die of humiliation,
You are a strong person
and this is a learning experience
You can still hold your head up high as
you run from the classroom
tearing the stinking sweater from your body.
You look at that sweater, carefully,
and you realize that love made you temporarily blind.
You’ve got a secret now, honey,
and though you’d never sink as low as him,
you could blab it all over the school if you wanted
The label in that sweater
says “100% Acrylic”
Nancy,
Thanks so much for sharing this! What a cool song. Had never heard of it.
Maybe someone already mentioned this, but Want You Gone from Portal 2 is really good. Some of the best lines would be: I used to want you dead but/Now I only want you gone.
You’ve got your short sad life left/That’s what I’m counting on/I’ll let you get right to it/Now I only want you gone.
If I ever HAD a breakup, I’d totally use it.
katblogger,
This really resonated with me “I used to want you dead but now I only want you gone.” Kind of speaks to getting through the anger to moving on. Thanks for sharing!
good job! … hmm… i wish to listen a few of them now 🙂
You should! Empowering, definitely. Thanks!
Well compiled! I think Beyonce’s Irreplaceable is certainly a song that will go down in history like how I Will Survive did. A catchy chorus, contagious hand actions, what’s not to love?
Totally agree, findingeastwest. It’s such a good song. Thanks for stopping by.
Just found this today (after finding the blog from a Google search on another topic!) —
How ’bout:
Erasure – ‘Heart of Stone’, if only for the line ‘My mother told me / You’d be no good for me’…
And ol’ fave of mine (from around 1990?) – The Motorcycle Gang with ‘Big Rock Candy Man’ —
‘Everyday in this house seems the same
I wanna go where no one knows my name.
Hope I never led you to believe
That the day would never come when I would leave.
This is no way to say goodbye,
But I never was good at telling lies…
…And whatever you decide to do,
I hope the sun will always shine on you.
By the time you see things my way,
I’ll be halfway down the highway.
One day, darling, you will see,
You’ll smile when you remember me…’
Always leave on the high note (positive), no? 🙂
I like those lyrics a lot, thanks for sharing. No need to be rude when youare leaving, right? 🙂 Thanks for stopping by.
selena gomez – so sick of you
carrie underwood – undo it
and i love ace of base it’s amazing(:
of course lots of taylor swift, i played picture to burn today while i burnt my ex’s pictures.
Dallice,
Congrats on burning the pics.. that’s a big step, for sure… And I hear you, Selena Gomez and Carrie both have great breakup songs. Thanks for your thoughts.
Breakin’ Up – Rilo Kiley
It’s not as if New York City
Burnt down to the ground
Once you drove away
It’s not as if the sun won’t shine
When clouds up above
Wash the blues away
Are we breaking up
Are we breaking up
Is there trouble between you and I
Did my heart break enough
Did it break enough this time
Here’s to all the pretty words
We will never speak
Here’s to all the pretty girls
You’re gonna meet
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Am I breaking up
Am I breaking up
Is there trouble on the line
Did your heart break enough
Did it break enough this time
Ooh it feels good to be free
Ooh it feels good to be free
Ooh it feels good to be free
Betrayal is a thorny crown
You wear it well
Just like a king
Revenge is the saddest thing
Honey, I’m afraid to say
You deserve everything
Am i breaking up
Are we breaking up
Is there trouble between the lines
Did your heart break enough
Did it break enough this time
Ooh it feels good to be free
Ooh it feels good to be free
Ooh it feels good to be free
Ohh, I like this one! Thanks for sharing!
Love your songs. It’s totally useful to wallow! And to move on. You’re probably already past that stage– but I actually have an ebook out for people who are getting over break-ups. It’s called From Heartbreak to Wholeness: 12 Steps to Healing from Break-up. You can find out more about it on my blog: http://fromheartbreaktowholeness.wordpress.com/
Thanks for sharing.
A BUNCH OF THESE ARE MORE PUNK. 😀 though they are all very depressing or motivating! Either way – great for a recent breakup.
“Single Girls” by Laura Jansen.
“You Could Be Happy” by Snow Patrol.
“Someone Like You” by Adele.
“Hero” by Regina Spektor.
“Braille” by Regina Spektor.
“The Quiet Things That No One Ever Knows” by Brand New.
“The Boy Who Blocked His Own Shot” by Brand New.
“Lapse” by Envy On The Coast.
“Beauty In The Breakdown” by The Scene Aesthetic.
“The Con” by Tegan & Sara.
“Call It Off” by Tegan & Sara.
“Giving Up” by Ingrid Michaelson.
“More Than Life” by Whitley.
“Swim” by Jack’s Mannequin.
“Casey’s Song” by City and Colour.
“In This River” by Black Label Society.
“The World Should Revolve Around Me” by Little Jackie.
Wow, really great additions here. You really helped round out my list. I love Regina Spektor by the way.
This list was very, very well compiled. Thank you for sharing it! Of all music, the songs I love best are those that have a sense of purpose and power.
-GD
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Thanks, GD!
I went through a breakup a few months ago and have a playlist that combines these two types of songs. Thank you for some new ideas! I am definitely going to add many of these to the list.
livebyladybugs,
No problem! Glad to help! With these comments, you’ll have lots of ideas for your list. Take care of yourself and thanks for stopping by 🙂
Probably the best breakup song, in my estimation, is “Not Anymore” by The Dead Boys. Obviously, old-school punk rock isn’t everyone’s favorite but is seems that there is a certain stage in every breakup I’ve ever had where this song, the chorus in particular, has been very empowering.
darkhorse,
Thanks for sharing. I don’t know any punk music so I appreciate you helping rounding this list out!
thanks… these would really help..
Thanks for reading!
Hey! Maybe if you haven’t yet heard it yet, you should try hearing “Grenade” by Bruno Mars? Not really a breakup song….but somehow suits the mood. 😛
You know the feeling when you feel you did everything you could and the other person still had their head in the clouds and dint give a fuck?
The thing about this song is that it has THE most uplifting and fast beats. 😀
Here are the lyrics…
Easy come, easy go
That’s just how you live, oh
Take, take, take it all
But you never give
Should’ve known you was trouble
From the first kiss
Had your eyes wide open
Why were they open?
I gave you all I had
And you tossed it in the trash
You tossed it in the trash, you did
To give me all your love
Is all I ever asked
Cause what you don’t understand
Is
I’d catch a grenade for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Throw my hand on a blade for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
I’d jump in front of a train for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
You know I’d do anything for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
I would go through all this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Yes, I would die for you, baby
But you won’t do the same
No, no, no, no
Black, black, black and blue
Beat me ’til I’m numb
Tell the devil I said “Hey” when you get back to where you’re from
Mad woman, bad woman
That’s just what you are
Yeah, you smile in my face then rip the brakes out my car
Gave you all I had
And you tossed it in the trash
You tossed it in the trash, yes you did
To give me all your love
Is all I ever asked
Cause what you don’t understand
Is
I’d catch a grenade for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Throw my hand on the blade for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
I’d jump in front of a train for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
You know I’d do anything for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
I would go through all this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Yes, I would die for you, baby
But you won’t do the same
If my body was on fire
You would watch me burn down in flames
You said you loved me, you’re a liar
Cause you never ever ever did, baby
But, darling, I’d still catch a grenade for you
Throw my hand on the blade for you
I’d jump in front of a train for you
You know I’d do anything for you
I would go through all this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Yes I would die for you baby
But you won’t do the same
No, you won’t do the same
You wouldn’t do the same
Ooh, you’d never do the same
Oh, no no no
TakenforaRide,
I have heard this song but I never thought of it as a breakup song. But I totally see it! Thanks for stopping by.
Great choices .. Such empowering songs .. Nice post
Irreplaceable by beyonce is one hell great song to move on.
😀
It sure is! Thanks for commenting.
Adele’s 21 album is amazing. There’s so much great material in there in terms of moving on, letting go, etc. (i.e. Turning Tables!)
Kimberly,
TOTALLY agree. I love Adele…just recently found her an I’m sort of obsessed with 21! Thanks for readng and commenting.
Ooh girl, check out my site. It’s for single ladies, to know their worth and value as they wait for “the one,” with other tips on the waiting/preparation process. =)) I pray you get your dream prince, as I have gotten mine =))
Rebecca St. James “Wait for me” is a beautiful song, reminding us of that knight who will someday come when we’re both ready
I sure hope he does…haha! Thanks for the tip.
I didn’t see this one on the list (hopefully I didn’t miss it!) but White Horse by Taylor Swift is an awesome one!!
Say you’re sorry
That face of an angel
Comes out just when you need it to
As I paced back and forth all this time
Cause I honestly believed in you
Holding on
The days drag on
Stupid girl,
I should have known, I should have known
[Chorus:]
I’m not a princess, this ain’t a fairy tale,
I’m not the one you’ll sweep off her feet,
Lead her up the stairwell
This ain’t Hollywood, this is a small town,
I was a dreamer before you went and let me down,
Now it’s too late for you and your white horse to come around
Baby I was naive,
Got lost in your eyes
And never really had a chance
My mistake, I didn’t know to be in love
You had to fight to have the upper hand
I had so many dreams
About you and me
Happy endings
Now I know
[Chorus:]
And there you are on your knees,
Begging for forgiveness, begging for me
Just like I always wanted but I’m so sorry
Cause I’m not your princess, this ain’t a fairytale,
I’m gonna find someone someday who might actually treat me well
This is a big world, that was a small town
There in my rear view mirror disappearing now
And it’s too late for you and your white horse
Now it’s too late for you and your white horse to catch me now
“I’m gonna find someone someday who might actually treat me well”
LOVE THIS! Thanks for sharing. I really like some of Taylor Swift’s other songs, but I hadn’t heard this one! Appreciate your comment.
Hi, loved your post. Iv got a few songs that have really helped me…
1) rolling in the deep – Adele
2) little bit stronger – Sara Evans
3) can’t do better – jojo
4) take a bow – Rihanna
5) t-shirt – shantelle
Thanks, Christina. Rolling in the Deep is one of the best breakup songs ever. I’ll check out the others you’ve suggested. Appreciate your comment.
These are all great and empowering for the breakup-ee but how about the breakup-er? Great post!
I think this list could be for the breakuper too, if you broke up with someone because they were really bad for you, and it was a tough breakup. I actually wrote this list, being the breakup-er…but it was still so sad and hard for me that I needed some empowering songs. You should make your own list – would love to read it!
Nice! Hope you don’t have to use this list anytime soon.
You and me both 🙂 Thanks for stopping by.
Right now, my favorite getting over him song is
“A Little Bit Stronger” by Sara Evans – sorry it is a little long, but a great song. Congrats on FP 🙂
Woke up late today, and I still feel the sting of the pain.
But I brushed my teeth anyway, got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face. I got a little bit stronger.
Riding in the car to work, and I’m trying to ignore the hurt. So I turned on the radio, Stupid song made me think of you,I listened to it for minute, but then I changed it. I’m getting a little bit stronger, just a little bit stronger.
And I’m done hoping that we can work it out,I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels Letting you drag my heart around.
And ohhh I’m done thinking, that you could ever change.
I know my heart will never be the same,but I’m telling myself I’ll be okay. Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger.
Doesn’t happen over night, but you turn around and a months gone by,
And you realize you haven’t cried. I’m not giving you a hour or a second or another minute longer. I’m busy getting stronger.
And I’m done hoping that we can work it out, I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels Letting you drag my heart around.
And ohhh I’m done thinking, that you could ever change. I know my heart will never be the same,but I’m telling myself I’ll be okay.
Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger. I get a little bit stronger.
Getting along without you baby, I’m better off without you baby,
How does it feel with out me baby? I’m getting stronger without you baby.
And I’m done hoping that we can work it out, I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels Letting you drag my heart around.
And ohhh I’m done thinking, that you could ever change.
I know my heart will never be the same, but I’m telling myself I’ll be okay, Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger.
I get a little bit stronger.
I’m just a little bit stronger. A little bit, a little bit, a little bit stronger. I get a little bit stronger.
AWESOME song! Thanks so much for sharing it. I love these lyrics… you do have little reminders here and there of the loss, but you do get stronger each and every day. Appreciate you stopping by Simply Solo!
lol@#2. Good choice! I think you should add Maroon 5. Most of thei songs are pretty depressing, though. OHHH, The Script- Breakeven!!
Haha, love your excitement :). Thanks for your additions to the list! Between my list and all the comments this has got to be the most comprehensive breakup list known to man! 🙂
So I know this is definitely middle school, but I like listening to “It’s Alright, it’s Ok” by Ashley Tisdale. It is the only song of hers I like, but its so empowering. Also “Wrong Baby Wrong” by Martina McBride is also an amazing GIRL POWER song.
❤
LOVE girl power songs. Thanks 🙂
love love love love love
okay my vision got tired of scrolling. was the song that fiona apple’s song, sleep to dream on the list? loooove that song!
Don’t think it was! Thanks for the addition!
1) “Didn’t you know how much I loved you” by Kellie Pickler
2) Best days of your life by Kellie Pickler
3) A little bit strong by Sara Evans
4) Foolish Games by Jewel
5) I Am by Nelly Furtado
6) My Love by Ciara
7) Leave the Pieces by The Wreckers
Thanks, Jenny! I didn’t realize how good Sara Evans is for a breakup songs. Gonna check her out – so many people added her to this list! Appreciate your additions.
i am seriously gonna check out these songs. 🙂
You and me both. It’s gonna take a while… lol!
stupid boy by keith urban kept me going through my current break up
He’s good!
Mostly R&B/Soul but some of my faves….Coming out of a 10 yr relationship (incl. 6 yr marriage) I’m very familiar with heartache! lol….
If – Destiny’s Child
Green Light – Beyonce
I’m Alone Now – Beyonce (Not An Official Release)
10 Seconds – Jazmine Sullivan
After Love – Keri Hilson ft. Diddy
Breaking Point – Keri Hilson
ANYTHING ADELE has out!
Bruised But Not Broken – Joss Stone
Good Mourning – India.Arie
Energy – Keri Hilson
Epiphany – Chrisette Michelle
Be Ok – Chrisette Michelle
ANYTHING that MOZELLA has out! — “You Wanted It” and “Light Years Away” are GREAT…ALL her songs are great.
Lesson Learned – Alicia Keys (also
I Gotta Go, Gotta Leave – Vivian Green
Its A Wrap – Mariah Carey
Doin Me – Fantasia
It’s All Good – Fantasia
Like A Boy – Ciara
Rainin Men – Rihanna ft. Nicki Minaj
Shame – Jill Scott
This Too Shall Pass – India.Arie
Where You At- Jennifer Hudson
Why Don’t You Love Me – Beyonce
Too Gone, Too Long – EnVogue
ok….I’m done… : )
Wow, pJai, great list. You really do know your stuff. I agree with so many of these, but “ANYTHING ADELE has out!” is soooo true!!!! Good luck to you with everything… I know it’s hard but there is a light a the end of the tunnel!
haha okay maybe very old school and some new stuff, but I just stumbled into these
Justin timerlake -cry me a river
”told me you loved me, why did you leave me all alone. then you tell me you need me when you call me on the phone. but girl I refuse you must have me confused with some other guy. bridges have burned now it’s your turn to cry. So cry me a river!”
1) Justin timberlake – what goes around, comes around
”Is this the way it’s really going down?
Is this how we say goodbye?
Should’ve known better when you came around
That you were gonna make me cry
It’s breaking my heart to watch you run around
‘Cause I know that you’re living a lie
That’s okay baby ’cause in time you will find…
What goes around, comes around”
2.) Britney Spears- Don’t go knocking on my door
”Time is up
No more cheat n’ lie
No more tears to dry
You and I, we’re like so “bye-bye”
Finally
I am over you
Totally unblue
And I can hear myself saying
I am better off without you
Stronger than ever and I
I’m tellin’ you now
Don’t go knockin’ on my door”
3) Atomic kitten – OK
”I say it’s OK, I can promise you it’s alright
You ain’t keeping me up all night, no more
You’re not here but it’s ok, I assure you babe it’s alright
you ain’t keeping me up all night, no more
Your not here but it’s okay”
4) Ben saunders- dry your eyes : This one just cheers me up everytime!
”Dry you eyes, little girl
It’s not the end of the world
Just the beginning
We can start a little something baby
In no time, you’ll be fine
It’s not the end of the world
Let’s start a little something”
So these 4 popped into mind haha if I can think of more I’ll be sure to post haha hope you like it 😛
i meant 5 xDD
oh oh ohhh !!!
6) jessie james – guilty: not pure break-up, but it always makes me feel better =D it has some sort of HA! vibe over it 😛 it’s basically about a girl being treated badly and constantly left and cheated on. And she kinda gets back at him in her own way.
”Would it bother you, to know his hands have been all over me??…I feel everything but guilty”
7) Noah and the whale- blue skies
”This is the last song that I write while still in love with you.
This is the last song that i wrote while your even on my mind.
Cause it’s time to leave those feelings behind.
Oh cause blue skies are calling”
8) Nicole sherzinger- Don’t hold your breath
”You can’t touch me now there’s no feeling left
If you think I’m coming back don’t hold your breath”
9) The pussycat Dolls- Hush Hush
”I don’t want to
Stay another minute
I don’t want you
To say a single word
Hush Hush, Hush Hush
There is no other way
I get the final say”
10) Esmee Denters- outta here
”What a waste of my heart I’ve made. get me outta here!”
11) Esmee Denters- Victim
”And it’s time that I,
Let go of all the things you’ve been calling me
Let go of all the pain and the memories
I ain’t about to break my beginning is starting now
And you showed me how
I don’t need your love for charity,
Got everything I want in me,
Open your eyes and you will see,
That I, I, that I, I
Ain’t a Victim, Ain’t a Victim
12) Lady Gaga- no way
”I can’t believe it or forget it, what I saw that day
And if you’re wonderin’ if I’m staying…
The answer is NO WAY”
13) Eliza doolittle – rollerblades :Also check out her cover of It’s not right but it’s ok, it’s really pretty and a little more light hearted.
”While beating up on yesterday I was on my rollerblades, rolling on, moving on…Your running late the doors are closing”
14) Sugababes- Hole in the head (old but still nice =D)
”ooh, bet you never thought I’d get out of bed
Because of you boy,
Such a fool boy”
15) MADI – Divide the city : This is a local girl that won a contest. Eventhough it’s pretty raw, it’s a little inbetween sad and strong. You can search her on youtube! the only single version is available on itunes I’m afraid…It’s really worth the listen though!!! This is the only link : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PvQS3jmQ6K4
”oh you haven’t just abandoned me, you also took my friends from me.
my loving sense of security.
I’m throwing your stuff outside immediatey.
Cause we must divide the city tonight,
we must make sure what’s yours and whats mine.
We must force our friends in to choosing,
as if we aren’t already losing, this much
Divide the city with me.
Oh god and again it’s a huge list >> There just keep coming up new songs in my head hahaha xD
HAHA Joyce! I love your enthusiasm. Thanks for the additions. Loved that line you shared – ”Would it bother you, to know his hands have been all over me??…I feel everything but guilty” Gotta check out the song for sure.
Joyce, thanks for these additions! You are doing a great job – looks like you have a knack for breakup songs :). Cry Me A River is a particularly good one.
amazing…….:)
I loveeee this post! Going through a break-up myself and it’s easy to get caught up in the sad/depressing songs that keep you hanging on for dear life to the relationship. Here’s a song that I’ve appreciated since the break up:
Jar Of Hearts lyrics by Christina Perri
I know I can’t take one more step towards you
‘Cause all that’s waiting is regret
And don’t you know I’m not your ghost anymore?
You lost the love I loved the most
And I learned to live, half-alive
And now you want me one more time
And who do you think you are?
Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart
You’re gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
So don’t come back for me
Who do you think you are?
I hear you’re asking all around
If I am anywhere to be found
But I have grown too strong
To ever fall back in your arms
And I learned to live, half-alive
And now you want me one more time
And who do you think you are?
Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart
You’re gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
[ From : http://www.elyrics.net/read/c/christina-perri-lyrics/jar-of-hearts-lyrics.html ]
So don’t come back for me
Who do you think you are?
Dear, it took so long just to feel alright
Remember how to put back the light in my eyes
I wish I had missed the first time that we kissed
Cause you broke all your promises
And now you’re back
You don’t get to get me back
And who do you think you are?
Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart
You’re gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
So don’t come back for me
Don’t come back at all
And who do you think you are?
Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart
You’re gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
Don’t come back for me
Don’t come back at all
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are?
Thanks for the addition! Sorry to hear about your breakup, but glad you have been able to break yourself from the sad song cycle 🙂
Sara Evans A Little Bit Stronger.
And I’m done hoping that we can work it out
I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I’m done thinking, that you could ever change
I know my heart will never be the same
But I’m telling myself I’ll be okay
Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger
I get a little bit stronger
Getting along without you, baby
I’m better off without you, baby
How does it feel without me, baby?
I’m getting stronger without you, baby
My anthem as of late
Thanks for the additions!! Lots of peeps love this Sara Evans song, it sure is a fav on this list!
how bout Eamon – F*** it ! (I don’t want you back)
lets u wallow “&” move on
Wow This is a Great Posting and has allowed me to pass the whole day without calling my x ( still within the first 72 hours of breaking up so I am so used to saying good morning, good night that it is hard not to hear his voice), but updating my ipod has spent the whole day. I was surprised how many of mine weren’t on the list. So I hope someone finds them helpful. It is a collection of punk and pop and country, the ones with the stars are truly empowering. My favorite would have to be No more Drama by Mary J and Number One by Skye Sweetnam.
**Believe By Cher
Tearin up My heart- N’sync
End Tonight- All American Rejects
**No More Drama- Mary J
Careless Whisper- Seether
Lover Lover- Jerrod Nieman
**Told You SO- Keith Urban
**I got A brand new girlfriend- Steve Holy
**Stranger in My house- Tamia
**She Wont be Lonely Long- Clay Walker
Call me when your sober/ **Sweet Sacrifice- Evanescence
Neglected- Katherine Mcphee
Pink- **There You go/ You Make me Sick
Don’t wanna fight- qwote ft trina ( I usually skip to trina’s part during a break up because the rest of the song falls on the other playlist)
Thnks fr mmrs- fall out boy
Lost my way- finger eleven
Everything You Want- Vertical Horizon
Verve Pipe- freshman
Torn- Natalie Umbridge ( or some last name like that)
Stupid in love- rihanna
**Number one- skye sweetnam
Gotta get through this- Daniel bedingfield
Dreamin love- kate and kasey
Stop me- Mark Ronson
I was feeling so much better going through this list, until someone suggested Shantelle’s T-Shirt. Last night that would have been my anthem because nothing in my closet was right when it was time to go out with the girls.
Wow, these are all so great! No More Drama is a great addition! Oh and so I Gotta Get Through This! Sorry to hear you are going through a breakup, but I’m really glad this list helps. Be good to yourself!!
This I think is the most enpowering breakup song EVER!!!
REO SPEEDWAGON…TIME FOR ME TO FLY
“I’ve been around for you
I’ve been up and down for you
But I just can’t get any relief
I’ve swallowed my pride for you
I’ve lived and lied for you
But you still make me feel like a thief
You got me stealin’ your love away
‘Cause you never give it
Peeling the years away
And we can’t relive it
I make you laugh
And you make me cry
I believe it’s time for me to fly
You said we’d work it out
You said that you had no doubt
That deep down we were really in love
Oh, but I’m tired of holding on
To a feeling I know is gone
I do believe that I’ve had enough
I’ve had enough of the falseness
Of a worn out relation
Enough of the jealousy
And the intoleration
I make you laugh
And you make me cry
I believe it’s time for me to fly
[Refrain:]
Time for me to fly
Oh, I’ve got to set myself free
Time for me to fly
And that’s just how it’s got to be
I know it hurts to say goodbye
But it’s time for me to fly
Oh, don’t you know it’s…
[Refrain]
It’s time for me to fly
[Repeat to end]…”
Wow, great addition. Thank you!
What exactly does it mean to be freshly pressed? From the replies its positive sooooo Congratulates on receiving it….I think??? 😀
Haha, being Freshly Pressed is a good thing. On the homepage of WordPress.com, they select a few blogs to feature every day. They selected my blog one day. It helps drive new readers to check out the blog– people who would have never been able to otherwise. Thanks for stopping by!!
Hey, this really helps. 🙂 I’ve been listening to most of that lately.. Just came from a break up too..
You should try listening to Beyonce’s- Best thing I never had. 🙂
Thanks!
Hey girls
Not going through a breakup at the moment, but finding out some stuff about what an ex did makes me want to be mad again. Here are some really good ones (if they’re not there already)
Cher – Strong Enough
Jessie James – I look so good (without you)
Justin Timberlake – Cry me a river
🙂 🙂
Oh and…
Cassie Davis – No More
Amy Peason – I don’t miss you
Stacie Orrico – I’m not missing you
Thanks for all the suggestions, Jess! Sorry to hear about the ex…. I totally know where you are coming from.
Just came accross a really good one!
“extinction” by the soft pack
those are some really good songs. i also think stronger by sara evans should be added. that song really helped me pull through when I went through my break up.
“Bulletproof” by La Roux!
I have only read a few posts, but I love your blog! I am about 6 months out of a five year relationship. We didn’t get as far as you in our wedding planning before everything fell apart, but it still has left a huge empty space in my life, space that I am trying so hard to fill up with new and exciting adventures. I find myself nodding and smiling, laughing and tearing up at some of your posts. It really is a crazy ride! Thanks for letting us join you on yours!
Alisha,
Thanks so much for your comment. It made my heart hurt…. in a good way, though 🙂 I know a lot of the feelings you are going through and I really empathize with you. Take good care of yourself… and I promise you will OK in time. It just takes time.
Kelly Clarkson is the Queen of break up songs 😆
Breakaway
I’ll spread my wings and I’ll learn how to fly I’ll do what it takes ’til I touch the sky
And I’ll make a wish, take a chance, make a change And breakaway
Already Gone
I want you to know that it doesn’t matter
Where we take this road someone’s gotta go
And I want you to know you couldn’t have loved me better
But I want you to move on so I’m already gone
Because of You
Because of you I find it hard to trust
Not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you, I am afraid
My Life Would Suck Without You
Baby I was stupid for telling you goodbye
Maybe I was wrong for tryin’ to pick a fight I know that I’ve got issues
But you’re pretty messed up too
Either way, I found out I’m nothing without you
Since You Been Gone
But since you’ve been gone
I can breathe for the first time I’m so moving on, yeah yeah, thanks to you
Now I get what I want, since you’ve been gone
Sober
And I don’t know
This could break my heart or save me
Nothing’s real Until you let go completely
Keith Urban – You’ll Think Of Me
Take your records, take your freedom
Take your memories, I don’t need ‘em
Take your space and take your reasons
But you’ll think of me
And take your cat and leave my sweater
‘Cause we have nothing left to weather
In fact I’ll feel a whole lot better
Lene Marlin – Never to know
Do you want the real story,
or do you prefer the lie
Do you want to see him smile,
or maybe see him cry
Do you want to follow,
or let him go alone
For then, never to know… never to know
Mindy Smith – One Moment More
Hold me
Even though I know you’re leaving
And show me
All the reasons you would stay
It’s just enough to feel your breath on mine
To warm my soul and ease my mind
You’ve got to hold me and show me now
Adele – Someone like you
Never mind, I’ll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you, too
Don’t forget me, I begged,
I remember you said
Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead
Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead
Sophie Zelmani – I´ll remember you
I’ll remember you
You will be there in my heart
I’ll remember you
But that’s all that I can do
But I’ll remember
Thank you so much for this list and everyone else for their contributions. It was exactly what I was looking for/needed since my very recent break up from a toxic relationship. I’m definitely going to need the empowerment because I foresee a very messy custody battle in my near future. I was trying to create a playlist to get me through and it looks like I’m going to have to go on an iTunes shopping spree. My recent theme songs have been
“Stronger Woman” by Jewel
“I wish there was more
I could say
Another fairytale fades to gray
I’ve lived on hope
Just like a child
Walking that mile
Faking that smile
All the while
Wishing my heart had wings
Well from now on I’m going to be
The kind of woman I’d want my daughter to be, oh
I’m gonna love myself more than anyone else
Believe in me, even if someone can’t see
A stronger woman in me
I’m gonna be my own best friend
Stick with me till the end
I won’t lose myself again, never, no
‘Cause there’s a stronger woman,
A stronger woman”
“Fearless” by Colbie Caillat
“If that’s the way you love
You’ve got to learn so much
If that’s the way you say goodbye
And this is how it ends
And I’m alright with it
You’re never gonna see me cry
Cause I’ve cried
[Chorus:]
So go on, go on and break my heart
I’ll be okay
There’s nothing you can do to me
That’s ever going to burn me
So go on, go on and leave my love
Out on the street
I’m fearless
Better believe I’m fearless, fearless”
and “It Stops Today” by Colbie Caillat
So here I am, I’m taking my first step
Thought I was losing balance but I caught myself
I kinda like the challenge, no I don’t need help
I’m gonna make it past the very start
It’s always been the hardest part
But I, I, I, I, I’m gonna stay in control
I must admit this crutch is getting old
I am gonna throw it right out of my hand
I’m finally here, I understand
I know I’ll get there on my own
So I can’t keep on running
No, I just can’t keep on running away from here
I know that the only way to beat it is to fight my every fear
I’m not gonna make it ’til I turn around and face it alone
I know that I can’t keep on running
No, I just can’t keep on running away so it stops today
Strongerthanyouthink,
Glad you appreciated the list. I’m sending positive vibes your way for this stressful time. Take care of yourself.
Air Supply – All out of love
I ‘m all out of love, I’m so lost without you
I know you were right believing for so long
I ‘m all out of love, what am I without you
I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong
Vast – One more day
I was wrong
Now I’ll never see your face anymore
Oh my Love
I’d give anything for one more day with you
Lifehouse – Halfway gone
You were always hard to hold
So letting go ain’t easy
I’m hanging on but growing cold
While my mind is leaving
David Choi – Don’t even start
Because if I look into your eyes
Then I’ll have to say goodbye
And that’ll break my heart
So I won’t even start
No, I won’t even start
Wow, Anklebiters. Thank you so much for all your additions to my list…. you have been ever so helpful!
My soul mate’s going through rough times and she asked me to find “break up” songs for her and I happened across your blog. IMHO, soul mate doesn’t always mean your SO. Maybe a future topic for your blog – what/who is a/your soul mate ❓ 🙂
Anklebiters,
That is an interesting topic. Thanks!! It is interesting to think if your soul mate isn’t your significant other…. opens lots of possibilities.
If you do, I have an interesting story to tell 🙂
Star Sailor – Some of us
I’ve grown to see the philosophy of my own mistrust,
We all have our faults, mine come in waves that you turn to rust,
Some of us laugh, some of us cry,
Some of us smoke, some of us lie,
But it’s all just the way that we cope with our lives.
I just liked one, the 10th number – “You’ll think of me”
May be it’s just me >.>
I like “Raise your glass” by PINK! It’s nice. You could add it. Then there’s “Me, myself and I”.. Amazing songs! 🙂
One of favorites from Mandi…and she’s singing with a candy in her mouth 😯
Mandi Perkins – Why Pretend
I know the truth
I’m not blind you know
I keep telling you
Its time to let her go
the other songs i love is:
-Jar of Hearts : Christina Perri
– dont forget : demi lovato
– Story of us : Taylor swift
– someone like you : Adele
– cheatercheater, bestfriend eater : never shout never
– mean : Taylor Swift
– Picture to burn : Taylor Swift
– I hate this part : pussycat dolls
– I dont need a man : pussycat dolls
– skyscraper : demi lovato
found a new one!!
fallulah- lay my head
”I see them run when you throw them a bone, I see them run for you
I can’t believe that not so long ago, you had me running to
I lay my head where your heart used to be
I keep the left side for you when i sleep
i miss the heat and the weight of a man
but im to good to fall back in your hands”
I absolutely love – “Jar of hearts” – Christina Perri
AMAZING song! 😀
I guess we’ve all come here for the same reason. I am past the wallowing, and I love empowering songs. So no “weepers” on this list. Off the top of my head, the ones I haven’t seen in this wonderful collection are:
“Still Standing” Elton John
“Bye Bye” Reba McEntire
“The Bridge You Burn” Reba McEntire
“Consider Me Gone” also Reba
“Now You Tell Me” Jordin Sparks
Jo Dee Messina has a lot of empowering break-up songs:
My Give a Damn’s Busted
Lesson in Leavin
I’m Done
Who’s Crying Now
I’ll keep thinking… Is there a similar place for just plain old empowerment songs — minus the break-up? I have a great list of those as well. Good luck ladies. Living well is the best revenege and he who laughs last laughs best.
GateCityGal,
So great to hear that you are past the wallowing – that’s almost the hardest step! Great additions, too, thank you for adding to the list. I bet there is somewhere for just empowering break up songs! If not – maybe you should create it 🙂
“Living well is the best revenge.” EXACTLY!
Stuttering-Fefe Dobson
“There’s a whole lot of things that I will forgive
But I just can’t take a liar
I was by your side ’til the very end
’til you pushed me in the fire
I tried to believe you but something is wrong
You won’t look in my eyes tell me what’s going on
“It’s you and me against the world”,
That’s what you said, that’s what you said
If you can’t be honest with me
Then I’m afraid this is the end
Hurry up, hurry up
If you ever really cared about me
Tell the truth, give it up
You sound guilty, ’cause you’re stutterin’
Oh oh oh oh oh ey ey ey ey ey oh oh oh oh woah
Yeah you’re stuttering
Oh oh oh oh oh ey ey ey ey ey oh oh oh oh woah
Yeah you’re stuttering
Now the seconds turn into minutes now
But you won’t give me an answer
You can tell me this, you can tell me that
But don’t say you don’t remember
‘Cause I know you better than you know yourself
So don’t say I’m crazy, I know very well
“It’s you and me against the world”,
That’s what you said, that’s what you said
If you can’t be honest with me
Then I’m afraid this is the end
Hurry up, hurry up
If you ever really cared about me
Tell the truth, give it up
You sound guilty, ’cause you’re stutterin’”
Leona Lewis – Better In Time
Since there’s no more you and me (no more you and me)
It’s time I let you go so I can be free
And live my life how it should be.
No matter how hard it is,
I’ll be fine without you,
Yes I will.
Best thing I have ever come across!! This is exactly what I have needed. Like some others on here, I’m going through a breakup as well and these songs/lyrics really have helped (most just by reading them). Thank you for creating this and for everyone else who has posted before me. It’s almost like everyone is helping each other heal and move on, it’s great! 🙂 🙂
I have one song to add (all the others have already been said), it’s a little sappy but the lyrics are absolutely beautiful!
“One Day You Will” – Lady Antebellum
…You walk outside and all you see is rain/You look inside and all you feel is pain/And you can’t see it now/ But down the road the sun is shining/In every cloud there’s a silver lining/ Just keep holding on/And every heartache makes you stronger/ But it won’t be much longer/ You’ll find love, you’ll find peace/ And the you you’re meant to be/ I know right now that’s not the way you feel/ But one day you will.
Again thank you so much for posting this and providing the support to so many people. This has definitely helped me and in a way saved me. Thanks! 🙂
Lindsay,
I do love how this has become such a community 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!
not sure if anyone posted this but –
Whitney Houston – Exhale
Everyone falls in love sometime
Sometimes it’s wrong, and sometimes it’s right
For every win, someone must fail
But there comes a point when
When we exhale
Robbie Williams – Something Beautiful
When you’re lost, hurt, tired and lonely
Something beautiful wil come your way
Robbie Williams – Sexed Up
Screw you, I didn’t like your taste
Anyway, I chose you and that’s all gone to waste
It’s Saturday, I’ll go out
And find another you
Having recently broken up with my boyfriend, I wanted to find some good breakup songs as all the songs I have remind me of him. This page is amazing, I spent the best part of yesterday collecting song titles and downloading and have spent the best part of today listening to all my new tracks. Here are some great songs that I don’t think have been mentioned (with some YouTube links for ease)
1. Woman to Woman by Shirley Brown
2. It Ain’t no fun by Shirley Brown
3. Lovin’ Arms by Millie Jackson
4. Angie Stone – Wish I Didn’t Miss You
5. Heard It All Before by Sunshine Anderson
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGMInHRR2Fo
6. Silly Of Me by Denice Williams
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-7xqBxo4UE
7. Melt my heart to stone by Adele
8. Like We Never Loved Before by Faith Hill
9. Stay by Beulah
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOiJmGp3DyU
10. Give It To Me Right by Melanie Fiona
11. I Shall Believe by Sheryl Crow
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3Nnrj6i9Vk
12. Rewind by Diane Birch
13. Troy by Sinéad O’Connor
14. Northern Lad by Tori Amos
15. Warwick Avenue by Duffy
16. I’m Not Ready To Make Nice by Dixie Chicks
17. Free Yourself by Fantasia
18. Open My Heart by Yolanda Adams
19. Dear Diary by Róisín Murphy
“Dear diary
My dear
Got to keep it all inside
Got to keep it locked behind a
Golden wall of silence
You see I have my pride
And I won’t be telling him
Anytime soon
Too afraid to say it
I wouldn’t want to embarrass myself
Telling everybody the truth ”
20. Fuck Was I by Jenny Owen Youngs
“Love grows in me like a tumor,
parasites bent on devouring its host.
I’m developing my sense of humor,
till I can laugh at my heart between your teeth,
till I can laugh at my face beneath your feet.”
21. Katie by David Ford
22. David Ford – Cheer Up (You Miserable Fuck)
23. Cheers Darlin’ by Damien Rice
Wow! Great additions! Glad this list helped you out and good luck 🙂
hey!! i stumbled on this blog desperate to figure what song i heard playing on the radio in a tree of life store the other day … i’m guessing it’s relatively recent, it was sung by a female artist and it had a few pretty witty lines and a chorus that was so catchy there was no way i’d possibly forget it … errgg!! i think the girl was saying something to the effect of “how silly was i to think you were the one” … and it was definitely upbeat and fun sounding, not particularly serious. anyone have any ideas what it was?? it’s driving me crazy!!
i have a c.d. that i have been playing over and over and is how i told my boyfriend we were over after he cheated on me.
1 its over jessey mccartney
2 so sick neyo
3 burn usher
4 Heartbreak Warfare John Mayer
5 Where have you been? Reel Big Fish
6 Over You Daughtry
7 i hate everything about you three days grace
8 youll think of me keith urban
9 tonight i wanna cry kieth urban
Alana Davis – “32 Flavors and then Some” – love it!
Here’s a couple from me, this is a great topic!
Hoobastank – Don’t Think I Love You
“I wish that we would go back to what we were before
But I don’t think that I love you anymore, anymore
It’s too hard to keep pretending, it’s too hard to ignore
I don’t think that I love you anymore, anymore”
Enrique Iglesias
“One day at a time
I gotta let you go
One day at a time
It seems so impossible
One day at a time
I gotta let you go
And I know
Yes I know
I gotta take it
One day at a time.”
Good Charlotte – Dance Floor Anthem (I don’t wanna be in love)
“She’s going out to forget they were together
All that time he was taking her for granted
She wants to see if there’s more
Then he gave she’s looking for”
Nicole Scherzinger – Don’t Hold Your Breath
“You can’t touch me now there’s no feeling left
If you think I’m coming back don’t hold your breath
What you did to me boy I can’t forget
If you think I’m coming back don’t hold your breath”
Perter Gabriel – I Grieve
i grieve for you
you leave me
it’s so hard to move on
still loving what’s gone
they say life carries on
they say life carries on and on and on and on
Great Lists dont know where this song will be put but the words are so empowering its an oldie but one of my favs now
The Waterboys – Suffer
im gonna suffer for you no longer
im gonna suffer for you no more
im gonna write you out of my life
and shut the door
you tried to drive a wedge
between me and my friends
pushed me to the edge time and again
ive been living in your shade since i cant remember when
now im bringing this charade to an end!
im gonna suffer for you no longer
im gonna suffer for you no more
im gonna write you outta my life
and shut the door
there was subletly and skill in your manipulative ways
you chipped away my will so you could make me stay
you soothed me with your voice until i obeyed
but im making my own choice from today
you used the tongue of love like a boxer uses fists
you contained me like a glove or a creeping cloak of mist
you guaranteed the stars but there was always a twist
but now i see you as you are an egotist!
im gonna suffer for you no longer
imgonna suffer for you no more
im gonna write you outta my life
and shut the door
ive got a ticket in my hand and i must be moving on
but i want you to understand from from the moment i am gone
i release and let you go – you owe nothing now to me
im not angry anymore im free!
im gonna suffer for you no longer
im gonna suffer for you no more
im gonna write you outta my life
and shut the door
Some of my favorite cry your eyes out breakup songs:-
Love Letter – Nick Cave
Angel – A-Ha
Beautiful Child – Fleetwood Mac
Since I fell for you – Nina Simone
Apple Bed – Sparklehorse
Just when I needed you most – Dolly Parton
Need You Now – Lady Antebellum
It Doesn’t Matter – Alison Krause
Trust – The Cure
Watching You – Melissa Etheridge
Strange and Beautiful – Aqualung
Should’ve Known Better – Jim Diamond
Happy Ending – Mika
Roads – Portishead
Twenty One – The Cranberries
Don’t Cry – Guns n Roses
If Leaving Me Is Easy – Phil Collins
Miserable At Best – Mayday Parade
Here Come Those Tears Again – Jackson Browne
I Just made my break up song list. Enjoy!
Peachy – Missy Higgins
Labour of Love – Frente!
Irreplaceable – Beyoncé
No – Shakira & Gustavo Cerati
Beautiful Liar – Beyoncé & Shakira
Fighter – Christina Aguilera
Feeling Good – Michael Bublé
Big Girls Don’t Cry (Personal) – Fergie
Special Ones – Katie Noonan
Tears Dry On Their Own – Amy Winehouse
1901 – Phoenix
So Over You – Ashanti
Take a Bow – Rihanna
I’m Not Missing You – Stacie Orrico
Thank You – Jamelia
Energy – Keri Hilson
Lissie – In Sleep
Why am I so terrified of waking?
He’s gone and I feel I’ve been forsaken
In sleep is the only place I get to see
him, get to love him
The scene, a city after dawn
Becomes a field of corn
And I’ve had this one before
Keri Noble – Look at me
Look at you
Look into your heart
Tell me is there room for you to make a brand new start?
Or has the world gotten to you and made you dark?
Come to me
Hi, I just saw this post and had to add Kelis, Caught Out There…this was a great song when I was going through my break up… (Yo this song yo, this song is for all the women out there,
that have been lied to by their men,
and I know ya’ll been lied to over and over again,
This is for ya’ll,
yo maybe you didn’t break the way you should ‘a broke yo,
but I break!)
(Ye know what I’m sayin’ so, this is how it goes yo,
Psch….! Damn!, yo,)
last year Valentines Day,
You would swarm and say,
Babe I love you, love you, (yeah well he’s lyin’) babe I ,swear,
Held you when you were sick,
Even, sucked your dick,
The whole time I think to myself this isn’t fair,
What is this I see, (No)
You don’t come home to me, ( oh no)
When you don’t come home to me, (man)
I can’t deal, can’t bear,
You keep tellin’ me lies, But to your surprise,
Look I found her red coat and your (Bitch) caught out there,
I hate, you so much right now,
I hate, you so much right now,
AAAaahhhhhhhhrrrrrr……
I hate you so much right now,
I hate, you so much right now,
I hate you so much right now,
AAAaahhhhhhhhrrrrrr……
I hate you so much right now.
So sick of your games,
I’ll set your truck to flames,
And watch it blow up, blow up, (ha ha)
Tell me: How you go’n see her now,
So far from sincere, ( I love you)
Fabrications in my ear,
Drive me so far up the wall, I come standing down,
What is this I see, ( Idon’t believe this)
You don’t come home to me,
when you don’t come home to me,
can’t deal, can’t bear, (I won’t)
you keep tellin’ me lies but to your surprise,
I found her red coat and you and your bitch,
Caught Out There, (yeah you been caught)
Chorus…………
(She’s so) Ranchy, so vugar,
Not me, why the hell her,
Look she dresses a mess,
What do you see,
It’s not all about cash, (hell no)
Nor how much you flash,
How I dress is a reflection of me,
Chorus……..
And Wicked Game by Chris Issak… The world was on fire
No one could save me but you.
Strange what desire will make foolish people do
I never dreamed that I’d meet somebody like you
And I never dreamed that I’d lose somebody like you
No, I don’t want to fall in love
[This love is only gonna break your heart]
No, I don’t want to fall in love
[This love is only gonna break your heart]
With you
With you
What a wicked game you play
To make me feel this way
What a wicked thing to do
To let me dream of you
What a wicked thing to say
You never felt this way
What a wicked thing to do
To make me dream of you
v And I don’t wanna fall in love
[This love is only gonna break your heart]
And I don’t want to fall in love
[This love is only gonna break your heart]
{World was on fire
No one could save me but you
Strange what desire will make foolish people do
I never dreamed that I’d love somebody like you
I never dreamed that I’d lose somebody like you
No I don’t wanna fall in love
[This love is only gonna break your heart
No I don’t wanna fall in love
[This love is only gonna break your heart]
With you
With you
Nobody loves no one
its over-jesse mccartney
shouldve said no-taylor swift
its not me its you-skilet\
picture to burn- taylor swift
story of us- taylor swift
you’re not sorry taylor swift.
starts with goodbye-carrie underwood
gone-nsync
its alright its okay ashley tisdale.
leavin-jesse mccartney
According to you-orianthi(all time favorite)
Love Drunk-Boys like girls
bet you wish you had me back-halestorm
Rhianna – TAKE A BOW
Oh, how about a round of applause?
Yeah, standing ovation? Ooh, oh yeah
Yeah y-yeah yeah
You look so dumb right now
Standing outside my house
Trying to apologize
You’re so ugly when you cry
Please, just cut it out
Don’t tell me you’re sorry ’cause you’re not
And baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught
But you put on quite a show, really had me going
But now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining
But it’s over now
(But it’s over now)
Go on and take a bow
Grab your clothes and get gone
You better hurry up before the sprinklers come on
Talking’ ’bout, “Girl, I love you,” “You’re the one”
This just looks like a rerun
Please, what else is on?
Don’t tell me you’re sorry ’cause you’re not
And baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught
But you put on quite a show, really had me going
But now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining
But it’s over now
(But it’s over now)
Go on and take a bow
Oh, and the award for the best liar goes to you
(Goes to you)
For making me believe that you could be faithful to me
Let’s hear your speech out
How about a round of applause?
A standing ovation?
But you put on quite a show, really had me going
Now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining
But it’s over now
(But it’s over now)
Go on and take a bow
But it’s over now
Dido- Hunter
With one light on In one room I know you’re up When I get home With one small step Upon the stair I know your look When I get there
If you were a king Up there on your throne Would you be wise enough to let me go For this queen you think you own
Wants to be a hunter again I want to see the world alone again To take a chance on life again So let me go…
The unread book And painful look The TV’s on The sound is down With one long pause Then you begin Oh look what The cat’s brought in
If you were a king Up there on your throne Would you be wise enough to let me go For this queen you think you own
Wants to be a hunter again I want to see the world alone again To take a chance on life again So let me go Let me leave
For the crown you’ve placed upon my head Feels too heavy now And I don’t know what to say to you But I’ll smile anyhow And all the time I’m thinking Thinking…
I want to be a hunter again I want to see the world alone again To take a chance on life again So let me go
I’ve tried for the past 10 years to make my man happy. “Let Him Fly” by the Dixie Chicks helped me realize “ain’t no talking to this man, he’s been trying to tell me so” which just made me sad and sadder…
But then I found your blog, I listened (and put together a playlist on youtube) and I now feel EMPOWERED. It’s like a switch was flipped and I feel free. I am looking forward to what the future holds. Perhaps he will finally realize the treasure he had, hopefully I’m not “Already Gone” (Eagles version) but either way, I know “I Will Survive.”
Thanks for coming up with it!!!
Kristy,
GREAT comment! Thank you so much for stopping by. I just know you will come out of this relationship “A Little Bit Stronger” (Sara Evans). Just take care of yourself 🙂
try breaking up when you have a son of 9 months old , with a dad that had everything handded to him not once did he ever haave to do anything for his son , and i let it go , and he breaks up with me cuz i dont make him happy. good luck on your journey to a better life , im still bitter sweet about mine . but jewel gets me thru my days almos every song from her is break up song not sure if you wanna call them empowering , but they are awesome ! -foolish games, hands, peices of you, who will save your soul … i can go on forever seether and amy lee brooken !!! lol i will stop now
Chantel,
I’m sorry to hear what you’ve been going through. That’s really rough. Do what you can to try and keep positive… I hope everything works out for you soon. And in the meantime, Jewel is awesome! I love Foolish Games for a breakup song!
From one of my favorite English singer….listened to it this morning on XM radio on my way to breakfast…
Dido – White Flag
I know you think that I shouldn’t still love you
Or tell you that
But if I didn’t say it, well I’d still have felt it
Where’s the sense in that?
I promise I’m not trying to make your life harder
Or return to where we were
But I will go down with this ship
And I won’t put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I’m in love and always will be
I know I left too much mess and destruction
To come back again
And I caused nothing but trouble
I understand if you can’t talk to me again
And if you live by the rules of it’s over
Then I’m sure that that makes sense
But I will go down with this ship
And I won’t put my hands up and surrender
There will be no white flag above my door
I’m in love and always will be
And when we meet, which I’m sure we will
All that was there will be there still I’ll let it pass and hold my tongue
And you will think that I’ve moved on
Amazing break up songs:
So Sick by Ne-Yo
So Yesterday by Hilary Duff (Don’t Judge!)
Over You by Daughtry
Pray for You by Jaron and The Long Road to Love
Bowling Ball by Superchick
Say Goodbye by Chris Brown
Outta My System by Bow Wow
Here Comes Goodbye by Rascal Flatts
Don’t Think I Don’t Think About It by Darius Rucker
Gunpowder & Lead by Miranda Lambert
How Am I Doin’ by Dierks Bentley
Ten Rounds With Jose Cuervo by Tracy Byrd
and OF COURSE You’ll Think of Me by Keith Urban (Which I totally love you for listing!) See, only three girls listed!
Empower you to move forward……..
Vega 4 – Life Is Beautiful
Life is beautiful
We love until we die
When you run into my arms,
We steal a perfect moment.
Let the monsters see you smile,
Let them see you smiling.
Do I hold you too tightly?
When will the hurt kick in?
Life is beautiful, but it’s complicated.
We barely make it.
We don’t need to understand,
There are miracles, miracles.
Yeah, life is beautiful.
Our hearts, they beat and break.
When you run away from harm,
Will you run back into my arms,
Like you did when you were young?
Will you come back to me?
I will hold you tightly
When the hurting kicks in.
Life is beautiful, but it’s complicated,
we barely make it.
We don’t need to understand,
There are miracles, miracles.
Stand where you are.
We let all these moments pass us by.
It’s amazing where I’m standing,
There’s a lot that we can give.
This is ours just for a moment.
There’s a lot that we can give.
Lots of people mentioned the Ace of Base version of Don’t turn around, but what about the original by Tina Turner? In my opinion a much stronger version of the song.
I’d have to say two great songs to add to this list are “I look so good” by Jesse james, and “Stronger” by Sarah Evans.
Hi, I have 2 to add to the list, I hope they aren’t repeats. My soon-to-be-ex husband drained our bank account and split on Saturday. We were planning to divorce anyway, and I was going to leave it friendly, but nobody steals from me and gets away with it! He’s a deadbeat, my half of the money would have been under $300 anyway lol. In choosing the money, he lost out on all the furniture I was going to give him in the divorce, a tv, dvd player, tv stand, kitchen table and chairs, desk, etc…easily 2-3 times what he took! Lol I love it when people try to be assholes and just end up shooting themselves in the foot! Saturday was rough, not because I lost him but because I was afraid I’d lose my apartment. Sunday morning I woke up with Ridin’ Solo running through my head and my brother offered to move in and help with rent. My friends and family won’t let me drown, and my life has been literally getting better by the minute since he took off! I don’t know your situation, I just found this post googling breakup songs looking for the upbeat ones lol, but trust me, you’re better off without him 🙂
My songs are Ridin Solo and Men Don’t Change, btw…
Ridin’ Solo, Jason Derulo
I’m feeling like a star, you can’t stop my shine, I’m loving cloud nine, my head’s in the sky,
I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m ridin solo, solo.
Yeah, I’m feeling good tonight, finally doing me and it feels so right, oh,
Time to do the things I like, going to the club everything’s alright, oh,
No one to answer to, No one thats gonna argue, no,
And since I got the hold off me, I’m living life now that I’m free, yeah,
Telling me to get my shit together now I got my shit together, yeah,
Now I made it through the weather better days are gonna get better
I’m so sorry that it didn’t work out I’m moving on,
I’m so sorry but it’s over now, the pain is gone,
I’m putting on my shades to cover up my eyes,
I’m jumpin in my ride, I’m heading out tonight,
I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
I’m feeling like a star, you can’t stop my shine, I’m loving cloud nine, my head’s in the sky.
I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
Now I’m feeling how I should, never knew single could feel this good, oh,
Stop playing miss understood, back in the game, who knew I would, oh,
So flex how I spread my wings, loving myself makes me wanna sing, oh,
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Telling me to get my shit together now I got my shit together, yeah,
Now I made it through the weather better days are gon’ get better
I’m so sorry that it didn’t work out, I’m moving on,
I’m so sorry but it’s over now the pain is gone,
I’m putting on my Shades to cover up my eyes,
I’m jumpin in my ride, I’m heading out tonight,
I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
I’m feeling like a star, you can’t stop my shine, I’m loving cloud nine, my head’s in the sky.
I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
Riding solo, solo, yeah it’s like S… O… L… O… S… O… L… O… S… O… L… O…
Living my life aint got stress nomore,
I’m putting on my shades to cover up my eyes,
I’m jumpin in my ride, I’m heading out tonight,
I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
I’m feeling like a star, you can’t stop my shine, I’m loving cloud nine, my head’s in the sky.
I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
Men Don’t Change, Amy Dalley
He was a bad boy and I was a good girl
He needed me to smooth out the edges
He’d get his drink on and flirt with the ladies
After two years of his crap, I quit begging
I’m a magnet for the fixer upper man
If I know it’s fire, why do I let it burn my hand
Cupid works for the devil, be suspicious if he cries
You know, sex is usually good, yeah, but it ain’t always right
Chocolate is a band-aid and no matter what they say
Shoes don’t stretch and men don’t change
My friend Lisa, she loves a liar
She found about his other girlfriends
He makes excuses so she forgives him
She swears, she’s gonna leave if he screws up again
But he’s good looking that’s why she don’t see
He’s got her exactly where he wants her to be
Cupid works for the devil, be suspicious if he cries
You know, sex is usually good, yeah, but it ain’t always right
Chocolate is a band-aid and no matter what they say
Shoes don’t stretch and men don’t change
I just met a brand new guy
So far so good
I hope, he don’t change at all
Cupid works for the devil, be suspicious if he cries
You know, sex is usually good, yeah, but it ain’t always right
Chocolate is a band-aid and no matter what they say
Shoes don’t stretch and men don’t change
Wow, Laurin, sounds like you are going through a lot right now. I’m sorry to hear about all that – I can’t believe he drained your bank account. That really sucks. It’s terrible when our relationships come to this – you certainly would never have imagined when you first starting dating, or got married, right? It’s very sad. Thanks for your addition to the list. Thanks for reading and commenting.
There’s a lot of comments on here so I’m not sure if these are repeats but I have two for you. One is “The Shape I’m In” by Joe Nichols
Here’s some of the lyrics:
The sun came up again this morning
I got a call from a long lost friend
Planned us a little road trip down to New Orleans
It ain’t much but it beats where I’ve been
Yeah, I’m doin alright
I’m doin alright
I’m doin alright, for the shape I’m in
Well I’m getting better at barely getting by
When I look at her picture, I don’t break down and cry
And all this time on my hands it’s getting easier to spend
Cause I’m doin alright, for the shape I’m in
The sun came up again this morning
I took my old fastback for a spin
Now when it rains it ain’t always pouring
And I’m learning how to live again
But my #1 breakup song would have to be “A Little Bit Stronger” by Sara Evans:
Woke up late today and I still feel the sting of the pain
But I brushed my teeth anyway
I got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face
I got a little bit stronger
Riding in the car to work and I’m trying to ignore the hurt
So I turned on the radio, stupid song made me think of you
I listened to it for a minute but then I changed it
I’m getting a little bit stronger, just a little bit stronger
And I’m done hoping that we can work it out
I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels, letting you drag my heart around
And oh, I’m done thinking that you could ever change
I know my heart will never be the same
But I’m telling myself I’ll be ok
Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger
Doesn’t happen overnight but you turn around and a months gone by
And you realize you haven’t cried
I’m not giving you and hour or a second or another minute longer
I’m busy getting stronger
And of course, there’s always “Picture to Burn” by Taylor Swift. “Love You” by Jack Ingram is also pretty funny. If he/she is a cheater, “You Lie” by The Band Perry is a good one. And “Easy” by Rascall Flatts ft. Natasha Bedingfield is also great, although slighty depressing… I never realized how many breakup songs there were until I went through it myself. Clearly, none of us are alone in this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=quIsoT1GZro I’m Good – Blaque
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uyb67x1C2Dg Robbie Williams – No Regrets
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bAsA00-5KoI Metallica – Nothing Else Matters
I also find this empowering.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGdLmDbcnk8&ob=av3n The Rasmus – Livin’ In A World Without You 😀
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVTXPUF4Oz4&feature=related Linkin Park – “In The End”
Usually I need something aggressive so I can move on, but before that I need some good crying.
i read every comment, and downloaded 60% of the songs i found here, what a great way to spend my day 🙂 so thats for that! i have some artists/songs i don’t think were mentioned with lyrics to get a feeling for the song 🙂
sorry it’s so long, but these are mostly rock/pop bands and a lot of guy singers
Avril Lavigne – he wasn’t *FUN SONG*
“I’ll sit on my bed alone, staring at the phone.
He wasn’t what I wanted, what I thought, no.
He wouldn’t even open up the door.
He never made me feel like I was special.
He isn’t really what I’m looking for.
He wasn’t what I wanted, what I thought, no.
He wouldn’t even open up the door.
He never made me feel like I was special.
Like I was special, cuz I was special.”
——————
Avril Lavigne – Together
“This has gone on so long
I realize that i need
Something good to rely on
Something for me
When I’m alone I
Feel so much better
And when Im around you
I don’t feel together
together, doesn’t feel right at all”
—————–
New Found Glory – Understatement
“And I’m tracing over your letter
To see if your intentions are as good as mine”
“I’m done with everything
That had to do with you
Don’t worry your pictures are already burned
I’m done with new friends
Don’t sell yourself short
You’ll lose it in the end
I can’t help how i feel”
—————–
New Found Glory – Ballad for the lost romantics
“Here’s to us fools
That have no meaning
I tip my glass to you
Let’s toast the night away to friends
And forget about tomorrow”
—————–
Bouncing Souls – Wish me well (You can go to hell) *funny song*
“Say goodbye, Kiss my ass, I hope you die
Wish me well, You can go to hell
We were so different a short time ago
Love is suppose to make us happy supposed to make us grow
But i just wanna punch you in the face
i love you i guess needed some space”
—————–
Bouncing souls – Hopeless Romantic
“i’m a hopeless romantic, you’re just hopeless!”
—————–
Bouncing souls – Break up song
“”I don’t want this anymore” is all I heard her say
as I grabbed my stuff and headed out the door.
With my music in my phones and my bike under my feet,
things started to look different as I got out on the street.”
—————–
Bouncing Souls – The Something Special
“I think about the two of us
I don’t know why
I feel good on the inside
It’s different now, I’m one I stand alone
I have to be this way
I have to be this way”
—————–
Atmosphere – Fuck you, Lucy **ANGRY & POWERFUL – so good*
“Do I sound mad? Well I guess I’m a little pissed
Every action has a point, Five points make a fist
You close ’em
You swing ’em
It hurts when it hits
And the truth can be a bitch
But if the boot fits
I got an idea
You should get a tattoo that says “Warning”
That’s all, just a warning
So the potential victim
Can take a left and safe breath And avoid you
Sober and upset in the morning
I wanna scream “Fuck you, Lucy!”
But the problem is I love you, Lucy
So instead
I’m gonna finish my drink and have another
While you think about how you used to be my lover
Fuck you”
—————-
Atmosphere – Bird Sings Why The Caged I Know *angry but feel good*
“Well I’ll shake her from her branch, tear apart her nest
Break her skinny legs and fry her eggs up for breakfast
(she’s a snake that can fly) she’s just food for the fleas
She thinks she’s better than me just because she’s free?”
—————–
The Living End – Short Notice
“I said I wanna see you
I really meant I wanna leave you
I said I wanna touch you
I really meant I wanna punch you
I said I wanna kiss you
I’m never gonna miss you”
——————
Kellie Pickler – Red High Heels
“All those games you tried to play, well, they ain’t gonna work on me now
I put a barbed wire fence around my heart, baby, just to keep you out
Well, you thought I’d wait around forever, but baby get real
I just kicked you to the curb in my red high heels
Oh, you can watch me walk if you want to, want to
I bet you want me back, now don’t you, don’t you?
I’m about to show you just how missin me feels, in my red high heels”
—————
311- I told myself
“And now it’s all turned bad
turned bad, turned bad
your ploy to make me jealous
is obvious and sad
it has the opposite effect
now you’re left with what you had
you had”
HOPE YOU LIKE!
Great additions! Thank you – and glad you found this list helpful!
Thank you 🙂 man breakups suck its soo lame i cant sit still
feel soo down 
i really loved her hope it goes good for her though 🙂
Good luck to you 🙂 It will get better!
Katie Herzig – Lost and Found
I know you left me standing there
Out of the calm of the coldest air
I don’t believe the words you said
But I can’t find the words I want
Oh, I can’t find the words I want
“Break my Stride” and “King of Wishful Thinking” really helped me through my breakup
One word…. Adele!! Loads of her songs are about break-ups, she even admitted it, songs such as Rolling In The Deep, Someone Like you, Turning tables, are really good for break ups.
SO true. Love her breakup songs. Just buy the whole CD and call it a day 🙂
You outta know Alanis Morrisette, I Fucking Hate You- Godsmack.
the break up song that empowered me the most is Katherine Mcphee’s I’m Over it 🙂
back to december-taylor swift
what hurts the most- rascal flatts
Never again- Kelly Clarkson is a good one to add
Pray for You – Jaron and The Long Road to Love
THIS WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER – 🙂 AT LEAST MAKE YOU SMILE!
Really glad I found my way to church
Cause Im already feeling better and I thank God for the words
So Im gonna take the high road
And do what the preacher told me to do
You keep messing up
And Ill keep praying for you
I pray your tire blows out at 110
I pray you pass out with your best friend
And wake up with his and her tattoos
Wherever you are, near or far, in your house or in your car
Wherever you are honey, I pray for you
Kelly Clarkson – The War Is Over
I watch the days rush by me like a river
I shouldn’t wait, but I’m scared to touch the water
I let the phone ring, why won’t you believe me
I wait for silence, takes a lot not to answer
All i have to say is you don’t deserve me, you don’t deserve me
I’m finally walking away cause you don’t deserve me, and you’re not worthy
And i won’t let you pour me in because i know you’re gonna win
(the war is over) but the war is over (the war is over)
And i won’t fight you anymore I never been so sure
(the war is over) cause the war is over
I used to let you paint them pretty pictures
You got me caught up with your, you’re my girl forever
So i forgive you, it felt good when you hold me
Yeah you owned me now you wish you had really known me
All i have to say is you don’t deserve me, you don’t deserve me
I’m finally walking away, cause you only hurt me and you’re not worthy
And i won’t let you pour me in because i know you’re gonna win
(the war is over) but the war is over (the war is over) and i won’t fight you anymore
I’ve never been so sure (the war is over)
This is not my surrender I’m not running for cover
I’m right here, I know you see me but your words no longer deceive me in the night
When you’re lonely, you remember how much you miss me so you call, well I swear
You can try a million times, you’ll get the same message
All i have to say is you don’t deserve me, you don’t deserve me
I’m finally walking away, cause you only hurt me and you’re not worthy
And i won’t let you pour me in
Because i know you’re gonna win
(the war is over) but the war is over (the war is over)
The war is over, the war is over
The Pretty Reckless – Just Tonight
Here we are and I can’t think from all the pills right
Start the car and take me home
Here we are and you’re too drunk to hear a word I say
Start the car and take me home
Just tonight I will stay
And we’ll throw it all away
When the light hits your eyes
It’s telling me I’m right
And if I, I am through
And it’s all because of you
Just tonight
Here I am and I can’t seem to see straight
But I’m too numb to feel right now
Here I am watching the clock that’s ticking away my time
I’m too numb to feel right now
Just tonight I will stay
And we’ll throw it all away
When the light hits your eyes
It’s telling me I’m right
And if I, I am through
And it’s all because of you
Just tonight
Just tonight
Do you understand who I am?
Do you wanna know?
Can you really see through me now?
I am about to go
Just tonight I won’t leave
And I’ll lie and you’ll believe
Just tonight I will see
It’s all because of me
Just tonight I will stay
And we’ll throw it all away
When the light hits your eyes
It’s telling me I’m right
And if I, I am through
And it’s all because of you
Just tonight
(Do you understand who I am?)
It’s all because of you
Just tonight
(Do you understand who I am?)
It’s all because of you
Just tonight
(Do you understand who I am?)
It’s all because of you
Just tonight
i would have to say look it up-Ashton Shepard, word for word what happened in my relationship..and the video is hillarious if you get a chance to watch it! 🙂
SR-71 – She Was Dead
SR-71 – Right Now
Love the list – so glad Lily Allen’s “Fuck You” and Eamon’s “Fuck It (I Don’t Want You Back)” were added in the comments. I’d also like to add “Wish You the Worst” by Katy Perry. I broke up with my girlfriend a couple of months ago and I just found out tonight who she’s now dating. She and her new girlfriend totally deserve each other – seems like a match made in Hell. Lol, glad she’s not my problem anymore!
I saw you
At the grocery store
Oh
You both looked happy
Picking out the usual
She’s a carbon copy
Of everything you lost
Of everything I’m not
I guess you just forgot
How to pick ’em
If she’s the one
I’ve heard about
I’m disappointed
If she’s the reason
Why you left
I’m not impressed at all
Well
This looks like the end
Yeah
We can still be friends
Congratulations
Let me be the first
To wish you the worst
‘Cause I think you
Deserve each other
Let me be the curse
That creeps
Under your skin
Until your heart
Caves in
And you wish
She was me again
And again
And again
And again
Well, someone had
To tell the truth
and I’m always honest
I read you
Like an open book
And it’s obvious to me
She’s just
The one between
Heading no where fast
Sure
It’s gonna last forever
Let me be the first
to wish you the worst
‘Cause I think you
Deserve each other
Let me the curse
That creeps
Under your skin
Until your heart
Caves in
And you wish
She was me
Let me be the first
To wish you the worst
‘Cause I think you
Deserve each other
Let me the curse
That creeps
Under your skin
Until your heart
Caves in
And you wish
She was me again
And again
And again
And again
Oh, you wish
You wish
You wish
You do
Some I know of are
Gives you hell by the all American rejects
Since you been gone (don’t know who it’s by
Memorable lines from each were:
When you see my face hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
Hope you find a man that’s worth a damn and treats you well
Then he’s a fool your just as well hope it gives you hell
Since you been gone
I feel pretty for the first time
its by kelly clarkson.
My god, this list is great! I love a good breakup song that says “F*ck you!”.
Here is my personal list (sorry for the loooonnnngggg post):
1)Lying is the most fun a girl can have without taking her clothes off – Panic! at the disco
“I’ve got more wit,
A better kiss,
A harder touch,
A better f*ck
Than any boy you’ll ever meet,
Sweetie, you had me.”
2)I’m not your b*tch – The Paradiso Girls
“I’m not your b*tch, I’m not your h**,
I’ve got your friends all knocking at my door.
I’ll take my pick, even your chick
I even heard your mama wanted some of this.
So if you think that you’re the sh*t
You better check, cause I was faking it.
Oh yes I did, I always did.
Now who’s my b*tch?”
3)Piss up a rope – Ween (Very funny song!)
“You can put on your shoes
Hit the road, get truckin’
Pack your bag, I don’t need the hag.”
4)Kiss the walls – Soul Decision
“You don’t know what it means to sacrifice
Baby, you just wanna believe that you’re always right.
So I’m leaving,
Must have been dreaming,
If I thought you believed in me at all,
But you don’t even sing my songs,
You just hum along,
You can’t wait ‘til they are done.
Tell me how can I love someone,
When I’d rather kiss the wall?”
5)If he loves you – The Pretty Reckless
“If he loves you then he loves you not
Be the one to leave him. Baby, don’t get caught.
If he loves you, set your heart on fire
I hate to be the one to tell you he’s a liar.”
6)Cry your eyes out – Hit the Lights
“That even if I wanted you back
(And I don’t),
You’d still be on call tonight
For anyone who’s down.
Every time you call for some sympathy,
Make it worth my while
And cry your eyes out,
Baby, cry your eyes out.”
7)Play with fire – Hillary Duff
“I can’t believe it’s really,
been so long, you look good.
I heard you’re doing very well,
Don’t ask me, let me tell you.
How I’ve been since when you left,
when you left me for dead.
Finally every tear has dried
I’ve wiped you from my life.”
8)Quit Your B*tchin’ – Gods Paparazzi
“If I had a dollar everytime you found a flaw,
I’d be rich enough to get rid of you once and for all.
I could paint the Mona Lisa with both eyes shut
But you’d just roll your eyes, cause i’m never good enough.”
9)Over you – Girlicious
“Don’t call me anymore,
I ain’t gonna be your toy.
Better find someone new cause I’m over you.”
10)X-Girlfriend – Family Force 5
“I can’t believe she did what she did to me
Alright, now bring me back my things girl
You’re no longer in my world
I don’t think that you need to be talking to me
All about how you said you love me
You miss me terribly
Well, I don’t buy that at all”
11)Tell the Mick that he just made my list of things to do today – Fall Out Boy (My personal favorite)
“Let’s play this game called when you catch fire,
I wouldn’t piss to put you out.
Stop burning bridges and drive off of them
So i can forget about you.”
12)Drunk Kid Catholic – Bright Eyes (not exactly cheery but the following lyrics always bring a smile to my face)
“Well, I have been happy the past couple days
Just thinking of the women who’ve taken your place
And every night I think I certainly won’t ever sleep sober or alone
And then suddenly it occurs to me
I’ve slept alone before you
And so I pour myself the stiffest drink that my stomach can stand
And convince myself to lay back down again”
13)Makes me wonder – Maroon 5
“I still don’t have a reason and you don’t have the time.
And it really makes me wonder
If i ever have a f*ck about you.
Give me something to believe in,
cause I don’t believe in you anymore.
I wonder if even makes a difference to try.
So this is goodbye.”
14)Love Drunk – Girls like Boys
“I used to be love drunk, but now I’m hungover
I love you forever, forever is over
We used to kiss all night, now it’s just a bar fight
So don’t call me crying, say hello then goodbye”
15)Friendly Goodbye – Bowling for Soup
“Sorry I swore just then, cause I know you hate it.
By the way that cake you baked me really sucked but I ate it.
Cause I loved you even more than you could ever imagine,
here’s a friendly goodbye, 5,6,7-
Ain’t that a B with an itch?
Ain’t that a mother trucker?
You can go to H-E double hockey sticks and eff yourself.”
16)Merry Christmas, Kiss my *ss – All Time Low
“I hope you’re happy with yourself
‘Cause I’m not laughing
Don’t you think it’s kind of crappy
What you did this holiday?
When I gave you my heart, you ripped it apart
Like a wrapping paper trash
So I wrote you a song,
Hope that you sing along
And it goes, “Merry Christmas,
Kiss my *ss”
And that’s all I have for now. I have a bunch more but I don’t wanna make this post go on too long. Thanks for the songs and good luck to everyone going through a hard time/break up.
Lady Gaga’s & Beyonce’s “Telephone” is just great 😉
Wow, i love all of these songs!! but i havent broken up with anyone yet but the man i think i love is ignoring me saying he’s busy when he is not. so i have been listening to Over it by Katharine Mcphee, Swimming home By evanescence, and Call me when your sober by Evanescence
Defeated by Anastacia…
Fighter by Christina Agulira
Be Ok by Ingrid Michaelson
Erase Me by Kid Cudi
Do you Know by Enrique Iglesias
You Won’t Find This by Carrie Underwood
I recently went through a tough break-up myself…..I ended up writing and recording a song entitled “Missin’ You” … I’m actually giving the song and entire album away for free via my facebook page. http://www.facebook.com/pages/Keenan-Casanova/197925490250374. It’s mixture of hip-hop/R&B/Pop …thought I would share incase anyone is going through a similair situation….thats why I make music in the first place….to connect with people 🙂
Anouk – Lost
If roses are meant to be red
And violets to be blue
Then why isn’t my heart meant for you
My hands longing to touch you
But I can barely breathe
Starry eyes that make me melt
Right in front of me
SLEEP TO DREAM by FIONA APPLE
“Don’t plead me your case, don’t bother to explain
Don’t even show me your face ’cause it’s a lying shame
Just crawl back to the rock from under which you came
Take the sorrow you gave and all the stakes you claimed
And don’t forget the blame.”
best ever song sunshine anderson! heard it all before! xxx
“smelling like some fragrance that i dont even wear, so if you want some loving i suggest you go back there, where you came from.
day to day with you its always something else, working my nerve, god knows that i dont deserve what you put me through because ive been so true to you, for you to come at me with another lame excuse!”
epic x
HI,
love the list…pretty much any new young country singer (esspesially female) will have at least one or two…empowering (i hate you) songs …im going through all this now, its been 2 months but my grieving is slow and im starting to get that little bit more angry now..oh and Avril Lavigne….Kelly Clarkson and even some Britney…..sheryl crow also has some good stuff. pussy cat dolls…dont cha…my particular ex is already seeing some one and has been for a little longer then he should be but dont cha is like my theme song to him…..no particular songs from the other artist they all have lots to choose from…..
Cheers
Lisa
I absolutely have to add a song, you know when you are tired of crying and you just hate him for what he’s done?
1) Puke – Eminem
“You don’t know how sick you make me, You make me fuckin’ sick to my stomach, Every time I think of you, I puke”
2) Songs to Say Goodbye – Placebo
“You are one of God’s mistakes, You crying, tragic waste of skin, I’m well aware of how it aches, And you still won’t let me in.”
If you feel sad and just want to work through the issues in your mind:
3) Why – Avril Lavigne
5) Sway – The Kooks
6) I Gave You all – Mumford & Sons
8) Breathe – Taylor Swift
“I see your face in my mind as I drive away, cuz none of us thought it was gonna end that way. People are people and sometimes we change our minds, nothing we say is going to save us from the fallout. And we know it’s never simple, never easy, never a clean break, no one’s here to save me, your the only think I know like the back of my hand.. And I can’t breathe, without you, but I have to..”
9) Cold as You- Taylor Swift
“Oh what a shame what a rainy ending given to a perfect day, so just walk away ain’t no used defending words that you’ll never say. And now that i’m sitting here thinking it through, i’ve never been anywhere cold as you”
10) The Bitter End – Placebo
11) Catch Me When I Fall – Ashlee Simpson
12) Little Miss Obsessive – Ashlee Simpson
“Am I the reason why you tossed and turned last night, everything is such a blur it didn’t come out right, all of the sudden it’s cold and we’re falling apart, no this can’t be please don’t leave me alone ine the dark. Well I guess we’re really over, so come over, i’m not over it, late night you make me feel like i’m desperate, I’m not desperate, no, a little bit possessive, little miss obsessive, can’t get over it”
13) Legendary – Lou Barlow
“I know you’ve given all that you could give to me, I know there’ll come a day I understand, Until then i’ll be trying to solve your mystery, And wonder why I couldn’t make you stay. Smiling through denial – my specialty, I thought that was a good thing for a while. You gave me all your secrets were you testing me? How could I do anything but smile?Re-enact your legendary tragedy, And do to me what has been done to you, Is that the only point to all this misery?
Is there any reason I should cry? Heal – takes time, And you gave me all you had, I know in time, I will believe, That I loved you, That you loved me? Did you love me?
14) Love Is a Losing Game – Amy Winehouse
15) The Good Left Undone – Rise Against
well… just to name a few that I thought of in my iTunes:
3685 by The Spill Canvas
Shine On by Ryan Cabrera
King of Anything by Sara Bareilles
Gives You Hell by the All-American Rejects
Thnks Fr Th Mmrs by Fall Out Boy
I Look So Good Without You by Jessie James
I’ll Cry Tomorrow by Cauterize
Gotta Tell You by Samantha Mumba
and don’t forget these ones just for getting out some anger 🙂
–seventy times seven by brand new
–jude law and a semester abroad by brand new
I’ll try to think of some more if I can!
haha ok forgot some country stuff:
picture to burn by taylor swift
love don’t live here anymore by lady antebellum
Good I still can’t do this I love her sooooo much but shes leaving me and I’m trying to get her to stay. We’ve been dating 9 months. I’m 18 shed 16. Shed going to be 17 this Jan. Someone talk to me what can I do to keep her mine forever?!
not over you- gavin degraw.
yeah i know these are break up songs, but this is a really nice song. brings back so many thoughts to your head..
Hedonism by Skunk Anansie….
I love it and it ALWAYS helps me out.
Try to be outside, in the nature and scream the hell out of your lungs 😉
I think a great song for a breakup that nobody mentions, because they forget about it, is “Gone” by *NSYNC. The song explains so much and it’s good for someone in pain.
Good pics but the majority of them seem geared towards females who were dumped. How about a top ten list for good guys that just had their hearts ripped out?
Get that pic out of your head…no matter if male or female, the pain is the same…
Stacie O’rico – Im not missing you
Lil Wayne – Comfortable
Boys II men – Im doing just fine
you should add picture to burn by taylor swift
1. Breakeven The Script
2. You’ll remember me
The song ‘Here I go again – Whitesnake’ got me through the first days after my break up.
A couple great ones that I’ve found empowering are A little bit stronger by Sara Evans ( Country) and So over you by Ashanti
Empowers you to find that ‘one’…
Christina Perri – A Thousand Years
Heartbeats fast
Colors and promises
How to be brave, how can I love when I’m afraid to fall
But watching you stand alone
All of my doubt suddenly goes away somehow
One step closer
I have died everyday waiting for you
Darling don’t be afraid I have loved you
For a thousand years
I’ll love you for a thousand more
Time stands still, beauty in all she is
I will be brave, I will not let anything take away
What’s standing in front of me
Every breath, every hour has come to this
One step closer
I have died everyday waiting for you
Darling don’t be afraid I have loved you
For a thousand years
I’ll love you for a thousand more
And all along I believed I would find you
Time has brought your heart to me
I have loved you for a thousand years
I’ll love you for a thousand more
One step closer
One step closer
I have died everyday waiting for you
Darling don’t be afraid I have loved you
For a thousand years
I’ll love you for a thousand more
And all along I believed I would find you
Time has brought your heart to me
I have loved you for a thousand years
I’ll love you for a thousand more
Add this to your collection..
I pray for you jaron and the long road to love
and crazy ex girlfriend Miranda Lambert
A good one is I look so good without you by Kelly clarkson. It’s truly amazing after a bad breakup! 🙂
Here ARE a list…. Not here’s a list. Grammar people.
That “You Lie” song is pathetic. The lyric “I ought to kill you right now / And do the whole wide world a service” — yea, thats nice. Lets kill people we dont like.
That other one, “Before He Cheats” — yea, lets promote vandalism and destruction of property.
Nice people. Wonderful new generation in this world.
Jeezus- no wonder he left you and you are reading this blog. WTF are you doing trying to correct other people’s grammar when you are WRONG?! It’s A list, singular, so the verb is “is” not “are.” Here ARE some songs- both plural- would also be correct.
Slow Moving Millie – Please, Please, Please Let Me Get What I want
Good times for a change
See, the luck I’ve had
Can make a good man turn bad
So please, please, please
Let me, let me, let me
Let me, get what I want this time
Let me, get what I want this time
Haven’t had a dream in a long time
See, the life I’ve had
Can make a good man turn bad
So for once in my life
Let me get what I want
Lord knows, it would be the first time
Lord knows, it would be the first time
So please, please, please
Let me, let me, let me
Let me, get what I want this time
So for once in my life
Let me get what I want
Lord knows, it would be the first time
Lord knows, it would be the first time
Lord knows, it would be the first time
Fuck you by cee Lo green!
The song ‘Undo It’ by Carrie Underwood is really empowering, I think.
“I wish my life could be the way it was before I saw your face,
You stole my happy,
You made me cry!
You took the lonely,
and took me for a ride,
and I wanna uh-uh-uh-uh-uh-undo it!
You took my heart, now I want it back.
I’m starting to see everything you lack!
Boy, you blew it!
You put me through it!
I wanna uh-uh-uh-uh-uh-UNDO IT!”
Epiphany – Chrisette Mechelle
Best line: So I think I’m just about over being your girlfriend
I’m leaving
It’s over
Blame It On Me – Chrisette Mechelle
Best Line. You can say that its my fault
say that I left you outside in the rain with a broken heart
I don’t care what you say
As long as you say goodbye
(I didn’t read all of the comments so I’m not sure if these two songs were suggested, but I’m making a girl power breakup CD for a friend and found the blog really helpful!)
– Gunpowder & Lead: Miranda Lambert
…Best Lyrics: “I’m goin’ home, gonna load my shotgun. Wait by the door and light a cigarette. He wants a fight well now he’s got one. He ain’t seen me crazy yet.”…”I’m gonna show him what little girls are made of: gunpowder and lead.”
-Hell on Heels: Pistol Annies (this isn’t really a post-breakup song but it oozes girl power!)
…Best Lyrics: “He made me pretty, he made me smart. And I’m gonna break me a million hearts. I’m hell on heels, baby and I’m coming for you.” “Poor ol’ Billy, bless his heart, I’m still using his credit card.”
My ex broke up with me because he was stessing himself out…and used any stupid little excuse to attack me with after alosmot 4 years into the relationship and then few weeks later his hanging out with some other chick 🙂
isnt that funny, fucking dick:)
What has it got to do with you and him stressing himself out! What was he stressing himself out about?!
If he had loved you and cared about you enough he would have made it work! But trust me boys get bored easily because they want to be able to get with sluty girls he give them what they want when they want. BUT when it come down to them having a serious relationship they want their girl to be nice and innocent and not have gotten with very many people.
YES BOYS ARE FUCKING DICKS! But they never grow up, so you need to get used to it.
Sorry xxx
My ex kissed somone else at a party after being with eachother for 8 months…it was my first ever relationship, we are both 17…
Straight after he had a thing with this slag, but he keeps texting me even though i’m trying to move on! And on new years he kissed another girl! Its shit because i lost my virginity to him and after a month it all went wrong and he got bored and kissed another girl….makes me feel used and make me feel shit!
Any good advise about getting over him????? My new years promise was not to text back to any of his texts or talk to him!!!!!
The songs I love to listen to right now are:
Avril Lavigne:
not enough
Remember When
Smile
Stop standing there
Black Star
Darlin
Everybody Hurts
Goodbye Lullaby
I love you
Leona Lewis:
Happy
I got you
Run
Stop crying your heart out
Birdy:
Skinny Love
People help the people
LOVE THIS SONG SO MUCH> Charlene Soraia – Wherever you will go
Christina Perri:
Jar of hearts
Greyson Chance- Waiting outside the lines
The Climb- Miley Cyrus
I LOVE these songs…they have really helped me through the hard times….i’ve cryed my eyes out to them and fallen asleep to them 🙂
Hope they can do the same for you!!!!! Much love to the broken hearts out there!!
Girls dont worry it will get better…and remember your friends will always be there for you no matter what. It helps to talk about it. DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT FORGET ABOUT THE GOOD TIMES! Remember you were happy when you had good times so dont just erase them out of your lifes. Yes take don the pictures if you want…but do what i did i put them ALL in my special box. There are memories…HE is a memorie..you cant just forget about everything to with him cause you broke up.
Please remember it will slowly get better…its only been a 2 months since my ex kissed the first girl, and its been a week sice i ended it for good. It hurts really bad still…but i cant actually belive how i’m actually feeling a lot better cause my friends are so supportaive and are the SONG help so much!
Lots of help to helf your hearts mend…i know mine is slowly mending because my friends love me so much and even other boy friends cause be really supporative!
Keep Strong!!!!!
Mumford & Sons – the Cave (and most of the album Sigh No More)
this i think is impowering some of the others talk about moving on not impowering #beyonce best thing i never had
For an angry song, I like Kiss Me Fool by Fefe Dobson. It’s not exactly about a break-up; it’s more about that asshole who strings you along, makes you feel like shit about yourself, dates you out of boredom and THEN breaks up with you without batting an eye… Yah I’m not bitter at all. Haha :P.
Other faves:
Low Rising- The Swell Season
It doesn’t matter anymore- Don Maclean (but I really like the Serena Ryder cover)
Leave- Glen Hansard
Lies- Glen Hansard & Marketa Irglova
When Your Mind’s Made Up- Glen Hansard & Marketa Irglova
Say it to me now- Glen Hansard
Miles and Years- Del Barber
Finally, Clarity by John Mayer. This song really, really put me at peace after a bad break-up.
And I will wait to find
If this will last forever
And I will wait to find
If this will last forever
And I will pay no mind
When it won’t and it won’t because it can’t
It just can’t
It’s not supposed to…
…And I will pay no mind
Worried ’bout no rainy weather
And I will waste no time
Remaining in our lives together
Also, “I Could Say” by Lily Allen.
I love the blog. I searched this just now a year and a half after being out of a relationship but it really still hurts a lot. I know we still like eachother but we aren’t together and had our problems. Anyway, I would like to add two songs from irish artists.
The first is the long goodbye by paul brady. It can make you feel sad but makes you think what’s the point dragging it out.
‘Come on, baby, it’s over, let’s face it
All that’s happening here is a long goodbye’
The 2nd song is ‘someone elses hands’ by the coronas. It actually hurts a lot but reminds you that do you actually want to be with someone when they don’t wnat to be with you??
In addition I would just like to say, someone asked me recently do I believe in ‘the one’.. They don’t. It made me think. There most certainly is more than one person we can all be happy with.. mostly timing decides. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that if you feel you lost the ‘one’ I don’t think that’s true.
To finish I would like to share a nice quote I read..
‘One day, you’ll meet someone who will make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else’
Keep the faith guys 🙂
I’ve made myself a playlist now thy my boyfriend broke up with me. Some or my favorites of these kinds of songs are a little not stronger by Sara Evans (I have the leighton meester version), best days of your life by kellie pickled, and lost the best thing by charice.
For those just starting to come back into the sun post breakup, Sara Evans “A Little Bit Stronger” is great. The chorus is….
I’m done thinking we could work it out, I’m done with how it feels spinning my wheels lettin you drag my heart around and oh oh and I’m done thinking you could ever change I know my heart will never be the same but I’m telling myself I’ll be ok even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger!
I’d like to add a few more obscure ones:
1) Lover’s Cross by Jim Croce:
Guess that it was bound to happen
Was just a matter of time
But now I’ve come to my decision
And it’s one of the painful kind
‘Cause now it seems that you wanted a martyr
Just a regular guy wouldn’t do
But baby I can’t hang upon no lover’s cross for you
I really got to hand it to ya
‘Cause girl you really tried
But for every time that we spent laughin’
There were two times that I cried
And you were tryin’ to make me your martyr
And that’s the one thing I just couldn’t do
‘Cause baby, I can’t hang upon no lover’s cross for you
‘Cause tables are meant for turnin’
And people are bound to change
And bridges are meant for burnin’
When the people and memories they join aren’t the same
Still I hope that you can find
Another who can take what I could not
He’ll have to be a super guy
Or maybe a super god
‘Cause I never was much of a martyr before
And I ain’t bout to start nothin’ new
And baby, I can’t hang upon no lover’s cross for you
Others:
2) Time for me to Fly (CLASSIC!!!!!!!!!!)
3) It’s Too Late by Carole King
4) Heart of Gold- Neil Young
Another I forgot:
Photographs and Memories- Jim Croce
Photographs and memories
Christmas cards you sent to me
All that I have are these
To remember you
Memories that come at night
Take me to another time
Back to a happier day
When I called you mine
But we sure had a good time
When we started way back when
Morning walks and bedroom talks
Oh, how I loved you then
Summer skies and lullabies
Nights we couldn’t say goodbye
And of all of the things that we knew
Not a dream survived
Photographs and memories
All the love you gave to me
Somehow it just can’t be true
That’s all I’ve left of you
But we sure had a good time
When we started way back when
Morning walks and bedroom talks
Oh, how I loved you then
Annnnnnnnd
Fiona Apple “Parting Gift”
My girlfriend broke up with me cause I have guy friends !!
I’m listening to this one ALOT
By: Eamon
Title: Fuck it (I don’t want you back)
Best Lyrics:
See, I don’t know why I liked you so much
I gave you all of my trust
I told you, I loved you, now that’s all down the drain
You put me through pain, I wanna let you know how I feel
Fuck what I said, it don’t mean shit now
Fuck the presents, might as well throw ’em out
Fuck all those kisses, they didn’t mean Jack
Fuck you you ho, I don’t want you back
Bee Gees – How Can You Mend A Broken Heart
I can think of younger days when living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do.
I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow.
And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend a this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.
I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
And misty memories of days gone by
We could never see tomorrow, noone said a word about the sorrow.
And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again
i just broke up with my boyfriend Isaac and i cried on and off at everything that reminded me of him meaning anything id ever seen that had associated with him the next morning i walk into my kitchen with my tear-filled eyes and bawled for so long because i knew id never seen him standing there making the coffee ever again but after some Leona Lewis, Adele, and Beyonce reached my heart i really recovered its been 3 weeks since the break up and IM A SURVIVOR I AINT GON GIVE UP IM A SURVIVOR KEEP ON SURVIVING!
Tatiana,
LOVE THIS COMMENT! So proud of you. Keep it up – you are gonna be just fine!
z-ro “i hate you bitch”. its the best song and it is so tru. I sing it all the time to my ex.
so many years i done paid the price-
y u wana bring all this drama 2 my life?
i hate you bitch….
i neva thought i’d say…
i hate you bitch….
jh
Here is the best break up mix that’s helped me. I play it every day.
Best Thing I Never Had Beyonce 4 (Deluxe Edition) R&B
The War Is Over Kelly Clarkson Stronger Pop
Let Me Down Kelly Clarkson Stronger Pop
Breakaway Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
Stronger Kelly Clarkson Stronger Pop
Don’t Waste Your Time Kelly Clarkson My December Pop
Walk Away Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
Mr. Know It All Kelly Clarkson Stronger Pop
Just Like A Pill Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition]
So What Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition] Pop/Rock
Raise Your Glass Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition] Pop/Rock
U + Ur Hand Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition] Pop/Rock
Fuckin’ Perfect Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition] Pop/Rock
Gone Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
Since U Been Gone Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
Addicted Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
Beautiful Disaster (Live) Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
Over You Daughtry
I love your song list! I’m always looking for new songs to add to cd’s for my friends after a break up. My all time favorite is “Never Again” by Kelly Clarkson. I also like “A Little Bit Stronger” by Sara Evans.
I love this blog. My ex left me 2 weeks ago…. Its been so hard. I just cry all the time and my friends say I deserve better and he missing out. Then they push all these guys at me and Its still to soon. We all have different situations and circumstances but we all feel hurt and I know atleast for me it feels like it will never end… But it ALWAYS gets better.
Not cut out- Katy McAllister
Let me be myself- 3 doors down
Was I the only one- Jordin Sparks
I cant make yu love me- Tank
Take it all- Adele
Im moving on- Rascal Flatts
Let it Rain- David Nail
What do you want- Jerrod Niemann
I got nothin- Darius Rucker
oh well oh well- Mayday Parade
Disaster- Jojo
Not over you- Gavin Degraw
Hopefully some of these songs can help someone!
Good Luck 🙂
Just came out of a 2 and half year relationship with my (then) current boyfriend and it’s hard. We split 2 days before my 17th birthday after i found a chat between him and an american girl where they were discussing their love for each other and i decided i couldn’t trust him anymore and i didn’t want to be part of his life. Since then i’ve been in floods of tears on and off, even on my actual birthday and I’ve sworn to hate him. Afterall, he made me feel like absolute crap on my day. It’ll be a week on Wednesday the 15th and instead of sitting there in sobs, I’m going to gut out my room of all his stuff and everything he ever gave to me and hide them away. I’ll keep the presents but give back his stuff.
For the past few days, I’ve been listening to Liquid Confidence by You Me At Six
‘You’ve got nothing to lose, except for me and you.
And I love that attitude, when you know I can do.
I’ll do better than you.’
Just the chorus has given me so much power. I seriously do love that song right now and I’ve also been listening to Somebody I used to know by Gotye
‘now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over.
Had me believing it was always something that I’d done.
but i don’t wanna live that way, feeding in to every word you say,
You said you could let it go and i wouldn’t catch you hung up and somebody you used to know’
I hope everyone finds the one that can fix their hearts for good but until then, protect your hearts, but don’t over protect them. There’s always someone better than the last.
❤
Christina Perri “Jar of Hearts” and The Wreckers “Leave the Pieces”
Hi, I still love my ex and she has been with a real loser for a year. She is saying she wants to leave but she’s the type that finds it hard to be alone for a minute. I’ve just dug up a great, upbeat song, Roll to Me by Del Amitri, about my feelings but am looking for anything else upbeat, empowering and speaking of a guy (I’d like to believe a good guy) replacing a bad one.
Natasha Bedingfield – Soulmate
Incompatible, it don’t matter though
Because someone’s bound to hear my cry
Speak out if you do
You’re not easy to find
Is it possible, Mr. Loveable
Is already in my life?
Right in front of me
Or maybe you’re in disguise
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I’m on my own
If there’s a soulmate for everyone
Here we are again, circles never end
How do I find the perfect fit
There’s enough for everyone
But I’m still waiting in line
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I’m on my own
If there’s a soulmate for everyone
If there’s a soulmate for everyone
Most relationships seem so transitory
They’re all good but not the permanent one
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I’m on my own
If there’s a soulmate for everyone
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I’m on my own
If there’s a soulmate for everyone
You have left out some very powerful break-up songs:
Melanie C. – Goin’ Down
Alanis Morissette – You Oughta Know
🙂
Great list!!
one of my favorites is Sorry by Art of Dying! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyvyJ6SGhp4)
I really enjoyed reading through this… I would definitely say that Kelly Clarkson is the best person to listen to, not just for empowerment after break-ups, but for life in general.
I did just get out of a horrible relationship where the other person ended up being so dishonest and hurtful. These KC songs helped me the most because I connected with all of them on a deeply personal level word for word.
Mr. Know It All
What Doesn’t Kill You
The War is Over
Alone
Let Me Down
The Sun Will Rise
Einstein
Never Again
Whyyawannabringmedown
Since U Been Gone
Walk Away
Miss Independent
My boyfriend txt me saying he was taking his ex girlfriend on a date. We had been on and off for almost a yr but listening to Beyonce’s Irreplaceable will surely get me feeling better hopefully.
Jess,
That’s awful, I’m sorry. That song helped me a lot too. I’m hoping things get better for you soon.
Love interruption from Jack White.
“I won’t let love disrupt, corrupt or interrupt me”.
#1 should be CAKE – I will survive, which although it never happens, it is *Better* then the original.
A really good breakup song to listen to if you’re angry is “if looks could kill” by Heart.
Also Jerk by Kim Stockwood
Here’s a few I didnt see mentioned so far…
no doubt- sunday
no doubt- ex girlfriend
destiny’s child- hey ladies
blue cantrell- hit em up style
no doubt- happy now
ashton shepard- look it up
taylor swift- mean
dixie chicks- goodbye earl
kelly clarkson- what does kill you makes you stronger
destinys child- indepedent women
justin timberlake- cry me a river
taylor swift- you’re not sorry
eminem & lil wayne- no love
eminem- superman ( have no idea how this helps but it did for me!!)
I think eventually any song making me feel like I didnt need anyone to make me happy helped. Stick to positive stuff, ladies (& guys 🙂 ) music, movies, ppl etc…Tell anyone or anything thats hindering your healing process to GET LOST! 😀
Evanescence Going Under I love this song!
Grinspoon better off alone is missing
Making April – Don’t Go
It seems the moments went so fast
I couldn’t bask in one for long before it passed
And now they slip right by
And my thoughts, they’re craving you and I
No they don’t have us no, not anymore
You journey back to our hometown
We spend an evening graced with all our sights and sounds
But the morning breaks our high
When you say, it was only one more night
Don’t go cause I made it through goodbye
Now I’ll make it better
I know we needed a little time to our lives
And I believed that you would never make it back
I take it back baby but now that you’re here
Don’t go
The broken sidewalk looked like states
I stood on Tennessee and begged for you to stay
But you kept your eyes down low
And you took the Colorado’s home
Don’t go cause I made it through goodbye
Now I’ll make it better
I know we needed a little time to our lives
And I believed that you would never make it back
I take it back baby but now that you’re here
Don’t leave me stranded on the street
We used to meet that split between our houses
I don’t wanna go back alone, no
Don’t go cause we made it through the night
Now we’ll make it better
I know we needed a little time to our lives
And I believed that you would never make it back
I take it back baby now that you’re here
Don’t go
Red high heels is one of my favorites, by kelloe pickled
I meant kellie pickler, gotta love auto correct.. Amberly
Cry Me a River– Justin Timberlake, White Horse — Taylor Swift, Last Call — Lee Ann Womack
My boyfriend of 8 years recently came clean about being unfaithful to me. After 5 years of long distance dating, me moving over the other side of the world to be with him, spending almost a year going through the immigration process, leaving my friends and family he tells me he cheated after we went and applied for a marriage licence.
What do you do with that sort of news? I get that everyone makes mistakes and I was willing to try and work things out. But he let me get on a plane and leave the country, knowing what he had done. Little did I know most of his friends knew that he had cheated and no one said a word to me. Instead I was thinking I was paranoid that the girl who was constantly text messaging him and calling him was some stalker who wouldn’t take no for an answer. Instead this was the girl he only had a “one night stand” with 6 months prior.
This is all still new, only have we been separated for 6 weeks. I don’t hate him, in fact I feel sorry for him. Because he has lost the best thing that will ever happen to him. I’m just thankful that I never got married to him and can live my life.
How do other people get over their partners infidelity? What hurts more the fact they done it, or the lies that come with it?
Anyways, here are my top 3 break-up songs….
Christina Perri- Jar Of Hearts
I hear you’re asking all around
If I am anywhere to be found
I have grown too strong
To ever fall back in your arms
Beyonce- Best Thing I Never Had
I wanted you bad,
I’m so through with it,
‘Cause honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had,
I say, you turned out to be the best thing I never had,
Hmm and I’ll never be the best thing you never had,
Oh baby I bet it sucks to be you right now!
I know you want me back,
It’s time to face the facts
That I’m the one that’s got away,
Lord knows that it would take another place, another time, another world, another life,
Thank God I found the good in goodbye!
Alanis Morissette- You Oughta Know
And every time I scratch my nails down someone else’s back
I hope you feel it…well can you feel it…
Loulou,
Gosh I’m so sad hearing your story. What an absolute jerk. You said, “I’m just thankful that I never got married to him and can live my life.” That is so true. Keep thinking that way. You deserve so much better and I know you’ll find it.
good songs but get the artists names right You’ll think of me is by rascal flatts not keith urben and gloria gaynor is gloria garinor
Train – Drive By
On the other side of a street I knew
Stood a girl that looked like you
I guess thats deja vu ut
I thought this can’t be true
Cause you moved to west L.A or New York or Santa Fe
Or where or ever to get away from me
Oh but that one night
Was more than just right
I didn’t leave you cause I was all through
Oh I was overwhelmed and frankly scared as hell
Because I really fell for you
Oh I swear to you
I’ll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
Hefty bag to hold my love
When you move me everything is groovy
They don’t like it sue me mmm the way you do me
Oh I swear to you
I’ll be there for you
This is not a drive by
On the upside of a downward spiral
My love for you went viral
And I loved you every mile you drove away
But now here you are again
So let’s skip the “how you been”And
get down to the “more than friends” at last
Oh but that one night
Is still the highlight
I didn’t need you until I came to
and I was overwhelmed and frankly scared as hell
Because I really fell for you
Oh I swear to you
I’ll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
Hefty bag to hold my love
When you move me everything is groovy
They don’t like it sue me mmm the way you do me
Oh I swear to you
I’ll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Please believe that when I leave
There’s nothing up my sleeve but love for you
And a little time to get my head together too
On the other side of a street I knew
Stood a girl that looked like you
I guess thats deja vu
But I thought this can’t be true
Cause
Oh I swear to you
I’ll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
Hefty bag to hold my love
When you move me everything is groovy
They don’t like it sue me
mmm the way you do me
Oh I swear to you
I’ll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Good songs yes…. I’m sorry to say this though… I think I need to break up for a reason more complicated than can be found on a song…. how about a song thats about moving on because well there’re too many differences, and then some… about giving up the goods not regretting any of it but admitting wrongs and about forgive me but i can’t deal with loving you right now???
I’m Sorry to hear this story and I feel a bit guilty because maybe i’m that type of guy…. I’m just in a realationship, I got into it a week before I left home, a year and 6 months later, this person on the other end loves me more than I think I do, spending a lot of money and time…. i just dont want to lead em on any longer before something like THIS happens… thats a bit extreme. I’m only 25 and I guess I effed up yes I admit it… but I just want to let it go… I think…. Say Goodbye by Chris Brown is the one that should take the cake in this situation… maybe…
” there’s never a right time to say goodbye but i gotta make the first move cuz if i dont you’re gonna start hating me….”
I’m sorry but i gotta go…
Incubus – Love Hurts
Love hurts…
But sometimes it’s a good hurt
And it feels like I’m alive.
Love sings,
When it transcends the bad things.
Have a heart and try me,
’cause without love I won’t survive.
I dont know if this one has been mentioned yet but hate me by blue october was my theme song for a long time. My ex husband developed a horrible drug problem and he pretty much destroyed our lives. I tried to help him thru it but no amount of love was goin to fix his issuses. After i finally kicked him out he went to rehab and has been clean 4 years but i would never ever think about bein back with him.
omg I have just kicked my bloke out for the same reason, he will never change though and I would be like you, I would never give him anouther chaance evenif he did get clean cos I know how quick they can go back to it, 14 years I tried to make it work for, all along I was kidding myself, its a shame how it destroys lives
Another suggestion:
Go Away by Gloria Estefan
I like it because it has a carnival sound
A taste:
And when you go I won’t miss you at all,
And when you go I’ll be having a ball
Everyday!
Thoughts of you won’t even cross my mind
It’s the truth, don’t mean to be unkind
The people have a right to party
And you won’t let them have their fun
dont forget the streets -dry your eyes mate
Im Stuck On “I Miss You” Blink 182.
alicia keys and john mayer – “lesson learned”
He broke my heart
And now it’s raining
Just to rub it in
I’m at your door
I feel so crazy about it
You’ll say I told you so
You saw it long ago
You knew he had to go
I finally came ’round
I’m back on solid ground
Can’t let it get me down
Yes I was burned but I called it a lesson learned
Mistake overturned
So I call it a lesson learned
My soul has returned
So I call it a lesson learned
Another lesson learned
Sometimes
Some lies
Can take a minute
To fully realize
His tears
Your eyes
Thirty seconds to apologize
You give it one more chance
Just like the time before
But he already know you’d give a hundred more
Until that night in bed
You wake up in a sweat
You’re racing to the door
Can’t take it anymore
I was burned but I called it a lesson learned
Mistake overturned
So I call it a lesson learned
My soul has returned
So I call it a lesson learned
Another lesson learned
Life perfect
Ain’t perfect
If you don’t know what the struggle’s for
Falling down ain’t falling down
If you don’t cry when you hit the floor
It’s called the past cause I’m getting past
And I ain’t nothing like I was before
You ought to see me now
You should include “You suck at love” by Simple Plan. Made me feel a million times better about the divorce I’m going through!
Love these songs. A few good songs i found are Breakeven – Maddie Jane (she doesnt original sing it but sings it from a chicks side) Hanging on by a moment – Life house, Before he cheats – Carrie Underwood, Undo it – Carrie Underwood, Good in Goodbye – Carrie Underwood (most her stuff pretty good actually) Best song for coming back is “A little bit stronger – Sara Evans” I miss you – Incubus, Somebody that I use to know- Gotye, Life goes on- Leann Rimes, Right kind of wrong- Leann Rimes, All for you- Cold Chisel, Foolish Games-Jewel, Linger-The Cranberries, Last thing on my mind-Steps, King of wishful thinking, Black eyes, Blue Tears-Shania Twain, Never gonna give up on you-Rick Astley, Wish you were here-Avril Lavinge, I miss my friend- Mario, When it’s over- Surgar Ray, All the things she said- tAtU, 20 good reason-thirst merc. I clearly have had too much heart break.
Yeah, I can totally relate this song stuff – my ex recorded me 2 CDs with about 30 songs I still cry whenever I catch any whistle of on the radio. Ironically, one of them was Whitney Houston´s version of “I will always love you”.
On my lonesome way to resilience, a song that helped me a great deal was James Morrrison “Please don´t stop the rain”, specially the words “You just can´t stand it, when things don´t go your way, but you´ve got no control over what happens, anyway”. Some things are not meant to be…
Keep the hope alive there, and a warm hug from Brazil!
Wow, that’s a really amazing line. I’m so excited to see someone from Brazil here! Thanks for sharing!
Hope – Who Am I To Say
Love of my life, my soulmate
You’re my best friend
Part of me like breathing
Now half of me is left
I don’t know anything at all
Who am I to say you love me
I don’t know anything at all
And who am I to say you need me
Color me blue I’m lost in you
Don’t know why I’m still waiting
Many moons have come & gone
Don’t know why I’m still searching
Don’t know anything at all
And who am I to say you love me
I don’t know anything at all
And who am I to say you need me
Now you’re a song I love to sing
Never thought it feels so free
Now I know what’s meant to be
And that’s okay with me
But who am I to say you love me
And who am I to say you need me
And who am I to say you love me
I don’t know anything at all
And who am I to say you love me
I don’t know anything at all
And who am I to say you need me
I don’t know anything at all
I love all the songs!
For me this is kinda hard, cause the guy I’m in love with was never in a relationship with me. We don’t even know each other. He lives in America and I live in México. Dx And dammit I FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM! We talk almost everyday, but the dude has a friggin girlfriend. And the fact that I can’t even fight for him just brings me down. I hate her, I hate him, I like him, I don’t even know anymore. He knows about this, but what can he do? Break up with her? Of course not!! When we talked he didn’t even say: If you were here I’d be dating you. He just acceppted my feelings and told me I could do better. ..dah fuck?
And what about me? I’m down here, alone, I cried a lot, then I stopped and now I’m starting to cry again. I’m real, my feelings are killing me, when he talks about her I get so angry.
And yet, he is really a nice guy. He is so like me. GEEZ. You see? I’m pathetic. D’:
I don’t know what to do anymore. Help?
Btw, sorry for crappy english. T_T
BTW2: I love your blog, you are so charismatic and funny! 😀 I’m totally following you! B)
Those are all great which you have mentioned, girls! Must admit that I’ve read all the comments :))
These are the songs I have found recently.
Fun. – One Foot
Daniel Cirera – Motherf*cker Fake Vegetarian Ex Girlfriend
Jaron and the Long Road to Love – Pray for You
Amy Winehouse – Tears Dry On Their Own
When you’ve chucked out all their stuff and cried for the very last time, I prescribe you THIS song to propel your booty back into the real world – with a bang, with class and with utter funky coolness.
Back in the game, diva!
‘Weekend’ by Class Action:
I can’t take the heartbreak
Of you leaving me again
And I’m not the woman I was back then, oh no no no
One thing I can’t take is to sit here all alone
Do you what you my dear, but I’m not staying home!
”Cause night and day, I was patient
But I’ve had all I can take..!
Tonight’s the night, the time is right
Maybe I’ll find a friend, to spend the weekend
Going out, take my chances now
Going to find a friend, to spend the weekend, tonight
It’s party time, it’s party time tonight
Tonight it’s party time, it’s party time tonight!!
alan jackson so you don’t have to love me
She’s so high by EverClear is a definite must for this list, It made me feel like I am wonder woman and he just is not good enough for wonder woman. Haha very similar to that feeling you get when you put on a brand new bra 🙂
What about Somebody that I used to know by Gotye. It’s great and it’s another dude!
I have spent the last two days poring over this post and subsequent comment thread for new songs. I am four days into a break up (in which I did the breaking [which now that I think about is very interesting because I also initiated the end of my marriage as well]) and while I’ve allowed myself to wallow a bit, I’m feeling far more empowered than usual. In addition, my music tastes are varied, and I agree that Kelly Clarkson and Adele are the mantras for breakup music. However, here are some other additions.
Part of Me by Katy Perry (I’m quite surprised no one has mentioned her)
Now look at me, I’m sparkling
A firework, a dancing flame
You won’t ever put me out again
I’m glowing, oh woah oh
So you can keep the diamond ring
I never liked them anyway
In fact you can keep everything
Yeah, yeah
Except for me
This is the part of me that you’re never gonna ever take away from me, no
This is the part of me that you’re never gonna ever take away from me, no (away from me)
Throw your sticks and stones
Throw your bombs and your blows
But you’re not gonna break my soul
This is the part of me that you’re never gonna ever take away from me, no
The Kill by 30 Seconds to Mars
I tried to be someone else
But nothing seemed to change
I know now, this is who I really am inside.
Finally found myself
Fighting for a chance.
I know now, this is who I really am.
The Middle-Jimmy Eat World
Hey, don’t write yourself off yet
It’s only in your head you feel left out or looked down on
Just try your best, try everything you can
And don’t you worry what they tell themselves when you’re away
It just takes some time
Little girl you’re in the middle of the ride
Everything, everything will be just fine
Everything, everything will be alright, alright
Hey, you know they’re all the same
You know you’re doing better on your own, so don’t buy in
Live right now, yeah, just be yourself
It doesn’t matter if it’s good enough for someone else
Three Little Birds-Bob Marley
Singin’: “Don’t worry ’bout a thing,
‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right.”
Singin’: “Don’t worry (don’t worry) ’bout a thing,
‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right!”
I Hate Everything About You-Three Days Grace
Only when I stop to think about it
I hate everything about you
Why do I love you?
I hate everything about you
Why do I love you?
Thanks Epe! Sending positive thoughts your way!
Wowww this thread did really well considering it was made over a year ago! If you are still reading this, thanks Catherine for the amazing blog post and your wonderful readers with their suggestions. I hope everything has worked out well for you since 🙂
I came off a break up with a guy just over 3 weeks ago who I’d been together with for 18 months. I thought he was the right guy, we had so much in common and then suddenly we were getting into fights about everything all the time (mainly about his priorities – he was addicted to an online gaming chess website and wouldn’t talk at all during the hours he was on it). It has sucked.
Anyway some more to add to the list (if they haven’t been suggested):
– Somebody that I used to know (Gotye feat. Kimbra)
– Taylor Swift songs – basically had “Breathe”, “Forever and Always” and “Back to December” playing through my head.
– Goodbye My Lover – James Blunt
– Breakeven (Falling to PIeces) – The Script
– Not Over You – Galvin DeGraw – “If you ask me how I’m doing / I would say I’m doing just fine / I would lie to say that your not on my mind”
– Bridge of Light – Pink
Some of these songs might belong on the depressed list however… 🙂
Thank you Alana! I too love that people still find this post. I’m glad there are so many songs to help people get through a break up here. It’s kind of remarkable. Good luck to you and thanks for stopping by!
I’m still standing….Elton John
Goodbye to you..Patty Smythe
Wow…………… can’t believe y’all missed the best breakup song of all time… Amanda Marshall (Canada)………. BEAUTIFUL GOODBYE:
Ok ok….I gotta add 2 to this list. These 2 songs are just great and an awesome proverbial middle finger: Jaked on Green Beers-Alkaline Trio.
“it’s been a long time since I’ve been close to you, it’s a long time since I’ve been sad. It’s been a while since I’ve really spent time with you wish I could take back the times that I had. THe only thing that you ever really did for me was make me oh so miserable. And the hope that I never see your face again is anything but questionable. I hope this is goodbye.”
That song ROCKS.
Also, Leona Lewis “Best You Never Had”
It’s a great song about somone who WANTS back with you, but you’re over it. “I told you you’d live to regret it, and now I don’t wanna make you feel bad. When it comes to me just forget it, I’ll be the best you never had”
Leona Lewis “Take A Bow” is also great! It’s about a guy who really just lies “Take a bow, cuz you’ve taken everything else. You played the part and like a story you played it so well. Take a bow cuz this scene is coming to an end. I gave you love all you gave me was pretend. So now, take a bow.”
Titanium – David Guetta ft. Sia (Madilyn Bailey – cover)
You shout it out
But I can’t hear a word you say
I’m talking loud, not saying much
I’m criticized
But all your bullets ricochet
You shoot me down
But I get up
I’m bulletproof, nothing to lose
Fire away
Ricochet, you take your aim
Fire away
You shoot me down
But I won’t fall
I am titanium
Cut me down
But it’s you who have further to fall
Ghost town and haunted love
Raise your voice, sticks and stones may break my bones
I’m talking loud, not saying much
I am titanium
Stone-hard, machine gun
Firing at the ones who run
Stone-hard, those bulletproof glass
You shoot me down
But I won’t fall
I am titanium
There’s More To Me Than You by Jessica Andrews
Chorus:
Oo Ooo Oo There’s more to me than you
Oo Ooo Oo Don’t underestimate what I can do
Well I’m alright, It’s okay, I know I’ll make it through
Cause there’s more to me than you
There was always something
That meant more to you than me
And I’m just sorry It’s taken
This for you to see
This is a great list. I also love Shake it Out by Florence and the Machine, Happy Pills by Norah Jones and Pray for you by Jaron and the long road to love. I’m all about the angry/empowering songs right about now after the crap I was put through. Fighter was my epiphine song and the lyrics gave me chills when I listened to it from a new perspective.
The songs I would add are= Salute, Whitney Houston and walk away, gabrielle
The words are fantastic and make me feel great, let me know what you think
I see white flag and hunter from Dido. But i think “don’t think of me” one of the best empowering songs after a brake up especially when you’re dumped for somebody else.
So you’re with her, and not with me,
I hope she’s sweet, and so pretty
I hear she cooks delightfully,
A little angel beside you
So you’re with her, and not with me,
Oh how lucky one man can be
I hear your house is small and clean,
Oh how lovely with your homecoming queen
Oh how lovely it must be
When you see her sweet smile baby, don’t think of me
When she lays in your warm arms, don’t think of me
So you’re with her, and not with me,
I know she spreads sweet honey
In fact your best friend,
I heard he spent last night with her
Now how do you feel, how do you feel
When you see her sweet smile baby, don’t think of me
When she lays in your warm arms, don’t think of me
And it’s too late and it’s too bad, don’t think of me
Oh it’s too late and it’s too bad, don’t think of me
Does it bother you now all the mess I made
Does it bother you now the clothes you told me not to wear
Does it bother you now all the angry games we played
Does it bother you now when I’m not there
When you see her sweet smile baby, don’t think of me
When she lays in your warm arms, don’t think of me
And it’s too late and it’s too bad, don’t think of me
And it’s too late, and it’s too bad, don’t think of me.
This site is amazing! Really helped me 🙂 Nick Lachey – I can’t hate you anymore & Outside Looking In, are good empowering songs 😀 xx
Hope it gives you hell by All American Rejects
and another uplifting song “You Gotta Be” by Des’ree
hey
This blog is seriously helping me a lot, i’m going through the break of a three year relationship, i know i did the right thing for me .. but feeling ..like this sucks pretty bad too, just reading through the comments gave me hope that i’ll get over this one day… but till that day comes i’ll find comfort in all the beautiful songs listed above!
BETTER TODAY – NEYO
DEFINITLY MAKES YOU FEEL 100% better ❤
better today – neyo , definitly helps you look at the brighter side. and really makes you feel alot stronger! im feeling much better today ! ❤
Fleetwood Mac – You can go your own way
my boyfriend decided 2 weeks ago that he wanted a change so dumped me by text, and has since been chasing me to get me back, but i can’t forgive him for things he has done and said so its his loss now
My fiance recently called things off for no reason at all, and i listen to Sara Evans- A little bit stronger its so amazing!!
And im done hoping that we could work it out, im done with how it feels spinning my wheels letting you drag my heart around. And oh im done thinking that you could ever change
I know my heart will never be the same, But im telling myself I’ll be okay, Even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger
Doesnt happen overnight but you turn around and a months gone by and you realize you havent cried!!
Anyways you gotta listen to it, its soo great and actually makes you realize your going to be fine, and maybe even better than you were with him!!
for a song that depresses the hell out of you would definitely be “Miserable at best” by Mayday Parade and an empowering song would be “Deuces” by Chris Brown. By the way both of these songs are catchy and fun to listen to no matter what. These are two of my favorites
Ok, my b.f. broke up with me OVER TEXT first of all, second, I found out from my BFF who is dating the jerks BFF, the BFF told my BFF that he was breaking up for one of my friends, and so I texted him,”so so what? I’m having more fun, and now that we’re done, I’m gunna show u tonite, that I’m alright, I’m just fine, and you’re a tool so so what? And tell ______ that I say hi.
XD I hope he’s like, well d@**, that girl was Irreplacable.
Thank you soo much for your posts. It is motivating and has encouraged me to try to move on. The guy I was with for a year and half left me and it has been an excruciating long few weeks 😦 I think about him everyday and it’s so hard to move on! Another song for people to check out is a song called “A Little Bit Stronger” by Sarah Evans and Bluebird by Christina Perri 🙂
Just wanna share my breakup songs:
Maroon 5 – through With you
My Chemical Romance – I don’t love you
The Used – buried my Self Alive
Ne Yo – So Sick
Boys II Men – Water Runs Dry
Eminem – 25 to life
Plain White T’s – Hate (I really don’t like you)
The Killer – Mr Brightside
Just remembered this one by Anastacia…
I’m Outta Of Love
Ooooha
Whoa
Yeah yeah yeah yeah
Oh yeah
Aha
Now baby come one
Don’t claim that love you never let me feel
I should have known
‘Cause you brought nothing real
Come on be a man about it
You won’t die
I ain’t got no more tears to cry
And I can’t take this no more
You know I gotta let it go
And you know
I’m outta love
Set me free
And let me out this misery
Just show me the way to get my life again
‘Cause you can’t handle me
(I said) I’m outta love
Can’t you see
Baby that you gotta set me free
I’m outta love
Yeah
Said how many times
Have I tried to turn this love arond?
But every time
You just let me down
Come on be a man about it
You’ll survive
True that you can work it out all right
Tell me, yesterday
Did you know?
I’d be the one to let you go?
And you know
I’m outta love
Set me free
(Set me free, yeah)
And let me out this misery
(Oh let me out this misery)
Just show me the way to get my life again
‘Cause you can’t handle me
(I said) I’m outta love
(I’m outta love)
Can’t you see
Baby that you gotta set me free
I’m outta
Let me get over you
The way you’ve gotten over me too, yeah
Seems like my time has come
And now I’m moving on
I’ll be stronger
I’m outta love
Set me free
(Set me free)
And let me out this misery
(Yeah yeah)
Show me the way to get my life again
(Show me the way, my life again)
You can’t handle me
(No, no, no, no)
(I said) I’m outta love
(I’m outta love)
Set me free
(Set me free)
And let me out this misery
(Yeah yeah yeah yeah)
Show me the way to get my life again
You can’t handle me
(I said) I’m outta love
Can’t you see
(Can’t you see)
Baby that you gotta set me free
I’m outta love
Yeah yeah yeah yeah
I’m outta love
Set me free
(No no no no no no)
And let me out this misery
Just show me the way to get my life again
You can’t handle me
(No no nobody)
(I said) I’m outta love
(Oh yeah oh yeah)
Set me free
And let me out this misery
I’m still in crying mode, even 7 months after I got dumped… so here’s a few things that are great for sobbing…
No Doubt – Don’t speak
Mariah Carey – Against all odds (makes me cry every time!)
Lana Del Rey (everything! Born to Die, Dark Paradise, …)
Reblogged this on scaredemcee.
Craig David’s ‘Walking Away’ (UK version) is ‘my song’. Perfectly described my feelings at a time of real turmoil in my life.
Empowering rock songs? I’d have to go for Skunk Anansie’s ‘Weak’. No matter how much she’s hurting, she won’t go back to him.
Kelly Clarkson – Dark Side
There’s a place that i know
it’s not pretty there and few have ever gone
if i show it to you now
Will it make you run away
Or will you stay even if it hurts
Even if i try to push you out will you return?
And remind me who i really am
Please remind me who i really am
Everybody’s got a dark side do you love me?
Can you love mine?
Nobody’s a picture perfect but we’re worth it
You know that we’re worth it will you love me?
Even with my dark side?
Like a diamond from black dust
It’s hard to know it can become a few give up
So don’t give up on me
Please remind me who i really am
Everybody’s got a dark side do you love me?
Can you love mine?
Nobody’s a picture perfect but we’re worth it
You know that we’re worth it
Will you love me?
Even with my dark side?
Don’t run away
Don’t run away
Just tell me that you will stay promise me you will stay
Don’t run away
Don’t run away
Just promise me you will stay promise me you will stay
Will you love me? ohh
Everybody’s got a dark side do you love me?
Can you love mine?
Nobody’s a picture perfect but we’re worth it
You know that we’re worth it
Will you love me?
Even with my dark side?
Man who cant be moved by The Script
Go On Girl by Ne-Yo is an outstanding one.
gives you hell would be nice here
Few of my favs…
Wanted You More – Lady Antebellum
“No I never saw it comin’
Somethin’ in you
Must have changed
All the words unspoken
Promises broken
I cried for so long.
Wasted too much time
Should have seen the signs.
Now I know, just what went wrong
I guess I wanted you more
And looking back now I’m sure
I wanted you more
I guess I wanted you more”
Blow Me (One Last Kiss) – P!nk
“I’ve been crying, I’ve been crying, I’ve been dying over you
Tie a knot in the rope, trying to hold, trying to hold,
But there’s nothing to grab so I let go
I think I’ve finally had enough, I think I maybe think too much
I think this might be it for us (blow me one last kiss)
You think I’m just too serious, I think you’re full of shit
My head is spinning so blow me one last kiss
Just when I think it can’t get worse, I had a shit day
You had a shit day, we’ve had a shit day
I think that life’s too short for this
I’ll pack my ignorance and bliss
I think I’ve had enough of this, blow me one last kiss.”
Wide Awake – Katy Perry
“I’m wide awake
Not losing any sleep
I picked up every piece
And landed on my feet
I’m wide awake
Need nothing to complete myself
I’m wide awake
Yeah, I am born again
Outta the lion’s den
I don’t have to pretend
And it’s too late
The story’s over now, the end”
Everybody Does – Martina McBride
“He broke your heart
You can’t cry hard enough
But you’re not the only one
Everybody loves someone
Everybody hurts sometimes
Everybody says they’ll never fall again
But everybody does
Yeah, everybody does”
Don’t Stop – Fleetwood Mac
“If you wake up and don’t want to smile,
If it takes just a little while,
Open your eyes and look at the day,
You’ll see things in a different way.
Don’t stop, thinking about tomorrow,
Don’t stop, it’ll soon be here,
It’ll be, better than before,
Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone.”
Live To Love Another Day – Keith Urban
“Lord I fell for her smile
And she loved me for a while
Then she said good-bye gotta go
Left me standing on the side of the road
Now she’s gone and I’m a memory in her past
And the long and short of it some things never last
Oh because summers come, summers go
I’ll keep walking down this road
It’s alright and it’s okay
I’ll live to love another day
I’ll live to love another day”
Blue Sky – Emily West ft. Keith Urban
“So your conscience finally hit you
And you’re feeling guilty
Weather man says it’s gonna rain tonight
The kind of storm where the basement floods and you lose the lights
Should have thought of that before
‘Cause I’m not your blue sky anymore”
You Won’t Find This – Carrie Underwood
“There’s once in a lifetime
And there’s once in a while
And the difference between the two is about a million miles
Oh, you might get lucky while the moon is looking up
But in the truth of the morning, the stars will be long gone
You can hold any girl that you like
Fall in love when it’s easy at night
But, you’ll wake up wondering why she ain’t ever something better
When you’re lost and run out of road
Find what I already know
In the end close is all there is
But you won’t find this”
Daughtry’s “Over you” is the best ever and Zornik’s “I’m Better Off Without You” is a real close second!!
Sounds weird but 25 to life by eminem may be a good one. Me and my gf were together 11 months and I found out she likes me best friend. I couldn’t hang on to her knowing she likes someone else.
Another good one is nobody knows. The nights are so lonely the days are so sad I keep thinking about the love that we had and I’m missing you. And nobody knows it but me..
Regret by LeToya Luckett
Stronger by Britney Spears
Sensitivity By Ralph Tresvant
Aint Thinkin Bout You by Bow Wow feat. Chris Brown
Outta Here by Esmee Denters
I Just Want It To Be Over Keyshia Cole
Green Light Beyonce’ Knowles
Another Day by Whigfield is a brilliant empowering break-up song!
Joshua Radin Ft. Ingrid Michaelson – Sky
I woke dreaming we had broke
Dreaming you left me for someone new,
And you cried drying those brown eyes
Crying you’re sorry, sorry won’t do.
But this is the way I need to wake
I’ll wake to you, and you never left me
All that I dreamt had been untrue
Open my eyes I see sky
Oh oh oh oh you know
The way to keep me on my toes
I I I I’ll be just fine
Just say you’ll stay forever mine
Till we fall asleep tonight
Last night we had a great fight
I fell asleep in a horrible state
Then dreamt you loved my best friend
My heart would not mend
Seemed it was fate
But this is the way I need to wake
I’ll wake to you, and you never left me
All that I dreamt had been untrue
Open my eyes I see sky
Oh oh oh oh you know
The way to keep me on my toes
I I I I’ll be just fine
Just say you’s stay forever mine
Till we fall asleep tonight
Sometimes I forget to love you like I should
But I’d never leave you
No I never would, I never would
Oh oh oh oh you know
The way to keep me on my toes
I I I I’ll be just fine
Just say you’ll stay forever mine
Till we fall asleep tonight
how it’s anxious, painful… difficult to find the exact word!
I just wanna forget her, forget all the crazy things we did, forget her words, her whispers, kiss…!
😦 😦 😦
Demi Lovato – Skyscraper
Skies are crying, I am watching
Catching teardrops in my hands
Only silence as it’s ending, like we never had a chance
Do you have to, make me feel like there’s nothing left of me?
You can take everything I have
You can break everything I am
Like I’m made of glass
Like I’m made of paper
Go on and try to tear me down
I will be rising from the ground
Like a skyscraper
Like a skyscraper
As the smoke clears
I awaken, and untangle you from me
Would it make you, feel better to watch me while I bleed?
All my windows, still are broken
But I’m standing on my feet
You can take everything I have
You can break everything I am
Like I’m made of glass
Like I’m made of paper
Go on and try to tear me down
I will be rising from the ground
Like a skyscraper
Like a skyscraper
Go run, run, run
I’m gonna stay right here
Watch you disappear, yeah
Go run, run, run
Yeah it’s a long way down
But I am closer to the clouds up here
You can take everything I have
You can break everything I am
Like i’m made of glass
Like i’m made of paper, Ohhh woaah
Go on and try to tear me down
I will be rising from the ground
Like a skyscraper
Like a skyscraper
I guess at the time of this post, Adele wasn’t a mega star yet. But… “Someone Like You” is such a powerful post-breakup song.
Wasting my time- default …is a good one.. 🙂
Bulletproof by La Roux =)
here are MY personal top ten empowering break up songs
1. Fuck you I don’t want you back-Eamon
2. So what? Pink
3. Fuck you-Ce loo green
4. Bye bye bye-nsysnc
5. Since you,ve been gone=Kelly Clarkson
6. Single ladies-Beyonce
7. Goodbye to you-
8. Heart of Gold
9. Eye of the Tiger
10. So sick neyo
A great song would be Gives You Hell by the All-American Rejects.
Fireflight – Stronger Than You Think
I know your intentions
I’ve seen the way you work
You love destruction
You love pouring on the hurt
I used to chase you
But now I hate you
I’m safe inside the light
So go on do your worst, your worst
I am stronger than you think
I believe you’ll never get the best of me
No I don’t buy the lies you sell
My heart belongs to someone else
I am stronger, stronger than you think
I’m tasting freedom
Something you will never know
Just give up now ’cause
You will never have control
My life is paid for
So what are you here for
I’m safe inside the light
So leave me alone, alone
I know your intentions
I’ve seen the way you work
Since you love destruction
This is gonna hurt
Gary Moore – Still Got The Blues
Used to be so easy to give my heart away.
But I found out the hard way,
There’s a price you have to pay.
I found out that love was no friend of mine.
I should have known time after time.
So long, it was so long ago,
But I’ve still got the blues for you.
Used to be so easy to fall in love again.
But I found out the hard way,
It’s a road that leads to pain.
I found that love was more than just a game.
You’re playing to win, but you lose just the same.
So long, it was so long ago,
But I’ve still got the blues for you.
So many years since I’ve seen your face.
Here in my heart, there’s an empty space
Where you used to be.
So long, it was so long ago,
But I’ve still got the blues for you.
Though the days come and go,
There is one thing I know.
I’ve still got the blues for you
I love your post all those are great songs but some on my break-up list are (In no particular order)
“It’s Not Right, But it’s okay” Whitney Houston
It’s not right But it’s okay
I’m gonna make it anyway
Pack your bags up and leave
Don’t you dare come running back to me
It’s not right But it’s okay
I’m gonna make it anyway
Close the door behind you
Leave your key I’d rather be alone
Than unhappy
“We are never ever getting back together” Taylor Swift
Think the title kinda speaks for itself on this one 🙂
He wasn’t man enough” Toni Braxton
Not really a break up song but still great 🙂
“Cry Me Out” Pixie Lott
Baby, you ain’t all that
Baby, there’s no way back
You can keep talkin’
But baby, I’m walkin’ away
When I found out
You messed me about, I was broken
Back then I believed you
Now I don’t need ya no more
last to know – three days grace.
Scars On 45 – Heart On Fire
And bowl me over black and blue
It’s far too hard to say I’m all over you
And take my pulse and hose me down
My hearts on fire
I’ve said these words a thousand times
The bathroom mirror stopped and smiled
So take my pulse and hose me down
My hearts on fire
Cause when you’re standing on your own
And you feel you’ve got nobody round you
Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
When you’re standing on your own
And you feel you’ve got nobody round you
Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
My hearts on fire
My hearts on fire
I wish you’d never show me now
It seemed to easy to turn you down
And so it seems you are my tears
Is your heart on fire?
Cause when you’re standing on your own
And you feel you’ve got nobody round you
Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
When you’re standing on your own
And you feel you’ve got nobody round you
Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
My hearts on fire
My hearts on fire
So bowl me over black and blue
It’s far too hard to say I’m all over you
Your Gonna Miss Me – Andy Grammar
“Plug In Baby” – Muse
“L’Adorer” – Etienne Daho
http://videos.tf1.fr/clip-musique/2008/etienne-daho-son-nouveau-clip-l-adorer-4356374.html
Avant que l’infidèle à la beauté assassine,
ne me morde la main,
ne me couronne d’épines,
désadorer l’adorer.
Avant que ses baisers ne deviennent couteaux,
que ses bouquets de fleurs ne me fassent la peau,
désadorer l’adorer,
mais arborer ce chagrin si haut, que je porte,
beau comme un drapeau,
en vainqueur,
dont on admire le sort,
courageux qui sait aimer trop fort,
car comme les dieux qu’on adore adorer j’adorais l’adorer.
J’ai été si vivant,
chaque minute,
chaque seconde,
mais avant d’abhorrer ses humeurs vagabondes,
désadorer l’adorer.
Avant que l’infidèle à nouveau ne sévisse,
qu’inéluctablement,
le destin s’accomplisse,
désadorer l’adorer,
mais arborer ce chagrin si haut, que je porte,
beau comme un drapeau en vainqueur,
dont on admire le sort, courageux,
qui sait aimer trop fort,
car comme les dieux qu’on adore adorer,
j’adorais l’adorer.
Désadorer l’adorer…
And once you fall in love again :
“Unintended” – Muse
“Wonderwall” – Oasis
Thank’s for all the inspiring songs posted here, I am really having a hard time moving on. My 4 yrs and 7 months GF had an affair with another guy. The feeling is really killing me because I really love her 😦 . and to know that she is happier with that person makes it more difficult.
I am currently listening to ” I’ll be over you – Toto” and ” It must have been love – Roxette”
The Ace of Base song, made me smile, I thought it was a happy song. not Until now
Good luck man, i fucking hate hearing it but its true, plenty of fish in the see bro, and im sure one day you will catch one who actually wants to be with you and apritiate you. 4 years if damn tough and i couldnt imagine but time heals all wounds, it may feel like you got an emptey space only she can fill but its just a heart shaped hole any good women can fill. just be glad it happend now and not later, you deserve better, give your time and engery to someone else who deserves it and apritiates it.
And who do you think you are?
Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart
You’re gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
So don’t come back for me
Who do you think you are?
Dear, It took so long just to feel alright
Remember how to put back the light in my eyes
I wish I had missed the first time that we kissed
‘Cause you broke all your promises
And now you’re back
You don’t get to get me back
LOVE this one!
solo jason derulo, best empowering song EVA!!!
I really liked this list 🙂 “I will Survive”really is THE break up song..
we have what I think is a really cool break-up song in German it’s called “Freunde bleiben” which means “Staying friends” by Revolverheld and I really like the lyrics they are so raw and open..:
And then you look me in the face
And you say “I hope I’m not hurting you”
-Pack all your things and out
This is not your home anymore
And fuck staying friends
-Pack all your things and out
This is not your home anymore
And fuck staying friends
And when I walk into my bathroom
and see your stains on my mirror
I notice that I don’t admit to myself
That although I wasn’t alone
Not a single day last year
The love wasn’t really love
and another one I personally like very much which is called “Blaue Flecken” (Bruises) by Rosenstolz
I still have bruises
And some of them from you
And I still have this fear
I could lose them all
But tonight I will give myself my all
As if it was my last
Because I will celebrate us
And look to what we were
And I still can’t sleep
Feeling awake for months
As if I am secretly waiting for you
I keep watch till daytime
The glass in front of my eyes is completely empty again
is completely empty again
I want to celebrate not grieve
All by myself
Without you I go crazy
Carry my heart in my hand
And I throw it after you
Catch it, keep it
Or just throw it away
Maybe I won’t need it anymore
I still have bruises.
Really like these two as well 🙂
Picture to Burn by Taylor Swift is a good one as well 🙂
Never Getting Back Together – Taylor Swift
My all time favorite break up song to empower?
Best Thing you Never Had – Beyonce
Listened to it over and over and OVER and the one more time when “the one” and I broke up a few months ago. Still makes me feel like a strong moving on woman!
One Less Reason – A Day To Be Alone
Lyrics are in the video……
Ok here is my official list, this blog is awesome!! Thanks for some of the ideas everyone!
1. Leave the pieces – the wreckers
2. Happy Ending – Avirl Lavigne
3. You Oughta Know – Alanis Morisette
4. Simple Together – Alanis Morisette
5. You Learn – Alanis Morisette
6. Goodbye To You – Michelle Branch
7. Undo It – Carrie Underwood
8. Empty Handed – Michelle Branch
9. Papa Roach – Scars
10. Are You Happy Now – Michelle Branch
11. Irreplaceable – Beyonce
12. Since You Been Gone – Kelly Clarkson
13. Rolling in the Deep – Adele
14. Nothing New – Ashlee Simpson
15. X-Factor – Lauryn Hill
16. Better in Time – Leona Lewis
17. Ex – girlfriend – No Doubt
18. Survivor – Destiny’s Child
19. I will Survive – Gloria Gaynor
20. Over You – Daughtry
21. Jar of Hearts – Christina Perri
22. Stronger Woman – Jewel
23. Til I Get Over You – Michelle Branch
24. Not Meant to Be – Theory of a Deadman
25. Torn – Natalie Imbruglia
26. White Horse – Taylor Swift
27. Foolish Games – Jewel
28. Be Ok – Ingrid Michaelson
29. The War is Over – Kelly Clarkson
30. What doesn’t kill you – Kelly Clarkson
When my husband recently wandered from 15 years of what I’d been believing was a beautiful marriage, to be with the town tramp; I found a lot of strength in belting the words to Carrie Underwood’s “You Won’t Find This…” cuz’ tell you what…. I treated him like a king and he definately won’t find this!
Did you check the tires?
Put gas in the car?
Don’t think you’ll need to much cuz
you ain’t gonna get that far
did you pack the good times?
don’t forget a map
just in case the route you take isn’t there to take you back
You can hold any girl that you like
fall in love when it’s easy at night
but you’ll wake up wondering why
she ain’t ever something better
when you’re lost and you’ve run out of road
you’ll find what I already know
in the end, close is all there is
cuz you won’t find this
no you won’t find this…
Check out Dirty Man by Joss Stone. Here are the lyrics :
You’re a dirty, dirty man
And you gotta dirty mind
You’re a dirty, dirty man
You and that other woman, you’re 2 of a kind
But you forgot 1 thing baby when you were doing me wrong
That Im a good house keeper
Im gonna take my broom and sweep
All of the dirt out in the street
You’re a dirty, dirty man
Oh in so many, so many dirty ways
You’re a dirty, dirty man
And you’ve been hidding your little dirt all over this here place
I know you have
Oh here’s my chance baby to throw some mud in your face
Coz Im a good house keeper
Im gonna take my broom and sweep
[ From: http://www.metrolyrics.com/dirty-man-lyrics-joss-stone.html ]
All of the dirt, yes I am, out on the street
Oh, Im cleaning outl my whole house
Fast as I can
Its time to make everything spick and span
You’re a dirty, ooh you’re a dirty man
You do me dirty for so many years, yes u did
You’re a dirty, dirty man, yes u are
And Im tired of you and your woman and your dog too
You’re a dirty man
You’re a dirty man
Now get outta my house
Dont u never, never, never come back again
Dont u never
You’re a dirty, dirty man
And Im done with your dirty ways
Justin Timberlake – Cry me a river
Andrew Belle – In My Veins
Nothing goes as planned
Everything will break
People say goodbye
In their own special way
All that you rely on
And all that you can fake
Will leave you in the morning
But find you in the day
Oh, you’re in my veins
And I cannot get you out
Oh, you’re all I taste
At night inside of my mouth
Oh, you run away
‘Cause I am not what you found
Oh, you’re in my veins
And I cannot get you out
Everything will change
Nothing stays the same
Nobody here’s perfect
Oh, but everyone’s to blame
Oh, all that you rely on
And all that you can save
Will leave you in the morning
And find you in the day
Oh, you’re in my veins
And I cannot get you out
Oh, you’re all I taste
At night inside of my mouth
Oh, you run away
‘Cause I am not what you found
Oh, you’re in my veins
And I cannot get you out
(No, I cannot get you out)
(No, I cannot get you)
(Oh no, I cannot get you out)
(No, I cannot get you)
Everything is dark
It’s more than you can take
But you catch a glimpse of sun light
Shining, shining down on your face
On your face
(On your face)
Oh, you’re in my veins
And I cannot get you out
Oh, you’re all I taste
At night inside of my mouth
Oh, you run away
‘Cause I am not what you found
Oh, you’re in my veins
And I cannot get you out
No, I cannot get you out
(Oh, you’re in my veins)
No, I cannot get you out
Oh no, I cannot get you
I just recently went through a break up, and I’ve had this song on my iPod forever, and just realized it completely explains my situation. “Fallout” by Marianas Trench is definitely a song you wanna hear if you’re mad at your ex but still want them back. Here are some lyrics:
An empty room,
I’m empty too
And everything reminds me of you
So many things that
I shouldn’t have missed
The more that I push
And the more you resist
It’s easy to say it’s for the best
When you want more,
Well you leave me with less
I know you’re fine, but what do I do?
I know you’re fine, but what do I do?
I’m awake, and trying
While you’re sleeping like a babe
Beside him
I’m on the ledge while you’re so
God damn polite and composed
And I know you see me,
And you’re making it look so easy
What comes and goes,
I go without.
I know you’re fine but what about
(Fallout), Fallout, (fallout), fallout (fallout)
Through the Fallout
(Fallout), Fallout, (fallout), fallout, (fallout)
You’re the fallout
I will survive is definitely the best one….
Reo Speedwagon “Time for Me to Fly”
Thank you thank you thank you for your page and playlists. I just had my heartbroken and am so tired of crying.
Jake Coco – Re-defining Love
I was put here for a reason, and I’m pretty sure it’s you
I wanna dance with you in shadows, till all your lies become the truth
We can stop and smell the roses, put the petals in your hair
We can lay in bed all evening, call in sick cuz we don’t care.
Singing I do believe you were meant for me.
I wanna sing to you all over
Under the stars in Tennessee
Grab a drink in Carolina
Make love from Boston to DC
Well have a slice in New York City
Then stop in Paris on the way
Ride a hurricane through Cleveland
Then catch a train back to LA
Singing I do believe you were meant for me.
Hi there everyone, So just got dumped a few days before valentines day, i know awsome right? one minute she was on vaction and couldnt wait to get home too see me then its i think we need time apart… probly has something to do with all the guys she went with (just friends) but she was the only chick. guess ill cancle the dinner res. roses already sent tho… ill chalk it up to good guys always loose haha story of my life. anyway blah blah … heres a few songs ive been listening too.
mostly for the boys but could work for the women
1.ne-yo gon on girl
2. got a brand knew girlfriend- steve holy
3.justin timeberlake- goes around
4.ne-yo so sick
5.theory of a deadman -not ment to be
alll the rest have been mentioned.
ohh, 99 problems – hugo or jayz
Chris Brown – Say Goodbye
Plain White T’s – Hate (I Really Don’t Like You)
Frankee – F U Right Back
Those are some of my favorites 🙂
i’m listening to these kind of songs tonight because i’m currently at war with my boyfriend. i listened to my phone then i realized the songs i was hearing were the same songs since my last last boyfriend which was years ago when i was still 15.im now 20. Haha. So i googled and found this list. I wanna share some of mine:
Single Again – Trina?(the baddest b!tch)
You know how they do
How they act
They see you with another man
And they want you back
Im single again
Back on the prowl
I thought it was perfect
I dont know how im single again
Emergency Room – Rihanna
Good girl gone bad – Rihanna
Stronger – Kelly Clarkson
Roll the credits – Paula Deanda
Best thing i never had – beyonce
It ends tonight – american rejects or hifi ?
Good Girl – paula deanda
Liz Longley – Goodbye Love
I swear I felt you kissing her from miles and miles away
It hollowed out my chest, I felt your love escape
While your lips were pressed against her my head was on a pillow case cry
“Goodbye Love, I’m gonna be okay”
Now my thoughts keep running wild… like a child running through a field
I wonder if you’re crazy about her and how holding her must feel
Did you take her to your bed?
Did she sleep there on my side?
Oh goodbye love, I’m gonna be alright
Goodbye love, I’m gonna be okay
Goodbye love, I know it has to be this way
Goodbye love
There’s a place our love remains
It is captured in time
It’s still sitting by the river, your hands woven into mine
It is perfectly untouched
It knows no loss, no pain
Oh goodbye love, I’m gonna be okay
Goodbye love, I’m gonna be okay
Goodbye love, I know it has to be this way
Goodbye love
I’m gonna be okay
I just found your blog, and YAY just when I needed it.
My favorite empowering song is “Happy Now” by No Doubt, with lyrics such as;
“You had the best but you gave her up”,
“You broke the pair, now there’s only singles, there’s no looking back, this time I mean it!”
“Are you happy now?”
“no more leaning on your shoulder, I won’t be there, no more bother, If you feel you just might want me, that’s too bad, I’m *not that easy*!”
i just break up my bf last week freaking hurt me a lot..all i do listen music.still didn’t find good music until now.i wanted to move on..
I broke up with fiance about 6 months ago and we were together for about 7 years, but whatever. But I wanted songs that made me feel better rather than angry and sad so I’ve been compiling for awhile. And then my friend broke up with her bf finally so I decided to make a playlist for her.
So here is my spotify playlist. I literally just made it, so I’m still adding. If there’s any suggestions I’d like to hear them. But I wanted songs that make you feel good about yourself and make you feel ok to move on.
When a Worman’s Fed up by R Kelly, Call Tyrone by Erykah Badu, F*#@ It (I Don’t Want You Back)
never Getting Back Together by Taylor Swift
done by the band perry, over you by daughtry and if your looking for a good laugh i pray for you by jaron is just too perfect
Miss me – Andy Grammar
Brilliant.
*sigh*
Disciple – dear ex you don’t own me(rock)
Mary J blidge – enough cryin, no more drama
Keyshia cole – enough no love, should’ve let you go, I changed my mind, I should’ve cheated
Rihanna – fading,rehab, we found love, we ride
R.kelly – feelin single
Eamon – fuck it
Frankee – fuck you right back
K.michelle – how many times
Fantasia – I feel beautiful
Christina perri – jar of hearts
Prima j – left overs
Profyle – lair,cheater,deceiver, heartbreaker
Sara Evans – a little bit stronger <3333
Stevie hoang – no coming back
Papa roach- scars (rock)
Joe Joan's – see no more
Kayne west – see you in my nightmare
Mariah Carey – shake it off
Kelly clarkson – stronger , since you been gone , never again
Fefe Dobson – stuttering
J rice – thank you for the broken heart
Pink – there you go
Jennifer Hudson – think like a man
Kelly price – tired
Jojo – too little too late, leave get out
Adele – turning tables
Taylor swift – we are never getting back together
Justin timberlake – cry me a river , what goes around comes around,
Nsync – bye bye bye
Katy perry – wide awake
Eminem – 25 to life <333
Demi Lovato – skyscraper <333333
Here’s a good one. Michael Buble, Its a Beautiful Day.
I don’t know why
You think that you could hold me
When you couldn’t get by by yourself
And I don’t know who
Would ever want to tear the seam of someone’s dream
Baby, it’s fine, you said that we should just be friends
While I came up with that line and I’m sure
That it’s for the best
If you ever change your mind, don’t hold your breath
Pre Chorus
‘Cause you may not believe
That baby, I’m relieved
When you said goodbye, my whole world shines
Chorus
Hey hey hey
It’s a beautiful day and I can’t stop myself from smiling
If I’m drinking, then I’m buying
And I know there’s no denying
It’s a beautiful day, the sun is up, the music’s playing
And even if it started raining
You won’t hear this boy complaining
‘Cause I’m glad that you’re the one that got away
It’s a beautiful day
It’s my turn to fly, so girls, get in line
‘Cause I’m easy, no playing this guy like a fool
Now I’m alright
Might’ve had me caged before, but not tonight
Pre Chorus
‘Cause you may not believe
That baby, I’m relieved
This fire inside, it burns too bright
I don’t want to say “so long”, I just want to say “goodbye”
Chorus
Hey hey hey
It’s a beautiful day and I can’t stop myself from smiling
If I’m drinking, then I’m buying
And I know there’s no denying
It’s a beautiful day, the sun is up, the music’s playing
And even if it started raining
You won’t hear this boy complaining
‘Cause I’m glad that you’re the one who got away
‘Cause if you ever think I’ll take up
My time with thinking of our break-up
Then, you’ve got another thing coming your way
‘Cause it’s a beautiful day
Beautiful day
Oh, baby, any day that you’re gone away
It’s a beautiful day
More lyrics: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/m/michael_buble/
My favorites are:
I am Woman by Helen Reddy
These Boot Were Made for Walking by Nancy Sinatra
Wrong Again
Great song suggestions! Another one to add to the list is Joanna Pacitti ‘Watch me shine’.
Can’t go to the gym without it!
This was great thank you!
I’d also recommend How You Remind Me by Nickelback!
ex bfs..big losers..broke up wf me cz i wsnt his typ aftr evryfin v had…lol…still hvnt found a song to help me muv on…
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play listing them now…
Shake it off – Mariah carey
I love “Unanswered Prayers” by Garth Brooks. It’s one of my general favorite songs, not just breakup songs.
I love breakup songs, but I have never been in a relationship so I really don’t know why. Kelly Clarkson has some really awesome breakup songs.
Michael Bolton – When I’m back on my feet again
Awesome song belongs on the list!
How about Tyler Farr’s “Redneck Crazy”
“Wish I knew how long it’s been going on
How long you’ve been getting some on the side
Nah, he can’t amount to much by the look of that little truck
Well he wont be getting any sleep tonight
I’m gonna aim my headlights into your bedroom windows
Throw empty beer cans at both of your shadows
I didn’t come here to start a fight, but I’m up for anything tonight
You know you broke the wrong heart baby, and drove me redneck crazy
Redneck crazy”
Or Garth Brooks “The Thunder Rolls”
“But on the wind and rain
A strange new perfume blowsAnd the lightnin’ flashes in her eyes
And he knows that she knowsAnd the thunder rolls
And the thunder rolls
The Thunder rolls
And the lightening strikes
Another love grows cold
On a sleepless night
As the storm blows on
Out of control
Deep in her heart
The thunder rolls
She runs back down the hallway
And through the bedroom door
She reaches for the pistol
Kept in the dresser draw
Tells the lady in the mirror
“He won’t do this again”
Because tonight will be the last time
She’ll wonder where he’s been
The Thunder rolls
And the lightening strikes
Another love grows cold
On a sleepless night
As the storm blows on
Out of control
Deep in her heart
The thunder rolls
“High on Cruel” – Neko Case.
I’ve got all of what you’re crying for now
Your tears have come too late
You break down the door
There’s already nothing
I’d only one heart to break
You’re crawling on the floor like a fool
And I’m so high on cruel
You’ll drown in the light
And I’ll burn like a star
Your tears are gonna give me fuel
Thanks! Very nice list! I would add “stronger” by kelly clarkson. 🙂
Nice list. I’ve been listening to the song “Fell on Black Days” by Soundgarden for my breakup. I realize this genre may not fit what you normally listen too, but if you know of any other songs of this heaviness and darkness, I could use some. Thanks.
Mariah Carey’s “SOMEDAY” and “You had your chance” are good break-up songs too.Ü
Have you thought about “the climb” by miley Cyrus or Wrong baby wrong by Martina Mcbride.
Nice list, a good addition would be “I’m Looking Through You” by The Beatles!
Haven’t visited here in a while….
Sarah Bareillis – Gravity
After looking for songs to heal a broken heart, I found so many that just made me feel worse about it, or indecisive or attached to a relationship that hurts. This playlist is to keep me and you inspired and strong. The choice of music is eclectic – the words are empowering, self-affirming, they avoid attachment to the relationship, but they are still kind.
Ashton Shepherd’s Look It Up is a good one too. It starts:
“The word is faithful, look it up
It don’t mean sneakin’ around
Behind my back like you ain’t gettin’ enough
How ’bout forever, just look it up
It means through thick and thin and
Pitchin’ in even when the times get tough
The word is easy, look it up
And you’ll see a picture of that piece of trash
Ridin’ ’round in your pickup truck
Let’s try liar, just look it up
But you’ll need boots to wade through all the bull
You tell me when you come home drunk
It’s just like you to be so clueless
Cause you never thought I’d do this
I said go, goodbye, get lost, get out, get gone
The word is over
Look it up
A little bit stronger by Sara Evens ” woke up late today and I still feel the sting of the pain but I burs my teeth anyway. Got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face. I got alittle bit stronger.
Also BC Jean “I’ll survive you” both amazing and helping me.
My gf left me after 3 years of friendship saying she wants freedom because she is still young and still wants some fun. OH WELL fuck me right… So many good songs. really thankful for all of you sharing some 🙂
THE VERY BEST EMPOWERING BREAK UP SONGS ARE DEFINITELY, “THE DANCE” AND “UNANSWERED PRAYERS” BY GARTH BROOKS!!!!
ZZ Ward 265 Days
Sorry, ZZ Ward 365 Days,
These are some great songs that could help almost anyone undergoing breakup. I know listening to “I Will Survive” has helped me in the past.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9Wnh0V4HMM this is awesome 🙂
and this one 🙂 neopolitan dreams from lisa mitchell
the one before is Fiona apple- sleep to dream
Fuck You by Earon is what I’d add! 🙂
When I’m back on my feet again….Michael Bolton
You’ll See by Madonna
LET IT GO! FROM FROZEN!
I know this sounds incredibly childish, but breakups are awful and I think it’s okay to be a child. It’s one of the most incredible songs that helped me.
Been a while…here’s another….
The Young Rascals – A Place In The Sun
I was in love wit a girl .we shared a good love .But unfortunately she was engaged to another guy by her parents. And she even agreed to marry him .
So is I request to suggest me a song related to ur love story. Which I can give her a good nice pain.
pabs, I am sorry to hear about your pain, but causing her pain will not help you to feel better. In sincerity, what will help you heal the fastest is to look at your life in perspective – where do you want to be in 5 years, how many other people there are in the world for you to befriend, and to love. If you really care about this girl, wish happiness for her, and if you cant do that, then it wasn’t really love, it was just attachment – either way, you will be happier if you live your life guided by love.
Literally the BEST song that I have heard that has empowered me to leave an abusive relationship is Got Your Number by Serena Ryder.. I heard it in the car one day, and I looked over at him and silently thought to myself “I’m leaving you soon.”
“I’m Do’n Fine Now (without you Baby) ” by New York City 1973.. yes it is an oldie but a happy upbeat song all about the pain and eventual survival and then happy again. I sang this in the Shower about 6 years ago to get me going in the morning. Awful mornings full of anxiety, heart pal putations, loneliness and tears… fast forward 6 years later and if soooo happy. LOL What Was I THINK N ? omg… i was so saved from that guy… anyway my 2 cents and i really did SURVIVE !
‘So what’s’ well cool. Though Britney Spears… I mean, she looks pretty similar right? Just punk Britney.
Bust Your Windows – Jazmine Sullivan
Unbreakable – Fireflight
Better Day – Saving Jane
As well as others that were mentioned…
According to You – Orianthi
Fuck You – Lily Allen
Smile – Lily Allen
What the Hell – Avril Lavigne
How cool that I’m posting on this blog’s comments 6 years after it was first posted?!!
Beyond cool Terri!! You made my month seeing this! Great picks 🙂
This is not coming from HIM
Maybe Sam Hunt- Break up in a small town.
This post was great I definitely had a playlist like this ,I’m surprised most of your songs ended up there. Writing has definitely been a life saver ! I’m really liking your blog 🙂
Check out mine if you get a chance it is in it’s pretty early stages but I got out of a narcissistic relationship so this has been my coping mechanism and I’m slowly getting better.
https://insanityisoveratedd.blogspot.com/
If you have any comments I would love to hear some criticism