Simply Solo Spotlight: When Life Hands You A Reset Button
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When Life Hands You A Reset Button
At some point you may be presented with the opportunity to reflect on your life; to reflect on your actions, your choices, and decide, “What do I want to do differently?” Often these opportunities come one-at-a-time. But occasionally you get assaulted with more than one. You now have the option to refurbish your life and get it back in like-new condition.
Call it what you wish; reset, reboot, overhaul, start over, take a mulligan, wipe the slate clean, take another turn. They all essentially mean the same thing.
Will you take advantage to learn from your “mistakes” and do a few things differently while maintaining consistency with the things you are happy with? Whether you view this circumstance as a gift, or dilemma, you have been presented with a rare commodity; one that many people often wish to have themselves.
Please consider the following scenario.
Say there is a guy who has recently been let go of his job. Reset #1. He now has the option of going for whatever job he wishes. In a timely, though maybe inconvenient, fashion his girlfriend of two years breaks up with him. Reset #2. He now can live by his own rules and consider only the needs of himself. Not believing in pure coincidence, we’ll also say the lease on his apartment expires in the next month. Reset #3. He can now go anywhere without being tied down to a home obligation.
What do you think he should do? All three of these instances, at the same time, have provided him an all-access pass to Extreme Makeover his life.
I was first given the opportunity to reset my life during the fall of 2003. Having graduated college earlier that year, I was now living back in my hometown with my parents (no lease). I was holding down two jobs to build up a nest egg, but neither position was something I saw as long term (no career). Living with my parents didn’t make my dating life all that easy either (single as they come).
All the credit goes to my father for making me realize that I was in the position to make my life precisely what I wanted. Any dreams, any goals, that I wanted to achieve were at my fingertips. It was that October when I decided that the first week in January 2004 I would move to Los Angeles.
That decision is probably in the top three best choices ever made in my life. I took a risk and slammed my hand down on that giant red button, hoping beyond hope there would be no Whammy. Fortunately, when I left LA about four years later, I can say I have absolutely no regrets. I accomplished what I wanted and made some of my own dreams come true.
But don’t think I’m going to wrap things up now with something like, “Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars.” (How great is Casey Kasem though?)
What would be the point of taking a risk without learning from it? Even when trying to make dreams a reality, we’re going to make mistakes. Even when we’re given the opportunity to start everything over, we need to consider what needs to remain consistent and what needs to change.
The other day, while at work, the song ‘Lessons Learned’ by Carrie Underwood began to play on my Pandora account. If you can honestly say this song does not make you think, or lift your spirits even the slightest, then expect a liar liar coming your way. No matter what is going on in life at that very moment a sliver of perspective plunges deep into the heart and soul. This four minute, ten second, piece of reassurance subtly broadcasts a universal message we all need to hear from time to time.
And all the things that break you,
Are the things that make you strong
You can’t change the past,
Cause it’s gone.
And you just gotta move on,
Because it’s all
Perhaps I should make a minor side-note. Obviously, we don’t only learn from mistakes. We also learn from life, we learn from observance and we learn from experience. Ultimately, all of those things factor together when choosing to go one direction or another.
Recently, a reset button appeared yet again before me. Not just a little reboot either. This had the potential to be comparable to being part of the witness relocation program. And to be completely honest, it was tempting.
My lease was ending. My relationship ended. Some promotions at my job had barely slipped through my fingers. Who wouldn’t be tempted to throw life into the wind at that point?
But I considered my “lessons learned.” Building a new foundation (new life) didn’t make any sense when the current ground was doing more than a fine job holding things in place. Just because the button screams “Push Me!” doesn’t mean anything, or everything, currently is wrong. Sometimes life locks up. When your favorite Nintendo game froze, you didn’t think “Awww, I knew I shouldn’t have made Mario throw that fireball at that second Goomba. Better think of a completely new plan of action.”
The problem wasn’t how you decided to play the game, there was just a little dust in the darn cartridge.
So if you should find yourself presented with one of these rare opportunities, don’t be afraid to take the risk. But should you continue to find that button sitting across from you, seriously consider if you’d really be gaining anything, and what you’d potentially be losing.
The way I see it; you can only reset something so often before you eventually erase it forever.
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