Simply Solo Spotlight: I’ve Kissed A Lot Of Frogs
Today we have a real treat. Josephine Angelini, author of Starcrossed, is our guest blogger! Starcrossed is the first book in a teen trilogy that debuted U.S. this month by HarperCollins Publishers. I first came across Josephine when I was reading this article in The Daily. The article described Josephine as “an out-of-work bartender who came out of nowhere to sell a seven-figure book deal — and now she’s being touted as the next J.K. Rowling.” After reading her story of success (which is extremely inspirational to any aspiring author), I was hooked. Within an hour I’d read her blog, followed her on Twitter and checked out her Facebook page.
I jokingly told Chef that I bet Josephine would have a great guest post for my blog, and he said, “Well, why don’t you ask her?” Umm, of course I wasn’t going to ask “the next J.K. Rowling” to write for Simply Solo. That’s crazy talk. But then he said, “Well, what do you have to lose? What’s the worst she can say? No?”
Damn it, he was right. So I asked her. And she immediately agreed! Chef now claims this as the biggest “I told you so” win since we’ve been dating.
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I’ve Kissed A Lot Of Frogs
I write YA supernatural romance. Part of what I do is I take gorgeous young men with inhuman abilities and have them fall madly in love with a young woman. I’m fairly good at writing this, so you’d think I know a lot about dating and love and what makes a perfect man, right? Well, if you look at my over-all track record you’d know …
I’ve Kissed A Lot Of Frogs
One of the questions I get asked the most in interviews is: Are any of the characters in your books based on people you know if real life? Translation: Who the heck is your drool-inducing protagonist, Lucas? And did you ever date this guy, for realz?
My honest answer: I based Lucas on my husband, Albert.
No, Albert can’t fly, and despite his epic body, he is not a demigod. What I mean by “basing” Lucas on my husband has more to do with the relationship that Lucas has with Helen than anything else. The respect, the support, and the laughter that this couple shares is based on us. Since the day I met Albert I knew that the way we were together was the stuff of romance novels. But Albert is not the only guy I’ve ever dated.
Like the title of the piece says, I’ve kissed a lot of frogs.
Don’t get me wrong—I’ve dated some wonderful men. I’ve dated guys that, on paper, were like a laundry list of awesome. And, oh yes, I used to have an actual list of all the qualities I wanted in a man. This list was long. I wanted Mr. Perfect, and there were a couple of times that I thought I had found him—at least as far as satisfying the list was concerned. Granted, there were plenty of Poindexters mixed in with the Perfects, but all in all I have to say I went out with some stand up dudes.
So why wasn’t I ever happy with any of them?
What I didn’t know then and what I know now is that there is a big difference between perfect, and perfect for me. A guy could offer me the moon, and a few of them did, but what was more important than what he offered me was what we offered each other.
It wasn’t enough that he made me laugh—I have to be able to make him laugh too. I finally realized that in order for me to be happy in a relationship I had to know I was giving just as much to my partner as he was giving to me or I would never be satisfied.
This lesson took forever to sink in. I was caught up in this romantic notion that some ideal guy existed, just like in a YA novel, and I jumped from lily pad to lily pad looking for my prince.
Then I met Albert, and I realized that I wasn’t looking for a prince (or a demigod) to come and sweep me off my feet and save me from the frog-infested swamp that surrounded me. I was looking for someone who I could save, as much as he could save me. I was looking for someone who could I enrich as much as he enriched me. To me, that’s love—and it might now always be perfect.
But it is perfect for me.
And THAT’S more romantic than any book I’ve ever read.