Simply Solo Spotlight: My Self-Help Shelf Is Full
Today’s Simply Solo Spotlight is written by R from Single Mom’s Ramble. R says she spent five years after her divorce waiting for something amazing to happen and finally decided she needed to get off her butt and make it happen (something we can all learn from!). I hope you enjoy today’s guest post and please head over to R’s blog for more of her story.
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My Self-Help Shelf is Full
My “self-help shelf” is full! As I squeezed “Calling in “’The One’” into the last inch of space I had left on my “self-help shelf,” I glanced across the titles: “The Happiness Project,” “365 Tao,” “He’s Just Not That Into You,” “Finding Your Way Home,” and “Eat, Pray, Love.” Yes, yes, I WANT to do all that. Eat, Pray and Love someone after finding my way home from the man who’s just not that into me, and into the arms of “the one” who knows the four sacred contracts and also has been studying how to give your mate the best back massage ever. (I’ll have to look and see if they sell that one?!) Where is he and how can the shelf be full? My quest began with the first few that would help me heal my broken heart; the next couple would explain the mystery that is MEN. Then I realized that in order to catch the perfect mate, I needed to understand who I was, so I bought a few more … well you get the idea. I was really hoping to be done with this self-help journey, and on to busying myself reading Bride Magazine or “Blending Families” way before the shelf was full.
My “self-help shelf” is full! You would think after reading all this sage information that I, Rambling Single Mom, should be a happy, successful, religiously enlightened person. I would be someone who understands my deepest wants and needs as well as those of my divinely amazing “soul mate” who came to me when I wasn’t looking! Did I do something wrong; what step did I miss along the way?
My “self-help shelf” is full (did I already tell you that?). I have read every word of those books. I have poured over the deep and meaningful content. I’ve laughed and cried as I’ve seen myself on so many of the pages. I’ve followed the courses: 12 months to happiness, seven weeks to calling in “the one.” I’ve dealt my archetype cards, closed my eyes and opened Richard Bach’s “Messiah’s Handbook” to see what deep message there is for me, and yet … here I am, still single.
My “self-help shelf” is full. For this last book, I actually went to the book store instead of ordering online. Wow! The place is crawling with men, who knew? They didn’t say anything in any of those books about hanging out at the book store! There I was sitting at home on my couch, reading about how to change my life, when I could have been running into “the one” in the self-help aisle, or better yet, the travel section.
My “self-help shelf” is full, and if I really analyze my life, I am happier! Happier than I was when I started this journey; maybe I should give the books some credit? I’m over the heartbreak from “the last one;” I am more aware of my thoughts on religion; I’ve discovered how to listen to my inner intuition “gut;” and I do feel that I have a better understanding of men, what they think, and what I should do to keep them coming back for more! Ok … that’s a lie, I still have no idea! But in the end, I’m happy, my kids are happy, I’m actively seeking my destiny, and the only thing missing is my man. For now that will have to be OK.
My life is full: of work, of kids, of music and of Internet maybes. My fortune cookie said tonight, “We live at the edge of the miraculous.” I am standing on the precipice. I think there’s room for the fortune on the shelf, and then maybe there is another trip to the bookstore in my future? This time however, I think I’ll just find one of those comfy chairs and read the next book there; after all … my “self-help shelf” is full.
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