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About Catherine

I’m Catherine and I started this blog in 2010 to chronicle my journey of being newly single after cancelling my wedding. Now, I’m loving life after heartbreak and keeping my readers updated when I can. Want to reach me? Leave a comment on one of my posts (I LOVE comments!) or send me an e-mail at simplysoloblog@gmail.com. (Full disclosure: it sometimes take me a little while to respond to emails – life is crazy busy but fantastic!)


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  1. Kelly permalink
    June 15, 2010 12:53 pm

    I think its great that you have begun this new chapter and I will be keeping up with it.

  2. Teya permalink
    June 18, 2010 3:10 pm

    Cat I think your blog is absolutely awesome !

  3. August 4, 2010 6:54 pm

    Catherine,
    Sounds like a time of transition for you, full of fun and adventure I hope. I’ll be back to read more, I’ve done the single thing myself.

    • August 4, 2010 7:09 pm

      This is definitely a time of transition, but what’s exciting (while scary) is not knowing exactly what comes next. I really appreciate you stopping by and would love any advice you have to offer!

  4. August 5, 2010 11:05 pm

    Oooh, this looks like it’s going to get interesting…Best to you~

  5. August 10, 2010 4:49 am

    Best of luck on your new journey….I’ll definitely be checking in to see how it’s going:-)

  6. Ramon permalink
    August 14, 2010 11:33 pm

    Just remember that there is always light at the end of the tunnel! It may not be much light but if you look hard enough you can see it..

    • August 15, 2010 10:50 am

      Thanks, Ramon! I see it. It’s distant … sometimes faint, sometimes overwhelmingly bright. But that light at the end of the tunnel is always there and I can’t wait to reach it. 🙂

  7. Danielle permalink
    August 25, 2010 4:09 pm

    We are meant to be friends! I just got out of a 7 year relationship as well! Glad I found your blog.

    • August 25, 2010 4:30 pm

      I’m glad you found it too! I hope some of my posts help you; I imagine this is a hard time. You’ll get through it! Thanks for reading and commenting.

  8. September 2, 2010 11:13 pm

    Totally digging this site and hope things will work out for you! Best of luck from a fellow singleton!

    • September 3, 2010 11:49 am

      Thank you so much! Enjoying yours too! You make me (almost) want to become a runner! haha

  9. September 3, 2010 1:08 pm

    Hay Catherine,

    Sorry to hear – but it is an opportunity.

    This is a lame shot – but I’ve just set up a dating site – come to my blog and have a look.

    BUT

    What is more important is that I’m doing a competition on Twitter to win a free date (all expenses paid) – I think you should enter and have a laugh – I’ll make it my personal mission to check all potentials???

    • September 3, 2010 1:38 pm

      Haha, thanks for this. But I live in the US, so I guess I don’t qualify. Thanks anyway.

  10. September 6, 2010 8:46 am

    Hope You find a bright side to your recent relationship woes. Very much enjoyed reading your thoughts. Hang in there – you’re still young and hot. Go have some fun and try to avoid stressing about the whole dating scene.

    • September 6, 2010 2:48 pm

      Thank you so much! Young and hot, the key to my heart is definitely undeserved flattery! Thanks for reading and for your comment!

  11. September 21, 2010 1:57 am

    Hi, nice to meet you !

  12. ShanLar permalink
    September 30, 2010 11:09 am

    Your blog is great! I love the post about falling. You are a great writer!!! Check out my blog: shanlar.wordpress.com
    Thanks!

  13. October 7, 2010 3:34 am

    Great blog Catherine and snaps to you for being such an inspiration. I look forward to reading your posts. 🙂

  14. BeneathTheSpinLight permalink
    November 19, 2010 5:32 pm

    Today is just one of those days where I need to say:

    • November 21, 2010 10:21 pm

      Aww, thanks 🙂 Appreciate you always reading and commenting! You have great insights.

  15. December 9, 2010 1:48 pm

    Catherine, I am so happy that I found your blog! I am also a newly single girl and your writing gives me hope. Thanks for the encouragement 🙂

    • December 12, 2010 2:02 pm

      Thanks, Jaclyn! I’m glad you found it too. Enjoy your single journey – it can be a ton of fun!

  16. Cities of the Mind permalink
    January 18, 2011 9:37 pm

    A person in the making? That’s an interesting concept and a tough thing to expose fully to an impersonal word. I respect your courage and wish you the best of luck.

  17. nayabash permalink
    January 21, 2011 5:00 am

    Love your blog! I’m new here… yours was the very first blog I read and I went like WOW!

    You’re like an inspiration to people who have been through something similar (me)…

    • January 21, 2011 3:31 pm

      Naya,
      Thanks so much for reading! I really appreciate the kind words; they mean a lot to me. I will definitely check your blog out as well!

  18. January 24, 2011 1:57 pm

    Love the new layout — aren’t you adorable? Yes…yes you are.

    • January 24, 2011 2:52 pm

      Haha, thanks Crystal! You were the first to notice. I almost feel like I should give you some sort of prize! 🙂 Appreciate it.

  19. February 2, 2011 11:20 pm

    Hey, just wanted to say… I love your new logo. 😉

    • February 3, 2011 2:21 pm

      Aww, thank you! I was excited about it too. Makes me feel all official.

  20. February 9, 2011 4:38 pm

    Just wanted to let you know that I named you to receive the highly prestigious Stylish Blogger Award.

    Here’s the link:
    http://workingtechmom.wordpress.com/2011/02/09/did-you-hear-im-stylish

  21. February 11, 2011 12:57 am

    Hey Catherine, I nominated you for most “Stylish Blogger”. See my latest post for your 15 seconds of fame! You deserve to win 🙂
    xxx

  22. BeneathTheSpinLight permalink
    March 1, 2011 4:15 pm

    I’m giving you the Stylish Blogger award because you’re awesome!

    http://beneaththespinlight.wordpress.com/2011/03/01/charlie-sheen-and-i-have-one-thing-in-common-were-winning/

  23. March 17, 2011 12:29 pm

    hey, ive just stumbled across your blog and i love it. i went through a similar experience (well, i wasnt engaged but i was living with ex) around when i started my blog. i wish you every luck in the world, and its kinda a selfish pleasure cos i loved reading your blog!!!

    • March 21, 2011 7:49 pm

      Tinkerbell86: Thanks so much! That means a lot to me. I’ll definitely have to go check out your blog, especially since we both started our blogs after ending major relationships. Good luck to you!

  24. Alexandra permalink
    April 1, 2011 12:07 pm

    just found your blog…maaan i wish i had found it when my engagement broke. i love it and even if you`re one ocean and several lakes, islands&countries away…man our lives are so alike .

    • April 1, 2011 7:13 pm

      Alexandra,
      Thanks for reading and commenting. Sorry to hear you’ve been through some rough times – but I hope you are doing well now!

      • Alexandra permalink
        April 4, 2011 3:01 am

        Hi,
        Tnx for replying. I`m actually very well now..took me a year to bounce back, but hey, life goes on. I`m just glad i caught him before getting to the altar with him. :d

        • April 4, 2011 9:16 pm

          Alexandra,
          You are so right. So much better to have ended things before the marriage than after. Best of luck to you!!

  25. April 16, 2011 3:14 pm

    Love your blog, Catherine. Way to go.

  26. May 15, 2011 6:28 pm

    Way to take lemons and make lemonade, you Go Girl!

  27. Vee Van Dyke permalink
    June 8, 2011 7:33 am

    OK… I may have missed it, but where’s the link for the RSS feed? Pretty please?

    • June 10, 2011 8:16 pm

      I think I may be computer illiterate because I have no idea how to add this to my blog :). In the top right, you can sign up for an email subscription. Or, if you have Internet Explorer, you can click the RSS feed (orange box with the cirlce and the little waves coming off of it) and that will let you subscribe. Here’s the link in case you want to put it in a Google Reader or similar app:
      https://simplysolo.wordpress.com/feed/

      Let me know if you still have troubles! Thanks for reading!

  28. Tala Chan permalink
    June 21, 2011 2:25 pm

    Hello Catherine,

    I really love your blog and I can relate to all your post, just came from a recent breakup and reading your blog makes me smile! keep on writing, best of luck! ~Tala

    • June 22, 2011 9:31 pm

      Tala Chan,
      Thank you so much! Good luck recovering from your breakup – you will be OK, promise 🙂

  29. June 21, 2011 4:26 pm

    Yessss, I am loving the posts I’ve read so far from you! I’ve ‘recently’ broken up- ex-fiance- and I’m in the process of moving forward too, slowly but surely. Thanks for sharing your experiences, they’re both inspiring and entertaining! Good luck with everything.

    Take care

    • June 22, 2011 9:32 pm

      havingabubble,
      Wow, thank you so much for stopping by. I’m sorry to hear everything you’ve been going through. I hope you stick around for a while and best of luck to you!

  30. June 22, 2011 5:55 am

    You write so well. I haven’t experienced a recent break-up but your site covers great tips how to deal with it. Thank you 🙂 I look forward reading your blog!

  31. elamordemivida permalink
    June 22, 2011 9:48 am

    Great blog!!!

  32. June 22, 2011 10:02 am

    Love your blog and your attitude. I became “Simply Solo” three years ago. I wil be following your adventures. Keep up the great work.

    • June 22, 2011 9:34 pm

      Thank you, Michele! I appreciate your stopping by and look forward to getting to know you better!

  33. Happygirl permalink
    June 27, 2011 9:04 pm

    Single &fabulous!

  34. June 28, 2011 3:38 pm

    Love your blog! I went through the same thing as you…a year later i’m the happiest i’ve ever been. I even started a blog about it… Pocketfullofhappiness.com…Check it out! Thanks for the inspiration! 🙂

    • July 14, 2011 9:35 pm

      pocketfullofhappiness,
      Thanks so much! Good to hear a story of success! I definitely will check out your site.

  35. loveofsummer permalink
    July 7, 2011 12:17 pm

    Your story broke my heart, but your blog is awesome, it’s a great way to really keep yourself motivated! You’re really inspiring many other women, all the best girl!!

    • July 11, 2011 8:48 pm

      Thanks, loveofsummer! This blog is about the best thing I ever did fo rmyself. I really appreciate your kind words 🙂

  36. July 22, 2011 7:29 pm

    How am I just finding you now?? 🙂 Can’t wait to catch up on your whole blog!

  37. gogetitgirl permalink
    July 25, 2011 8:55 pm

    I really love your blog! I will definitely come back often.

  38. Androgoth permalink
    July 28, 2011 5:48 pm

    I have just flapped into your Space and noticed
    that you are embarking on a whole new adventure,
    I think that after seven years this journey will be a
    very nice and wickedly exciting world of wonderful
    opportunities, and I wish you well on your quest.

    If you fancy a change of scenery then do call into
    My Gothic Realm, it is a friendly environment, but
    do bring along some garlic, wooden mallet and a
    good supply of sharpened stakes, also watch out
    for the row of Skeletons two hops and a skip past
    the fourteenth tombstone as they are sometimes
    a tad wicked when new peeps call by… 🙂

    Have a delightfully exquisite rest of evening and
    don’t forget to bring along a Cupcake and a Skull,
    sorry about that I just noticed the trackback at the
    footer of your page, and as it is rather apt for my
    Space I decided to add it… lol

    Androgoth

    • July 28, 2011 7:34 pm

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your unique comments Androgoth! 🙂

  39. imrunnerchica permalink
    August 6, 2011 12:46 pm

    Hi Catherine- Kudos to you for moving ahead with your own life! I love your blog! A similar thing happened to me… only mine involved an 8 year marriage that ended in divorce, and me starting all over at 30. I wrote a book about my experience- it’s actually a short story with photos (taken by my now husband!). If you want to take a look at it, check out the Kindle/iPhone,etc. version at Amazon. http://www.amazon.com/the-great-search-ebook/dp/B005FR1BOM/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1312649078&sr=1-1

    Sorry about the crazy long link! At any rate, it’s a story for anyone who is searching for happiness and love. 🙂
    Keep up your awesome blog and best of luck to you!
    Abbey

    • August 9, 2011 7:53 pm

      Thanks, Abbey! Thanks for sharing your short story – I’m looking forward to checking it out. I appreciate your reading and take care!

  40. Pseudonym permalink
    August 22, 2011 1:50 am

    This might help me sleep tonight… it’s been awhile. Can’t even imagine the pain that prompted you to create this site but I’m glad that you did. Scrolling through your empowering break-up songs now :-).

  41. khan permalink
    September 22, 2011 4:00 am

    Hi! Catherine. Thanks for help us. You are such kind women. And, you are very energetic. As a matter of fact, you’ve begun you’re new life, that, means you know what is life and what is important of life?. You’re so hopeful. I wish God shall fulfill you’re all true desire. For any comments or suggestion you can leave you’re feedback on KHAN.ASRAR@YAHOO.COM
    God bless you, dear catherine.

    • September 24, 2011 9:27 pm

      Khan,
      Thanks so much! Apprciate your reading. Good luck to you.

  42. September 22, 2011 5:41 pm

    I came across your blog by following the link on Simm’s(thedatingritual) blogroll. I’ve been having an increadibly down day, and been on a very large rollercoaster of emotions thanks to a guy over the past month and the few posts I’ve read on here so far have made me feels TONS better. Thank you 🙂

    • September 24, 2011 9:24 pm

      Thank you! I appreciate your reading and glad you found the blog. Good luck to you – and hope you are feeling better!

  43. Molly K permalink
    September 24, 2011 6:39 pm

    Thanks for this website Catherine. We all owe you a massive thank you for putting yourself out there. It’s helped me a little bit…….and i’m devastated right now!!
    I hope you are very happy and carefree right now!

    • September 24, 2011 9:16 pm

      Molly,
      Thanks so much for your comment. So sorry to hear you are having a tough time… hope things improve soon. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment!

  44. October 5, 2011 5:57 am

    Catherine,

    Read the bio, and that was be about a year ago. Fresh out of a 5 year, canceled wedding, the whole shebang topped off with the cherry of being cheated on. *chuckles* I’m light-hearted about it now, but then it was definitely a journey. A little over a year later, and I’m loving life. I’ll most certainly be back to read more. 🙂

    • October 8, 2011 11:53 pm

      Hi Edward,
      So nice to meet you! Sorry to hear about all you’ve been through but it sounds like you have a great attitude about it and that you are moving on. That’s great to hear. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

  45. Karen permalink
    October 9, 2011 4:32 am

    I find your blog absolutely amazing! I’m currently going through a break up from a guy I was with for four years and reading your posts has really made me feel like it will get better, I just have to carry on healing. I’m 25 and the quarter life crisis has hit! Thank you for creating this blog, it has given me the positive attitude I need to move on, I look forward to reading more!

  46. October 12, 2011 11:25 am

    I love your attitude. This “about me” is very poignant; seven years together and a cancelled wedding. I can’t imagine how strong you must be. I’ll be keeping up with your blog, Miss Catherine!

    Blessings, Aun Aqui

    • October 13, 2011 7:58 pm

      Aunaqui,
      Thank you for the wonderful comment! I appreciate it – do comment again sometime! Would love to hear what you think.

  47. Becky permalink
    October 13, 2011 2:10 pm

    I can totally relate to your story/feelings. I’m glad someone is daring to show us the raw, honest journey in trying forgive ourselves and others-and to find new happiness. I’ll be reading, laughing, and crying along with you. thanks for doing this.

    • October 13, 2011 7:44 pm

      Thanks so much Becky. Wow, what a nice comment. I’m glad you’ve enjoyed my blog and it’s readers like you that make all this oversharing worth it! 🙂

  48. October 14, 2011 11:27 am

    Catherine (my wife is a Catherine also!), you have a great spirit and attitude. Keep on writing and sharing! If you get a chance check out my blog at http://onemikesmind.wordpress.com/. I’m very new to the blog world, and learn a lot from you seasoned professionals!

    • October 18, 2011 9:52 pm

      Hi onemikesmind,
      Thanks for stopping by! Nice to meet you and tell your wife she has a beautiful name :). Good luck with your blog and I’ll check it out!

  49. October 31, 2011 2:27 pm

    Cool idea for a blog! Sounds like you’ve had some major changes, but I think your approach is fantastic. I’m sure you’ll look back one day and know that it was all meant to be and that your story inspired thousands to start over and lead a life that truly makes them happy!

    • November 2, 2011 9:54 pm

      Thanks so much Jacqueline! It’s not always easy to put it all out here, but comments like yours make it worth it.

  50. Sarah A. Di Leo permalink
    November 4, 2011 5:18 pm

    Your blog is great I will definitely keep reading!

  51. November 6, 2011 4:49 pm

    I absolutely love your blog and I am so happy I randomly found it this week while surfing the web! I seriously feel like we are so similar because I can hear myself in your writing. I love the way you have handled everything you have gone through and reading this has really helped me make changes. I just got out of a three-year relationship and then I had to deal with falling for the first “rebound” guy who ended up getting shady on me, so I was pretty lost (still am). THANK YOU for writing this blog and keep it up.

    PS: I am in PR too and I ALSO used to dream of becoming a writer back in high school. (Rock journalist to be exact..haha)

    • November 12, 2011 7:31 pm

      Hey Amy!
      Thanks for taking the time to comment. I’m glad you found the blog too and that it is helping you! (Glad to meet another PR aspiring writer. Think there are lots of us in our business, actually). I know you are going to be just fine – you sound like you are being strong and paying attention to your emotions. You may be lost now, but you will find your way. Take care of yourself 🙂

  52. vlhudson permalink
    November 11, 2011 5:22 pm

    I have to cancel a wedding that is supposed to happen 12/18. Invites already out all vendors lined up and everyone excited. I hardly know where to start and am procrastinating on making the first move now for a week! Dating for 15 years just decided to in August to make it official and now he is bailing. Found your site when I; like you, goggled “how to cancel a wedding”. It is strangely comforting to know I am not alone in this. Thanks for sharing.

    • November 12, 2011 6:26 pm

      Wow, I am so sorry for what you going through. I hope that you have friends and family that can help you cancel everything. Have you gone to the website There Goes The Bride http://www.theregoesthebride.com/? There is a strong community there as well that can help you. I’m sending positive thoughts your way — take good care of yourself :). I hope that my blog helps in even a little way. I can imagine how tough this time is for you.

  53. Daisy permalink
    November 16, 2011 8:08 pm

    I absolutely looooooooooove reading your blogs, Catherine. I think I probably know quite a lot about you now lol! Seriously though, you have been a huge help and inspiration! I’ve been going through a pretty ridiculous break up..I’ve just been going round and round in circles in a state of indecisiveness and not really allowing the break up to actually happen even though i’m the one that broke it off in the first place! It’s definitely time for me to move on. So, i’m gonna keep on reading so please keep writing! xxx

    • November 17, 2011 8:18 pm

      Daisy,
      Thanks so much for the sweet comment! Glad you’ve enjoyed the blog. Sorry to hear about your breakup – sounds like you are in a good place though and you know it’s the right thing. Just take some time, take care of yourself. Do comment again, I’d love to know what you think!

  54. December 23, 2011 11:22 am

    hey one of my friends suggested me to look at your blog..its awesome..wish u luck n fun for ur single life..:)

  55. Just me permalink
    December 29, 2011 11:16 pm

    I really admire your strength! I’m so happy to know I’m not the only one with this heartache like this. I just found out “my” guy, who broke things off just as we were talking about getting engaged – is now marrying someone else. I will keep checking out this blog and all the comments from everyone else!

  56. January 26, 2012 10:24 pm

    Cat I just found your blog today and it’s refreshing and honest. I’m newly single as well (broke up a month ago) from a 3 year relationship and your blog is very comforting. Keep it up!

    • February 6, 2012 9:34 pm

      Thank you! That’s so wonderful to hear (about my blog – not your breakup). Good luck with everything… I know you are going to be OK!

  57. January 27, 2012 7:43 pm

    Look at that, I am not the only one! I got married to my boyfriend of five years, and divorced five months later. (Cheating bastard.)

    Single lady solidarity.

  58. Muhsin permalink
    February 1, 2012 7:58 am

    Hi catherine,

    this is a valuable information to me. but I feel loneliness & pain after she left me. How can I recover my self. Her memories are hunting me. & I want her back. But she is decided to leave me.

    • February 6, 2012 9:28 pm

      Muhsin,
      I’m sorry to hear what you are going through. What you have to remember is that you don’t want to be with something who doesn’t want to be with you. Don’t you deserve to be with someone who cares about you and would never want to leave you? I would read It’s Called a Breakup Because Its Broken, that may help you recover. You need distance from her and you need to focus on yourself right now. This post (and more importantly, the comments) might help https://simplysolo.wordpress.com/2011/11/10/breakup-prescription/. Best of luck to you!

  59. Michelle permalink
    February 6, 2012 9:04 am

    I. Just saw this and want to wish you good luck. I will be reading your blog and following it. I hope I can learn from you!! Even if you are almost ten years younger

    • February 6, 2012 8:05 pm

      Thank you Michelle! I appreciate your taking the time to read and comment. Take care!

  60. Megan permalink
    February 10, 2012 12:22 am

    I think keeping a blog like this is such a great idea. I just ended a 4 and a half year relationship, and we were engaged. It has been a tough road, but it just helps knowing you are not alone. I will definitely be following your blog 🙂

  61. February 23, 2012 10:13 pm

    Your blog is incredible! I’ve added you to my blog roll and
    I’ve tagged you in my latest post!

  62. Emma permalink
    March 23, 2012 12:58 pm

    Glad I found your blog. Just got out a four 4 years relationship.

    • March 31, 2012 10:23 pm

      Hi Emma,
      Thanks for stopping by. Sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. It’s gonna be OK – Promise!

  63. March 30, 2012 7:06 am

    I look forward to following your blog. Think its really brave what your doing !

  64. Mae permalink
    April 3, 2012 9:55 pm

    Great site! I can definitely use it right now!

  65. Mae permalink
    April 3, 2012 9:55 pm

    Great site! I can definitely use it right now!

  66. ramblingmommy permalink
    April 10, 2012 8:01 pm

    just found your blog and looking forward to reading

  67. Heartbreakerwithbrokenheart permalink
    April 11, 2012 11:13 am

    Just found this! I NEED this!!!

  68. April 27, 2012 5:35 pm

    And now an award just for you and a few others 🙂 http://jensinewall.wordpress.com/2012/04/27/i-am-bidextrous/

  69. May 24, 2012 1:35 pm

    Really enjoy reading your blog…..Finally! Another strong, independent woman who
    “gets it.” I particularly like your analogy of Mr Big. I was starting to think I was the only female on the planet who watched sex in the city and always said Carrie could have done much better (and did when she dated Aiden) Kudos for your insightful observations!

    • May 26, 2012 11:21 pm

      Thanks Mindy! I really appreciate the kind words. And it’s great to hear others feel the same way about Mr. Big… so many of my close friends think he’s the best! Blah. Haha 🙂

  70. June 18, 2012 10:03 am

    I have nominated you for the Sister Of World Bloggers Award. Please go to my blog http://myhappydance.wordpress.com/2012/06/18/sisterhood-of-the-world-blogger-award/ to get information to add your award to your blog. 🙂

  71. Pete permalink
    June 26, 2012 7:37 pm

    I’ve just come across this blog while searching online for advice on how to cope with cancelling a wedding.

    It’s really nice to see you’ve managed to move on and enjoy your life. I really admire you. I’ve tried to do the same but, two years later, I’m still having trouble picking up the pieces after my ex and I broke up just three months before we were supposed to get married. I’ve tried so hard to embrace my freedom – and had some real fun along the way: concerts, parties and doing things I’ve wanted to do but never found time to – but I’ve never had to deal with so many conflicting emotions. The pain is singular, it turns your world upside down in a way other events don’t. It’s so hard to fool myself into thinking I’m happier this way, to tell others around me I am, when the truth is I’m deeply unhappy.

    The experience has made me my own person, but it’s also left a massive void in my life. No matter how I live my life, the happiness feels short-lived and I can feel something missing. I think it will take several years for me to stop feeling like this, but when I do, I’ll know the journey is over and that I’m truly free and not just single.

    I really wish you luck in your journey and I thank you for creating this blog. I’ll be following it with interest. It’s a real comfort to know of someone who has had this experience and is using this experience to help others through it. Like I said, the pain is singular and there are times when I feel really alone sometimes. But that will go away one day.

    Take care for now, Catherine, and thank you again.

    • August 2, 2012 11:22 pm

      Pete,
      I’m sorry for my delay in replying to this, I’m just now catching up on old comments. Although I do hope you will see my reply. “but when I do, I’ll know the journey is over and that I’m truly free and not just single.” That’s a really important point. You can be single and try to force yourself to enjoy the “single life” or whatever it is we see on TV. But if it’s not right in your heart, then it’s just not right. Please give yourself time. Some people heal faster than others, hell, some people force themselves to move on before they are ready. It wll happen in your own time. In the meantime, I would really focus on the things that make you happy and get the most out of those. You deserve it. And maybe consider talking with a professional. They may be able to offer better advice on how to move on.
      Thinking about you 🙂

  72. Liz permalink
    September 5, 2012 12:44 am

    Hi! I’m just going through a break up now and your blog helps me somehow. I was with a guy for a year and all things are good until I found out he’s cheating on me. And gotten another girl pregnant the last 5 months I was with him. I broke it off with him when I found out.

    The toughest was having to wake up the next day. Always. But I hope I’ll get past this.

    • September 13, 2012 9:50 pm

      Liz,
      Wow I’m sorry to hear about what you are going through. You are so right though, you will get past this. Just know that you deserve – and will get – better 🙂

  73. Zoe permalink
    September 28, 2012 8:58 am

    Just in the process of cancelling my wedding after geting told by my ex-partner ‘I just want space to do my own thing but my feelings for you havent changed’ Yeah ok, thats why we’re splitting up! Silly boy. Trouble is we’re still living together at the moment so neither of us is actually getting space! rarrrr! But dont worry- ive told him hes got a month to find somewere to live! Thanks for all your advice. Zoe x

    • September 30, 2012 12:35 pm

      Good luck to you Zoe. Ugh, I know what it’s like to live with someone after you’ve broken up. That’s a tough spot to be in. Good luck for the next month, you are going to be fine! I promise!

  74. Miranda permalink
    October 3, 2012 7:37 am

    What a terrific blog. Seriously heart you. When I see everyone else’s pain, it makes mine feel so much less. Although I had been with a Mr. Emotionally Unavailable for more than two freaking years! I need a good slap. Its only been two weeks but I promise to move forward. I deserve it and if you guys did, I can too.

  75. Pete permalink
    October 7, 2012 4:52 pm

    Hi Catherine! I just wanted to say thank you for your kind words and advice. I wish you a pleasant working week. Keep up the good work!

  76. November 1, 2012 9:09 am

    I Just Been out from a very Harmful relationship .. i guess !! feels nothing but pain 😦

  77. December 15, 2012 11:43 am

    Hi Catherine. I’ve been reading your blog; just found it. I’m very intrigued by the topic(s) and how people manage (mismanage?) relationships, all sorts of relationships. I’ve written several blogs myself about romantic relationships. I’m now a new Follower of your blog & most likely a Commentor as well. All the best! 🙂

  78. January 14, 2013 6:02 pm

    Hi!
    I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Award. This blogger-to-blogger award has a few rules if you choose to accept, and you can read them all here: http://polysingleish.wordpress.com/2013/01/14/the-liebster-award/

    Love reading your work! Thankyou for all your words.

    M

  79. josh607 permalink
    January 26, 2013 10:02 pm

    Hi, I think your blog is so touchingly human. I’m a writer and I love reading stuff like this, it’s why I write.

  80. January 30, 2013 1:05 pm

    Hey girl! This blog is fabulous! I am on the (almost) over you end of a Mr. Big-esque breakup and can relate to just about everything I’ve read so far! I know you started this quite awhile ago…any suggestions on where a new reader should start reading?

    You go, girl!
    -A

    • February 1, 2013 11:38 am

      Hi Ashley! Thanks for reading and taking a moment to comment. Some of the best posts for someone going through a breakup are toward the beginning of the blog, when I first broke up with my ex. So I say start from the beginning! 🙂 enjoy!

  81. March 7, 2013 3:34 am

    I love how honest your blog is, im glad i discovered it! And looking forward to following you through your journey 🙂

  82. April 16, 2013 11:00 am

    I was married for 18 years, and now I am about to be single. Reading your blog is inspiring. I found it as one of my blog followers suggested it. Glad I stopped by. After writing this I will check out some more of your posts.

    If you like please visit my blog livingwithloveandpeace I write about love, life, emotions, being true to yourself, and hope it inspires you.
    With aloha,
    Douglas

  83. Toni permalink
    May 29, 2013 2:17 pm

    I’m so glad there are some other blogs out here with people in my situation. I feel SO alone right now and have no idea where to begin making a new life. My ex-fiance just moved out 2.5 weeks ago, and I’m reeling. I look forward to reading through your story as inspriation.

  84. June 15, 2013 11:00 am

    Hi! Glad I found your blog. I’m going through a similar experience after ending a three-year relationship. I find myself much happier now than I was before, but it’s definitely been an adjustment. I’m looking forward to reading your future posts!

    • June 18, 2013 10:52 pm

      Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting! I know right after the break up can be tough but it sounds like you have a really good attitude about it. Take care of yourself and hope to hear more from you 🙂

  85. Hillary permalink
    August 20, 2013 10:33 pm

    This blog literally saved me and gave me so much strength. Thank you so much for sharing your stories. You are an amazing writer and it is so refreshing to know I am not alone. Again, thank you.

  86. Meghan B permalink
    October 10, 2013 6:31 pm

    Okay, I have just now discovered your blog, and I’m already in love with it. “Simply Solo” is such a wonderful concept. I needed your blog in my single days! Regardless, I’m looking forward to being a regular reader. 🙂

  87. November 1, 2013 5:57 am

    Hey! Your blog is great. I’ve nominated you for a Leibster Award, which generates awareness of up-and-coming blogs. Check out my page to find out more http://avalancheofthesoul.wordpress.com/liebster-award/

  88. January 6, 2014 2:43 am

    Love the way you write!

  89. September 5, 2014 5:48 pm

    Catherine,

    Are you still blogging?

    Cheers
    Sean

    • September 24, 2014 9:27 pm

      Hi Sean- my blog is currently on hiatus but feel free to check out the archives!

  90. Kate permalink
    March 14, 2015 11:10 am

    Hey Catherine, i found your blog (for obvious reasons) and it gives me a lot of encouragement. Hope you are living well :))

  91. Robert permalink
    August 20, 2015 4:48 pm

    Catherine,

    I write tv commercials, and stuff. So creative inspiration, for me, comes from all over the place—most recently, heartbreak.

    I’m sure you’re always looking for new content to write about / post… so I figured I’d send these over to you.

    Was the inspiration for the commercials, a girl that broke my heart? Yes.

    Figured you’d find these heartbreak-inspired commercials funny / totally true.

    -Robert

  92. April 4, 2016 7:23 pm

    Hi Catherine,
    I love your blogs. Your sentiments about breakups are real and positive. That’s how I feel. I went through a breakup after an 18 year relationship (5 years married). I’ve since written a book called Journaling Through A Breakup-How to Effectively Cope Through a Breakup Without Gaining 50 lbs or Becoming Anorexic. I would really like it if you would read and review it (it’s a short book)-tell me what you think. It’s great to see other people who have experienced it come through better and stronger. And I love the picture of you on the tractor. You go girl!! Nancy

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