Simply Solo Spotlight: Just Like My Favorite Pair of Panties
Today’s Simply Solo Spotlight is written by S.D. McKenzie, a certified relationship coach and founder of WhatTheLove™ relationship and singles life coaching, as well as the director of marketing for newly launched dating site, MeetJuliet.com.
I think that today’s guest post is a hoot – the metaphor is very fitting and I know that many of us have been in this situation before. Maybe this post will be an eye opener for some of you out there.
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Just Like My Favorite Pair of Panties
Just say the word in a crowd and you’ll get a chorus of responses, both positive and negative about their experiences, their expertise, and, from some, even information about their “ex.” However, despite our buffet of feelings about them, one thing is true.
Relationships aren’t going away.
But enough with the empty rhetoric, let’s get to the reason that you’re really reading this. You want to know about your favorite pair of panties and why in the world that has anything to do with relationships.
Ok … here we go …
One of the reasons that some people see relationships as a bad thing is because, despite their red flags, warnings and intuition, you chose to stay with someone who didn’t meet your expectations. For whatever reason, you felt it necessary to allow some of the most non-deserving individuals access to your heart.
We’ve all been there … some of us have even been there more than once.
Well, without writing another article, the answer is simple. You thought that, in the end, it would all work out, and when it didn’t, you launched your “relationships suck” campaign, making a solemn vow to tell anyone and everyone who would listen. Or—and I am not sure if this is better—you suffer in silence. (You don’t have to admit to either, just give me an obligatory, yet virtual, head nod).
So … back to the panties.
Any girl knows that there’s nothing like a new pair of panties. The ones that you didn’t intend to buy are the best, because they caught you off guard, but they were just something that you had to have. These new panties are the right color (and for me, also include a matching bra), fit you well and hold you in the places that you need to be held. They don’t really ask you for anything, except perhaps a good washing (duh) and a low-heat dryer setting (or air-dry) to return them to their pre-purchase state. Beyond that, you and your panties have a great relationship, and all is well.
Until that darn elastic snaps …
No problem … nothing a little stitch or safety pin (cut the girl some slack, she’s in a hurry), can’t fix, so it doesn’t seem like a big deal. You can still wear and you can still love your favorite pair of panties.
But now there’s a little hole in the back.
When the (BLEEP) did that get there? Somehow between washes and dries, your favorite pair of panties has a huge flaw. But, that’s not a big deal either … because (duh, again) you love these panties … you can’t imagine life without these panties. There’s nothing else wrong with these panties, but this little hole … wait! Isn’t the elastic doing something wonky, too? No biggie … it doesn’t matter, you can fix it.
You don’t have to get rid of your panties … in fact, our attempts to find similar panties, just in case these panties weren’t all that you hoped they would be, haven’t worked out, so you know, in the depths of your unmated soul, that you are destined to be with these panties …
Of course you are!
These are your panties … and not just any panties, your favorite panties, and you will do whatever it takes to keep them with you because they are familiar to you, and you’ve grown accustomed to having them around.
Bleach stain and all.
Now you’re screaming!
It’s a bleach stain … that doesn’t come out, you can’t fix it, and before you run to the nearest convenience store and purchase a bottle of fabric dye as your last die-hard effort to preserve the bond between you and your underwear … let me stop you.
Just let it go.
But just like you hold on to these panties, you also hold on to relationships that aren’t working. The things that held it together snapped, the communication between the two of you developed holes and finally, something happened that couldn’t be undone.
Again, just let it go.
It’s okay to let it go!
It’s okay to decide that you actually need, want and deserve something better. But even after you’ve come to that conclusion, too many of you (and by you I mean “us”), you do everything you can to keep what you want, despite the fact that it’s not holding you the way it used to, staying together like it should, or remaining stain-free and you have no clue why.
… just like your favorite pair of panties.
Are you still holding on to some “old panties” or did you let them go and start anew?
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