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Top 10 Empowering Breakup Songs

January 13, 2011

As we’ve discussed before, there are two types of breakup songs.

Songs that depress the hell out of you: These songs help you wallow in your breakup. You hear one of these songs, and suddenly you are sobbing and miserable. They remind you of everything that sucks about your breakup, about your ex and about your whole damned life. Good activities while listening to these songs include thinking about the last time you and your ex kissed, staring at pictures of the two of you when you were blissfully, sickeningly happy, and eating Ben and Jerry’s in your pajamas after not showering or leaving the house for days. Here’s a list of these songs. Oh, and be sure to read the comments for some great additions to my initial list.

Songs that empower you to move forward: These songs make you realize you are going to be okay. They inspire you to move on, and maybe help you develop some healthy anger toward your ex. These songs remind you of how much better you are without him/her, whether it’s because he/she was a jerk or because he/she just wasn’t right for you and now you can find “the one.” Good activities while listening to these songs include singing like a maniac in your car, dancing in the shower and rocking out with your friends while drinking wine and eating ice cream. Ice cream is a must for either set of songs – this is a breakup, after all.

Without further ado, here is my top 10 list of empowering breakup songs:

10.

Song title: You’ll Think Of Me

Artist: Keith Urban

Best lines:

Take your records, take your freedom

Take your memories, I don’t need ‘em

Take your space and take your reasons

But you’ll think of me
And take your cat and leave my sweater

‘Cause we have nothing left to weather

In fact I’ll feel a whole lot better

But you’ll think of me, you’ll think of me

Someday I’m gonna run across your mind

But don’t worry, I’ll be fine

I’m gonna be alright

While you’re sleeping with your pride

Wishing I could hold you tight

I’ll be over you
And on with my life

9.

Song title: So What

Artist: Pink

Best lines:

And guess what, I’m havin’ more fun

And now that we’re done

I’m gonna show you tonight

I’m alright, I’m just fine

And you’re a tool so

So what? I am a rock star

I got my rock moves

And I don’t want you tonight

8.

Song title: Better In Time

Artist: Leona Lewis

Best lines:

Thought I couldn’t live without you

It’s gonna hurt when it heals too

It’ll all get better in time

Even though I really love you

I’m gonna smile cause I deserve to

It’ll all get better in time

Since there’s no more you and me

It’s time I let you go

So I can be free

And live my life how it should be

No matter how hard it is I’ll be fine without you

Yes I will

7.

Song title: Fighter

Artist: Christina Aguilera

Best lines:          

After all of the stealing and cheating

You probably think that I hold resentment for you

But, uh uh, oh no, you’re wrong

‘Cause if it wasn’t for all that you tried to do

I wouldn’t know just how capable I am to pull through

So I wanna say thank you

‘Cause it makes me that much stronger

Makes me work a little bit harder

It makes me that much wiser

So thanks for making me a fighter

Made me learn a little bit faster

Made my skin a little bit thicker

Makes me that much smarter

So thanks for making me a fighter

6.

Song title: Carousel

Artist: Laura Izibor

Best lines:          

Every day has its ups and downs

You think you’re lost

You will be found

Most of us want the same old things

Someone to love

What it brings

I know it’s hard it gets tough sometimes

You gotta hold on, like a carousel

Going around and around and around and around

5.

Song title: Irreplaceable

Artist: Beyoncé

Best lines:          

So since I’m not your everything

How about I’ll be nothing, nothing at all to you

Baby I won’t shed a tear for you, I won’t lose a wink of sleep

‘Cause the truth of the matter is replacing you is so easy

To the left, to the left

To the left, to the left

To the left, to the left

Everything you own in the box to the left

To the left, to the left

Don’t you ever for a second get to thinking you’re irreplaceable

4.

Song title: I Saw The Sign

Artist: Ace of Base

Best lines:          

I, I got a new life

You would hardly recognize me I’m so glad

How could a person like me care for you?

(Why?) Why do I bother

When you’re not the one for me

Ooooo, is enough, enough?

I saw the sign and it opened up my mind!

And I am happy now living without you

I’ve left you, oh-oh-OH!

I saw the sign and it opened up my eyes I saw the sign

No one’s gonna drag you up to get into the light where you belong

3.

Song: Believe

Artist: Cher

Best lines:          

What am I supposed to do

Sit around and wait for you

And I can’t do that

There’s no turning back

I need time to move on

I need love to feel strong

‘Cause I’ve had time to think it through

And maybe I’m too good for you Ohh Oh

But I know that I’ll get through this

‘Cause I know that I am strong

I don’t need you anymore

Oh I don’t need you anymore I don’t need you anymore

No I don’t need you anymore

2.

Song: Survivor

Artist: Destiny’s Child

Best lines:          

Now that you are out of my life,

I’m so much better,

You thought that I’d be weak without ya,

But I’m stronger,

You thought that I’d be broke without ya,

But I’m richer,

You thought that I’d be sad without ya,

I laugh harder,

You thought I wouldn’t grow without ya,

Now I’m wiser,

You thought that I’d be helpless without ya,

But I’m smarter,

You thought that I’d be stressed without ya,

But I’m chillin’

You thought I wouldn’t sell without ya,

Sold nine million.

Thought I couldn’t breathe without you,

I’m inhalin’

You thought I couldn’t see without you,

Perfect vision,

You thought I couldn’t last without ya,

But I’m lastin’

You thought that I would die without ya,

But I’m livin’

Thought that I would fail without ya,

But I’m on top,

Though it would be over by now,

But it won’t stop,

You thought that I would self-destruct,

But I’m still here,

Even in my years to come,

I’m still gon’ be here.

DRUM ROLL FOR THE #1 MOST EMPOWERING BREAKUP SONG:

1.

Song title: I Will Survive

Artist: Gloria Gaynor  

Best lines:          

First I was afraid

I was petrified

Kept thinking I could never live

Without you by my side

But I spent so many nights

Thinking how you did me wrong

I grew strong

I learned how to carry on…

Go on now go walk out the door

Just turn around now

‘Cause you’re not welcome anymore

Weren’t you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye

You think I’d crumble

You think I’d lay down and die

Oh no, not I

I will survive

As long as i know how to love

I know I will stay alive

I’ve got all my life to live

I’ve got all my love to give

And I’ll survive

I will survive

What songs would you add to this list? It definitely needs to be rounded out with a few more male artists, because poor Keith Urban is there all on his lonesome. I’d love to hear your additions!


699 Comments leave one →
  1. January 13, 2011 9:00 am

    Great list! I definitely listened to some Beyonce after break ups. I also liked Over You by Daughtry and Where Have You Been by Reel Big FIsh.

  2. Ashley permalink
    January 13, 2011 9:29 am

    I find it really funny that I never realised what The Sign was about when I blasted it on my boombox in the early 90s

    • January 13, 2011 10:06 am

      Ashley,
      LOL I thought the same thing. It wasn’t until after my breakup when I was brainstorming a song for a drunken night of karaoke that I realized what “I Saw The Sign” REALLY was about! And I really did see the sign… so it’s been my official karaoke song since the spring!

      • January 13, 2011 5:16 pm

        Yeah, this happened to me, too. I randomly heard ‘The Sign’ on the radio one day, post break-up, and it was like a revelation. An Ace of Base revelation, haha. I had the same thing with U2’s ‘Who’s Gonna Ride Your Wild Horses’.

        • January 17, 2011 9:42 pm

          Haha, streetlightpeople12. Love “An Ace of Base revelation.” :)

      • megan permalink
        October 14, 2011 6:26 pm

        my boyfriend broke up with me cuz im not his type the day after the dance

        • December 28, 2011 8:12 pm

          Darlin, no one is his type, except maybe Monkey Girl. More fool he.

        • sarah permalink
          February 27, 2012 7:46 pm

          my bf broke up with me after a year a half because i was going through a hard time and was busy getting help so apparently i changed therfore he doesnt love me anymore ouch

        • Emily permalink
          May 23, 2012 8:57 pm

          I don’t know my live-in bf of 4 years broke up with me after he asked for my parents blessing. His only explanation was “we’re different”. Sometimes people just suck!

        • May 26, 2012 11:22 pm

          That does suck Emily. I’m really sorry. You’ll find someone who would never lead you on that way. Take care of yourself.

        • Lucy permalink
          December 7, 2013 1:45 pm

          Emily, same thing with me. its Just sad.

    • cartermm permalink
      April 17, 2011 8:38 pm

      Same here!! This is a great list by the way! Making my friend a break-up cd now and you’ve given me great ideas!

      • April 18, 2011 7:34 pm

        Thanks for checking the list out! So nice of you to make a break up CD for your friend. I’ve never had a mix tape made for me… so jealous!

  3. January 13, 2011 9:50 am

    I’m cracking up that Ace of Base and Cher are on this list.

    Songs I would add? Of course, I have to give it to my boyfriend John Mayer and his song, “In Repair”—best lines: “And now I’m walking in the park and all of the birds, they dance below me, maybe when things turn green again, you can tell your friends it’s good to know me.”

    Also, Adele’s cover of, “That’s it, I quit, I’m movin’ on,” can’t forget Alanis Morrissette’s “You Oughta Know,” Amy Winehouse’s “Tears Try On Their Own,” and Carrie Underwood’s “Undo it.”

    -Lucky

    • January 13, 2011 10:10 am

      Lucky,
      Don’t you know I’ve hardly listened to music since the 90s?? OF COURSE my list of full of Ace of Base and Cher — I don’t know of anything else!! Haha. Another funny note, my supervisor at my company knows about the blog, and he one day came into the office and told me that he’s been thinking about it, and my theme song should be Believe by Cher. He suggested I have it play in the background of the blog. LOL!

      I’m definitely going to have to check out these songs, I haven’t heard most of them. Oh, and “You Oughta Know” was almost on this list – if this was a top 11 list, it definitely would have made it. :)

      • Amber permalink
        October 13, 2011 10:32 pm

        Cher the Love! :)

      • April 15, 2013 11:58 am

        Ok heres a few Ideas, Keep me hanging on kim wilde, get out jojo, I hate everything about you, no love lil wayne Eminem. I have been with same man 21 years and the past six have been hell! Hes an alcoholic pill popper who steals from his kids and wife. I have left him several times and prick keeps finding me telling me he gonna change, he can’t live without us etc. He hasn’t had a job in six years and I need to listen to as much hate songs as possible to get through this. Any suggestions, similar to what I have suggested? Thanks, Anita

    • scandalousmuffin permalink
      June 21, 2011 1:46 pm

      “You Oughta Know” came to the forefront of my mind also.

  4. January 13, 2011 10:19 am

    I’ll add to the chorus for Daughtry and Alanis, suggesting a few others that empower me at the gym: Maroon 5’s “Makes Me Wonder,” “Gives You Hell” by All American Rejects and Carrie Underwood’s “Before he Cheats.”

    And while I’m not a country girl, Terri Clark’s “Better Things to Do” is pretty damn funny.
    :)

    • January 13, 2011 12:28 pm

      Good suggestions, thanks! I almost added “When He Cheats,” because wrecking someone’s truck is super empowering, lol. But if I started down the cheating song path, I’m gonna have to include “It’s Not Right, But It’s OK” by Whitney Houston and “As Good As I Was To You” by Lorrie Morgan :) Lots of good cheating songs to add to this list!!

  5. Nancy permalink
    January 13, 2011 10:52 am

    Kelly Clarkson’s Since You’ve Been Gone. “But since you been gone I can breathe for the first time
    Im so movin on Yeah yeah Thanks to you Now I get
    What I want Since you been gone”

    • January 13, 2011 12:49 pm

      Oooh! That’s a good one! :) Thanks for the suggestion!

      • Sammy permalink
        February 27, 2012 11:13 pm

        Another good one is Jessie James- I look so good without you!!

  6. Nancy permalink
    January 13, 2011 10:54 am

    And Boston’s Don’t Look Back. Not a break up song, but a great motivator.

  7. 2blu2btru permalink
    January 13, 2011 10:56 am

    I happen to be a fan of All American Rejects “Gives You Hell” and Jo Dee Messina’s “My Give A Damn’s Busted.” I don’t know how you are with R&B but one of my FAVORITES is a song called “I Heard it Through the Grapevine” by a group from the 90s, Brownstone.

    “I heard it through the grapevine/that you weren’t feeling too fine./Well I hope that you feel much better/yes I do-oo-oo-oo./ It happened on the day I left/Since that day you haven’t been the best./Hope that you feel much better/ yes I do-oo-oo-oo.

    Never do something that will catch up to you/You did me wrong and told me lies/never do something that you’ll live to regret/you hurt me so bad, baby/Deep in my heart I feel sorry for ya/You had to lose a damn good thang/Loving me could’ve been good/ Losing my good love was such a shame.”

    Who doesn’t want to think of their ex being sick over them and feeling only pity about it (and not the desire to crawl back)?

    I could go on forever, but I love your list! :D

    • January 13, 2011 12:52 pm

      Haven’t heard of any of these!! I need to expand my music horizons :). Will check them out tho..the Grapevine one sounds awesome!

    • Gabriella permalink
      December 14, 2011 12:01 pm

      @2blu2btru : : Thank you for reminding me about this song! I used to LOVE Brownstone. Whatever happened to them???

  8. January 13, 2011 11:10 am

    “Forget you” by Cee Lo Green

    “I see you driving ’round town
    With the girl I love and I’m like,
    Forget you!
    Oo, oo, oooo
    I guess the change in my pocket
    Wasn’t enough, I’m like,
    Forget you!
    And forget her too!
    Said, if I was richer, I’d still be with ya
    ha , aint that some shh?
    And although there’s pain in my chest
    I still wish you the best with a…
    Forget you!”

    The original version is probably better if your a little angry ;)

    • January 13, 2011 12:58 pm

      Haha yeah that’s a good one. I realized on the way to work today that I totally forgot that one!! Thanks for the comment.

  9. January 13, 2011 12:55 pm

    There’s actually another Ace Of Base song that’s even more empowering, from the same album. “Don’t Turn Around.”

    if you wanna leave
    i won’t beg you to stay
    and if you gotta go darling
    maybe it’s better that way
    i’m gonna be strong
    i’m gonna be fine
    don’t worry about this heart of mine
    just walk out that door
    yea see if i care
    go on and go now

    • January 13, 2011 1:45 pm

      How’d I forget the best Ace of Base song EVER??!!! Thanks for the addition :)

  10. January 13, 2011 1:58 pm

    Thé break-up song for me and my friends is one you most likely won’t know (and won’t get too much power from, lol) since it’s in Dutch – Ik leef niet meer voor jou (I don’t live for you anymore) by Marco Borsato. It just crossed my mind since you were still looking for “male” break-up songs.

    I don’t live for you anymore/Gone have all the years/When I believed/That we were happy.
    And now life belongs to me again/My heart is free again/I am so happy it’s over.
    I don’t live for you anymore/There’s no use in trying/To stay here/And dominate me.
    I have had to go through too much/I’ve had it with you/So it’s time to send you away.

    I don’t live for you anymore/The nights have gone/In which I was waiting for you/All alone.
    You have lied to me too hard/Deceived me and cheated on me/So dry those tears in your eyes.

    So get the hell out of here/I can’t stand it anymore/And if you wanna leave/That would be a blessing.
    You have failed me too many times/I’ve had it with you/Just pack up and go.
    I don’t live for you anymore.

    • January 17, 2011 9:26 pm

      Lies – OMG that is awesome!! I love those lyrics. Something so empowering about just saying, “I don’t live for you anymore,” and know it’s true. Thank you for sharing!

  11. January 13, 2011 7:13 pm

    I actually listened to Kelly Clarkson’s Breakaway CD on repeat in my car for about 4 months after I broke up with my University boyfriend… It is filled with all kinds of amazing break up songs. And of course, my favorite blow off steam break up song is “F*ck you” by Cee Lo Green!

    • January 17, 2011 9:27 pm

      TL,
      Thanks, sounds like Kelly Clarkson is a good girl to listen to during a breakup! F*ck You is definitely a good one too – I can’t believe I forgot it for this list! :) Thanks for your comment!

  12. Andrea permalink
    January 13, 2011 8:05 pm

    My husband and I are in the process of divorcing, after 13 years together and what turned out to be many, many affairs. For the first few months I lived on a steady diet of “You Oughtta Know” and Justin Timberlake’s “What Goes Around Comes Around”. I still crank them on the treadmill.

    Let me paint this picture for you, baby

    You spend your nights alone
    And he never comes home
    And every time you call him
    All you get’s a busy tone
    I heard you found out
    That he’s doing to you
    What you did to me
    Ain’t that the way it goes

    When you cheated girl
    My heart bleeded girl
    So it goes without saying that you left me feeling hurt
    Just a classic case
    A scenario
    Tale as old as time
    Girl you got what you deserved

    And now you want somebody
    To cure the lonely nights
    You wish you had somebody
    That could come and make it right

    But girl I ain’t somebody
    I’m out of sympathy

    • January 17, 2011 9:29 pm

      Andrea,
      I’m sorry to hear about your divorce, I can only imagine how hard this time has been for you. Thanks for you suggestions – You Oughtta Know is PERFECT when you are pissed at an ex and have been done wrong!! “Are you thinking of me… when you F her?!” is like one of the most powerful lines in a song ever, I think.
      Take care of yourself! Thanks for reading/commenting!

  13. January 14, 2011 5:30 am

    Have you ever looked up which song was top of the charts when you were born? Mine (in the UK charts) was I Will Survive! I think that’s a good song to be born to as well as a good post-break-up-empowerment song!

    • January 17, 2011 9:33 pm

      Matt,
      No I hadn’t until you just mentioned it! The #1 song when I was born was “Like A Virgin” hahaha!
      Too funny about I Will Survive! That is a good song to be #1 when you were born (much better than Like a Virgin anyway haha!)
      Thanks for the comment!

    • ladycamigwen permalink
      July 15, 2011 1:36 am

      I think I more particularly like Cake’s remade version of “I Will Survive”. It has a little more of an upbeat feel and nothing can beat…. “I would’ve changed my F*cking lock, I would’ve made you leave your key, if I’d have known for just one second, you’d be back to bother me…”

      • July 17, 2011 4:43 pm

        Yeah, a few people mentioned Cake’s version. I still need to check it out. Thanks for stopping by!

  14. January 14, 2011 8:34 am

    When you put the original post on Twitter, I took the other approach. As a joke growing up my female friends and I used to think of songs that told the OTHER person — it’s done — get out of here, and stay out.

    Some of those included:
    GNR: I used to love her (but I had to kill her)
    Motley Crue: Don’t go away mad (Just go away)
    Meatloaf: Two out of three ain’t bad

    Your other readers have made some awesome selections.

    • January 17, 2011 9:36 pm

      Ross,
      That’s a funny approach; I’ve never thought about it that way. Have you heard “Rest Stop” by Matchbox 20? This is the song I could see giving to someone to listen to as my form of a breakup song…Here’s some lyrics:

      Just three miles from the rest stop
      And she slams on the breaks
      She said I tried to be but I’m not
      And could you please collect your things
      I don’t wanna be cold
      I don’t wanna be cruel
      But I gotta find more
      Than what’s happening with you
      If you’d – open up the door

      She said – while you were sleeping
      I was listening to the radio
      And wondering what you’re dreaming when
      It came to mind that I didn’t care
      So I thought – hell if it’s over
      I had better end it quick
      Or I could lose my nerve
      Are you listening – can you hear me
      Have you forgotten

  15. January 14, 2011 8:45 am

    Oh this is a great post!

    My contribution:

    “Ten Steps” Marit Larsen
    Quite possibly the most chipper break up song Ive come across.
    Such a joyful happy tune, you can just picture her skipping out the door. Ahhh,it makes me feel happy.

    [Lyrics]
    I got a secret I’m dying to tell you
    You’re sound asleep, I don’t wanna wake you
    I’m about to break your heart and you don’t know
    You don’t know

    I’ve got my suitcase it’s locked and loaded
    And just in case you haven’t noticed
    I’m about to break your heart or so I hope
    So I hope

    Ten steps from your bed to your door
    Ten steps and I’ll see you no more
    I’ve tried and I, can’t cry tonight
    I’ve tried and I, can’t cry tonight
    Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye

    You look sweet like when I first saw you
    Heaven knows how I once adored you
    I’m about to kiss your mouth one last time

    No dream under your eyelashes
    Could ever prepare you for this
    I’m about to break your heart like you broke mine

    (repeat chorus)

    Serene

    • January 17, 2011 9:37 pm

      Serene, thanks for the addition! I’ve never heard this song, but it sounds awesome! I loved the “I’m about to break your heart like you broke mine.” Very intense!

  16. January 14, 2011 9:22 am

    Woooohooo. Totally jazzed about Ace of Base as well!

    In addition to some of the other great suggestions provided above, I’d like to include Ben Folds’ “Song for the Dumped” and several Tom Petty classics such as “Don’t Do Me Like That”, “Don’t Come Around Here No More” and “Listen to Her Heart”:

    She’s gonna listen to her heart
    It’s gonna tell her what to do
    She may need a lot of lovin
    But she don’t need you.

    Oh, and I know Aretha Franklin’s “Respect” is intended for those in a relationship, but boy, I think it’s a great song no matter the subject!

    • January 17, 2011 9:38 pm

      Oohhh good call on the Respect. Hadn’t even thought of that one, but it might be a really good empowering breakup song! Thanks for all your suggestions :)

  17. 2 New Beginnings permalink
    January 14, 2011 10:54 am

    Great post! Sometimes you just need a song to depress the hell out of you, but then there are times you just need to hear a song that says…hey yeah I’m so worth much more and I’m moving on! C-ya! ;-) Here are some empowering songs I like!

    “Undo It” Carrie Underwood
    You stole my happy You made my cry
    Took the lonely and took me for a ride
    And I wanna Uh-uh-uh-uh-uh undo it. You had my heart, now I want it back I’m starting to see everything you lack
    Boy, you blew it You put me through it
    I wanna Uh-uh-uh-uh-uh undo it

    “Watch Me Shine” Joanna Pacitti (Legally Blond ;-))
    Bet you don’t think I can take it. But my mind and body are strong. Bet you don’t think I can make it
    It won’t take long. Bet you don’t think I can take it
    But my mind and body are strong. Bet you don’t think I can make it. It won’t take long. Now watch me shine…

    “Sucks to be You” Danielle Peck
    I tried to love you baby. But I couldn’t make you happy
    And it just really shouldn’t be so hard. I gave and you kept taking. You made some big mistakes and
    You were always careless with my heart
    I’m happier now. Ain’t it funny how
    All it took was leaving you. To finally feel good again
    You say you’re sorry now. That you figured out
    Just what it was that you had to lose. Well it sucks to be you.

    “Over It” Katharine McPhee
    Wanting you,to be wanting me. No that ain’t no way to be.
    How I feel, read my lips,because I’m so over..
    Moving on, it’s my time, you never were a friend of mine.
    Hurt at first, a little bit, but now I’m so over.I’m so over it..

    “Since You’ve Been Gone” Kelly Clarkson
    “Goodbye to you” Scandal

    • January 17, 2011 9:23 pm

      2NewBeginnings: Great suggestions! I like “Over It” a lot! The best part of this post is reading all of your comments…. my iPod is really lacking some good breakup songs! :)

  18. January 14, 2011 6:34 pm

    I was going to write kelly clarkson, “Since you’ve been gone” but i see someone else already suggested it. Can you like a comment? :)

    Funny story about Beyonce’s Irreplaceable:
    I was dating a guy, who I refer to as colby on darcy dates (see yankees vs. red sox). after a year of serious dating he broke my heart into a million tiny pieces by breaking up with me suddenly 2 days before christmas and a week before my step brothers wedding. His ring tone had always been Beyonce’s irreplaceable, as it had come out two months a month into dating him and it reminded me of him for some reason. Fast forward, 3 months after dumping me suddenly and me crying my eyes out for 2 of those months, he contacted me, claiming he had made a terrible mistake and he wanted to get back together. I texted him back:
    “To the left, to the left, everything you own in a box to the left.” It was one of my favorite texts I had ever sent. I may have to write about that on Darcy Dates! Great post catherine!

    • January 17, 2011 9:19 pm

      Darcy,
      What a great story!! Thanks for sharing. I LOVE your text response. I hope you saved it – how liberating!! I definitely think you should write about it!

  19. January 16, 2011 5:21 pm

    Im married but I still get a kick out of singing these types of songs when I’m by myself! They are still empowering no matter what stage of life you are at, they can really help motivate you… It’s all in the attitude of them. “Who Are We Fooling?” by Brooke Fraser is a beautiful song too, but more about a mutual break-up. Very well-written.
    Great post Catherine!

    • January 17, 2011 9:17 pm

      Littecurio, thanks for your comment! I agree, some of these songs you can enjoy even if you are happily in a relationship. I think we all have felt heart ache at some point though, so we can all empathize (in some way) to some of these songs. I never heard that Brooke Fraser song, but just checked out the lyrics… great stuff! Thanks for sharing.

  20. January 16, 2011 5:29 pm

    I looked through my breakup playlist, Catherine, and absolutely NONE of them are empowering! haha whoops! Guess I’ll need to start on a new playlist :)

    • January 17, 2011 9:14 pm

      Maggie, haha, trust me, I have the same problem. Most of them are depressing as hell – maybe that’s why this list took me so long to finally write! Some great suggestions in the comments, get downloading!

    • January 17, 2011 10:17 pm

      hehe, I meant songs like “I will survive”! Don’t worry, no one’s dancing to “All by myself”! ;)

      • January 17, 2011 10:28 pm

        Hahaha, great clarification. No judgement here… I definitely sang Bonnie Raitt’s “I Can’t Make You Love Me” to myself even while I was blissfully happy! lol!

  21. January 17, 2011 1:12 pm

    Catherine, I just read your comment from December, about my life, on Jessica’s blog. Thank you so much.
    Now for your current post–I always try to match my posts with music from Playlist–Sometimes it works, and sometimes, not so much!!

    • January 17, 2011 9:11 pm

      Judie,
      No problem! As far as music – I’ve never been much of a music buff, so trying to match every post to music would be IMPOSSIBLE for me! Good luck with that!

  22. January 18, 2011 7:47 pm

    Mockingbird by Rob Thomas.

    I have a letter to best buy guy up :) i think it’ll make you laugh

    • January 19, 2011 12:54 am

      Oh awesome. Heading over there now. Thanks for the addition!

  23. Amy P. permalink
    January 28, 2011 5:04 pm

    Okay..I think the best song post-break-up is “I Pray For You”. I pray your brakes go out runnin’ down a hill.
    I pray a flowerpot falls from a windowsill
    And knocks you in the head like I’d like to.
    I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls
    I pray your flyin’ high when your engine stalls
    I pray all your dreams never come true
    Etc……I don’t really like country songs per se but this one warms my soul!

    • February 28, 2011 10:16 pm

      Hilarious! My sister really likes this song too. Right after my breakup she sent it my way. Thanks for the addition!

    • HaveNeverBeenBetter permalink
      November 27, 2011 9:21 pm

      The absolute best song ever, funny that i first heard it with my now ex. I guess this song is the only good thing i got out of the relationship!

  24. February 15, 2011 9:19 pm

    Have just spent all of last night and all of today reading this blog.. You really are an inspiration to us all! Although I am in a loving long-term relationship right now (knock on wood!) I too have had my share of breakups and pain, and since I am a total music-buff, I thought I’d share my 2 cents :) There are a few sad songs, and a few screw-you songs, but instead of dropping a few songs on each respective blog entry, I’ll get them all down here..

    PS. Congrats on your 100th post! :)

    Kelly Clarkson – Behind these hazel eyes:
    “Seems like just yesterday, you were a part of me
    I used to stand so tall, I used to be so strong
    Your arms around me tight, everything felt so right
    Unbreakable, like nothin’ could go wrong
    Now I can’t breathe, no, I can’t sleep
    I’m barely hanging on.
    Here I am, once again, I’m torn into pieces
    Can’t deny it, can’t pretend,
    Just thought you were the one
    Broken up, deep inside
    But you won’t get to see the tears I cry
    Behind these hazel eyes”

    Savage Garden – The lover after me:
    “Here I go again I promised myself I wouldn’t think of you today
    It’s been seven months and counting
    You’ve moved on
    I still feel exactly the same
    It’s just that everywhere I go all the buildings know your name
    Like photographs and memories of love
    Steel and granite reminders
    The city calls your name and I can’t move on”

    Fefe Dobson – Don’t let it go to your head:

    “Just cause I can’t go on
    Just cause I die when you’re gone
    Just cause I think of you in bed
    Don’t let it go to your head”

    Three Days Grace – I hate everything about you:
    “I hate everything about you
    Why do I love you”

    Alter Bridge – Ghost of days gone by:
    “The misery I know
    Like a friend that won’t let go
    Is creeping up on me now once again.
    Do you feel the same
    For what once remained
    Yesterday is gone, we can’t go back again
    Do you ever cry for the ghost of days gone by.”

    Alter Bridge – Shed my skin:
    “I am not alone
    I live with the memories, regret is my home
    This is my true freedom
    Express all the feelings of what I’ve become
    I watch the rising sun
    I hope I find some peace today
    It seems I’ve gone away
    It seems I’ve lost myself
    It seems I’ve really lost my way
    It seems I’ve lost myself
    It seems I’ve
    Shed my skin”

    Default – It only hurts:
    “Can hold my breath only for a little while, ’til reality starts sinking in,
    Once again I’m settling for second best; turn the pages, skip to the end.
    It only hurts when your eyes are open, lies get tossed and truth is spoken,
    It only hurts when that door gets open, dreams are lost and hearts are broken.”

    Dead by April – Stronger (Warning: Metal song!)
    “So I got my escape out from your prison
    Feelings of fear, feelings of joy, nothing can get me now
    Feeling alive may take me longer than I ever expected.
    And now it’s time to show them all, what I am, who I am, what I think!
    Answer me for all that I’m asking
    Taking back what I’ve been missing
    Looking back making me stronger
    My despair breaks me no longer”

    Lostprophets – Last train home:
    “To every broken heart in here
    Love was once a part, but now it’s disappeared
    She told me that it’s all a part of the choices that your making
    Even when you think you’re right, you have to give to take
    But there’s still tomorrow, forget the sorrow
    And I can be on the last train home
    Watch it pass the day, as it fades away
    No more time to care, no more time, today”

    Lily Allen – Fuck you
    “Fuck you, fuck you very, very much!”

    And then on the days that you feel that you’re done being sad, broken, angry, bitter, etc etc.. When you feel you’re finally ready to throw yourself out there again, here’s arguably the most beautiful song in the world. It’s my boyfriend’s and my song – but if you ever need it, I’ll lend it to ya ;)

    Note: When you play this, switch off everything else, close your eyes and REALLY listen to these lyrics. Prepare for tears. And prepare to feel GOOD about life and love.

    India Arie – Ready for love.

    I’m not going to post the lyrics here because I think you should hear them from India herself the first time. And anyway, I’d just end up posting the whole song… :)

    • February 16, 2011 10:50 pm

      Wow, thank you so much! These are some amazing additions and I’m off to listen to the India Arie song.
      I also appreciate your kind words and your reading the blog. It means a lot to me, and I’m so happy that you have enjoyed it. It’s not always easy to put this all out there, so I really appreciate it when I get some an amazing comment such as yours. Sort of made my day, hell, my week… so thanks!!

      • February 26, 2011 7:44 am

        Yea I completely understand – and think you’re kickass for baring your soul and being so brutally honest about it all!

        Let me know what you thought of India Arie when you’ve had a chance to listen ;)

        • February 28, 2011 10:15 pm

          Wow, I had forgotten to check out the song until I saw your comment. I’m so happy you reminded me. I just listened to it – it is so beautiful!! She has such a wonderful voice and I really like the message. It actually made me tear up a bit – I’m not quite ready for love, the way she seems to be/says she is… but I hope to be there someday. And I know I’ll listen to this song and it’ll mean even more to me when I’m ready. Thanks again!

  25. February 24, 2011 11:59 am

    Great blog… I’d like to add just one more song to this list…

    My Immortal by Evanescence… mesmerizing music… depressing song…

    “My Immortal”

    I’m so tired of being here, suppressed by all my childish fears
    And if you have to leave, I wish that you would just leave
    ‘Cause your presence still lingers here and it won’t leave me alone

    These wounds won’t seem to heal, this pain is just too real
    There’s just too much that time cannot erase

    When you cried, I’d wipe away all of your tears
    When you’d scream, I’d fight away all of your fears
    And I held your hand through all of these years
    But you still have… All of me

    You used to captivate me by your resonating light
    Now I’m bound by the life you left behind
    Your face it haunts my once pleasant dreams
    Your voice it chased away all the sanity in me

    These wounds won’t seem to heal, this pain is just too real
    There’s just too much that time cannot erase

    When you cried, I’d wipe away all of your tears
    When you’d scream, I’d fight away all of your fears
    And I held your hand through all of these years
    But you still have… All of me

    I’ve tried so hard to tell myself that you’re gone
    But though you’re still with me, I’ve been alone all along

    When you cried, I’d wipe away all of your tears
    When you’d scream, I’d fight away all of your fears
    And I held your hand through all of these years
    But you still have… All of me, me, me…

    • February 24, 2011 9:28 pm

      Wow this is a depressing song! Thanks for sharing it. I’d have to say it’s a better fit for the list linked below, for when you are really down in the dumps (and just fine with staying there!) Appreciate your comment :)

      http://simplysolo.wordpress.com/2010/09/08/top-10-bestworst-breakup-songs/

      • February 25, 2011 10:48 am

        Ohh yeah these are “empowering” songs and My Immortal is in no way such a song! lol it does belong to the other list.

        • February 28, 2011 10:03 pm

          :)

        • lovelylady permalink
          September 19, 2012 10:03 pm

          I’ve got to say, “my immortal” is on my empowering list because it shows me that its ok to still love him, but i’m done wiping his tears, fighting his fears, and holding his hand just as i HAVE done for all these years for nothing in return, he will always be my immortal but i’m moving on(:

  26. Charley permalink
    February 28, 2011 3:14 am

    Girl – Destinys Child
    I hate you so much right now – Kelis
    I dont need a man – Pussycat Dolls
    Fuck It – Eamon
    Im a survivor – Destinys Child
    Get out – Jojo
    I wanna dance with somebody – Whitney Houston
    Im a bitch – Meredith Brooks
    I will survive – Aretha Franklin
    You outta know – Alanis Morrisette
    No scrubs – TLC

    • February 28, 2011 10:06 pm

      Great additions, thanks! Survivor from Destiny’s Child is definitely a good one. I can’t believe I missed that one the first time around!

  27. March 4, 2011 4:21 pm

    I was going to be SO ANGRY if I Will Survive wasn’t at the top of the list…er, bottom of the list? How about Jar of Hearts? I feel like that is a modern, emo version of I will Survive.

    Oh, and, Charley, I Will Survive is NOT Aretha Franklin — hello GLORIA GAYNOR! Kids these days.

    Crystal

    • March 7, 2011 6:41 pm

      LOL. Kids these days. They don’t know their female empowering breakup music!! haha :)
      You seriously can’t do this list without I Will Survive. Actually, I think I Will Survive is the reason I even decided to compile this list!

  28. Mustapha permalink
    March 7, 2011 5:06 am

    I recently broke up with my partner and I compiled my own break-up playlist. It has been in the loop for 2 days now. These are just 6 songs i randomly selected. Be well and happy all :)

    (1) Never (Past Tense) – Rock Project feat. Tina Arena
    (2) Incomplete – Alanis Morrisette
    (3) In the Dark – Morgan Page
    (4) It’s not my time – 3 Doors Down
    (5) Madonna – Sorry
    (6) Giggling for no reason – Alanis Morrisette

    • March 7, 2011 6:39 pm

      Mustapha,
      Sorry to hear about your break up. Thanks for sharing some of your play list… I hope you feel better soon and can change your playlist to a more upbeat one :)

  29. Glorianne permalink
    March 14, 2011 10:28 pm

    I’m in the process of ending a 5 year relationship :/
    So i made a new playlist..

    Here’s a few picks to add to your list:

    1]”The Wreckoning”-Boomkat
    2)”All the Single Ladies” – Beyonce
    3)”What the Hell” – Avril Lavigne
    4)”Swing Swing” AND “Move Along” -The All-American Rejects
    5)”Dog Days Are Over”-Florence + The Machine
    6)”Stronger” -Britney Spears
    7)”Not Big”- Lily Allen, or “Smile” -Lily Allen
    8)”Single”-Natasha Bedingfield
    9)”Don’t Ask Me”-OK Go
    10)”Nothing Better” -The Postal Service
    11)”Hit the Road, Jack”- Ray Charles

    Enjoy all, & Chin up.

    • March 21, 2011 7:45 pm

      Glorianne,
      Sorry to hear about the end of your relationship. I imagine this is a hard time – but hey, at least you have a good play list to get you through! You have some great additions here. I particularly like What the Hell and Stronger. Thanks for your comment!

  30. March 24, 2011 11:07 am

    great choices!

  31. Matthew permalink
    April 6, 2011 3:05 pm

    Heyy i saw all these songs and man do they really help out. I have a suggestion for you also.

    You Could Be Happy by Snow Patrol

    Its pretty much about a guy who regrets all the things he has done to push her away but in the end he realizes he loves her to much to want her to stay miserable. I thought it really helped me get over my ex because even though i did resent her for breaking up i realized that i rather see her happy with someone else than miserable with me. I know it doesn’t go with this motif of empowering here but i thought that sinced it helped me it could help someone else =)
    Be warned it starts of really sad but it does get better =P

  32. Matthew permalink
    April 6, 2011 3:29 pm

    Ah i and i forgot to add

    You Give Love a Bad Name – BonJovi
    Here I Go Again – White Snake
    Marchin On – OneRepublic
    Hope you like them =)

    • April 8, 2011 11:33 am

      Great additions, thank you! Love a male’s perspective on good break up songs. Really helps round out the list!

  33. Sarahxx permalink
    April 17, 2011 2:41 pm

    All popish entries?
    what about
    -Bif naked ‘i love myself today’
    – 10 years ‘So long goodbye’
    – U2 ‘one’ <- living off of this one so far
    – Theory of a Deadman 'By the way'
    – Rufus Wainwright 'hallelujah'
    -Nirvana 'heart shaped box'
    -shinedown 'crow and the butterfly'
    -kelly clarkson 'already gone'

    • April 18, 2011 7:36 pm

      Great additons, thanks. I’m no good at anything but pop (very sheltered in my music over here), so I really appreciate you diversifying the list a little! Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

  34. marina permalink
    May 6, 2011 4:47 pm

    “Go Ahead” by Alicia Keys

  35. May 15, 2011 1:17 am

    Girl From the Gutter– Kina *******This is the best song EVER!!!
    Me– Kina
    Best Days of Your Life- Kelly Pickler
    :)

    • May 17, 2011 9:27 pm

      Mandi,
      Thanks for the additions. I totally forgot about the Kelly Pickler song – good choice!

  36. Kristy permalink
    May 19, 2011 3:25 am

    Sara Evans – A little bit stronger

  37. Joyce permalink
    May 22, 2011 9:15 pm

    -insert apology for huge post-
    There’s nothing but a great empowering song to get you out of you’re depressed state. Just going through a really rough break-up myself. He broke up with me for someone else and won’t stop contacting me. So I needed to release some anger and these songs helped quite a bit. Thanks =D

    I would love to add a few songs to the already amazing list(not in particular order). So here goes:

    1.) Simple plan – you suck at love.

    2.) Christina Perri- bang bang bang. All her songs are amazing but this one is amazingly moodlifting =D.

    ”I heard she did to you, what you did to me, 5, 4 , 3, 2, 1
    Bang bang bang boy, you’re going down down down boy
    To the ground where you left my heat to bleed
    Bang she shot you, karma tastes so sweet!

    3.) ”Black + blue” – Christina perri: Black+blue. My heart isn’t black and blue anymore ;)

    4.) Christina Perri- jar of hearts .Eventhough really sad, it still has this power vibe to saying who the hell do you think you are!

    5.) Kesha- blind. I know kesha isn’t the first thing that you think of , but the song is great for break-up. ”I’m sick and tired of the mess you made me. You never gonna catch me cry.You must be blind if you can’t see.You’ll miss me ’till the day you die”

    6.) Pixie Lott- Doing fine(without you). You’re a let down from what I remember, and I’m not missin your love lalalala.

    7.) Lisa Marie Presley- idiot : ”I’m gonna tell you what I think about you in that unforgivable way I do. You’re an idiot and I hate your guts”. Pretty clear eh =D

    8.) Adele – rumour has it . ”Bless your soul, you’ve got your head in the clouds,
    You made a fool out of me, and boy your bringing me down…now rumour has it he’s the one I’m leaving you for”

    9.) Hilary Duff – so yesterday. New days new chances. You’re in the past boy!

    10.) Graffiti 6- Stare into the sun. This one never fails to cheer me up! Great to song along in the shower. I’m feelingg blueeeee cause love is gone, guess I loseeeee but life goes on!

    11.) enrique Iglesias ft. Ciara – takin’ back my love. I’m taking back my love, HA!

    15.) Julian Perreta – wonder why. Don’t really know if this counts as a break up song. It just always cheeres me up so much when I’m down cause of my break-up. ” don’t you ever wonder why, I was never by your side”

    17.) Diana ross and the supremes- you keep me hangin on. I hate the way he won’t let me move on. ”Let me get over you, the way you’ve gotten over me! get out my live why don’t you baby!

    18.) Christina aguilera – you lost me. Just so very beautiful and strong and sad. It just had to be listed.

    19.) New years day- You’ll only make it worse. ”Don’t try to make it better, you’ll only make it worse.”

    That’s it for now =D again very sorry for the length >>

    • Joyce permalink
      May 22, 2011 9:17 pm

      Sorry for the numbering :P took the most accurate ones form my playlist and forgot to change it x)

    • June 1, 2011 11:25 pm

      Wow, great post! No apologies needed for the length, I just really appreciate your input! Great songs. You are right, I never would have thought about Kesha for a breakup song, but those lyrics you posted are beautiful! ”I’m sick and tired of the mess you made me. You never gonna catch me cry.You must be blind if you can’t see.You’ll miss me ’till the day you die”

  38. Parth permalink
    May 24, 2011 1:45 pm

    for me, its John Mayer’s Slow dancing in a burning room

  39. Susan permalink
    May 30, 2011 8:54 pm

    When you’re really feeling ready to let go and you’re ready to move on and open your heart again:

    If You Love Somebody Set Them Free by Sting

    • June 1, 2011 10:47 pm

      Thanks for this Susan :) I never would have added a Sting song, just because I’m not that familiar. Love the diversity all the comments add to this list!

  40. Leah permalink
    June 2, 2011 8:25 pm

    First, apologies for the stupid long post!

    Awesome list, thank you for saving my night. I’m now happily engaged to a wonderful man, but my abusive ex just got back in touch this evening after constantly emailing me for the last year, to tell me that he’s over me dumping him, and that I’m a waste of space, that I had the chance to be someone amazing but now I’ll be nothing without him etc etc etc. What a loser. So I cracked out the old breakup playlist.

    To add to the already EPIC list you guys have compiled:

    1) Ani DiFranco – Just Ani DiFranco. She’s the queen of empowerment, whoever you are, and her album “Dilate” is my go-to. It’s like breakup processes 101.
    Highlights include “Untouchable Face”
    [tell you the truth i prefer
    the worst of you
    too bad you had to have a better half
    she's not really my type
    but i think you two are forever
    and i hate to say it but
    you're perfect together

    so f*** you
    and your untouchable face
    and f*** you
    for existing in the first place]

    through to the title track
    [and you are so lame
    you always dissapoint me
    it's kind of like our running joke
    but it's really not funny
    and i just want you to live up to
    the image of you i create
    i see you and i'm so unsatisfied
    i see you and i dilate

    so i'll walk the plank
    and i'll jump with a smile
    if i'm gonna go down
    i'm gonna do it with style
    and you won't see me surrender
    you won't hear me confess
    'cuz you've left me with nothing
    but i've worked with less]

    ….and basically every other song on there…. just get on Amazon and download it. Seriously.

    Try “Fire Door” (the “Living in Clip” live version) for when you’re feeling a bit more flippant about things, and “Gravel” from “Little Plastic Castle” for when you’re feeling extra stabby –
    [i heard the sound of your bike,
    as your wheels hit the gravel,
    then your engine in the driveway
    cutting off
    and i pushed through the screen door
    and i stood out on the porch
    thinking figh, fight, fight
    at all costs,
    but instead i let you in,
    just like i've always done
    and i sat you down and offered you a beer
    and across the kitchen table
    i fired several rounds,
    but you were still sitting here
    when the smoke cleared.
    and you came crawling back
    to say that you wanna
    make good in the end

    and oh, oh,
    let me count the ways
    that i abhore you,
    and you were never a good lay
    and you were never a good friend
    but, oh, oh, what else can i say...
    i adore you]

    2) “Stolen Car” by Beth Orton.
    [You walked into my house last night
    I couldn't help but notice
    A light that was long gone still burning strong
    You were sitting
    Your fingers like fuses
    Your eyes were cinnamon

    You said you stand for every known abuse
    That was ever threatened to anyone but you
    And why should I know better by now
    When I'm old enough not to?

    While every lie speaks the language of love
    It never held the meaning I was thinking of
    And I can't decide over right or wrong
    I guess sometimes you need the place where you belong]

    3) Catherine Feeny. She has a few, but try “Leave you on the pavement” and “He’s like you, only better”. (Yeah, these might have seen a LOT of airtime)

    4) “Stronger Woman” by Jewel.
    [I guess you could say I'm one of those girls
    That's always been with one of those guys
    You know the type
    Like right now, he sleeps while I write
    But it's better than crying
    I'm worn out from trying
    From loving a man who always makes it clear
    I'm not welcome here
    Just till he's horny and hungry
    or needs something cleaned
    And you know what I mean

    But not tonight
    'Cause come the morning light, oh
    I'm gonna love myself more than anyone else
    Believe in me, even if someone can't see
    The stronger woman in me

    I'm going to be my own best friend
    Stick with me till the end
    Won't lose myself again, never, no,
    'Cause there's a stronger woman,
    A stronger woman in me]

    5) Thea Gilmore. Your mileage may vary, but her album “Burning Dorothy” has a few good ‘uns in there. Recommend “Sugar” and “People Like You”.

    6) Tori Amos. Try “Caught a Lite Sneeze”, “She’s Your Cocaine”, “Crucify”, “Precious Things” and “Silent All These Years” –
    [Excuse me but can I be you for a while
    My dog won't bite if you sit real still
    I got the anti-Christ in the kitchen yellin' at me again
    Yeah I can hear that
    Been saved again by the garbage truck
    I got something to say you know
    But nothing comes
    Yes I know what you think of me
    You never shut-up
    Yeah I can hear that

    But what if I'm a mermaid
    In these jeans of his
    With her name still on it
    Hey but I don't care
    Cause sometimes
    I said sometimes
    I hear my voice
    And it's been here
    Silent All These Years]

    7) “Don’t Think Twice” by Bob Dylan, among others. Great when you feel like nothing more than a two fingered salute to your wasted time.

    8) When angry, why not just put on Linkin Park’s album “Meteora” and work it out of your system.

    Personally, I found Evanescence to be great for working out some emotions, but suffice to say that if you’ve just got out of an abusive relationship, some of their songs cut a bit close to the bone.

    Right, there’s my survival list. Good luck you guys. And remember, whatever you do, step AWAY from the Joni Mitchell, unless you also have your best friend, a bottle of red and/or a tub of ice-cream to boot. :P

    • June 6, 2011 10:00 pm

      You are right! What a loser! Don’t let that guy get you down. You are so much better off without him. Thank you so much for the additions and take care of yourself! Thanks for reading :)

  41. Robin permalink
    June 3, 2011 12:36 pm

    Great list!

    I was browsing over the internet looking for break-up song I might download that really hits home.
    Your song choices were brilliant and extremely helpful in moving on.
    Moreover, I still have some suggestions that might help your readers move forward in life aside from the songs Adele and Taylor Swift wrote about their ex-es:

    1. Til I Get Over You ( Michelle Branch)

    “Everytime I feel alone
    I can blame it on you
    And I do, oh

    You got me like a loaded gun
    Golden sun and sky so blue
    We both know that we want it
    But we both know you left me no choice”

    2. I look so Good (Without You)

    “Hey boy, I would have thought that
    When you left me I’d be broken
    With my confidence gone, so gone

    Hey boy, I would have thought that
    When you said that you don’t want me
    I’d feel ugly and sense something was wrong

    Standing in front of the mirror
    My skins never been clearer
    My smiles never been whiter

    I look so good without you
    Got me a new hair due
    Looking fresh and brand new
    Since you said that we were through

    Done with your lies
    Baby, now my tears dry
    You can see my brown eyes
    Ever since you said goodbye”

    3. Breaking Us in Two ( Mandy Moore) – this one should be sang if you are in the brink of breaking up.

    “They say two hearts should beat as one for us
    We’ll fight it out to see it through
    I say that you won’t bee too much fun for us
    Though it’s oh so nice to get advice it’s oh so hard to do

    Could we be much closer if we tried
    We could stay at home and stare into each other’s eyes
    Maybe we could last an hour
    Maybe then we’d see right through
    Always something breaking us in two”

    4. Pray for You (Jaron and The Long Road To Love) – the lyrics are kinda painful. Well, if you do the suggested acts by the singer in this song.

    “I haven’t been to church since I don’t remember when
    Things were going great ‘˜til they fell apart again
    So I listened to the preacher as he told me what to do
    He said you cant go hating others who have done wrong to you.
    Sometimes we get angry, but we must not condemn.
    Let the good Lord do His job and you just pray for them.

    I pray your brakes go out running down a hill
    I pray a flowerpot falls from a window sill and knocks you in the
    head like I’d like to
    I pray your birthday comes and nobody calls
    I pray you’re flying high when your engine stalls
    I pray all your dreams never come true
    Just know wherever you are honey, I pray for you”

    5. Don’t Love You No More ( Craig David)

    “For all the years that I’ve known you baby
    I can’t figure out the reason why lately you’ve been acting so cold
    (didn’t you say)
    If there’s a problem we should work it out
    So why you giving me the cold shoulder now
    Like you don’t even wanna talk to me girl
    (tell me)
    Ok I know I was late again
    I made you mad and dinners thrown in (the bin)
    But why are you making this thing drag on so long
    (I wanna know)
    I’m sick and tired of this silly game
    (silly games)
    Don’t think that I’m the only one here to blame
    It’s not me here who’s been going round slamming doors
    That’s when you turned and said to me
    I don’t care babe who’s right or wrong
    I just don’t love you no more.

    [CHORUS]
    Rain outside my window pouring down
    What now, your gone, my fault, I’m sorry
    Feeling like a fool cause I let you down
    Now it’s, too late, to turn it around
    I’m sorry for the tears I made you cry
    I guess this time it really is goodbye
    You made it clear when you said
    I just don’t love you no more”

    6. Why – Rascal Flatts

    “It must’ve been in a place so dark you couldn’t feel the light
    Reachin’ for you through that stormy cloud
    Now here we are gathered in our little hometown
    This can’t be the way you meant to draw a crowd

    Oh, why? That’s what I keep askin’
    Was there anything I could have said or done?
    Oh, I had no clue you were masking
    A troubled soul, God only knows what went wrong
    And why you’d leave the stage in the middle of a song”

    7. The One That Got Away- Katy Perry

    “Summer after high school when we first met
    We make out in your Mustang to Radio head
    And on my 18th birthday we got that chain tattoos
    Used to steal your parents’ liquor and climb to the roof
    Talk about our future like we had a clue
    Never plan that one day I’d be losing you”

    8. Exit Wounds- The Script

    “I’m falling through the doors of the emergency room
    Can anybody help me with these exit wounds
    I don’t know how much more love, this heart can lose
    And I’m dying, dying from these exit wounds
    Whoooooaa uuuh where their leaving, the scars you’re keeping
    Exit wounds, where their leaving, the scars you’re keeping”

    9. Look What You’ve Done ( Jet)

    “Take my photo off the wall
    If it just won’t sing for you
    ‘Cause all that’s left has gone away
    And there’s nothing there for you to prove

    Oh, look what you’ve done
    You’ve made a fool of everyone
    Oh well, it seems like such fun
    Until you lose what you had won”

    – Fuck It (Don’t Want You Back) – Eamon

    “See, I dont know why I liked you so much
    I gave you all, of my trust
    I told you, I loved you, now thats all down the drain
    Ya put me through pain, I wanna let u know how I feel

    [Chorus:]
    Fuck what I said it dont mean shit now
    Fuck the presents might as well throw em out
    Fuck all those kisses, they didn’t mean jack
    Fuck you, you hoe, I dont want you back”

    • Robin permalink
      June 3, 2011 12:40 pm

      I Look So Good ( Without You) is by Jessie James.

    • June 6, 2011 10:30 pm

      Wow, great additions. Thanks Robin! Really liked al these lyrics.

    • anna marie permalink
      August 4, 2011 11:07 pm

      These are great songs but Why by Rascal Flatts is actually a song ab suicide not ab a breakup. But still yet a great song! :)

  42. Jon Butler permalink
    June 4, 2011 2:44 am

    Well, I personally think my favorite song for when you break up or if you’re just depressed from being single is Vermilion and Vermilion Pt. 2 by Slipknot simply because of this line –

    “But I won’t let this build up inside me, I won’t let this build up inside of me”

  43. Michael permalink
    June 4, 2011 10:10 am

    I love this blog. There’ is a fantastic collaboration of break up songs from so many different genres of music. The one common thread that I keep seeing with so many of these songs is the reference of someone having been unfaithful, and there seems to be a plethora of unlimited songs out there that fit this description. I’m going through a difficult break up as we speak and I wanted to hear some music that relates to my situation being pushed away because of extreme jealousy, and insecurities and having your partner constantly trying to control you. So the songs I’m providing have different reasoning behind them, but I think this list may be beneficial for someone else who may also have gone through this type of break up. (I I did not list all of the lyrics to most the songs because it would be way to long!) lol.. I feel like these are empowerment songs for someone going through a break up like mine.

    Billy Joel – Innocent Man:
    I know you’re only protecting yourself
    I know you’re thinking of somebody else
    Someone who hurt you
    But I’m not above
    Making up for the love
    You’ve been denying you could ever feel
    I’m not above doing anything
    To restore your faith if I can
    Some people see through the eyes of the old
    Before they ever get a look at the young
    I’m only willing to hear you cry
    Because I am an innocent man
    I am an innocent man
    Oh yes I am

    Linkin Park- Numb:
    [Chorus:]
    I’ve become so numb, I can’t feel you there
    Become so tired, so much more aware
    I’m becoming this, all I want to do
    Is be more like me and be less like you

    Can’t you see that you’re smothering me,
    Holding too tightly, afraid to lose control?
    ‘Cause everything that you thought I would be
    Has fallen apart right in front of you.
    (Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
    Every step that I take is another mistake to you.
    (Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow)
    And every second I waste is more than I can take.

    Emerson Hart- If You’re Gonna Leave:
    aybe i’m the joker
    Maybe i’m the fool in your eyes
    Maybe i’m the weak one
    Maybe i’m a lie in disguise
    Maybe i’m angry
    Cause i’m the one whos always wrong
    Maybe i’m not the one whos so strong
    But did ya think about it
    Did ya pull it in and pull out
    Could you live without me
    Did you ever really have a doubt
    But do you understand it baby
    When you say its over its done
    Maybe i’m not the one

    3 Doors Down- Let me be myself:
    I guess i just got lost
    Bein’ someone else
    I tried to kill the pain
    Nothin ever helped
    I left myself behind
    Somewhere along the way
    Hopin to come back around
    To find myself someday

    Lately i’m so tired of waiting for you
    To say that it’s ok, but tell me
    Please, would you one time
    Just let me be myself
    So i can shine with my own light
    Let me be myself
    Would you let me be myself

    I’ll never find my heart
    Behind someone else
    I’ll never see the light of day
    Living in this cell
    It’s time to make my way
    Into the world i knew
    Take back all of these times
    That i gave in to you

    Default- Wasting my time:
    Well I don’t want to see you waiting
    I’ve already gone too far away
    I still can’t keep the day from ending
    No more messed up reasons for me to stay

    [CHOURUS]
    Well this is not for real
    Afraid to feel
    I just hit the floor
    Don’t ask for more
    I’m wasting my time
    I’m wasting my time
    You can’t stop the feeling
    There is no reason
    Let’s make the call
    And take it all again
    Woah again

    Months went by with us pretending
    When did our light turn from green to red
    I took a chance and left you standing
    Lost the will to do this once again

    Aaron Tippin- Kiss This:
    Why don’t you kiss, kiss this
    And I don’t mean on my rosy red lips
    Me and you, we’re through
    And there’s only one thing left for you to do
    You just come on over here one last time
    Pucker up and close yours eyes
    And kiss this goodbye

    Simple Plan- Time to say goodbye:
    I just don’t want to waste another day
    I’m trying to make things right
    But you shove it in my face
    And all those things you’ve done to me I can’t erase
    And I can’t keep this inside
    It’s time to say goodbye

    On the first day that I met you
    I should have known to walk away
    I should have told you you were crazy
    And disappear without a trace
    But instead I stood there waiting
    Hoping you would come around
    But you always found a way to let me down

    [Chorus]
    It’s time to say goodbye
    (I just don’t want to waste another day)
    It’s time to say goodbye
    (Cause things will never be the same)
    It’s time to say goodbye
    (You make me think I need to walk away)
    It’s time to say goodbye
    It’s time to say goodbye

    After all the things I’ve done for you
    You never tried to do the same
    It’s like you always play the victim
    And I’m the one you always blame
    When you need someone to save you
    When you think you’re going to drown
    (Think you’re going to drown)
    You just grab your arms around me and pull me down

    [Chorus]
    It’s time to say goodbye
    (I just don’t want to waste another day)
    It’s time to say goodbye
    (Cause things will never be the same)
    It’s time to say goodbye
    (You make me think I need to walk away)
    It’s time to say goodbye
    It’s time to say goodbye

    Now I’m gone
    It’s too late
    You can’t fix
    Your mistakes
    I was trying to save you from you
    So you scream
    So you cry
    I can see
    Through your lies
    You’re just trying to change me
    (Trying to change me)

    Somewhere in the distance
    There’s a place for me to go
    I don’t want you to hate me
    But I think you need to know
    You’re weighing on my shoulders
    And I’m sick of feeling down
    So I guess it’s time for me to say goodbye

    • June 5, 2011 9:58 am

      Michael,

      Sorry to hear about your breakup. I’m glad you liked my list, and thanks for making it better! Good luck with everything.

  44. June 10, 2011 11:13 am

    I think there are a couple good ones like
    Chris Young-Tomorrow!
    Keith Urban-Stupid Boy
    The Band Berry-You Lie
    Sugarland-Stay
    Sarah Evans-Alittle bit stronger
    Ashton Shepherd-Look it up

    • June 10, 2011 7:08 pm

      Elizabeth – thanks so much for your additions! I actually haven’t heard of a single one of these songs, so I’ll have to check them out when in need of an empowering break up song!

  45. xoxostronger permalink
    June 12, 2011 10:18 am

    Got dumped the day before our 6month
    These are modern songs
    Fly solo wiz khalifa
    Ill be ok addison road
    Ridin solo jason derulo
    I’m not locked down treal
    I’m single again trina

    • June 23, 2011 9:17 pm

      xoxo,
      Thanks for your additions. Sorry to hear about your breakup.

  46. June 13, 2011 4:41 am

    Irreplaceable is such an awesome song! i must have replayed it atleast 20 times !! :D
    SInce you’ve been gone by Kelly Clarkson is my all time favorite!!
    And i think Jolene is an empowering song! not a break up song though!
    Great playlist! :D

  47. Heaven permalink
    June 18, 2011 5:05 pm

    Without You – Hinder

    Definetly The Best Break Up Song EVER!! XD

    • June 23, 2011 9:20 pm

      Thanks, Heaven! Haven’t heard of this one but have to check it out.

  48. June 20, 2011 10:14 pm

    The album isn’t out yet, but Selena Gomez’ new song “Bang Bang Bang” (which you can find on youtube) is a must for empowering, upbeat breakup songs: “Bang bang bang I’m breaking in, I’m stealing all my love back, and I’m giving it to him; Bang bang bang this time I win, I thought your love was deeper until I let him in.”

    • June 23, 2011 9:21 pm

      Ohh, that does sound like a good one beingforthebenefitof. I like the lyrics. I also really like Selena Gomez – she has done such a good job being a role model.

  49. June 21, 2011 10:14 am

    Fighter, Irreplaceable and Survivor…..def. empowering songs!

  50. June 21, 2011 10:26 am

    I think “She Let Herself Go” by George Strait is candidate for the list, which includes the lines:

    Let herself go on her first blind-date:
    Had the time of her life with some friends at the lake.
    Let herself go, buy a brand new car,
    Drove down to the beach he always said was too far.
    Sand sure felt good between her toes:

    She let herself go on a singles cruise,
    To Vegas once, then to Honolulu.
    Let herself go to New York City:
    A week at the Spa; came back knocked-out pretty.
    When he said he didn’t love her no more,
    She let herself go.

    • June 23, 2011 9:24 pm

      Tamarah – wow, love the lyics. Definitely very empowering!!! This should be any newly single girl’s theme song.

  51. June 21, 2011 10:29 am

    “So What” is my favorite breakup song of all time. Thanks for the list!

  52. June 21, 2011 10:34 am

    Yay for Freshly Pressed!!!!

    I go a different route when handling a break-up. Instead of listening to empowering “I will survive” type songs, I listen to songs that have nothing to do with love at all. I go into full-on denial mode. Not denial of the break-up, denial that the relationship even took place at all. Lots of Broadway and Hip-Hop. :) I’m just the picture of mental health aren’t I?

    • June 23, 2011 9:37 pm

      Girlonthecontrary!! I have to tell you that you were the first person to say that I was Freshly Pressed, and I learned it from you. Which is awesome because I love your blog :)
      Smart strategy regarding listening to songs that have nothing to do with love at all. I say it’s pretty healthy – better than wallowing!

  53. Nicky permalink
    June 21, 2011 10:35 am

    Try ‘Song for the Dumped’ by Ben Folds Five for angry moments, or ‘See the Sun’ by Dido if you’re in the mood for a good cry…

  54. June 21, 2011 10:37 am

    Catherine!!! Freshly pressed!!! go you! so exciting! xoxo

    • June 23, 2011 9:37 pm

      Darcy,
      I know! I was so happy and excited. Thanks for sharing it with me :)

  55. June 21, 2011 10:43 am

    Great list! Thanks for sharing!

    • June 23, 2011 9:38 pm

      No problem – thank you! My list is NOTHING compared with what it is now with all these awesome suggestions in the comments!

  56. June 21, 2011 11:06 am

    What a great list! Congrats on Freshly Pressed!
    Chris

  57. June 21, 2011 11:10 am

    Not sure if this was already suggested (there are a lot of comments!) but what about “Gives You Hell” by All American Rejects? Its lyrics are really more a mix of the two break-up genres, I think, but the driving music makes it more empowering than depressing!

    • June 23, 2011 9:39 pm

      caitlinamartin,
      I don’t think that one was suggested yet. Thanks for for addition!

  58. June 21, 2011 11:13 am

    I love this post! I just wish I’d found your blog a year ago, when I really, really needed it!

    • June 23, 2011 9:40 pm

      Lara,
      Thanks! I totally know what you mean. I found this site “There Goes the Bride” for women who cancel their weddings….about 6 months after I needed it. Oh well – better late than ever! Thanks for stopping by.

  59. June 21, 2011 11:14 am

    Love your Purple Butterfly Banner- BEAUTIFUL!!!

    And I am going to throw Neyo in the ring to help out Keith Urban.
    Go On Girl ( I have conveniently changed the lyrics to match the heterosexual female perspective)

    I can’t get it back,
    But I don’t wanna back up,
    I realize that,
    She don’t know how to act,
    Never been a dumb dude no I’m not dense,
    I just had a slight lack of common sense,
    I was the good guy, she was the bad girl,
    I’m thinkin one girl, she’s thinkin me earl, james, and jimmy
    Yea she had plenty,
    But love for me she didn’t have any,

    [Pre-Chorus]
    I was inviting her into my heart,
    She was out riding in some other man’s car,
    She was my nighttime, thought I was her star,
    Guess I was wrong, but see I’m strong,
    Won’t take long for me to move on,

    [Chorus]
    Please don’t worry bout me I’m fine,
    (please don’t worry bout me I’m fine)
    Only gonna play the fool one time,
    (only gonna play the fool one time)
    Trust me when I say,
    That I’ll be okay,
    Go on girl (go on girl)
    Go on girl (go on girl)
    Go on girl

    [Verse 2]
    I can’t get it back,
    But I don’t wanna back up,
    I realize that,
    She don’t know how to act,
    Try to settle down and look what I get,
    Thought it was my time but I guess not yet,
    She’s at the bar, gettin drinks from many men,
    I’m at the house, thinkin she’s with her girlfriends,
    Just not knowin, truly not knowin,
    I look back now like man I was open,

    [Pre-Chorus]
    [Chorus]

    • June 23, 2011 9:41 pm

      Liber7tdsoul,
      Thanks for the suggestion and for helping Keith out. Definitely helps that you edited the lyrics for my mostly female readers :)

  60. June 21, 2011 11:17 am

    Oh crap! How could i forget Chris Brown’s “Dueces”!!!???
    Not only does it talk talk about leaving his former boo, but the rappers that chime in on the song taunt the old flame mercilessly about the angelic qualities of the new boo!!! LOVE IT!!!! :-)

    • June 23, 2011 9:42 pm

      Haha, thanks! Love your comments – hope you’ll stick around! :)

  61. June 21, 2011 11:19 am

    You know “I Will Survive” by Cake? :)
    For me I guess I’ll add “One Headlight” by Wallflowers.

    • June 27, 2011 6:32 pm

      7des7iny,
      Ohhh “One Headlight” is a good one. I will have to check out the Cake song, thanks for your additions!

  62. June 21, 2011 11:19 am

    Happily married for 8 years and I still love this list. One of my favorite all time lines is “And take your cat and leave my sweater!” Maybe that’s because I’m a dog person. Of course I love Beyonce too and who could argue with that No. 1. Great post.

    • June 27, 2011 6:38 pm

      Katherine,
      Thanks for the comment and glad even happily married couples can appeciate a good breakup song list :) I LOVE that line “and take your cat and leave my sweater”, it’s so true to how you feel in a breakup with the division of assets. Thanks for stopping by Simply Solo!

  63. June 21, 2011 11:20 am

    Great list, Survivor is my favorite

  64. June 21, 2011 11:22 am

    Great Approach to break up songs! I usually wallow in the depressing ones, but ENOUGH of that!

    • June 27, 2011 6:41 pm

      Ha, Beckyyk, I have a history of being quite the wallower myself.. but sometimes you just have say enough is enough and get on with it :) Thanks for your comment!

  65. June 21, 2011 11:36 am

    Great post…I would add Maroon 5’s Not Coming Home. Congrats on being Freshly Pressed

  66. June 21, 2011 11:36 am

    hey hey! Great list! I played all except Ace of Base (not really my scene) and am busy downloading Keith Urban – thanks for the suggestion! The rest were right there on my play list. As mention, You Oughta Know by Alanis was there, and “Gives You Hell” became an athem! Chin up girl! He’s not worth it!

    • June 27, 2011 6:47 pm

      sillymoose,
      Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it! You Oughta Know is on my angry breakup song list, lol :) Enjoy the Keith Urban!

  67. Jamie Williams permalink
    June 21, 2011 11:41 am

    Not Meant to Be – Hinder

    “It’s like one step forward and two steps back
    No matter what I do you’re always mad
    And I, I can’t change your mind
    I know it’s like trying to turn around on a one way street
    I can’t give you what you want
    And it’s killing me
    And I, I’m starting to see
    Maybe we’re not meant to be”

  68. Jamie Williams permalink
    June 21, 2011 11:42 am

    Whoops, I said Hinder dang it …meant Theory of a Deadman and I couldn’t stop the post comment button fast enough. lol SORRY…

    • June 27, 2011 6:48 pm

      No worries! Thanks so much for contributing to this list! With everyone’s comments it’s become quite comprehensive! :)

  69. June 21, 2011 11:52 am

    I ran off to make dinner and whilst grating cheese remembered the following:
    1) Fuck you very much by Lily Allen is helpful as well as According to You (Orianthi) – You don’t have to be dating somebody else for this song to work… the other him could be like your dad or God or whatever. and
    2) *aNthem…. heaven knows what an athem is.

    • June 27, 2011 6:49 pm

      sillymoose,
      LOVE That you were still thinking of this after already commenting :) Appreciate your additions – have never heard Fuck You Very Much, but by the name, I think it sounds like quite the breakup song!!

  70. June 21, 2011 12:06 pm

    I’ll survive you by BC Jean

  71. Maureen permalink
    June 21, 2011 12:06 pm

    Excellent list. Of course, “I Will Survive” has to be #1. I once used the soundtrack to “Phantom of the Opera” to get over a guy. Not your typical break-up songs, but the singers did all the angsty emoting for me. By the end, I was done being sad and ready to move on to the guy who turned out to be “the one.” :)

    • June 27, 2011 6:52 pm

      Maureen,
      LOL! Can’t say I’ve ever heard anyone using “Phantom of the Opera” for a breakup soundtrack, but hey, whatever floats your boat! :) So glad you found “the one!”

  72. June 21, 2011 12:09 pm

    LOL Yeah, Survivor used to be my song lol

  73. June 21, 2011 12:09 pm

    wow, lots of stuff on here! my last monstrous break-up, i was a big fan of “duck and run” by 3 doors down, pretty much anything by linkin park (chester bennington has a lot of pent-up angst over women who did him wrong), oh, and “limp” by fiona apple. that is probably the best break up song ever written: “when i think of it/my fingers turn to fists/i never did anything to you, man/but no matter what i try/you beat me with your bitter lies/so call me crazy, hold me down/make me cry, get off now baby/ because you’ll be lying limp in your own hand”

    oh, and garbage “heaven is wide” and “how’s it gonna be” by 3rd eye blind.

    • June 27, 2011 6:54 pm

      Wow, that song sounds intense. And definitely sounds like a good breakup song. I LOVE “How’s It Gonna Be” by 3rd Eye Blind. Not sure how I forgot about that one!

  74. June 21, 2011 12:19 pm

    Yes- Gloria Gaynor all the way!! Excellent selection. My heartbreak songs are anything by The Carpenters…lol… yes, a bit of 70s vibe for those Rainy Days and Mondays…;o)

    • June 27, 2011 6:57 pm

      Ha, I can’t honestly say I’ve ever listened to the Carpenters, but if I need some 70s breakup music (because really, breakups are timeless!), I’ll def go to them :) Thanks for the comment.

  75. June 21, 2011 12:21 pm

    Congrats on the Fresh Pressing.
    Kate Voegele, “No Good” sort of captures that time in the middle… the “I want to be over it, I’m getting over it, sometimes I am over it… I’m not quite there but I totally will be because I know you’re no good for me” time period.

    • June 27, 2011 6:58 pm

      Thanks aaka gringita! Those lyrics are absolutely perfect – exactly how I’ve been feeling. Thanks for sharing!

  76. June 21, 2011 12:31 pm

    How did Daughtry’s “Over You” not make this list? This song helped me so much! Although I do give props to you including Keith Urban’s “You’ll Think of Me” and Leona Lewis’s “Better in Time.”

    • June 27, 2011 6:59 pm

      Haha, Kristin, sorry for that oversight! Thanks for the addition :)

  77. June 21, 2011 12:35 pm

    Definitely, I Will Survive is no.1! But this song should be included too:)
    Try It On My Own – Whitney Houston

    “I’m wiser now
    Im not the foolish girl you used to know
    So long ago
    I’m stronger now
    I’ve learned from my mistakes which way to go
    And I should know
    I put myself aside to do it in your way
    But now i need to do it all alone

    And I am not afraid to try it on my own
    I don’t care if I’m right or wrong
    I’ll live my life the way I feel no matter what I’ll keep it real
    You know
    Time for me to do it on my own”

    • June 27, 2011 7:00 pm

      tarajevo,
      Thanks for sharing! I don’t know how I made it to 26 without hearing this Whitney Houston song! Appreciate your sharing :)

  78. June 21, 2011 12:43 pm

    I never recognized “I saw the Sign” as a breakup song…i will now listen in a whole new light…great list…loved it!

    • June 27, 2011 7:02 pm

      kristenmac,
      Thanks! So many people told me that they never connected that song with breakups till I pointed it out. I really do think that “The Sign” by Ace of Base is one of the best breakup songs. It was my go to karaoke song all last summer, that’s for sure :) Appreciate your comment!

  79. June 21, 2011 12:50 pm

    KT Tunstall: Suddenly I See

    Her face is a map of the world
    Is a map of the world
    You can see she’s a beautiful girl
    She’s a beautiful girl
    And everything around her is a silver pool of light
    The people who surround her feel the benefit of it
    It makes you calm
    She holds you captivated in her palm

    Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
    This is what I wanna be
    Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
    Why the hell it means so much to me

    I feel like walking the world
    Like walking the world
    You can hear she’s a beautiful girl
    She’s a beautiful girl
    She fills up every corner like she’s born in black and white
    Makes you feel warmer when you’re trying to remember
    What you heard
    She likes to leave you hanging on her word

    Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
    This is what I wanna be
    Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
    Why the hell it means so much to me

    And she’s taller than most
    And she’s looking at me
    I can see her eyes looking from a page in a magazine
    Oh she makes me feel like I could be a tower
    A big strong tower
    She got the power to be
    The power to give
    The power to see

    Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
    This is what I wanna be
    Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
    Why the hell it means so much to me

    • June 27, 2011 7:04 pm

      Interesting addition, habituallearner. I haven’t ever really seen this as a breakup song. Thanks for sharing.

  80. Tala Chan permalink
    June 21, 2011 1:03 pm

    nice list! I really like Gloria Gaynor’s “I will survive”, it’s been a favorite song of mine!

    you could also add up Ceelo Green and Lily Allen’s “F*ck you” in the breakup songs list, lol!

    • June 27, 2011 7:05 pm

      Tala Chan,
      Ceelo Green’s F*you is a great song for this list. Thanks!

  81. Let's be frank, I'll be Jessica permalink
    June 21, 2011 1:10 pm

    Love the latter half of the list! LOVE~~

  82. June 21, 2011 1:13 pm

    “I Don’t Want You Now” by KT Tunstall

  83. misfit120 permalink
    June 21, 2011 1:17 pm

    Going waaaaay back for this one. “It’s Just A Matter Of Time” Brook Benton……oops…I think I just dated myself. Rats.

    • June 27, 2011 8:42 pm

      Haha, thanks for the addition. Just say it’s an oldie you heard in your parents’ car and you’ll be good. ha!

  84. June 21, 2011 1:27 pm

    Heart of the Matter – India Arie
    Actual best song ever…

  85. June 21, 2011 1:35 pm

    I think I was humming some of these the other night when I got a flat. They are for for more than just break ups, its break downs as well….

    • June 27, 2011 8:43 pm

      Haha… hope you got your tire fixed safely. :) glad that these breakup songs got you through a break down :)

  86. June 21, 2011 1:36 pm

    Hannah Georgas’ – Mama’s Boy

    http://radio3.cbc.ca/#/bands/Hannah-Georgas (listen to it @ this address)

    You marked your territory
    All over this place
    You left a cold heart
    And a name I never wanna hear you say
    Did you ever think about me
    Did it ever cross your mind
    Your sick and selfish needs
    Will catch up to you in no time
    Love don’t live here
    Love don’t live here
    I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
    I guess it’s easy when you’re left out on your own
    No point in fixin something that’s already broke
    No point in tellin it where to go
    I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
    You’re such a mama’s baby
    Did she forget to wipe you on the way out
    Did you remember to tell her what you need
    Cuz she’s the only that you figured out
    Did you ever think about me
    Did you even care to ask you’re too caught up in your stories
    And too confused about your past
    Love don’t live here
    Love don’t live here
    I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
    I guess it’s easy when you’re left out on your own
    No point in fixin somethin’s already broke
    No point in tellin it where to go
    I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole
    I guess it’s easy when you’re left out on your own
    No point in fixin somethin’s already broke
    No point in tellin it where to go
    I guess it’s easy to get over an asshole

  87. masauer88 permalink
    June 21, 2011 1:37 pm

    Perfect World by Simple Plan and Rest in Pieces by Saliva were two of my go to songs back in high school ;)

    • June 27, 2011 8:44 pm

      Ohh, you just reminded me about Simple Plan… totally forgot about them :) Appreciate your comment.

  88. Meri Greis permalink
    June 21, 2011 1:50 pm

    oh thanks for the post

  89. Eva McCane permalink
    June 21, 2011 1:52 pm

    i’m not going through a break-up, but I dig this list. and i’m sure there’s more heartbreak to come, so i’ll keep these songs handy.

  90. Meri Greis permalink
    June 21, 2011 1:57 pm

    You forgot OVER YOU by Daughtry that’s another perfect song :)

    • June 27, 2011 7:06 pm

      There are some definite Daughtry fans out there! Thanks for adding this to the list :)

  91. Kristin permalink
    June 21, 2011 2:01 pm

    OBVIOUSLY, you need some Ben Folds in your life. :)

    Song For The Dumped- Ben Folds Five
    Time- Ben Folds
    Gone- Ben Folds

  92. June 21, 2011 2:13 pm

    Excellent list. I posted once about how I’m obsessed with break up songs even when I’m not actively breaking up. So this was a great reminder of some songs I want to listen to ;)

    xoxo The Blonde

    • June 27, 2011 7:07 pm

      Thank you! Yeah, nothing wrong with enjoying these songs even when you aren’t going through a breakup! They are still pretty great!

  93. June 21, 2011 2:14 pm

    Man Man’s “Ice Dogs” always seems to work. I’ve often also found solace in Operation Ivy’s “Sound System.”

    • June 27, 2011 7:08 pm

      Shenanitim,
      Thanks for the additions. Haven’t heard of these before, but will need to check them out!

  94. Elizabeth permalink
    June 21, 2011 2:16 pm

    Don’t forget “Gives You Hell”! It’s the best!!

  95. June 21, 2011 3:00 pm

    I just went through a breakup and my empowering song is “Rolling in the Deep” by Adele. I put it on repeat and sing it very loudly 5-6 times in a row and I feel much better and smile. :)

    • June 27, 2011 7:11 pm

      Ruglovermary,
      Rolling In the Deep is one of the best breakup songs of all time, i think. I actually just discovered it recently and can’t get enough of it. So beautiful and so relevant. Thanks for the comment.

  96. elihar permalink
    June 21, 2011 3:04 pm

    If you are looking for another good song, Carole Samaha is an Arabic Singer. I found her video for this song by accident on youtube and even though i had no idea what she was saying, i could sort of feel what she was talking about when i saw the concept of the official video. The song is called “Khallik Behalak” sometimes its good to see what foreign artists bring to the table. I found a youtube link with the translation to the lyrics. it just shows pictures of her but i love how she expresses pain in her voice well.

    • June 27, 2011 7:13 pm

      elihar,
      Thanks for the addition! This is definitely not a song I would know about otherwise. She has a good voice – and this just shows you all cultures know heartbreak!

  97. June 21, 2011 3:08 pm

    great blog! i going though a breakup currently so ya ):

    • June 27, 2011 7:14 pm

      life is all about colours,
      Thanks for stopping by. Wishing you luck with recovering from your breakup… it’ll get better :)

  98. June 21, 2011 3:16 pm

    Yes! Yes! Great list. Thank you! I needed this today!

  99. I like boys who wear glasses permalink
    June 21, 2011 3:19 pm

    The one I have been listening to now for a while is: Single Girls by Laura Jansen. I haven’t decided yet in which category I should put it, cuz it makes me cry my eyes out every time, though it is about getting over him. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-479ojoLgxg&feature=relmfu
    Best lines:
    “One more glass of wine. Before I turn off the lights this time. This time I’ll be fine. I’ll be fine. I’ll be fine. I’ll be fine”

    Of course, Adele is ALWAYS a good one, especially Rolling in the Deep, as suggested above. And when I get angry I like Given Up by Linkin Park (really loud!)

    PS. I like your blog a lot! :)

    • June 27, 2011 7:16 pm

      I like boys who wear glasses,
      I love your blog name! Adele is the best, for sure. Hell, her entire album is a break up list :). Thanks for your addition to this list!

  100. anonnickus permalink
    June 21, 2011 3:24 pm

    I am sure that a case could have been made for including “Jingle Bells” on this list had you gone to the top 15. Really where can you stop with such a popular theme? Terrific post and comments.

    • June 27, 2011 7:16 pm

      annonnickus,
      Ha, yeah I could go on forever with this list! Between my list and the comments, we have quite the comprehensive breakup song list! Thanks for your comment.

  101. June 21, 2011 4:20 pm

    I haven’t read all of the comments, so please forgive me if I am repeating a song that has already been listed. Sugarland’s *Stay* is a very empowering break-up song. It is sung from the view of the ‘other woman’ and how she is crying in the beginning for him to *stay* with her when his wife calls…then the song progresses and at the end she is telling him to ‘stay’ at home. The video is very emotional.

    • June 27, 2011 7:18 pm

      Trish,
      Thanks for sharing! That does sound like a really good song. Not often you get to hear from the “other woman,” huh?

  102. rach permalink
    June 21, 2011 4:58 pm

    I don’t know if anyone said, but Adele’s recent hit, “Rolling in the Deep”, is a great song for this list as well. it seems like the best songs, the ones we all remember are written from a place of sorrow or despair typically accompanied by a breakup or lost loved one. We tend to identify with those songs more than any others.

    • June 27, 2011 8:46 pm

      Rach,
      I totally agree, Rolling In The Deep is an amazing song. I wish I’d know about that song when I wrote this list! I think we can all identify with songs like these because we’ve all been through some sort of loss, and we can still feel a bit of it when we think about it. Thanks for your comment.

  103. Vijayasimha Radhakrishnan permalink
    June 21, 2011 5:15 pm

    Nice Collection. Thanks. Have bookmarked it for future reference ;)

  104. June 21, 2011 5:20 pm

    What a great list…….ahhh but none of these were in my top 10! I must be too into the sad, sappy love songs ***sighs***

    • June 27, 2011 8:47 pm

      Romantic Asian Guy! Good to see you, it’s been a little while :). I’d love to see your list of sad, sappy love songs!

  105. June 21, 2011 5:59 pm

    Try “How Am I Doin'” by Dierks Bentley to add a male singer to your list.

  106. June 21, 2011 6:19 pm

    This, along with your other “breakup song” posts, is quite good. I can’t see past my dislike for the artists in #10, 7, 5, and 2, but, hey, we can’t all agree on what’s good music–that’d be a dull world. 4 other thoughts about breakup songs:
    1. Why in the world did it take so long for this to get freshpressed? You wrote it in January?
    2. Being the “dumpee” is so much better than being the “dumper”, because the music is so much better (future blogpost of mine).
    3. Really loved that you mentioned “You Oughta Know” in one of your posts; I’ve always loved the idea of the dumped person being crazy enough to show up “in the middle of dinner” to tell him that she sees that he’s still alive even though he told her he’d hold her until he died, till he died.
    4. My all-time favorite “you dumped me, but go screw yourself; I’m gonna have fun” song is “Sail On” by Lionel Richie and the Commodores:
    “It was plain to see, that a, small town boy like me, just,
    Wasn’t your cup a tea, I was, wishful thinkin’…
    I gave you my heart and I tried to make you happy
    You gave me nothing in return
    You know it ain’t so hard to say, would you please just go away?
    I’ve thrown away the blues, I’m tired of bein’ used,
    I want everyone to know, I’m lookin’ for a good time……
    …..Oh sail on, honey, good times never felt so good….”

    Thank you for the entertaining posts!

    • June 27, 2011 8:49 pm

      trailertrashdeluxe,
      Thanks so much for stopping by the blog and looking around and I’m glad you’ve enjoyed some posts! I have no idea what made them Freshly Press this after it’s been up since January, but I am thankful because I had a chance to meet so many new people and really flesh out this list! I look forward to your future blog post about why being the dumpee is better than being the dumper :) Come back and let me know when it’s up so I don’t miss it! :)

      • August 30, 2011 11:37 pm

        Hi–I hope things are going well. I finally wrote that post tonight about why being “the dumpee” is better. It’s not really my best, but then, I put a whopping 15 minutes of effort into it, so what the heck.

  107. lamilne permalink
    June 21, 2011 6:25 pm

    Great list! I think I put Survivor and I Will Survive on repeat one afternoon…guaranteed to lift the spirits. Adele’s ’21’ album is also proving to match the mood of both melancholy and empowerment after a break up :)

    • June 27, 2011 8:50 pm

      lamilne
      Thanks for stopping by and for your comment. Agreed, Adele’s 21 is an awesome mix to get anyone through a breakup!

  108. Jonathan permalink
    June 21, 2011 6:39 pm

    Just discovered your blog, and loved this post – great, great list.

    • June 27, 2011 7:18 pm

      Thank you, Jonathan! I hope you’ll stick around for a while :)

  109. June 21, 2011 7:04 pm

    Love this post, when I got divorced many years ago I used to listen to several songs. My favorite was ” I Will Survive” because my ex thought I would never have anything with out him.

    • June 27, 2011 7:20 pm

      nomoregluten,
      Thanks for your comment. I think many of our exes think we won’t be able to do anything without them…all we can do is prove them wrong and survive, huh? Seems like you are doing just that!

  110. June 21, 2011 7:09 pm

    Great list but I have to add Mariah Carey’s I’ll Be There to the first list. I broke up with my now husband once and heard the line, “If you should ever find someone new, you know she better be good to you” and completely broke down. Damn Marah. She does it to me every time. Speaking of Mariah, how about your next list includes the top 10 songs you should give birth to? Just a thought…

    • June 27, 2011 7:21 pm

      Mariah’s I’ll be There is a good song, thanks for the addition. Ha, i don’t know about the top 10 songs you should give birth to… I may be a bit biased, as giving birth scares the bejesus out of me! :)

  111. June 21, 2011 7:37 pm

    That’s a nice list! I would have added Smile by Lily Allen, though. That song always makes me feel better :)

    I have to admit that when I read “Top 10 Empowering Breakup songs” on wordpress I couldn’t resist the temptation, haha. Congrats on being freshly pressed ;)

    Greetings from Chile ^^

    Javi.

    • June 27, 2011 7:22 pm

      Thanks, Javi! The best part about being Freshly Pressed is being able to meet people from so many different places! Love that you are commenting from Chile! Appreciate your reading.

  112. June 21, 2011 8:16 pm

    I just remembered my high school because of the song I Saw the Sign. :-) Didn’t expect that actually.

    • June 27, 2011 7:23 pm

      Sony,
      Haha, Songs do have a way of bringing up old memories. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

  113. June 21, 2011 8:54 pm

    Great list! I love how everyone keeps commenting w/ even more great songs.
    My favorite empowering breakup song is Whitney Houston’s “Salute”.

    “Cause I’m a soldier girl, in this world
    I Stand alone, I can be strong
    I walked the miles, and made home
    It’s good to know without you I made it
    Soldier, girl, in my world
    I took the fall now I stand tall
    Fought the pain and all, I made it through
    And now all I gotta say to you
    I Salute you, ay, ay
    I Salute you, ay, ay”

    More lyrics: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/w/whitney_houston/#share

    • June 27, 2011 7:24 pm

      Sara,
      Thanks for this addition! It’s funny, I’m being introduced to all these Whitney Houston songs through this post that I had never heard of! I usually focus on her songs about cheaters, lol :)

  114. June 21, 2011 8:54 pm

    What an awesome idea :) I created a “single” playlist (about two days before I met someone, go figure) and I wish I’d included some of these on it! One of the most empowering breakup songs, to me, is “I Look So Good Without You” by Jessie James. Makes me smile. Great list!

    • June 27, 2011 7:25 pm

      Thanks, Valerie! Funny, creating a “single” playlist and then meeting someone. The Jessie James song is a good one. Thanks!

  115. June 21, 2011 9:16 pm

    HAHA THERE WAS A TIME WHEN I NEEDED ALL OF THESE SONG!! HOPEFULLY THEY GIVE SOMEONE A HELPING HAND!

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  116. June 21, 2011 9:30 pm

    A song that empowers “Fire Bomb” Rihanna….

  117. June 21, 2011 10:22 pm

    Definitely “My Tears Dry on Their Own” by Amy Winehouse. Well, that falls in the middle of depressing/empowering. Or maybe depressing can be empowering? No, probably not.

    • June 27, 2011 7:28 pm

      Ha, Yr. Blogger, I’m not sure depressing can be empowering. BUT – I think we all have to go through the stages, and there is a place and a need for the depressing songs too! Thanks for sharing.

  118. June 21, 2011 10:40 pm

    Add me to the list of those who were recently broken up with. I enjoyed your list very much and added a few of your suggestions to my own playlist!

    More ideas: “Pressing On” by Relient K is good for when you are thinking positively. The album “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” by Miranda Lambert travels the whole spectrum of breakup emotion – anger, sadness, loneliness, moving forward.

    Also, if you aren’t feeling particularly romantic, give “If I Didn’t Have You” by Tim Minchin a try (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeZMIgheZro). Here’s a sample of the funny and clever lyrics:

    “If I didn’t have you to hold me tight
    If I didn’t have you to lie with at night
    If I didn’t have you to share my sights
    And to kiss me and dry my tears when I cry…

    Well I, really think that I would…have somebody else.
    If I didn’t have you, someone else would do
    Your love is one in a million
    You couldnt buy it at any price
    But of the 9 point 9 hundred thousand other loves,
    Statistically some of them would be equally nice.”

    Good luck to everyone else currently struggling with breakups. You are far from alone!

    • June 27, 2011 7:30 pm

      Kristen,
      This is such a good addition! I’d never heard it but those lyrics really spoke to me. It sort of says the “There’s plenty of fish in the sea” without being annoying :) Thanks for commenting.

  119. June 21, 2011 11:01 pm

    Hey all! What a great surprise it was this morning to be Freshly Pressed! Definitely makes for a really fun day. I will be reading through and responding to all of your comments, I promise! There are definitely some great song suggestions here – with all your comments incorporated, this is one hell of a breakup sound track. If there is one thing we can all empathize with, it’s the pain of a breakup. Thanks so much for taking a moment to stop by my blog and it’s nice to meet you all!

  120. Lotus Flower permalink
    June 21, 2011 11:17 pm

    Congratulations on being Freshly Pressed! This post was definitely worth that title. Another song that has helped me get over someone is Boys II Men – Doing Just FIne

    • June 27, 2011 7:31 pm

      Lotus,
      Thanks!! It was definitely an exciting day. I appreciate your adding Boys II Men to this list – it definitely needed them to round it out :)

  121. June 21, 2011 11:28 pm

    i love this entry! now getting a file of keith urban’s song! :)

  122. Claire permalink
    June 21, 2011 11:43 pm

    Oh, you don’t have my favorite yet!

    “Red Rubber Ball”

    I should have known you’d bid me farewell
    There’s a lesson to be learned from this and I learned it very well
    Now, I know you’re not the only starfish in the sea
    If I never hear your name again, it’s all the same to me

    And I think it’s gonna be alright
    Yeah, the worst is over now
    The mornin’ sun is shinin’ like a red rubber ball

    You never care for secrets I confide
    For you, I’m just an ornament, somethin’ for your pride
    Always runnin’, never carin’, that’s the life you live
    Stolen minutes of your time were all you had to give

    And I think it’s gonna be alright
    Yeah, the worst is over now
    The mornin’ sun is shinin’ like a red rubber ball

    The story’s in the past with nothin’ to recall
    I’ve got my life to live and I don’t need you at all
    The roller-coaster ride we took is nearly at an end
    I bought my ticket with my tears, that’s all I’m gonna spend

    And I think it’s gonna be alright
    Yeah, the worst is over now
    The mornin’ sun is shinin’ like a red rubber ball

    Oh, I think it’s gonna be alright
    Yeah, the worst is over now
    The mornin’ sun is shinin’ like a red rubber ball

    • June 27, 2011 7:34 pm

      Wow, Claire.
      Great song, thanks for sharing it. Nothing like an oldie to remind us that people have been going through rough breakups forever! :)

  123. June 22, 2011 12:28 am

    I love how you described EXACTLY how some songs make us feel so depressed about the failed relationships in our lives!
    I’m so happy that I know at least half of the songs that “empower” us xD
    And yes!!! “I will survive” is definitely the number 1 empowering song! ;)

    • June 27, 2011 7:44 pm

      Finaleproject,
      Glad you know many of these empowering songs. Appreciate your comments :)

  124. June 22, 2011 12:32 am

    This is so great! Love the post, and the many comments! I haven’t made a break-up mix in years, but I made one for myself many years ago after a particularly tough break-up. There was another woman involved for him (emotionally, but not physically, but still), and so I had all sorts of songs to put my emotions into! I called it “Bitter Grounds” and I still play it when I want to wail my heart out in the car! Some favorites from my mix:

    Jealousy by Natalie Merchant
    Bulletproof by The Nields (a former folk-rock duo from Western Mass)
    Snowman also by The Nields
    Hole in My Head by the Dixie Chicks (this one is PERFECT!)
    One Thousand Sarahs by Eddie From Ohio
    Let Me Down Hard by John Eddie
    I Won’t Cry Over You by Ellis Paul
    Get Out of This House by Shawn Colvin

    There’s more, but those are my faves! With all these awesome suggestions, you could go into business selling break-up mixes!

    • June 27, 2011 7:46 pm

      aliving,
      Now that’s an idea! We should take all the comments on this post and make the ultimate breakup soundtrack. We can sell it on itunes and make a fortune :)
      Thanks for sharing your breakup song list. Dixie Chicks have some good ones for sure, I love “Sometimes.”

  125. June 22, 2011 12:34 am

    You forgot “Big Pimpin'”
    Best line: “I parts with nothin ya’ll be frontin’ me give ma heart to a women, not fa nothin’ ever happen I be foreva mackin”

    • June 27, 2011 7:47 pm

      LOL, Cathy. Never thought of “Big Pimpin” but I have to admit, I can see how that would be an empowering breakup song :)

  126. June 22, 2011 12:39 am

    Whoa, you got freshly pressed again!??!?!!!! I wonder if you are the first person that has ever happened to. Amazing accomplishment, congrats!

    • June 27, 2011 8:51 pm

      Sheri,
      Thanks!! I know of a few of the blogs I read being Freshly Pressed twice, but it does feel like lightening striking in the same place twice! I feel so very lucky. Thanks for stopping by :)

  127. June 22, 2011 12:50 am

    Omg! I seriously just read through all these comments to make sure nobody else had suggested it, but one that always gives me a perverse sense of pride and accomplishment is No Reins by Rascal Flatts:

    She left that loser in a dust cloud / Heart in his hands, chin on the ground / Cried her last tear for that clown / She can see a little clearer now. She says / who-oa, I’ve gotta go and find me / who-oa, she found the strength to break free / Like a painted wild mustang / Flying out across the open range / Finally gets to live her life that way / No fear, no fences, nobody / No reins. / All she’s ever felt is held back. She says / It’s kinda nice to hear myself laugh / She’s gonna do a lot more of that / She’s making plans and making tracks.

    And not quite as wonderful, but still makes me feel empowered, also by Rascal Flatts, How Strong Are You Now:

    When she told you goodbye, you didn’t flinch / When she looked back, you didn’t even budge an inch / You stood there like a stone / But now that she’s gone / How strong are you now / Without her around / You can’t even keep one little bitty tear from falling down / How strong are you now. When she left you told yourself / It can’t hurt that much / But now you’re doubled over like / You took a punch / No, she ain’t coming back / Tell me how much can you take of that / How strong are you now

    • June 27, 2011 8:53 pm

      Lauren,
      These are great songs! Thanks for sharing. I can’t believe you went through all the comments…. you must be exhausted :) haha. I LOVE the lines “All she’s ever felt is held back. She says it’s kinda nice to hear myself laugh.” What a great sentiment.

  128. June 22, 2011 12:55 am

    Speaking about empowering breakup songs, have you ever heard “I Learned From The Best” by Whitney Houston? I think its quite matched with this theme.
    By the way, i REALLY like to read all comments here… :)

    • June 27, 2011 8:54 pm

      mesarah,
      I hadn’t, thanks for sharing! One thing I learned from all the comments is there is a lot of music out there that I’m missing out on! Thanks for adding to the list.

  129. June 22, 2011 1:12 am

    great post!!! beyonce’s irreplaceable, gloria gaynor’s i will survive and cher’s believe were my anthems long time ago. might i add: LARA FABIAN’S I WILL LOVE AGAIN and GABRIELLE’S Out of Reach are great too!!!

  130. June 22, 2011 1:41 am

    Oh man, after a breakup, usually the following weekend, I go out for karaoke and belt out Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive” at full volume. I don’t care if that makes me a romantic comedy cliche.

    One song I like that is kind of full of sass is “Gorgeous” by Girl Next Door. The line says it all: “I only loved you because you’re gorgeous.”

    http://grooveshark.com/s/Gorgeous+slipcritical+Remix+/2Qr7S0?src=5

    “I hate to break it to you, we had nothing in common
    We were so far apart
    You liked Top 40 radio and I had my Joni Mitchell
    We were helpless from the start
    You wanted something more than I could ever give
    You wanted to feel my kiss from the heart
    But I only loved you because you’re gorgeous”

    • June 27, 2011 8:55 pm

      NOTHING is better than karaoke, Gloria Gaynor and a bad breakup. Glad I’m not the only one. I have to say, The Sign and karaoke is pretty good too :)
      Thanks for adding to the list. I hadn’t heard this song before!

  131. atikah212 permalink
    June 22, 2011 2:51 am

    Mine is Afterlife by Avenged Sevenfold..the guitar work and the drumbeat…make you realise that..everything gonna be okay..it’s a very cool song!!! Try listen to it.. <3

  132. June 22, 2011 3:20 am

    “I don’t care anymore” by Phil Collins.

    • June 27, 2011 7:58 pm

      Ahh, Phil Collins. He’s a must-add to this list! Thanks for your comment.

  133. June 22, 2011 3:41 am

    Just to name a few others:

    U& Ur Hand-Pink
    Kerosene-Miranda Lambert
    Gunpowder & Lead-Miranda Lambert
    Only Prettier-Miranda Lambert
    Best damn thing-Avril Lavigne
    Turn on the radio-Reba
    The one in the middle-Sarah Johns

    • June 27, 2011 8:00 pm

      Coolorange,
      Thanks for these! U & Ur Hand by Pink is a really good one :)

  134. June 22, 2011 3:59 am

    hello this song from indonesia ,,We Can (Official Song Sea Games 26th-2011 Indonesia)

  135. June 22, 2011 5:12 am

    I really really enjoyed listening to and watching Cee Lo’s – Forget You, although the uncensored version is much more fulfilling to my ears :). Great list by the way! And congrats on the being freshly squeezed out of the wordpress mountain of blogs.

    • June 27, 2011 8:01 pm

      Thanks!! Very excited to be Freshly Pressed. Appreciate your stopping by :)

  136. Shad permalink
    June 22, 2011 6:51 am

    nothing beats daughtry when it comes to break up songs. =)

    • June 27, 2011 8:01 pm

      Shad,
      This is what I’m hearing! I had no idea! Thanks for stopping by.

  137. June 22, 2011 6:56 am

    nice collection…

  138. June 22, 2011 7:25 am

    Awesome! When I had a really big, really bad breakup a few years ago, Christina’s “Fighter” came on the TV and I just knew then I would be okay. Better than okay! “Survivor” too, that song was a good one, as was Kelly Clarkson’s “Since You Been Gone”, already mentioned I think! Also, at the time a friend of mine sent me a song called “My Goddess” by a band called The Exies. Although it’s specifically about a girl, the sentiment, I think, is universal!

    “You were counting on a freefall,
    You laid your bet I would lose all.
    Chalk up one less crucifixion
    I kicked that sick old addiction.

    Gone, I don’t believe in you now
    I’ve seen too much
    I don’t believe in you now
    My Goddess.”

    • June 27, 2011 8:08 pm

      Phytoplanktonic,
      I’ve never heard that song! Thanks for sharing it – the lyrics are great!

  139. June 22, 2011 8:24 am

    This isn’t a song so much as it is kind of a spoken poem over music, but Meryn Cadell’s “The Sweater” always gives me a lift when I’m down, particularly when it’s all about love and breaking up. This has been “out of print” a while (though you can still see the video for it on YouTube, so here it all is):

    (Apologies in advance for the length! But I hope you enjoy it)

    Meryn Cadell’s The Sweater

    Girls,
    I know you will understand this
    and feel the intrinsic incredible emotion
    You have just pulled over your head the worn,
    warm sweater belonging to a boy
    Now, you haven’t had a passionate
    kissing session or anything,
    but you got to go on a camping trip with him
    and eight other people from school
    And you practically slept together,
    your sleeping bag right next to his
    And you woke in the night to watch him as he slept
    but you couldn’t see anything ’cause it was dark
    so you just laid there and listened to his breathing
    and wondered if your heart might burst
    The sweater has that faintly goat-like smell
    which all teenage boys possess,
    and that smell will lovingly transfer
    to all your other clothes

    If you get to keep it for a few
    days you can sleep with it
    but don’t let your mom see, ’cause she’ll say,
    “what is that filthy thing, and who does it belong to
    besides the trash man?”
    So you have to keep it under the covers with you
    You can kind of lie it beside you,
    or wrap it around your waist,
    or touch it on your legs, or whatever
    That’s your business

    Now if the sweater has, like, reindeer on it
    or is a funny color like yellow… I’m sorry,
    you can’t get away with a sweater like that
    Look for brown, or grey, or blue
    Anything other than that, and you
    know you’re dealing with
    someone who’s different
    And different is NOT what you’re looking for
    You’re looking for those Teenage Alpine ski-chiseled features
    and that sort of blank look which
    passes for deep thought
    or at least the notion that someone’s home
    You’re looking for the boy of your dreams
    who is the same boy in the dreams of all your friends.
    Now the sweater isn’t going to fit you of course,
    you kind of have to roll up the sleeves in a jaunty way that says:

    this is the sweater belonging to a boy,
    and the boy is a genuine hunka hunka burning love,
    and this is not just some hand me down from your brother or your father

    Monday, wear the sweater
    to school
    Be calm, look cute
    Don’t tell him about the dream you had
    about the place the two of you would share
    when you get older
    Just be yourself
    The best, cutest, quietest version of yourself
    Definitely wear lip gloss
    He looks at you, and then he looks away
    And then he walks away
    and the smell of the sweater hits you again suddenly
    like ape-scent gloriola
    and you get a note passed to you
    by a girl in History that says
    “He needs that sweater back.
    He forgot you put it on in the tent on Saturday
    and he’s been looking for it.”

    And you don’t have to die of humiliation,
    You are a strong person
    and this is a learning experience
    You can still hold your head up high as
    you run from the classroom
    tearing the stinking sweater from your body.
    You look at that sweater, carefully,
    and you realize that love made you temporarily blind.
    You’ve got a secret now, honey,
    and though you’d never sink as low as him,
    you could blab it all over the school if you wanted

    The label in that sweater
    says “100% Acrylic”

    • June 27, 2011 8:17 pm

      Nancy,
      Thanks so much for sharing this! What a cool song. Had never heard of it.

  140. June 22, 2011 9:18 am

    Maybe someone already mentioned this, but Want You Gone from Portal 2 is really good. Some of the best lines would be: I used to want you dead but/Now I only want you gone.
    You’ve got your short sad life left/That’s what I’m counting on/I’ll let you get right to it/Now I only want you gone.
    If I ever HAD a breakup, I’d totally use it.

    • June 27, 2011 8:21 pm

      katblogger,
      This really resonated with me “I used to want you dead but now I only want you gone.” Kind of speaks to getting through the anger to moving on. Thanks for sharing!

  141. June 22, 2011 9:52 am

    good job! … hmm… i wish to listen a few of them now :)

  142. June 22, 2011 10:25 am

    Well compiled! I think Beyonce’s Irreplaceable is certainly a song that will go down in history like how I Will Survive did. A catchy chorus, contagious hand actions, what’s not to love?

    • June 27, 2011 8:57 pm

      Totally agree, findingeastwest. It’s such a good song. Thanks for stopping by.

  143. June 22, 2011 11:15 am

    Just found this today (after finding the blog from a Google search on another topic!) —
    How ’bout:
    Erasure – ‘Heart of Stone’, if only for the line ‘My mother told me / You’d be no good for me’…
    And ol’ fave of mine (from around 1990?) – The Motorcycle Gang with ‘Big Rock Candy Man’ —
    ‘Everyday in this house seems the same
    I wanna go where no one knows my name.
    Hope I never led you to believe
    That the day would never come when I would leave.
    This is no way to say goodbye,
    But I never was good at telling lies…

    …And whatever you decide to do,
    I hope the sun will always shine on you.
    By the time you see things my way,
    I’ll be halfway down the highway.
    One day, darling, you will see,
    You’ll smile when you remember me…’

    Always leave on the high note (positive), no? :)

    • June 27, 2011 8:58 pm

      I like those lyrics a lot, thanks for sharing. No need to be rude when youare leaving, right? :) Thanks for stopping by.

  144. June 22, 2011 12:39 pm

    selena gomez – so sick of you
    carrie underwood – undo it

    and i love ace of base it’s amazing(:

    of course lots of taylor swift, i played picture to burn today while i burnt my ex’s pictures.

    • June 27, 2011 8:59 pm

      Dallice,
      Congrats on burning the pics.. that’s a big step, for sure… And I hear you, Selena Gomez and Carrie both have great breakup songs. Thanks for your thoughts.

  145. June 22, 2011 3:30 pm

    Breakin’ Up – Rilo Kiley

    It’s not as if New York City
    Burnt down to the ground
    Once you drove away
    It’s not as if the sun won’t shine
    When clouds up above
    Wash the blues away

    Are we breaking up
    Are we breaking up
    Is there trouble between you and I
    Did my heart break enough
    Did it break enough this time

    Here’s to all the pretty words
    We will never speak
    Here’s to all the pretty girls
    You’re gonna meet
    Lyrics provided by http://www.kovideo.net/
    Source – http://www.kovideo.net/breakin-up-lyrics-rilo-kiley-633028.html

    Am I breaking up
    Am I breaking up
    Is there trouble on the line
    Did your heart break enough
    Did it break enough this time

    Ooh it feels good to be free
    Ooh it feels good to be free
    Ooh it feels good to be free

    Betrayal is a thorny crown
    You wear it well
    Just like a king
    Revenge is the saddest thing
    Honey, I’m afraid to say
    You deserve everything

    Am i breaking up
    Are we breaking up
    Is there trouble between the lines
    Did your heart break enough
    Did it break enough this time

    Ooh it feels good to be free
    Ooh it feels good to be free
    Ooh it feels good to be free

  146. June 22, 2011 4:28 pm

    Love your songs. It’s totally useful to wallow! And to move on. You’re probably already past that stage– but I actually have an ebook out for people who are getting over break-ups. It’s called From Heartbreak to Wholeness: 12 Steps to Healing from Break-up. You can find out more about it on my blog: http://fromheartbreaktowholeness.wordpress.com/

  147. Marcelle permalink
    June 22, 2011 4:55 pm

    A BUNCH OF THESE ARE MORE PUNK. :D though they are all very depressing or motivating! Either way – great for a recent breakup.
    “Single Girls” by Laura Jansen.
    “You Could Be Happy” by Snow Patrol.
    “Someone Like You” by Adele.
    “Hero” by Regina Spektor.
    “Braille” by Regina Spektor.
    “The Quiet Things That No One Ever Knows” by Brand New.
    “The Boy Who Blocked His Own Shot” by Brand New.
    “Lapse” by Envy On The Coast.
    “Beauty In The Breakdown” by The Scene Aesthetic.
    “The Con” by Tegan & Sara.
    “Call It Off” by Tegan & Sara.
    “Giving Up” by Ingrid Michaelson.
    “More Than Life” by Whitley.
    “Swim” by Jack’s Mannequin.
    “Casey’s Song” by City and Colour.
    “In This River” by Black Label Society.
    “The World Should Revolve Around Me” by Little Jackie.

    • June 27, 2011 8:23 pm

      Wow, really great additions here. You really helped round out my list. I love Regina Spektor by the way.

  148. June 22, 2011 5:31 pm

    This list was very, very well compiled. Thank you for sharing it! Of all music, the songs I love best are those that have a sense of purpose and power.

    -GD
    Visit my writing blog at http://shelleddreams.wordpress.com/

  149. June 22, 2011 10:57 pm

    I went through a breakup a few months ago and have a playlist that combines these two types of songs. Thank you for some new ideas! I am definitely going to add many of these to the list.

    • June 27, 2011 9:00 pm

      livebyladybugs,
      No problem! Glad to help! With these comments, you’ll have lots of ideas for your list. Take care of yourself and thanks for stopping by :)

  150. June 23, 2011 3:34 am

    Probably the best breakup song, in my estimation, is “Not Anymore” by The Dead Boys. Obviously, old-school punk rock isn’t everyone’s favorite but is seems that there is a certain stage in every breakup I’ve ever had where this song, the chorus in particular, has been very empowering.

    • June 27, 2011 8:25 pm

      darkhorse,
      Thanks for sharing. I don’t know any punk music so I appreciate you helping rounding this list out!

  151. June 23, 2011 6:48 am

    thanks… these would really help..

  152. TakenForARide permalink
    June 24, 2011 4:15 am

    Hey! Maybe if you haven’t yet heard it yet, you should try hearing “Grenade” by Bruno Mars? Not really a breakup song….but somehow suits the mood. :P
    You know the feeling when you feel you did everything you could and the other person still had their head in the clouds and dint give a fuck?

    The thing about this song is that it has THE most uplifting and fast beats. :D
    Here are the lyrics…

    Easy come, easy go
    That’s just how you live, oh
    Take, take, take it all
    But you never give
    Should’ve known you was trouble
    From the first kiss
    Had your eyes wide open
    Why were they open?

    I gave you all I had
    And you tossed it in the trash
    You tossed it in the trash, you did
    To give me all your love
    Is all I ever asked
    Cause what you don’t understand
    Is

    I’d catch a grenade for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
    Throw my hand on a blade for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
    I’d jump in front of a train for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
    You know I’d do anything for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
    I would go through all this pain
    Take a bullet straight through my brain
    Yes, I would die for you, baby
    But you won’t do the same

    No, no, no, no

    Black, black, black and blue
    Beat me ’til I’m numb
    Tell the devil I said “Hey” when you get back to where you’re from
    Mad woman, bad woman
    That’s just what you are
    Yeah, you smile in my face then rip the brakes out my car

    Gave you all I had
    And you tossed it in the trash
    You tossed it in the trash, yes you did
    To give me all your love
    Is all I ever asked
    Cause what you don’t understand
    Is

    I’d catch a grenade for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
    Throw my hand on the blade for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
    I’d jump in front of a train for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
    You know I’d do anything for you (yeah, yeah, yeah)
    I would go through all this pain
    Take a bullet straight through my brain
    Yes, I would die for you, baby
    But you won’t do the same

    If my body was on fire
    You would watch me burn down in flames
    You said you loved me, you’re a liar
    Cause you never ever ever did, baby

    But, darling, I’d still catch a grenade for you
    Throw my hand on the blade for you
    I’d jump in front of a train for you
    You know I’d do anything for you

    I would go through all this pain
    Take a bullet straight through my brain
    Yes I would die for you baby
    But you won’t do the same

    No, you won’t do the same
    You wouldn’t do the same
    Ooh, you’d never do the same
    Oh, no no no

    • June 27, 2011 8:29 pm

      TakenforaRide,
      I have heard this song but I never thought of it as a breakup song. But I totally see it! Thanks for stopping by.

  153. yahjme05 permalink
    June 24, 2011 6:37 am

    Great choices .. Such empowering songs .. Nice post

    Irreplaceable by beyonce is one hell great song to move on.
    :D

  154. June 24, 2011 10:11 am

    Adele’s 21 album is amazing. There’s so much great material in there in terms of moving on, letting go, etc. (i.e. Turning Tables!)

    • June 27, 2011 8:27 pm

      Kimberly,
      TOTALLY agree. I love Adele…just recently found her an I’m sort of obsessed with 21! Thanks for readng and commenting.

  155. June 24, 2011 8:01 pm

    Ooh girl, check out my site. It’s for single ladies, to know their worth and value as they wait for “the one,” with other tips on the waiting/preparation process. =)) I pray you get your dream prince, as I have gotten mine =))

  156. June 24, 2011 8:11 pm

    Rebecca St. James “Wait for me” is a beautiful song, reminding us of that knight who will someday come when we’re both ready

  157. ~*~Shelly~*~ permalink
    June 25, 2011 12:08 pm

    I didn’t see this one on the list (hopefully I didn’t miss it!) but White Horse by Taylor Swift is an awesome one!!

    Say you’re sorry
    That face of an angel
    Comes out just when you need it to
    As I paced back and forth all this time
    Cause I honestly believed in you
    Holding on
    The days drag on
    Stupid girl,
    I should have known, I should have known

    [Chorus:]
    I’m not a princess, this ain’t a fairy tale,
    I’m not the one you’ll sweep off her feet,
    Lead her up the stairwell
    This ain’t Hollywood, this is a small town,
    I was a dreamer before you went and let me down,
    Now it’s too late for you and your white horse to come around

    Baby I was naive,
    Got lost in your eyes
    And never really had a chance
    My mistake, I didn’t know to be in love
    You had to fight to have the upper hand
    I had so many dreams
    About you and me
    Happy endings
    Now I know

    [Chorus:]

    And there you are on your knees,
    Begging for forgiveness, begging for me
    Just like I always wanted but I’m so sorry

    Cause I’m not your princess, this ain’t a fairytale,
    I’m gonna find someone someday who might actually treat me well
    This is a big world, that was a small town
    There in my rear view mirror disappearing now
    And it’s too late for you and your white horse
    Now it’s too late for you and your white horse to catch me now

    • June 27, 2011 8:36 pm

      “I’m gonna find someone someday who might actually treat me well”
      LOVE THIS! Thanks for sharing. I really like some of Taylor Swift’s other songs, but I hadn’t heard this one! Appreciate your comment.

  158. Christina permalink
    June 26, 2011 3:42 am

    Hi, loved your post. Iv got a few songs that have really helped me…

    1) rolling in the deep – Adele
    2) little bit stronger – Sara Evans
    3) can’t do better – jojo
    4) take a bow – Rihanna
    5) t-shirt – shantelle

    • June 27, 2011 8:32 pm

      Thanks, Christina. Rolling in the Deep is one of the best breakup songs ever. I’ll check out the others you’ve suggested. Appreciate your comment.

  159. June 26, 2011 10:48 am

    These are all great and empowering for the breakup-ee but how about the breakup-er? Great post!

    • June 27, 2011 8:34 pm

      I think this list could be for the breakuper too, if you broke up with someone because they were really bad for you, and it was a tough breakup. I actually wrote this list, being the breakup-er…but it was still so sad and hard for me that I needed some empowering songs. You should make your own list – would love to read it!

  160. June 27, 2011 12:56 pm

    Nice! Hope you don’t have to use this list anytime soon.

  161. June 27, 2011 5:31 pm

    Right now, my favorite getting over him song is

    “A Little Bit Stronger” by Sara Evans – sorry it is a little long, but a great song. Congrats on FP :)

    Woke up late today, and I still feel the sting of the pain.
    But I brushed my teeth anyway, got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face. I got a little bit stronger.

    Riding in the car to work, and I’m trying to ignore the hurt. So I turned on the radio, Stupid song made me think of you,I listened to it for minute, but then I changed it. I’m getting a little bit stronger, just a little bit stronger.

    And I’m done hoping that we can work it out,I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels Letting you drag my heart around.
    And ohhh I’m done thinking, that you could ever change.
    I know my heart will never be the same,but I’m telling myself I’ll be okay. Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger.

    Doesn’t happen over night, but you turn around and a months gone by,
    And you realize you haven’t cried. I’m not giving you a hour or a second or another minute longer. I’m busy getting stronger.

    And I’m done hoping that we can work it out, I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels Letting you drag my heart around.
    And ohhh I’m done thinking, that you could ever change. I know my heart will never be the same,but I’m telling myself I’ll be okay.
    Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger. I get a little bit stronger.

    Getting along without you baby, I’m better off without you baby,
    How does it feel with out me baby? I’m getting stronger without you baby.

    And I’m done hoping that we can work it out, I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels Letting you drag my heart around.
    And ohhh I’m done thinking, that you could ever change.
    I know my heart will never be the same, but I’m telling myself I’ll be okay, Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger.
    I get a little bit stronger.

    I’m just a little bit stronger. A little bit, a little bit, a little bit stronger. I get a little bit stronger.

    • June 27, 2011 9:02 pm

      AWESOME song! Thanks so much for sharing it. I love these lyrics… you do have little reminders here and there of the loss, but you do get stronger each and every day. Appreciate you stopping by Simply Solo!

  162. June 27, 2011 9:01 pm

    lol@#2. Good choice! I think you should add Maroon 5. Most of thei songs are pretty depressing, though. OHHH, The Script- Breakeven!!

    • June 27, 2011 9:03 pm

      Haha, love your excitement :). Thanks for your additions to the list! Between my list and all the comments this has got to be the most comprehensive breakup list known to man! :)

  163. June 28, 2011 12:07 am

    So I know this is definitely middle school, but I like listening to “It’s Alright, it’s Ok” by Ashley Tisdale. It is the only song of hers I like, but its so empowering. Also “Wrong Baby Wrong” by Martina McBride is also an amazing GIRL POWER song.
    <3

  164. June 28, 2011 5:23 am

    love love love love love

  165. cynthia permalink
    June 29, 2011 12:21 am

    okay my vision got tired of scrolling. was the song that fiona apple’s song, sleep to dream on the list? loooove that song!

  166. Jenny Guerra permalink
    June 29, 2011 12:41 am

    1) “Didn’t you know how much I loved you” by Kellie Pickler

    2) Best days of your life by Kellie Pickler

    3) A little bit strong by Sara Evans

    4) Foolish Games by Jewel

    5) I Am by Nelly Furtado

    6) My Love by Ciara

    7) Leave the Pieces by The Wreckers

    • July 5, 2011 10:03 am

      Thanks, Jenny! I didn’t realize how good Sara Evans is for a breakup songs. Gonna check her out – so many people added her to this list! Appreciate your additions.

  167. ILIKA permalink
    June 29, 2011 2:16 pm

    i am seriously gonna check out these songs. :)

  168. cfam permalink
    June 29, 2011 11:10 pm

    stupid boy by keith urban kept me going through my current break up

  169. pJai permalink
    July 1, 2011 9:54 am

    Mostly R&B/Soul but some of my faves….Coming out of a 10 yr relationship (incl. 6 yr marriage) I’m very familiar with heartache! lol….

    If – Destiny’s Child
    Green Light – Beyonce
    I’m Alone Now – Beyonce (Not An Official Release)
    10 Seconds – Jazmine Sullivan
    After Love – Keri Hilson ft. Diddy
    Breaking Point – Keri Hilson
    ANYTHING ADELE has out!
    Bruised But Not Broken – Joss Stone
    Good Mourning – India.Arie
    Energy – Keri Hilson
    Epiphany – Chrisette Michelle
    Be Ok – Chrisette Michelle
    ANYTHING that MOZELLA has out! — “You Wanted It” and “Light Years Away” are GREAT…ALL her songs are great.
    Lesson Learned – Alicia Keys (also
    I Gotta Go, Gotta Leave – Vivian Green
    Its A Wrap – Mariah Carey
    Doin Me – Fantasia
    It’s All Good – Fantasia
    Like A Boy – Ciara
    Rainin Men – Rihanna ft. Nicki Minaj
    Shame – Jill Scott
    This Too Shall Pass – India.Arie
    Where You At- Jennifer Hudson
    Why Don’t You Love Me – Beyonce
    Too Gone, Too Long – EnVogue

    ok….I’m done… : )

    • July 5, 2011 9:33 am

      Wow, pJai, great list. You really do know your stuff. I agree with so many of these, but “ANYTHING ADELE has out!” is soooo true!!!! Good luck to you with everything… I know it’s hard but there is a light a the end of the tunnel!

  170. Joyce permalink
    July 3, 2011 9:36 am

    haha okay maybe very old school and some new stuff, but I just stumbled into these

    Justin timerlake -cry me a river
    ”told me you loved me, why did you leave me all alone. then you tell me you need me when you call me on the phone. but girl I refuse you must have me confused with some other guy. bridges have burned now it’s your turn to cry. So cry me a river!”

    1) Justin timberlake – what goes around, comes around
    ”Is this the way it’s really going down?
    Is this how we say goodbye?
    Should’ve known better when you came around
    That you were gonna make me cry
    It’s breaking my heart to watch you run around
    ‘Cause I know that you’re living a lie
    That’s okay baby ’cause in time you will find…

    What goes around, comes around”

    2.) Britney Spears- Don’t go knocking on my door
    ”Time is up
    No more cheat n’ lie
    No more tears to dry
    You and I, we’re like so “bye-bye”
    Finally
    I am over you
    Totally unblue
    And I can hear myself saying
    I am better off without you
    Stronger than ever and I
    I’m tellin’ you now
    Don’t go knockin’ on my door”

    3) Atomic kitten – OK
    ”I say it’s OK, I can promise you it’s alright
    You ain’t keeping me up all night, no more
    You’re not here but it’s ok, I assure you babe it’s alright
    you ain’t keeping me up all night, no more
    Your not here but it’s okay”

    4) Ben saunders- dry your eyes : This one just cheers me up everytime!
    ”Dry you eyes, little girl
    It’s not the end of the world
    Just the beginning
    We can start a little something baby
    In no time, you’ll be fine
    It’s not the end of the world
    Let’s start a little something”

    So these 4 popped into mind haha if I can think of more I’ll be sure to post haha hope you like it :P

    • Joyce permalink
      July 3, 2011 9:38 am

      i meant 5 xDD

      • Joyce permalink
        July 3, 2011 8:28 pm

        oh oh ohhh !!!

        6) jessie james – guilty: not pure break-up, but it always makes me feel better =D it has some sort of HA! vibe over it :P it’s basically about a girl being treated badly and constantly left and cheated on. And she kinda gets back at him in her own way.
        ”Would it bother you, to know his hands have been all over me??…I feel everything but guilty”

        7) Noah and the whale- blue skies
        ”This is the last song that I write while still in love with you.
        This is the last song that i wrote while your even on my mind.
        Cause it’s time to leave those feelings behind.
        Oh cause blue skies are calling”

        8) Nicole sherzinger- Don’t hold your breath
        ”You can’t touch me now there’s no feeling left
        If you think I’m coming back don’t hold your breath”

        9) The pussycat Dolls- Hush Hush
        ”I don’t want to
        Stay another minute
        I don’t want you
        To say a single word
        Hush Hush, Hush Hush
        There is no other way
        I get the final say”

        10) Esmee Denters- outta here
        ”What a waste of my heart I’ve made. get me outta here!”

        11) Esmee Denters- Victim
        ”And it’s time that I,
        Let go of all the things you’ve been calling me
        Let go of all the pain and the memories
        I ain’t about to break my beginning is starting now

        And you showed me how
        I don’t need your love for charity,
        Got everything I want in me,
        Open your eyes and you will see,
        That I, I, that I, I
        Ain’t a Victim, Ain’t a Victim

        12) Lady Gaga- no way
        ”I can’t believe it or forget it, what I saw that day
        And if you’re wonderin’ if I’m staying…
        The answer is NO WAY”

        13) Eliza doolittle – rollerblades :Also check out her cover of It’s not right but it’s ok, it’s really pretty and a little more light hearted.

        ”While beating up on yesterday I was on my rollerblades, rolling on, moving on…Your running late the doors are closing”

        14) Sugababes- Hole in the head (old but still nice =D)
        ”ooh, bet you never thought I’d get out of bed
        Because of you boy,
        Such a fool boy”

        15) MADI – Divide the city : This is a local girl that won a contest. Eventhough it’s pretty raw, it’s a little inbetween sad and strong. You can search her on youtube! the only single version is available on itunes I’m afraid…It’s really worth the listen though!!! This is the only link : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PvQS3jmQ6K4

        ”oh you haven’t just abandoned me, you also took my friends from me.
        my loving sense of security.
        I’m throwing your stuff outside immediatey.
        Cause we must divide the city tonight,
        we must make sure what’s yours and whats mine.
        We must force our friends in to choosing,
        as if we aren’t already losing, this much
        Divide the city with me.

        Oh god and again it’s a huge list >> There just keep coming up new songs in my head hahaha xD

        • July 5, 2011 9:27 am

          HAHA Joyce! I love your enthusiasm. Thanks for the additions. Loved that line you shared – ”Would it bother you, to know his hands have been all over me??…I feel everything but guilty” Gotta check out the song for sure.

    • July 5, 2011 9:28 am

      Joyce, thanks for these additions! You are doing a great job – looks like you have a knack for breakup songs :). Cry Me A River is a particularly good one.

  171. July 5, 2011 9:44 am

    amazing…….:)

  172. July 7, 2011 2:38 pm

    I loveeee this post! Going through a break-up myself and it’s easy to get caught up in the sad/depressing songs that keep you hanging on for dear life to the relationship. Here’s a song that I’ve appreciated since the break up:

    Jar Of Hearts lyrics by Christina Perri

    I know I can’t take one more step towards you
    ‘Cause all that’s waiting is regret
    And don’t you know I’m not your ghost anymore?
    You lost the love I loved the most

    And I learned to live, half-alive
    And now you want me one more time

    And who do you think you are?
    Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
    Collecting your jar of hearts
    And tearing love apart

    You’re gonna catch a cold
    From the ice inside your soul
    So don’t come back for me
    Who do you think you are?

    I hear you’re asking all around
    If I am anywhere to be found
    But I have grown too strong
    To ever fall back in your arms

    And I learned to live, half-alive
    And now you want me one more time

    And who do you think you are?
    Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
    Collecting your jar of hearts
    And tearing love apart

    You’re gonna catch a cold
    From the ice inside your soul
    [ From : http://www.elyrics.net/read/c/christina-perri-lyrics/jar-of-hearts-lyrics.html ]
    So don’t come back for me
    Who do you think you are?

    Dear, it took so long just to feel alright
    Remember how to put back the light in my eyes
    I wish I had missed the first time that we kissed
    Cause you broke all your promises

    And now you’re back
    You don’t get to get me back

    And who do you think you are?
    Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
    Collecting your jar of hearts
    And tearing love apart

    You’re gonna catch a cold
    From the ice inside your soul
    So don’t come back for me
    Don’t come back at all

    And who do you think you are?
    Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
    Collecting your jar of hearts
    And tearing love apart

    You’re gonna catch a cold
    From the ice inside your soul
    Don’t come back for me
    Don’t come back at all

    Who do you think you are?

    Who do you think you are?

    Who do you think you are?

    • July 11, 2011 8:24 pm

      Thanks for the addition! Sorry to hear about your breakup, but glad you have been able to break yourself from the sad song cycle :)

  173. July 10, 2011 2:50 pm

    Sara Evans A Little Bit Stronger.

    And I’m done hoping that we can work it out
    I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
    Letting you drag my heart around
    And, oh, I’m done thinking, that you could ever change

    I know my heart will never be the same
    But I’m telling myself I’ll be okay
    Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger
    I get a little bit stronger

    Getting along without you, baby
    I’m better off without you, baby
    How does it feel without me, baby?
    I’m getting stronger without you, baby

    My anthem as of late

    • July 11, 2011 7:29 pm

      Thanks for the additions!! Lots of peeps love this Sara Evans song, it sure is a fav on this list!

  174. vinnieboombats permalink
    July 15, 2011 7:37 pm

    how bout Eamon – F*** it ! (I don’t want you back)
    lets u wallow “&” move on

  175. Meep Meep permalink
    July 15, 2011 10:06 pm

    Wow This is a Great Posting and has allowed me to pass the whole day without calling my x ( still within the first 72 hours of breaking up so I am so used to saying good morning, good night that it is hard not to hear his voice), but updating my ipod has spent the whole day. I was surprised how many of mine weren’t on the list. So I hope someone finds them helpful. It is a collection of punk and pop and country, the ones with the stars are truly empowering. My favorite would have to be No more Drama by Mary J and Number One by Skye Sweetnam.

    **Believe By Cher
    Tearin up My heart- N’sync
    End Tonight- All American Rejects
    **No More Drama- Mary J
    Careless Whisper- Seether
    Lover Lover- Jerrod Nieman
    **Told You SO- Keith Urban
    **I got A brand new girlfriend- Steve Holy
    **Stranger in My house- Tamia
    **She Wont be Lonely Long- Clay Walker
    Call me when your sober/ **Sweet Sacrifice- Evanescence
    Neglected- Katherine Mcphee
    Pink- **There You go/ You Make me Sick
    Don’t wanna fight- qwote ft trina ( I usually skip to trina’s part during a break up because the rest of the song falls on the other playlist)

    Thnks fr mmrs- fall out boy
    Lost my way- finger eleven
    Everything You Want- Vertical Horizon
    Verve Pipe- freshman
    Torn- Natalie Umbridge ( or some last name like that)
    Stupid in love- rihanna
    **Number one- skye sweetnam
    Gotta get through this- Daniel bedingfield
    Dreamin love- kate and kasey
    Stop me- Mark Ronson

    I was feeling so much better going through this list, until someone suggested Shantelle’s T-Shirt. Last night that would have been my anthem because nothing in my closet was right when it was time to go out with the girls.

    • July 18, 2011 10:08 pm

      Wow, these are all so great! No More Drama is a great addition! Oh and so I Gotta Get Through This! Sorry to hear you are going through a breakup, but I’m really glad this list helps. Be good to yourself!!

  176. JEANNE permalink
    July 16, 2011 10:19 am

    This I think is the most enpowering breakup song EVER!!!

    REO SPEEDWAGON…TIME FOR ME TO FLY

    “I’ve been around for you
    I’ve been up and down for you
    But I just can’t get any relief
    I’ve swallowed my pride for you
    I’ve lived and lied for you
    But you still make me feel like a thief
    You got me stealin’ your love away
    ‘Cause you never give it
    Peeling the years away
    And we can’t relive it
    I make you laugh
    And you make me cry
    I believe it’s time for me to fly

    You said we’d work it out
    You said that you had no doubt
    That deep down we were really in love
    Oh, but I’m tired of holding on
    To a feeling I know is gone
    I do believe that I’ve had enough

    I’ve had enough of the falseness
    Of a worn out relation
    Enough of the jealousy
    And the intoleration
    I make you laugh
    And you make me cry
    I believe it’s time for me to fly

    [Refrain:]
    Time for me to fly
    Oh, I’ve got to set myself free
    Time for me to fly
    And that’s just how it’s got to be
    I know it hurts to say goodbye
    But it’s time for me to fly

    Oh, don’t you know it’s…
    [Refrain]

    It’s time for me to fly
    [Repeat to end]…”

  177. Meep Meep permalink
    July 16, 2011 5:50 pm

    What exactly does it mean to be freshly pressed? From the replies its positive sooooo Congratulates on receiving it….I think??? :-D

    • July 17, 2011 4:41 pm

      Haha, being Freshly Pressed is a good thing. On the homepage of WordPress.com, they select a few blogs to feature every day. They selected my blog one day. It helps drive new readers to check out the blog– people who would have never been able to otherwise. Thanks for stopping by!!

  178. July 27, 2011 2:30 pm

    Hey, this really helps. :) I’ve been listening to most of that lately.. Just came from a break up too.. :/

    You should try listening to Beyonce’s- Best thing I never had. :)

    Thanks!

  179. jess permalink
    July 28, 2011 9:56 am

    Hey girls
    Not going through a breakup at the moment, but finding out some stuff about what an ex did makes me want to be mad again. Here are some really good ones (if they’re not there already)

    Cher – Strong Enough
    Jessie James – I look so good (without you)
    Justin Timberlake – Cry me a river
    :) :)

    • jess permalink
      July 28, 2011 10:06 am

      Oh and…
      Cassie Davis – No More
      Amy Peason – I don’t miss you
      Stacie Orrico – I’m not missing you

    • July 28, 2011 7:54 pm

      Thanks for all the suggestions, Jess! Sorry to hear about the ex…. I totally know where you are coming from.

  180. Wudrew permalink
    July 29, 2011 7:18 pm

    Just came accross a really good one!

    “extinction” by the soft pack

  181. vanessa permalink
    July 31, 2011 2:28 am

    those are some really good songs. i also think stronger by sara evans should be added. that song really helped me pull through when I went through my break up.

  182. August 2, 2011 4:56 am

    “Bulletproof” by La Roux!

  183. August 2, 2011 8:59 pm

    I have only read a few posts, but I love your blog! I am about 6 months out of a five year relationship. We didn’t get as far as you in our wedding planning before everything fell apart, but it still has left a huge empty space in my life, space that I am trying so hard to fill up with new and exciting adventures. I find myself nodding and smiling, laughing and tearing up at some of your posts. It really is a crazy ride! Thanks for letting us join you on yours!

    • August 9, 2011 8:37 pm

      Alisha,
      Thanks so much for your comment. It made my heart hurt…. in a good way, though :) I know a lot of the feelings you are going through and I really empathize with you. Take good care of yourself… and I promise you will OK in time. It just takes time.

  184. Anklebiters permalink
    August 3, 2011 11:37 pm

    Kelly Clarkson is the Queen of break up songs :lol:

    Breakaway

    I’ll spread my wings and I’ll learn how to fly I’ll do what it takes ’til I touch the sky
    And I’ll make a wish, take a chance, make a change And breakaway

    Already Gone

    I want you to know that it doesn’t matter
    Where we take this road someone’s gotta go
    And I want you to know you couldn’t have loved me better
    But I want you to move on so I’m already gone

    Because of You

    Because of you I find it hard to trust
    Not only me, but everyone around me
    Because of you, I am afraid

    My Life Would Suck Without You

    Baby I was stupid for telling you goodbye
    Maybe I was wrong for tryin’ to pick a fight I know that I’ve got issues
    But you’re pretty messed up too
    Either way, I found out I’m nothing without you

    Since You Been Gone

    But since you’ve been gone
    I can breathe for the first time I’m so moving on, yeah yeah, thanks to you
    Now I get what I want, since you’ve been gone

    Sober

    And I don’t know
    This could break my heart or save me
    Nothing’s real Until you let go completely

    Keith Urban – You’ll Think Of Me

    Take your records, take your freedom
    Take your memories, I don’t need ‘em
    Take your space and take your reasons
    But you’ll think of me
    And take your cat and leave my sweater
    ‘Cause we have nothing left to weather
    In fact I’ll feel a whole lot better

  185. Anklebiters permalink
    August 3, 2011 11:47 pm

    Lene Marlin – Never to know

    Do you want the real story,
    or do you prefer the lie
    Do you want to see him smile,
    or maybe see him cry
    Do you want to follow,
    or let him go alone
    For then, never to know… never to know

  186. Anklebiters permalink
    August 3, 2011 11:55 pm

    Mindy Smith – One Moment More

    Hold me
    Even though I know you’re leaving
    And show me
    All the reasons you would stay
    It’s just enough to feel your breath on mine
    To warm my soul and ease my mind
    You’ve got to hold me and show me now

  187. Anklebiters permalink
    August 4, 2011 1:09 am

    Adele – Someone like you

    Never mind, I’ll find someone like you
    I wish nothing but the best for you, too
    Don’t forget me, I begged,
    I remember you said
    Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead
    Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead

  188. anklebiters permalink
    August 4, 2011 10:03 am

    Sophie Zelmani – I´ll remember you

    I’ll remember you
    You will be there in my heart
    I’ll remember you
    But that’s all that I can do
    But I’ll remember

  189. Strongerthanyouthink permalink
    August 5, 2011 4:20 pm

    Thank you so much for this list and everyone else for their contributions. It was exactly what I was looking for/needed since my very recent break up from a toxic relationship. I’m definitely going to need the empowerment because I foresee a very messy custody battle in my near future. I was trying to create a playlist to get me through and it looks like I’m going to have to go on an iTunes shopping spree. My recent theme songs have been
    “Stronger Woman” by Jewel
    “I wish there was more
    I could say
    Another fairytale fades to gray
    I’ve lived on hope
    Just like a child
    Walking that mile
    Faking that smile
    All the while
    Wishing my heart had wings

    Well from now on I’m going to be
    The kind of woman I’d want my daughter to be, oh

    I’m gonna love myself more than anyone else
    Believe in me, even if someone can’t see
    A stronger woman in me
    I’m gonna be my own best friend
    Stick with me till the end
    I won’t lose myself again, never, no
    ‘Cause there’s a stronger woman,
    A stronger woman”

    “Fearless” by Colbie Caillat
    “If that’s the way you love
    You’ve got to learn so much
    If that’s the way you say goodbye

    And this is how it ends
    And I’m alright with it
    You’re never gonna see me cry
    Cause I’ve cried

    [Chorus:]
    So go on, go on and break my heart
    I’ll be okay
    There’s nothing you can do to me
    That’s ever going to burn me

    So go on, go on and leave my love
    Out on the street
    I’m fearless
    Better believe I’m fearless, fearless”

    and “It Stops Today” by Colbie Caillat
    So here I am, I’m taking my first step
    Thought I was losing balance but I caught myself
    I kinda like the challenge, no I don’t need help
    I’m gonna make it past the very start
    It’s always been the hardest part

    But I, I, I, I, I’m gonna stay in control
    I must admit this crutch is getting old
    I am gonna throw it right out of my hand
    I’m finally here, I understand
    I know I’ll get there on my own

    So I can’t keep on running
    No, I just can’t keep on running away from here
    I know that the only way to beat it is to fight my every fear

    I’m not gonna make it ’til I turn around and face it alone
    I know that I can’t keep on running
    No, I just can’t keep on running away so it stops today

    • August 9, 2011 7:58 pm

      Strongerthanyouthink,
      Glad you appreciated the list. I’m sending positive vibes your way for this stressful time. Take care of yourself.

  190. Anklebiters permalink
    August 7, 2011 1:04 am

    Air Supply – All out of love

    I ‘m all out of love, I’m so lost without you
    I know you were right believing for so long
    I ‘m all out of love, what am I without you
    I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong

  191. Anklebiters permalink
    August 7, 2011 1:11 am

    Vast – One more day

    I was wrong
    Now I’ll never see your face anymore
    Oh my Love
    I’d give anything for one more day with you

  192. Anklebiters permalink
    August 7, 2011 1:20 am

    Lifehouse – Halfway gone

    You were always hard to hold
    So letting go ain’t easy
    I’m hanging on but growing cold
    While my mind is leaving

  193. Anklebiters permalink
    August 7, 2011 1:32 am

    David Choi – Don’t even start

    Because if I look into your eyes
    Then I’ll have to say goodbye
    And that’ll break my heart
    So I won’t even start
    No, I won’t even start

    • August 9, 2011 7:50 pm

      Wow, Anklebiters. Thank you so much for all your additions to my list…. you have been ever so helpful!

      • anklebiters permalink
        August 10, 2011 11:37 am

        My soul mate’s going through rough times and she asked me to find “break up” songs for her and I happened across your blog. IMHO, soul mate doesn’t always mean your SO. Maybe a future topic for your blog – what/who is a/your soul mate :?: :-)

        • August 11, 2011 7:58 pm

          Anklebiters,
          That is an interesting topic. Thanks!! It is interesting to think if your soul mate isn’t your significant other…. opens lots of possibilities.

        • anklebiters permalink
          August 12, 2011 2:52 pm

          If you do, I have an interesting story to tell :-)

  194. anklebiters permalink
    August 10, 2011 2:57 pm

    Star Sailor – Some of us

    I’ve grown to see the philosophy of my own mistrust,
    We all have our faults, mine come in waves that you turn to rust,
    Some of us laugh, some of us cry,
    Some of us smoke, some of us lie,
    But it’s all just the way that we cope with our lives.

  195. Anonymous permalink
    August 12, 2011 5:05 pm

    I just liked one, the 10th number – “You’ll think of me”
    May be it’s just me >.>

    I like “Raise your glass” by PINK! It’s nice. You could add it. Then there’s “Me, myself and I”.. Amazing songs! :)

  196. anklebiters permalink
    August 12, 2011 5:26 pm

    One of favorites from Mandi…and she’s singing with a candy in her mouth :shock:

    Mandi Perkins – Why Pretend

    I know the truth
    I’m not blind you know
    I keep telling you
    Its time to let her go

  197. Maker, Breaker, Whattaa faker permalink
    August 14, 2011 5:34 am

    the other songs i love is:
    -Jar of Hearts : Christina Perri
    – dont forget : demi lovato
    – Story of us : Taylor swift
    – someone like you : Adele
    – cheatercheater, bestfriend eater : never shout never
    – mean : Taylor Swift
    – Picture to burn : Taylor Swift
    – I hate this part : pussycat dolls
    – I dont need a man : pussycat dolls
    – skyscraper : demi lovato

  198. Joyce permalink
    August 16, 2011 1:13 pm

    found a new one!!
    fallulah- lay my head
    ”I see them run when you throw them a bone, I see them run for you
    I can’t believe that not so long ago, you had me running to
    I lay my head where your heart used to be
    I keep the left side for you when i sleep
    i miss the heat and the weight of a man
    but im to good to fall back in your hands”

  199. Anonymous permalink
    August 16, 2011 4:17 pm

    I absolutely love – “Jar of hearts” – Christina Perri

    AMAZING song! :D

  200. GateCityGal permalink
    August 16, 2011 6:12 pm

    I guess we’ve all come here for the same reason. I am past the wallowing, and I love empowering songs. So no “weepers” on this list. Off the top of my head, the ones I haven’t seen in this wonderful collection are:

    “Still Standing” Elton John
    “Bye Bye” Reba McEntire
    “The Bridge You Burn” Reba McEntire
    “Consider Me Gone” also Reba
    “Now You Tell Me” Jordin Sparks

    Jo Dee Messina has a lot of empowering break-up songs:
    My Give a Damn’s Busted
    Lesson in Leavin
    I’m Done
    Who’s Crying Now

    I’ll keep thinking… Is there a similar place for just plain old empowerment songs — minus the break-up? I have a great list of those as well. Good luck ladies. Living well is the best revenege and he who laughs last laughs best.

    • August 18, 2011 10:42 pm

      GateCityGal,
      So great to hear that you are past the wallowing – that’s almost the hardest step! Great additions, too, thank you for adding to the list. I bet there is somewhere for just empowering break up songs! If not – maybe you should create it :)
      “Living well is the best revenge.” EXACTLY!

  201. August 17, 2011 2:57 am

    Stuttering-Fefe Dobson

    “There’s a whole lot of things that I will forgive
    But I just can’t take a liar
    I was by your side ’til the very end
    ’til you pushed me in the fire

    I tried to believe you but something is wrong
    You won’t look in my eyes tell me what’s going on

    “It’s you and me against the world”,
    That’s what you said, that’s what you said
    If you can’t be honest with me
    Then I’m afraid this is the end

    Hurry up, hurry up
    If you ever really cared about me
    Tell the truth, give it up
    You sound guilty, ’cause you’re stutterin’

    Oh oh oh oh oh ey ey ey ey ey oh oh oh oh woah
    Yeah you’re stuttering
    Oh oh oh oh oh ey ey ey ey ey oh oh oh oh woah
    Yeah you’re stuttering

    Now the seconds turn into minutes now
    But you won’t give me an answer

    You can tell me this, you can tell me that
    But don’t say you don’t remember

    ‘Cause I know you better than you know yourself
    So don’t say I’m crazy, I know very well

    “It’s you and me against the world”,
    That’s what you said, that’s what you said
    If you can’t be honest with me
    Then I’m afraid this is the end

    Hurry up, hurry up
    If you ever really cared about me
    Tell the truth, give it up
    You sound guilty, ’cause you’re stutterin’”

  202. Anklebiters permalink
    August 18, 2011 1:18 am

    Leona Lewis – Better In Time

    Since there’s no more you and me (no more you and me)
    It’s time I let you go so I can be free
    And live my life how it should be.
    No matter how hard it is,
    I’ll be fine without you,
    Yes I will.

  203. Lindsay permalink
    August 19, 2011 3:05 pm

    Best thing I have ever come across!! This is exactly what I have needed. Like some others on here, I’m going through a breakup as well and these songs/lyrics really have helped (most just by reading them). Thank you for creating this and for everyone else who has posted before me. It’s almost like everyone is helping each other heal and move on, it’s great! :) :)

    I have one song to add (all the others have already been said), it’s a little sappy but the lyrics are absolutely beautiful!

    “One Day You Will” – Lady Antebellum

    …You walk outside and all you see is rain/You look inside and all you feel is pain/And you can’t see it now/ But down the road the sun is shining/In every cloud there’s a silver lining/ Just keep holding on/And every heartache makes you stronger/ But it won’t be much longer/ You’ll find love, you’ll find peace/ And the you you’re meant to be/ I know right now that’s not the way you feel/ But one day you will.

    Again thank you so much for posting this and providing the support to so many people. This has definitely helped me and in a way saved me. Thanks! :)

    • August 24, 2011 8:19 pm

      Lindsay,
      I do love how this has become such a community :) Thanks for stopping by!

  204. Ying permalink
    August 20, 2011 4:41 am

    not sure if anyone posted this but –

    Whitney Houston – Exhale

    Everyone falls in love sometime
    Sometimes it’s wrong, and sometimes it’s right
    For every win, someone must fail
    But there comes a point when
    When we exhale

    Robbie Williams – Something Beautiful

    When you’re lost, hurt, tired and lonely
    Something beautiful wil come your way

    Robbie Williams – Sexed Up

    Screw you, I didn’t like your taste
    Anyway, I chose you and that’s all gone to waste
    It’s Saturday, I’ll go out
    And find another you

  205. Michelle permalink
    August 21, 2011 3:56 pm

    Having recently broken up with my boyfriend, I wanted to find some good breakup songs as all the songs I have remind me of him. This page is amazing, I spent the best part of yesterday collecting song titles and downloading and have spent the best part of today listening to all my new tracks. Here are some great songs that I don’t think have been mentioned (with some YouTube links for ease)

    1. Woman to Woman by Shirley Brown

    2. It Ain’t no fun by Shirley Brown

    3. ‪Lovin’ Arms by Millie Jackson‬

    4. Angie Stone – Wish I Didn’t Miss You

    5. ‪Heard It All Before by Sunshine Anderson‬
    ‪http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGMInHRR2Fo
    6. ‪Silly Of Me by Denice Williams‬
    ‪http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-7xqBxo4UE

    7. ‪Melt my heart to stone by Adele‬

    8. ‪Like We Never Loved Before by Faith Hill‬

    9. Stay by Beulah
    ‪http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOiJmGp3DyU

    10. Give It To Me Right by Melanie Fiona

    11. ‪I Shall Believe by Sheryl Crow‬
    ‪http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B3Nnrj6i9Vk

    12. Rewind by Diane Birch

    13. Troy by Sinéad O’Connor

    14. Northern Lad by Tori Amos

    15. Warwick Avenue by Duffy

    16. I’m Not Ready To Make Nice by Dixie Chicks

    17. Free Yourself by Fantasia

    18. Open My Heart by Yolanda Adams

    19. Dear Diary by Róisín Murphy

    “Dear diary
    My dear
    Got to keep it all inside
    Got to keep it locked behind a
    Golden wall of silence
    You see I have my pride
    And I won’t be telling him
    Anytime soon
    Too afraid to say it
    I wouldn’t want to embarrass myself
    Telling everybody the truth ”

    20. Fuck Was I by Jenny Owen Youngs

    “Love grows in me like a tumor,
    parasites bent on devouring its host.
    I’m developing my sense of humor,
    till I can laugh at my heart between your teeth,
    till I can laugh at my face beneath your feet.”

    21. Katie by David Ford

    22. ‪David Ford – Cheer Up (You Miserable Fuck)‬

    23. Cheers Darlin’ by Damien Rice

    • August 24, 2011 7:58 pm

      Wow! Great additions! Glad this list helped you out and good luck :)

  206. August 22, 2011 9:06 am

    hey!! i stumbled on this blog desperate to figure what song i heard playing on the radio in a tree of life store the other day … i’m guessing it’s relatively recent, it was sung by a female artist and it had a few pretty witty lines and a chorus that was so catchy there was no way i’d possibly forget it … errgg!! i think the girl was saying something to the effect of “how silly was i to think you were the one” … and it was definitely upbeat and fun sounding, not particularly serious. anyone have any ideas what it was?? it’s driving me crazy!!

  207. justin permalink
    August 25, 2011 3:51 am

    i have a c.d. that i have been playing over and over and is how i told my boyfriend we were over after he cheated on me.
    1 its over jessey mccartney
    2 so sick neyo
    3 burn usher
    4 Heartbreak Warfare John Mayer
    5 Where have you been? Reel Big Fish
    6 Over You Daughtry
    7 i hate everything about you three days grace
    8 youll think of me keith urban
    9 tonight i wanna cry kieth urban

  208. Colleen permalink
    August 25, 2011 11:54 am

    Alana Davis – “32 Flavors and then Some” – love it!

  209. August 26, 2011 6:40 am

    Here’s a couple from me, this is a great topic!

    Hoobastank – Don’t Think I Love You

    “I wish that we would go back to what we were before
    But I don’t think that I love you anymore, anymore
    It’s too hard to keep pretending, it’s too hard to ignore
    I don’t think that I love you anymore, anymore”

    Enrique Iglesias

    “One day at a time
    I gotta let you go
    One day at a time
    It seems so impossible
    One day at a time
    I gotta let you go
    And I know
    Yes I know
    I gotta take it
    One day at a time.”

    Good Charlotte – Dance Floor Anthem (I don’t wanna be in love)

    “She’s going out to forget they were together
    All that time he was taking her for granted
    She wants to see if there’s more
    Then he gave she’s looking for”

    Nicole Scherzinger – Don’t Hold Your Breath

    “You can’t touch me now there’s no feeling left
    If you think I’m coming back don’t hold your breath
    What you did to me boy I can’t forget
    If you think I’m coming back don’t hold your breath”

  210. Anklebiters permalink
    August 29, 2011 1:56 am

    Perter Gabriel – I Grieve

    i grieve for you
    you leave me
    it’s so hard to move on
    still loving what’s gone
    they say life carries on
    they say life carries on and on and on and on

  211. Jaycee permalink
    August 29, 2011 7:42 pm

    Great Lists dont know where this song will be put but the words are so empowering its an oldie but one of my favs now
    The Waterboys – Suffer

    im gonna suffer for you no longer
    im gonna suffer for you no more
    im gonna write you out of my life
    and shut the door

    you tried to drive a wedge
    between me and my friends
    pushed me to the edge time and again
    ive been living in your shade since i cant remember when
    now im bringing this charade to an end!

    im gonna suffer for you no longer
    im gonna suffer for you no more
    im gonna write you outta my life
    and shut the door

    there was subletly and skill in your manipulative ways
    you chipped away my will so you could make me stay
    you soothed me with your voice until i obeyed
    but im making my own choice from today
    you used the tongue of love like a boxer uses fists
    you contained me like a glove or a creeping cloak of mist
    you guaranteed the stars but there was always a twist
    but now i see you as you are an egotist!

    im gonna suffer for you no longer
    imgonna suffer for you no more
    im gonna write you outta my life
    and shut the door

    ive got a ticket in my hand and i must be moving on
    but i want you to understand from from the moment i am gone
    i release and let you go – you owe nothing now to me
    im not angry anymore im free!

    im gonna suffer for you no longer
    im gonna suffer for you no more
    im gonna write you outta my life
    and shut the door

  212. Lulu permalink
    August 29, 2011 8:21 pm

    Some of my favorite cry your eyes out breakup songs:-
    Love Letter – Nick Cave
    Angel – A-Ha
    Beautiful Child – Fleetwood Mac
    Since I fell for you – Nina Simone
    Apple Bed – Sparklehorse
    Just when I needed you most – Dolly Parton
    Need You Now – Lady Antebellum
    It Doesn’t Matter – Alison Krause
    Trust – The Cure
    Watching You – Melissa Etheridge
    Strange and Beautiful – Aqualung
    Should’ve Known Better – Jim Diamond
    Happy Ending – Mika
    Roads – Portishead
    Twenty One – The Cranberries
    Don’t Cry – Guns n Roses
    If Leaving Me Is Easy – Phil Collins
    Miserable At Best – Mayday Parade
    Here Come Those Tears Again – Jackson Browne

  213. Roo permalink
    August 31, 2011 6:33 pm

    I Just made my break up song list. Enjoy!

    Peachy – Missy Higgins
    Labour of Love – Frente!
    Irreplaceable – Beyoncé
    No – Shakira & Gustavo Cerati
    Beautiful Liar – Beyoncé & Shakira
    Fighter – Christina Aguilera
    Feeling Good – Michael Bublé
    Big Girls Don’t Cry (Personal) – Fergie
    Special Ones – Katie Noonan
    Tears Dry On Their Own – Amy Winehouse
    1901 – Phoenix
    So Over You – Ashanti
    Take a Bow – Rihanna
    I’m Not Missing You – Stacie Orrico
    Thank You – Jamelia
    Energy – Keri Hilson

  214. Anklebiters permalink
    September 1, 2011 12:01 am

    Lissie – In Sleep

    Why am I so terrified of waking?
    He’s gone and I feel I’ve been forsaken
    In sleep is the only place I get to see
    him, get to love him
    The scene, a city after dawn
    Becomes a field of corn
    And I’ve had this one before

  215. Anklebiters permalink
    September 1, 2011 12:17 am

    Keri Noble – Look at me

    Look at you
    Look into your heart
    Tell me is there room for you to make a brand new start?
    Or has the world gotten to you and made you dark?
    Come to me

  216. Judy permalink
    September 2, 2011 9:56 pm

    Hi, I just saw this post and had to add Kelis, Caught Out There…this was a great song when I was going through my break up… (Yo this song yo, this song is for all the women out there,
    that have been lied to by their men,
    and I know ya’ll been lied to over and over again,
    This is for ya’ll,
    yo maybe you didn’t break the way you should ‘a broke yo,
    but I break!)
    (Ye know what I’m sayin’ so, this is how it goes yo,
    Psch….! Damn!, yo,)

    last year Valentines Day,
    You would swarm and say,
    Babe I love you, love you, (yeah well he’s lyin’) babe I ,swear,
    Held you when you were sick,
    Even, sucked your dick,
    The whole time I think to myself this isn’t fair,

    What is this I see, (No)
    You don’t come home to me, ( oh no)
    When you don’t come home to me, (man)
    I can’t deal, can’t bear,
    You keep tellin’ me lies, But to your surprise,
    Look I found her red coat and your (Bitch) caught out there,

    I hate, you so much right now,
    I hate, you so much right now,
    AAAaahhhhhhhhrrrrrr……
    I hate you so much right now,
    I hate, you so much right now,
    I hate you so much right now,
    AAAaahhhhhhhhrrrrrr……
    I hate you so much right now.

    So sick of your games,
    I’ll set your truck to flames,
    And watch it blow up, blow up, (ha ha)
    Tell me: How you go’n see her now,
    So far from sincere, ( I love you)
    Fabrications in my ear,
    Drive me so far up the wall, I come standing down,

    What is this I see, ( Idon’t believe this)
    You don’t come home to me,
    when you don’t come home to me,
    can’t deal, can’t bear, (I won’t)
    you keep tellin’ me lies but to your surprise,
    I found her red coat and you and your bitch,
    Caught Out There, (yeah you been caught)

    Chorus…………

    (She’s so) Ranchy, so vugar,
    Not me, why the hell her,
    Look she dresses a mess,
    What do you see,
    It’s not all about cash, (hell no)
    Nor how much you flash,
    How I dress is a reflection of me,

    Chorus……..

    And Wicked Game by Chris Issak… The world was on fire
    No one could save me but you.
    Strange what desire will make foolish people do
    I never dreamed that I’d meet somebody like you
    And I never dreamed that I’d lose somebody like you

    No, I don’t want to fall in love
    [This love is only gonna break your heart]
    No, I don’t want to fall in love
    [This love is only gonna break your heart]
    With you
    With you

    What a wicked game you play
    To make me feel this way
    What a wicked thing to do
    To let me dream of you
    What a wicked thing to say
    You never felt this way
    What a wicked thing to do
    To make me dream of you
    v And I don’t wanna fall in love
    [This love is only gonna break your heart]
    And I don’t want to fall in love
    [This love is only gonna break your heart]

    {World was on fire
    No one could save me but you
    Strange what desire will make foolish people do
    I never dreamed that I’d love somebody like you
    I never dreamed that I’d lose somebody like you

    No I don’t wanna fall in love
    [This love is only gonna break your heart
    No I don’t wanna fall in love
    [This love is only gonna break your heart]
    With you
    With you

    Nobody loves no one

  217. cassieb19 permalink
    September 3, 2011 4:43 am

    its over-jesse mccartney
    shouldve said no-taylor swift
    its not me its you-skilet\
    picture to burn- taylor swift
    story of us- taylor swift
    you’re not sorry taylor swift.
    starts with goodbye-carrie underwood
    gone-nsync
    its alright its okay ashley tisdale.
    leavin-jesse mccartney
    According to you-orianthi(all time favorite)
    Love Drunk-Boys like girls
    bet you wish you had me back-halestorm

  218. bex permalink
    September 3, 2011 6:30 am

    Rhianna – TAKE A BOW

    Oh, how about a round of applause?

    Yeah, standing ovation? Ooh, oh yeah

    Yeah y-yeah yeah

    You look so dumb right now

    Standing outside my house

    Trying to apologize

    You’re so ugly when you cry

    Please, just cut it out

    Don’t tell me you’re sorry ’cause you’re not

    And baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught

    But you put on quite a show, really had me going

    But now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing

    That was quite a show, very entertaining

    But it’s over now

    (But it’s over now)

    Go on and take a bow

    Grab your clothes and get gone

    You better hurry up before the sprinklers come on

    Talking’ ’bout, “Girl, I love you,” “You’re the one”

    This just looks like a rerun

    Please, what else is on?

    Don’t tell me you’re sorry ’cause you’re not

    And baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught

    But you put on quite a show, really had me going

    But now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing

    That was quite a show, very entertaining

    But it’s over now

    (But it’s over now)

    Go on and take a bow

    Oh, and the award for the best liar goes to you

    (Goes to you)

    For making me believe that you could be faithful to me

    Let’s hear your speech out

    How about a round of applause?

    A standing ovation?

    But you put on quite a show, really had me going

    Now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing

    That was quite a show, very entertaining

    But it’s over now

    (But it’s over now)

    Go on and take a bow

    But it’s over now

  219. bex permalink
    September 3, 2011 6:44 am

    Dido- Hunter

    With one light on In one room I know you’re up When I get home With one small step Upon the stair I know your look When I get there

    If you were a king Up there on your throne Would you be wise enough to let me go For this queen you think you own

    Wants to be a hunter again I want to see the world alone again To take a chance on life again So let me go…

    The unread book And painful look The TV’s on The sound is down With one long pause Then you begin Oh look what The cat’s brought in

    If you were a king Up there on your throne Would you be wise enough to let me go For this queen you think you own

    Wants to be a hunter again I want to see the world alone again To take a chance on life again So let me go Let me leave

    For the crown you’ve placed upon my head Feels too heavy now And I don’t know what to say to you But I’ll smile anyhow And all the time I’m thinking Thinking…

    I want to be a hunter again I want to see the world alone again To take a chance on life again So let me go

  220. Kristy permalink
    September 5, 2011 7:49 pm

    I’ve tried for the past 10 years to make my man happy. “Let Him Fly” by the Dixie Chicks helped me realize “ain’t no talking to this man, he’s been trying to tell me so” which just made me sad and sadder…

    But then I found your blog, I listened (and put together a playlist on youtube) and I now feel EMPOWERED. It’s like a switch was flipped and I feel free. I am looking forward to what the future holds. Perhaps he will finally realize the treasure he had, hopefully I’m not “Already Gone” (Eagles version) but either way, I know “I Will Survive.”
    Thanks for coming up with it!!!

    • September 10, 2011 1:51 pm

      Kristy,
      GREAT comment! Thank you so much for stopping by. I just know you will come out of this relationship “A Little Bit Stronger” (Sara Evans). Just take care of yourself :)

  221. September 6, 2011 6:41 pm

    try breaking up when you have a son of 9 months old , with a dad that had everything handded to him not once did he ever haave to do anything for his son , and i let it go , and he breaks up with me cuz i dont make him happy. good luck on your journey to a better life , im still bitter sweet about mine . but jewel gets me thru my days almos every song from her is break up song not sure if you wanna call them empowering , but they are awesome ! -foolish games, hands, peices of you, who will save your soul … i can go on forever seether and amy lee brooken !!! lol i will stop now

    • September 10, 2011 1:45 pm

      Chantel,
      I’m sorry to hear what you’ve been going through. That’s really rough. Do what you can to try and keep positive… I hope everything works out for you soon. And in the meantime, Jewel is awesome! I love Foolish Games for a breakup song!

  222. Anklebiters permalink
    September 11, 2011 5:46 pm

    From one of my favorite English singer….listened to it this morning on XM radio on my way to breakfast…

    Dido – White Flag

    I know you think that I shouldn’t still love you
    Or tell you that
    But if I didn’t say it, well I’d still have felt it
    Where’s the sense in that?
    I promise I’m not trying to make your life harder
    Or return to where we were

    But I will go down with this ship
    And I won’t put my hands up and surrender
    There will be no white flag above my door
    I’m in love and always will be

    I know I left too much mess and destruction
    To come back again
    And I caused nothing but trouble
    I understand if you can’t talk to me again
    And if you live by the rules of it’s over
    Then I’m sure that that makes sense

    But I will go down with this ship
    And I won’t put my hands up and surrender
    There will be no white flag above my door
    I’m in love and always will be

    And when we meet, which I’m sure we will
    All that was there will be there still I’ll let it pass and hold my tongue
    And you will think that I’ve moved on

  223. Jenny permalink
    September 13, 2011 11:49 pm

    Amazing break up songs:
    So Sick by Ne-Yo
    So Yesterday by Hilary Duff (Don’t Judge!)
    Over You by Daughtry
    Pray for You by Jaron and The Long Road to Love
    Bowling Ball by Superchick
    Say Goodbye by Chris Brown
    Outta My System by Bow Wow
    Here Comes Goodbye by Rascal Flatts
    Don’t Think I Don’t Think About It by Darius Rucker
    Gunpowder & Lead by Miranda Lambert
    How Am I Doin’ by Dierks Bentley
    Ten Rounds With Jose Cuervo by Tracy Byrd
    and OF COURSE You’ll Think of Me by Keith Urban (Which I totally love you for listing!) See, only three girls listed!

  224. Anklebiters permalink
    September 14, 2011 9:54 pm

    Empower you to move forward……..

    Vega 4 – Life Is Beautiful

    Life is beautiful
    We love until we die

    When you run into my arms,
    We steal a perfect moment.
    Let the monsters see you smile,
    Let them see you smiling.

    Do I hold you too tightly?
    When will the hurt kick in?

    Life is beautiful, but it’s complicated.
    We barely make it.
    We don’t need to understand,
    There are miracles, miracles.

    Yeah, life is beautiful.
    Our hearts, they beat and break.

    When you run away from harm,
    Will you run back into my arms,
    Like you did when you were young?
    Will you come back to me?

    I will hold you tightly
    When the hurting kicks in.

    Life is beautiful, but it’s complicated,
    we barely make it.
    We don’t need to understand,
    There are miracles, miracles.

    Stand where you are.
    We let all these moments pass us by.

    It’s amazing where I’m standing,
    There’s a lot that we can give.
    This is ours just for a moment.
    There’s a lot that we can give.

  225. Laura permalink
    September 18, 2011 11:14 am

    Lots of people mentioned the Ace of Base version of Don’t turn around, but what about the original by Tina Turner? In my opinion a much stronger version of the song.

  226. Amanda permalink
    September 21, 2011 9:16 am

    I’d have to say two great songs to add to this list are “I look so good” by Jesse james, and “Stronger” by Sarah Evans.

  227. September 22, 2011 2:01 pm

    Hi, I have 2 to add to the list, I hope they aren’t repeats. My soon-to-be-ex husband drained our bank account and split on Saturday. We were planning to divorce anyway, and I was going to leave it friendly, but nobody steals from me and gets away with it! He’s a deadbeat, my half of the money would have been under $300 anyway lol. In choosing the money, he lost out on all the furniture I was going to give him in the divorce, a tv, dvd player, tv stand, kitchen table and chairs, desk, etc…easily 2-3 times what he took! Lol I love it when people try to be assholes and just end up shooting themselves in the foot! Saturday was rough, not because I lost him but because I was afraid I’d lose my apartment. Sunday morning I woke up with Ridin’ Solo running through my head and my brother offered to move in and help with rent. My friends and family won’t let me drown, and my life has been literally getting better by the minute since he took off! I don’t know your situation, I just found this post googling breakup songs looking for the upbeat ones lol, but trust me, you’re better off without him :)

    My songs are Ridin Solo and Men Don’t Change, btw…

    Ridin’ Solo, Jason Derulo

    I’m feeling like a star, you can’t stop my shine, I’m loving cloud nine, my head’s in the sky,
    I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m ridin solo, solo.

    Yeah, I’m feeling good tonight, finally doing me and it feels so right, oh,
    Time to do the things I like, going to the club everything’s alright, oh,

    No one to answer to, No one thats gonna argue, no,
    And since I got the hold off me, I’m living life now that I’m free, yeah,

    Telling me to get my shit together now I got my shit together, yeah,
    Now I made it through the weather better days are gonna get better
    I’m so sorry that it didn’t work out I’m moving on,
    I’m so sorry but it’s over now, the pain is gone,

    I’m putting on my shades to cover up my eyes,
    I’m jumpin in my ride, I’m heading out tonight,
    I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
    I’m feeling like a star, you can’t stop my shine, I’m loving cloud nine, my head’s in the sky.
    I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.

    Now I’m feeling how I should, never knew single could feel this good, oh,
    Stop playing miss understood, back in the game, who knew I would, oh,
    So flex how I spread my wings, loving myself makes me wanna sing, oh,
    Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

    Telling me to get my shit together now I got my shit together, yeah,
    Now I made it through the weather better days are gon’ get better
    I’m so sorry that it didn’t work out, I’m moving on,
    I’m so sorry but it’s over now the pain is gone,

    I’m putting on my Shades to cover up my eyes,
    I’m jumpin in my ride, I’m heading out tonight,
    I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.

    I’m feeling like a star, you can’t stop my shine, I’m loving cloud nine, my head’s in the sky.
    I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
    Riding solo, solo, yeah it’s like S… O… L… O… S… O… L… O… S… O… L… O…
    Living my life aint got stress nomore,

    I’m putting on my shades to cover up my eyes,
    I’m jumpin in my ride, I’m heading out tonight,
    I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.

    I’m feeling like a star, you can’t stop my shine, I’m loving cloud nine, my head’s in the sky.
    I’m solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.
    I’m riding solo, I’m riding solo, solo.

    Men Don’t Change, Amy Dalley

    He was a bad boy and I was a good girl
    He needed me to smooth out the edges
    He’d get his drink on and flirt with the ladies
    After two years of his crap, I quit begging

    I’m a magnet for the fixer upper man
    If I know it’s fire, why do I let it burn my hand

    Cupid works for the devil, be suspicious if he cries
    You know, sex is usually good, yeah, but it ain’t always right
    Chocolate is a band-aid and no matter what they say
    Shoes don’t stretch and men don’t change

    My friend Lisa, she loves a liar
    She found about his other girlfriends
    He makes excuses so she forgives him
    She swears, she’s gonna leave if he screws up again

    But he’s good looking that’s why she don’t see
    He’s got her exactly where he wants her to be

    Cupid works for the devil, be suspicious if he cries
    You know, sex is usually good, yeah, but it ain’t always right
    Chocolate is a band-aid and no matter what they say
    Shoes don’t stretch and men don’t change

    I just met a brand new guy
    So far so good
    I hope, he don’t change at all

    Cupid works for the devil, be suspicious if he cries
    You know, sex is usually good, yeah, but it ain’t always right
    Chocolate is a band-aid and no matter what they say
    Shoes don’t stretch and men don’t change

    • September 24, 2011 9:26 pm

      Wow, Laurin, sounds like you are going through a lot right now. I’m sorry to hear about all that – I can’t believe he drained your bank account. That really sucks. It’s terrible when our relationships come to this – you certainly would never have imagined when you first starting dating, or got married, right? It’s very sad. Thanks for your addition to the list. Thanks for reading and commenting.

  228. Marissa permalink
    September 29, 2011 1:26 am

    There’s a lot of comments on here so I’m not sure if these are repeats but I have two for you. One is “The Shape I’m In” by Joe Nichols

    Here’s some of the lyrics:

    The sun came up again this morning
    I got a call from a long lost friend
    Planned us a little road trip down to New Orleans
    It ain’t much but it beats where I’ve been

    Yeah, I’m doin alright
    I’m doin alright
    I’m doin alright, for the shape I’m in

    Well I’m getting better at barely getting by
    When I look at her picture, I don’t break down and cry
    And all this time on my hands it’s getting easier to spend
    Cause I’m doin alright, for the shape I’m in

    The sun came up again this morning
    I took my old fastback for a spin
    Now when it rains it ain’t always pouring
    And I’m learning how to live again

    But my #1 breakup song would have to be “A Little Bit Stronger” by Sara Evans:

    Woke up late today and I still feel the sting of the pain
    But I brushed my teeth anyway
    I got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face
    I got a little bit stronger

    Riding in the car to work and I’m trying to ignore the hurt
    So I turned on the radio, stupid song made me think of you
    I listened to it for a minute but then I changed it
    I’m getting a little bit stronger, just a little bit stronger

    And I’m done hoping that we can work it out
    I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels, letting you drag my heart around
    And oh, I’m done thinking that you could ever change
    I know my heart will never be the same
    But I’m telling myself I’ll be ok
    Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger

    Doesn’t happen overnight but you turn around and a months gone by
    And you realize you haven’t cried
    I’m not giving you and hour or a second or another minute longer
    I’m busy getting stronger

    And of course, there’s always “Picture to Burn” by Taylor Swift. “Love You” by Jack Ingram is also pretty funny. If he/she is a cheater, “You Lie” by The Band Perry is a good one. And “Easy” by Rascall Flatts ft. Natasha Bedingfield is also great, although slighty depressing… I never realized how many breakup songs there were until I went through it myself. Clearly, none of us are alone in this.

  229. September 29, 2011 7:50 pm

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=quIsoT1GZro I’m Good – Blaque

  230. September 29, 2011 7:53 pm

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uyb67x1C2Dg Robbie Williams – No Regrets

  231. September 29, 2011 7:56 pm

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bAsA00-5KoI Metallica – Nothing Else Matters
    I also find this empowering.

  232. September 29, 2011 7:58 pm

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGdLmDbcnk8&ob=av3n The Rasmus – Livin’ In A World Without You :D

  233. September 29, 2011 8:05 pm

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVTXPUF4Oz4&feature=related Linkin Park – “In The End”

  234. September 29, 2011 8:10 pm

    Usually I need something aggressive so I can move on, but before that I need some good crying.

  235. April permalink
    October 2, 2011 1:34 pm

    i read every comment, and downloaded 60% of the songs i found here, what a great way to spend my day :) so thats for that! i have some artists/songs i don’t think were mentioned with lyrics to get a feeling for the song :)

    sorry it’s so long, but these are mostly rock/pop bands and a lot of guy singers

    Avril Lavigne – he wasn’t *FUN SONG*

    “I’ll sit on my bed alone, staring at the phone.
    He wasn’t what I wanted, what I thought, no.
    He wouldn’t even open up the door.
    He never made me feel like I was special.
    He isn’t really what I’m looking for.
    He wasn’t what I wanted, what I thought, no.
    He wouldn’t even open up the door.
    He never made me feel like I was special.
    Like I was special, cuz I was special.”

    ——————
    Avril Lavigne – Together

    “This has gone on so long
    I realize that i need
    Something good to rely on
    Something for me

    When I’m alone I
    Feel so much better
    And when Im around you
    I don’t feel together
    together, doesn’t feel right at all”

    —————–
    New Found Glory – Understatement

    “And I’m tracing over your letter
    To see if your intentions are as good as mine”

    “I’m done with everything
    That had to do with you
    Don’t worry your pictures are already burned
    I’m done with new friends
    Don’t sell yourself short
    You’ll lose it in the end
    I can’t help how i feel”

    —————–
    New Found Glory – Ballad for the lost romantics

    “Here’s to us fools
    That have no meaning
    I tip my glass to you
    Let’s toast the night away to friends
    And forget about tomorrow”

    —————–
    Bouncing Souls – Wish me well (You can go to hell) *funny song*

    “Say goodbye, Kiss my ass, I hope you die
    Wish me well, You can go to hell
    We were so different a short time ago
    Love is suppose to make us happy supposed to make us grow
    But i just wanna punch you in the face
    i love you i guess needed some space”

    —————–
    Bouncing souls – Hopeless Romantic

    “i’m a hopeless romantic, you’re just hopeless!”

    —————–
    Bouncing souls – Break up song

    “”I don’t want this anymore” is all I heard her say
    as I grabbed my stuff and headed out the door.
    With my music in my phones and my bike under my feet,
    things started to look different as I got out on the street.”

    —————–
    Bouncing Souls – The Something Special

    “I think about the two of us
    I don’t know why
    I feel good on the inside
    It’s different now, I’m one I stand alone
    I have to be this way
    I have to be this way”

    —————–
    Atmosphere – Fuck you, Lucy **ANGRY & POWERFUL – so good*

    “Do I sound mad? Well I guess I’m a little pissed
    Every action has a point, Five points make a fist
    You close ‘em
    You swing ‘em
    It hurts when it hits
    And the truth can be a bitch
    But if the boot fits
    I got an idea
    You should get a tattoo that says “Warning”
    That’s all, just a warning
    So the potential victim
    Can take a left and safe breath And avoid you
    Sober and upset in the morning
    I wanna scream “Fuck you, Lucy!”
    But the problem is I love you, Lucy
    So instead
    I’m gonna finish my drink and have another
    While you think about how you used to be my lover
    Fuck you”

    —————-
    Atmosphere – Bird Sings Why The Caged I Know *angry but feel good*

    “Well I’ll shake her from her branch, tear apart her nest
    Break her skinny legs and fry her eggs up for breakfast
    (she’s a snake that can fly) she’s just food for the fleas
    She thinks she’s better than me just because she’s free?”

    —————–
    The Living End – Short Notice

    “I said I wanna see you
    I really meant I wanna leave you
    I said I wanna touch you
    I really meant I wanna punch you
    I said I wanna kiss you
    I’m never gonna miss you”

    ——————
    Kellie Pickler – Red High Heels

    “All those games you tried to play, well, they ain’t gonna work on me now
    I put a barbed wire fence around my heart, baby, just to keep you out
    Well, you thought I’d wait around forever, but baby get real
    I just kicked you to the curb in my red high heels

    Oh, you can watch me walk if you want to, want to
    I bet you want me back, now don’t you, don’t you?
    I’m about to show you just how missin me feels, in my red high heels”

    —————
    311- I told myself

    “And now it’s all turned bad
    turned bad, turned bad
    your ploy to make me jealous
    is obvious and sad
    it has the opposite effect
    now you’re left with what you had
    you had”

    HOPE YOU LIKE!

    • October 4, 2011 7:46 pm

      Great additions! Thank you – and glad you found this list helpful!

  236. z-dimes-rimes permalink
    October 2, 2011 4:10 pm

    Thank you :) man breakups suck its soo lame i cant sit still :\ feel soo down :\ i really loved her hope it goes good for her though :)

  237. Anklebiters permalink
    October 5, 2011 12:49 am

    Katie Herzig – Lost and Found

    I know you left me standing there
    Out of the calm of the coldest air
    I don’t believe the words you said
    But I can’t find the words I want
    Oh, I can’t find the words I want

  238. Maddie permalink
    October 9, 2011 6:31 am

    “Break my Stride” and “King of Wishful Thinking” really helped me through my breakup

  239. James permalink
    October 12, 2011 10:17 am

    One word…. Adele!! Loads of her songs are about break-ups, she even admitted it, songs such as Rolling In The Deep, Someone Like you, Turning tables, are really good for break ups.

    • October 13, 2011 7:59 pm

      SO true. Love her breakup songs. Just buy the whole CD and call it a day :)

  240. Brianna permalink
    October 13, 2011 7:59 am

    You outta know Alanis Morrisette, I Fucking Hate You- Godsmack.

  241. some girl permalink
    October 18, 2011 3:18 pm

    the break up song that empowered me the most is Katherine Mcphee’s I’m Over it :)

  242. Raquel permalink
    October 18, 2011 11:51 pm

    back to december-taylor swift

  243. Raquel permalink
    October 19, 2011 12:00 am

    what hurts the most- rascal flatts

  244. Brittany permalink
    October 19, 2011 6:40 am

    Never again- Kelly Clarkson is a good one to add

  245. Erica :) permalink
    October 20, 2011 10:38 am

    Pray for You – Jaron and The Long Road to Love

    THIS WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER – :) AT LEAST MAKE YOU SMILE!

    • Erica :) permalink
      October 20, 2011 10:41 am

      Really glad I found my way to church
      Cause Im already feeling better and I thank God for the words
      So Im gonna take the high road
      And do what the preacher told me to do
      You keep messing up
      And Ill keep praying for you

      I pray your tire blows out at 110
      I pray you pass out with your best friend
      And wake up with his and her tattoos

      Wherever you are, near or far, in your house or in your car
      Wherever you are honey, I pray for you

  246. Anklebiters permalink
    October 20, 2011 4:29 pm

    Kelly Clarkson – The War Is Over

    I watch the days rush by me like a river
    I shouldn’t wait, but I’m scared to touch the water
    I let the phone ring, why won’t you believe me
    I wait for silence, takes a lot not to answer

    All i have to say is you don’t deserve me, you don’t deserve me
    I’m finally walking away cause you don’t deserve me, and you’re not worthy

    And i won’t let you pour me in because i know you’re gonna win
    (the war is over) but the war is over (the war is over)
    And i won’t fight you anymore I never been so sure
    (the war is over) cause the war is over

    I used to let you paint them pretty pictures
    You got me caught up with your, you’re my girl forever
    So i forgive you, it felt good when you hold me
    Yeah you owned me now you wish you had really known me

    All i have to say is you don’t deserve me, you don’t deserve me
    I’m finally walking away, cause you only hurt me and you’re not worthy

    And i won’t let you pour me in because i know you’re gonna win
    (the war is over) but the war is over (the war is over) and i won’t fight you anymore
    I’ve never been so sure (the war is over)

    This is not my surrender I’m not running for cover
    I’m right here, I know you see me but your words no longer deceive me in the night
    When you’re lonely, you remember how much you miss me so you call, well I swear
    You can try a million times, you’ll get the same message

    All i have to say is you don’t deserve me, you don’t deserve me
    I’m finally walking away, cause you only hurt me and you’re not worthy

    And i won’t let you pour me in
    Because i know you’re gonna win
    (the war is over) but the war is over (the war is over)

    The war is over, the war is over

  247. Anklebiters permalink
    October 20, 2011 4:49 pm

    The Pretty Reckless – Just Tonight

    Here we are and I can’t think from all the pills right
    Start the car and take me home
    Here we are and you’re too drunk to hear a word I say
    Start the car and take me home

    Just tonight I will stay
    And we’ll throw it all away
    When the light hits your eyes
    It’s telling me I’m right
    And if I, I am through
    And it’s all because of you
    Just tonight

    Here I am and I can’t seem to see straight
    But I’m too numb to feel right now
    Here I am watching the clock that’s ticking away my time
    I’m too numb to feel right now

    Just tonight I will stay
    And we’ll throw it all away
    When the light hits your eyes
    It’s telling me I’m right
    And if I, I am through
    And it’s all because of you
    Just tonight

    Just tonight
    Do you understand who I am?
    Do you wanna know?
    Can you really see through me now?
    I am about to go

    Just tonight I won’t leave
    And I’ll lie and you’ll believe
    Just tonight I will see
    It’s all because of me

    Just tonight I will stay
    And we’ll throw it all away
    When the light hits your eyes
    It’s telling me I’m right
    And if I, I am through
    And it’s all because of you
    Just tonight

    (Do you understand who I am?)
    It’s all because of you
    Just tonight
    (Do you understand who I am?)
    It’s all because of you
    Just tonight
    (Do you understand who I am?)
    It’s all because of you
    Just tonight

  248. October 20, 2011 9:16 pm

    i would have to say look it up-Ashton Shepard, word for word what happened in my relationship..and the video is hillarious if you get a chance to watch it! :)

  249. October 20, 2011 10:23 pm

    SR-71 – She Was Dead
    SR-71 – Right Now

  250. God-Given Solace permalink
    October 23, 2011 1:16 am

    Love the list – so glad Lily Allen’s “Fuck You” and Eamon’s “Fuck It (I Don’t Want You Back)” were added in the comments. I’d also like to add “Wish You the Worst” by Katy Perry. I broke up with my girlfriend a couple of months ago and I just found out tonight who she’s now dating. She and her new girlfriend totally deserve each other – seems like a match made in Hell. Lol, glad she’s not my problem anymore!

    I saw you
    At the grocery store
    Oh
    You both looked happy
    Picking out the usual
    She’s a carbon copy
    Of everything you lost
    Of everything I’m not
    I guess you just forgot
    How to pick ‘em

    If she’s the one
    I’ve heard about
    I’m disappointed
    If she’s the reason
    Why you left
    I’m not impressed at all
    Well
    This looks like the end
    Yeah
    We can still be friends
    Congratulations

    Let me be the first
    To wish you the worst
    ‘Cause I think you
    Deserve each other
    Let me be the curse
    That creeps
    Under your skin
    Until your heart
    Caves in
    And you wish
    She was me again

    And again
    And again
    And again

    Well, someone had
    To tell the truth
    and I’m always honest
    I read you
    Like an open book
    And it’s obvious to me
    She’s just
    The one between
    Heading no where fast
    Sure
    It’s gonna last forever

    Let me be the first
    to wish you the worst
    ‘Cause I think you
    Deserve each other
    Let me the curse
    That creeps
    Under your skin
    Until your heart
    Caves in
    And you wish
    She was me

    Let me be the first
    To wish you the worst
    ‘Cause I think you
    Deserve each other
    Let me the curse
    That creeps
    Under your skin
    Until your heart
    Caves in
    And you wish
    She was me again

    And again
    And again
    And again

    Oh, you wish
    You wish
    You wish
    You do

  251. Emily permalink
    October 24, 2011 10:06 pm

    Some I know of are
    Gives you hell by the all American rejects
    Since you been gone (don’t know who it’s by

    Memorable lines from each were:

    When you see my face hope it gives you hell
    Hope it gives you hell
    Hope you find a man that’s worth a damn and treats you well
    Then he’s a fool your just as well hope it gives you hell

    Since you been gone
    I feel pretty for the first time

  252. Feral permalink
    October 25, 2011 12:42 pm

    My god, this list is great! I love a good breakup song that says “F*ck you!”.
    Here is my personal list (sorry for the loooonnnngggg post):

    1)Lying is the most fun a girl can have without taking her clothes off – Panic! at the disco
    “I’ve got more wit,
    A better kiss,
    A harder touch,
    A better f*ck
    Than any boy you’ll ever meet,
    Sweetie, you had me.”

    2)I’m not your b*tch – The Paradiso Girls
    “I’m not your b*tch, I’m not your h**,
    I’ve got your friends all knocking at my door.
    I’ll take my pick, even your chick
    I even heard your mama wanted some of this.
    So if you think that you’re the sh*t
    You better check, cause I was faking it.
    Oh yes I did, I always did.
    Now who’s my b*tch?”

    3)Piss up a rope – Ween (Very funny song!)
    “You can put on your shoes
    Hit the road, get truckin’
    Pack your bag, I don’t need the hag.”

    4)Kiss the walls – Soul Decision
    “You don’t know what it means to sacrifice
    Baby, you just wanna believe that you’re always right.
    So I’m leaving,
    Must have been dreaming,
    If I thought you believed in me at all,
    But you don’t even sing my songs,
    You just hum along,
    You can’t wait ‘til they are done.
    Tell me how can I love someone,
    When I’d rather kiss the wall?”

    5)If he loves you – The Pretty Reckless
    “If he loves you then he loves you not
    Be the one to leave him. Baby, don’t get caught.
    If he loves you, set your heart on fire
    I hate to be the one to tell you he’s a liar.”

    6)Cry your eyes out – Hit the Lights
    “That even if I wanted you back
    (And I don’t),
    You’d still be on call tonight
    For anyone who’s down.
    Every time you call for some sympathy,
    Make it worth my while
    And cry your eyes out,
    Baby, cry your eyes out.”

    7)Play with fire – Hillary Duff
    “I can’t believe it’s really,
    been so long, you look good.
    I heard you’re doing very well,
    Don’t ask me, let me tell you.
    How I’ve been since when you left,
    when you left me for dead.
    Finally every tear has dried
    I’ve wiped you from my life.”

    8)Quit Your B*tchin’ – Gods Paparazzi
    “If I had a dollar everytime you found a flaw,
    I’d be rich enough to get rid of you once and for all.
    I could paint the Mona Lisa with both eyes shut
    But you’d just roll your eyes, cause i’m never good enough.”

    9)Over you – Girlicious
    “Don’t call me anymore,
    I ain’t gonna be your toy.
    Better find someone new cause I’m over you.”

    10)X-Girlfriend – Family Force 5
    “I can’t believe she did what she did to me
    Alright, now bring me back my things girl
    You’re no longer in my world
    I don’t think that you need to be talking to me
    All about how you said you love me
    You miss me terribly
    Well, I don’t buy that at all”

    11)Tell the Mick that he just made my list of things to do today – Fall Out Boy (My personal favorite)
    “Let’s play this game called when you catch fire,
    I wouldn’t piss to put you out.
    Stop burning bridges and drive off of them
    So i can forget about you.”

    12)Drunk Kid Catholic – Bright Eyes (not exactly cheery but the following lyrics always bring a smile to my face)
    “Well, I have been happy the past couple days
    Just thinking of the women who’ve taken your place
    And every night I think I certainly won’t ever sleep sober or alone
    And then suddenly it occurs to me
    I’ve slept alone before you
    And so I pour myself the stiffest drink that my stomach can stand
    And convince myself to lay back down again”

    13)Makes me wonder – Maroon 5
    “I still don’t have a reason and you don’t have the time.
    And it really makes me wonder
    If i ever have a f*ck about you.
    Give me something to believe in,
    cause I don’t believe in you anymore.
    I wonder if even makes a difference to try.
    So this is goodbye.”

    14)Love Drunk – Girls like Boys
    “I used to be love drunk, but now I’m hungover
    I love you forever, forever is over
    We used to kiss all night, now it’s just a bar fight
    So don’t call me crying, say hello then goodbye”

    15)Friendly Goodbye – Bowling for Soup
    “Sorry I swore just then, cause I know you hate it.
    By the way that cake you baked me really sucked but I ate it.
    Cause I loved you even more than you could ever imagine,
    here’s a friendly goodbye, 5,6,7-
    Ain’t that a B with an itch?
    Ain’t that a mother trucker?
    You can go to H-E double hockey sticks and eff yourself.”

    16)Merry Christmas, Kiss my *ss – All Time Low
    “I hope you’re happy with yourself
    ‘Cause I’m not laughing
    Don’t you think it’s kind of crappy
    What you did this holiday?
    When I gave you my heart, you ripped it apart
    Like a wrapping paper trash
    So I wrote you a song,
    Hope that you sing along
    And it goes, “Merry Christmas,
    Kiss my *ss”

    And that’s all I have for now. I have a bunch more but I don’t wanna make this post go on too long. Thanks for the songs and good luck to everyone going through a hard time/break up.

    • Sylvia permalink
      October 26, 2011 7:08 am

      Lady Gaga’s & Beyonce’s “Telephone” is just great ;)

  253. Zoe permalink
    October 26, 2011 7:02 am

    Wow, i love all of these songs!! but i havent broken up with anyone yet but the man i think i love is ignoring me saying he’s busy when he is not. so i have been listening to Over it by Katharine Mcphee, Swimming home By evanescence, and Call me when your sober by Evanescence

  254. Sylvia permalink
    October 26, 2011 7:56 am

    Defeated by Anastacia…
    Fighter by Christina Agulira

  255. Jessica permalink
    October 30, 2011 11:51 am

    Be Ok by Ingrid Michaelson
    Erase Me by Kid Cudi
    Do you Know by Enrique Iglesias
    You Won’t Find This by Carrie Underwood

  256. November 1, 2011 12:22 am

    I recently went through a tough break-up myself…..I ended up writing and recording a song entitled “Missin’ You” … I’m actually giving the song and entire album away for free via my facebook page. http://www.facebook.com/pages/Keenan-Casanova/197925490250374. It’s mixture of hip-hop/R&B/Pop …thought I would share incase anyone is going through a similair situation….thats why I make music in the first place….to connect with people :)

  257. Anklebiters permalink
    November 4, 2011 12:09 am

    Anouk – Lost

    If roses are meant to be red
    And violets to be blue
    Then why isn’t my heart meant for you
    My hands longing to touch you
    But I can barely breathe
    Starry eyes that make me melt
    Right in front of me

  258. November 4, 2011 11:24 pm

    SLEEP TO DREAM by FIONA APPLE

    “Don’t plead me your case, don’t bother to explain
    Don’t even show me your face ’cause it’s a lying shame
    Just crawl back to the rock from under which you came
    Take the sorrow you gave and all the stakes you claimed
    And don’t forget the blame.”

  259. cocorima permalink
    November 6, 2011 7:13 am

    best ever song sunshine anderson! heard it all before! xxx

    “smelling like some fragrance that i dont even wear, so if you want some loving i suggest you go back there, where you came from.

    day to day with you its always something else, working my nerve, god knows that i dont deserve what you put me through because ive been so true to you, for you to come at me with another lame excuse!”

    epic x

  260. November 7, 2011 2:00 am

    HI,
    love the list…pretty much any new young country singer (esspesially female) will have at least one or two…empowering (i hate you) songs …im going through all this now, its been 2 months but my grieving is slow and im starting to get that little bit more angry now..oh and Avril Lavigne….Kelly Clarkson and even some Britney…..sheryl crow also has some good stuff. pussy cat dolls…dont cha…my particular ex is already seeing some one and has been for a little longer then he should be but dont cha is like my theme song to him…..no particular songs from the other artist they all have lots to choose from…..
    Cheers
    Lisa

  261. Sooph1e permalink
    November 11, 2011 7:32 pm

    I absolutely have to add a song, you know when you are tired of crying and you just hate him for what he’s done?
    1) Puke – Eminem
    “You don’t know how sick you make me, You make me fuckin’ sick to my stomach, Every time I think of you, I puke”

    2) Songs to Say Goodbye – Placebo
    “You are one of God’s mistakes, You crying, tragic waste of skin, I’m well aware of how it aches, And you still won’t let me in.”

    If you feel sad and just want to work through the issues in your mind:

    3) Why – Avril Lavigne

    5) Sway – The Kooks

    6) I Gave You all – Mumford & Sons

    8) Breathe – Taylor Swift
    “I see your face in my mind as I drive away, cuz none of us thought it was gonna end that way. People are people and sometimes we change our minds, nothing we say is going to save us from the fallout. And we know it’s never simple, never easy, never a clean break, no one’s here to save me, your the only think I know like the back of my hand.. And I can’t breathe, without you, but I have to..”

    9) Cold as You- Taylor Swift
    “Oh what a shame what a rainy ending given to a perfect day, so just walk away ain’t no used defending words that you’ll never say. And now that i’m sitting here thinking it through, i’ve never been anywhere cold as you”

    10) The Bitter End – Placebo

    11) Catch Me When I Fall – Ashlee Simpson

    12) Little Miss Obsessive – Ashlee Simpson
    “Am I the reason why you tossed and turned last night, everything is such a blur it didn’t come out right, all of the sudden it’s cold and we’re falling apart, no this can’t be please don’t leave me alone ine the dark. Well I guess we’re really over, so come over, i’m not over it, late night you make me feel like i’m desperate, I’m not desperate, no, a little bit possessive, little miss obsessive, can’t get over it”

    13) Legendary – Lou Barlow
    “I know you’ve given all that you could give to me, I know there’ll come a day I understand, Until then i’ll be trying to solve your mystery, And wonder why I couldn’t make you stay. Smiling through denial – my specialty, I thought that was a good thing for a while. You gave me all your secrets were you testing me? How could I do anything but smile?Re-enact your legendary tragedy, And do to me what has been done to you, Is that the only point to all this misery?
    Is there any reason I should cry? Heal – takes time, And you gave me all you had, I know in time, I will believe, That I loved you, That you loved me? Did you love me?

    14) Love Is a Losing Game – Amy Winehouse

    15) The Good Left Undone – Rise Against

  262. November 13, 2011 3:35 pm

    well… just to name a few that I thought of in my iTunes:

    3685 by The Spill Canvas
    Shine On by Ryan Cabrera
    King of Anything by Sara Bareilles
    Gives You Hell by the All-American Rejects
    Thnks Fr Th Mmrs by Fall Out Boy
    I Look So Good Without You by Jessie James
    I’ll Cry Tomorrow by Cauterize
    Gotta Tell You by Samantha Mumba

    and don’t forget these ones just for getting out some anger :)
    –seventy times seven by brand new
    –jude law and a semester abroad by brand new

    I’ll try to think of some more if I can!

    • November 13, 2011 3:47 pm

      haha ok forgot some country stuff:

      picture to burn by taylor swift
      love don’t live here anymore by lady antebellum

  263. Tyler permalink
    November 13, 2011 5:00 pm

    Good I still can’t do this I love her sooooo much but shes leaving me and I’m trying to get her to stay. We’ve been dating 9 months. I’m 18 shed 16. Shed going to be 17 this Jan. Someone talk to me what can I do to keep her mine forever?!

  264. aimeelord permalink
    November 19, 2011 2:49 am

    not over you- gavin degraw.

    yeah i know these are break up songs, but this is a really nice song. brings back so many thoughts to your head..

  265. Bloodymary010 permalink
    November 20, 2011 4:20 am

    Hedonism by Skunk Anansie….
    I love it and it ALWAYS helps me out.
    Try to be outside, in the nature and scream the hell out of your lungs ;)

  266. Rose permalink
    November 20, 2011 7:16 pm

    I think a great song for a breakup that nobody mentions, because they forget about it, is “Gone” by *NSYNC. The song explains so much and it’s good for someone in pain.

  267. Bad Bidness permalink
    November 21, 2011 3:16 pm

    Good pics but the majority of them seem geared towards females who were dumped. How about a top ten list for good guys that just had their hearts ripped out?

    • Bloodymary010 permalink
      November 22, 2011 1:43 am

      Get that pic out of your head…no matter if male or female, the pain is the same…

  268. Cindy permalink
    November 28, 2011 8:39 am

    Stacie O’rico – Im not missing you
    Lil Wayne – Comfortable
    Boys II men – Im doing just fine

  269. December 1, 2011 9:42 pm

    you should add picture to burn by taylor swift

  270. Brianna permalink
    December 4, 2011 2:51 pm

    1. Breakeven The Script
    2. You’ll remember me

  271. Kim permalink
    December 6, 2011 10:09 am

    The song ‘Here I go again – Whitesnake’ got me through the first days after my break up.

  272. kandy permalink
    December 6, 2011 11:55 pm

    A couple great ones that I’ve found empowering are A little bit stronger by Sara Evans ( Country) and So over you by Ashanti

  273. Anklebiters permalink
    December 7, 2011 12:34 am

    Empowers you to find that ‘one’…

    Christina Perri – A Thousand Years

    Heartbeats fast
    Colors and promises
    How to be brave, how can I love when I’m afraid to fall
    But watching you stand alone
    All of my doubt suddenly goes away somehow
    One step closer

    I have died everyday waiting for you
    Darling don’t be afraid I have loved you
    For a thousand years
    I’ll love you for a thousand more

    Time stands still, beauty in all she is
    I will be brave, I will not let anything take away
    What’s standing in front of me
    Every breath, every hour has come to this
    One step closer

    I have died everyday waiting for you
    Darling don’t be afraid I have loved you
    For a thousand years
    I’ll love you for a thousand more

    And all along I believed I would find you
    Time has brought your heart to me
    I have loved you for a thousand years
    I’ll love you for a thousand more

    One step closer
    One step closer

    I have died everyday waiting for you
    Darling don’t be afraid I have loved you
    For a thousand years
    I’ll love you for a thousand more

    And all along I believed I would find you
    Time has brought your heart to me
    I have loved you for a thousand years
    I’ll love you for a thousand more

    • Happy permalink
      December 16, 2011 12:24 am

      Add this to your collection..
      I pray for you jaron and the long road to love
      and crazy ex girlfriend Miranda Lambert

  274. Caroline permalink
    December 20, 2011 12:23 pm

    A good one is I look so good without you by Kelly clarkson. It’s truly amazing after a bad breakup! :)

  275. Nikky permalink
    December 23, 2011 8:43 am

    Here ARE a list…. Not here’s a list. Grammar people.

    That “You Lie” song is pathetic. The lyric “I ought to kill you right now / And do the whole wide world a service” — yea, thats nice. Lets kill people we dont like.

    That other one, “Before He Cheats” — yea, lets promote vandalism and destruction of property.

    Nice people. Wonderful new generation in this world.

    • Crystal permalink
      September 7, 2012 2:05 am

      Jeezus- no wonder he left you and you are reading this blog. WTF are you doing trying to correct other people’s grammar when you are WRONG?! It’s A list, singular, so the verb is “is” not “are.” Here ARE some songs- both plural- would also be correct.

  276. Anklebiters permalink
    December 30, 2011 11:34 pm

    Slow Moving Millie – Please, Please, Please Let Me Get What I want

    Good times for a change
    See, the luck I’ve had
    Can make a good man turn bad

    So please, please, please
    Let me, let me, let me
    Let me, get what I want this time
    Let me, get what I want this time

    Haven’t had a dream in a long time
    See, the life I’ve had
    Can make a good man turn bad

    So for once in my life
    Let me get what I want
    Lord knows, it would be the first time
    Lord knows, it would be the first time

    So please, please, please
    Let me, let me, let me
    Let me, get what I want this time

    So for once in my life
    Let me get what I want
    Lord knows, it would be the first time
    Lord knows, it would be the first time
    Lord knows, it would be the first time

  277. tyson permalink
    December 31, 2011 11:36 pm

    Fuck you by cee Lo green! >:D

  278. Rachelle permalink
    January 1, 2012 8:35 pm

    The song ‘Undo It’ by Carrie Underwood is really empowering, I think.

    “I wish my life could be the way it was before I saw your face,
    You stole my happy,
    You made me cry!
    You took the lonely,
    and took me for a ride,
    and I wanna uh-uh-uh-uh-uh-undo it!
    You took my heart, now I want it back.
    I’m starting to see everything you lack!
    Boy, you blew it!
    You put me through it!
    I wanna uh-uh-uh-uh-uh-UNDO IT!”

  279. Crystal permalink
    January 3, 2012 7:56 pm

    Epiphany – Chrisette Mechelle
    Best line: So I think I’m just about over being your girlfriend
    I’m leaving
    It’s over

    Blame It On Me – Chrisette Mechelle
    Best Line. You can say that its my fault
    say that I left you outside in the rain with a broken heart
    I don’t care what you say
    As long as you say goodbye

  280. Delaney permalink
    January 4, 2012 10:43 pm

    (I didn’t read all of the comments so I’m not sure if these two songs were suggested, but I’m making a girl power breakup CD for a friend and found the blog really helpful!)

    – Gunpowder & Lead: Miranda Lambert
    …Best Lyrics: “I’m goin’ home, gonna load my shotgun. Wait by the door and light a cigarette. He wants a fight well now he’s got one. He ain’t seen me crazy yet.”…”I’m gonna show him what little girls are made of: gunpowder and lead.”

    -Hell on Heels: Pistol Annies (this isn’t really a post-breakup song but it oozes girl power!)
    …Best Lyrics: “He made me pretty, he made me smart. And I’m gonna break me a million hearts. I’m hell on heels, baby and I’m coming for you.” “Poor ol’ Billy, bless his heart, I’m still using his credit card.”

  281. J.A permalink
    January 4, 2012 11:19 pm

    My ex broke up with me because he was stessing himself out…and used any stupid little excuse to attack me with after alosmot 4 years into the relationship and then few weeks later his hanging out with some other chick :)

    isnt that funny, fucking dick:)

    • My Broken Heart is meanding slowly!! permalink
      January 6, 2012 5:22 pm

      What has it got to do with you and him stressing himself out! What was he stressing himself out about?!
      If he had loved you and cared about you enough he would have made it work! But trust me boys get bored easily because they want to be able to get with sluty girls he give them what they want when they want. BUT when it come down to them having a serious relationship they want their girl to be nice and innocent and not have gotten with very many people.

      YES BOYS ARE FUCKING DICKS! But they never grow up, so you need to get used to it.
      Sorry xxx

  282. My Broken Heart is meanding slowly!! permalink
    January 6, 2012 4:56 pm

    My ex kissed somone else at a party after being with eachother for 8 months…it was my first ever relationship, we are both 17…
    Straight after he had a thing with this slag, but he keeps texting me even though i’m trying to move on! And on new years he kissed another girl! Its shit because i lost my virginity to him and after a month it all went wrong and he got bored and kissed another girl….makes me feel used and make me feel shit!
    Any good advise about getting over him????? My new years promise was not to text back to any of his texts or talk to him!!!!!
    The songs I love to listen to right now are:
    Avril Lavigne:
    not enough
    Remember When
    Smile
    Stop standing there
    Black Star
    Darlin
    Everybody Hurts
    Goodbye Lullaby
    I love you

    Leona Lewis:
    Happy
    I got you
    Run
    Stop crying your heart out

    Birdy:
    Skinny Love
    People help the people

    LOVE THIS SONG SO MUCH> Charlene Soraia – Wherever you will go

    Christina Perri:
    Jar of hearts

    Greyson Chance- Waiting outside the lines

    The Climb- Miley Cyrus

    I LOVE these songs…they have really helped me through the hard times….i’ve cryed my eyes out to them and fallen asleep to them :)
    Hope they can do the same for you!!!!! Much love to the broken hearts out there!!

    Girls dont worry it will get better…and remember your friends will always be there for you no matter what. It helps to talk about it. DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT FORGET ABOUT THE GOOD TIMES! Remember you were happy when you had good times so dont just erase them out of your lifes. Yes take don the pictures if you want…but do what i did i put them ALL in my special box. There are memories…HE is a memorie..you cant just forget about everything to with him cause you broke up.

    Please remember it will slowly get better…its only been a 2 months since my ex kissed the first girl, and its been a week sice i ended it for good. It hurts really bad still…but i cant actually belive how i’m actually feeling a lot better cause my friends are so supportaive and are the SONG help so much!

    Lots of help to helf your hearts mend…i know mine is slowly mending because my friends love me so much and even other boy friends cause be really supporative!

    Keep Strong!!!!!

  283. Scott permalink
    January 10, 2012 1:00 am

    Mumford & Sons – the Cave (and most of the album Sigh No More)

  284. angie permalink
    January 11, 2012 1:36 pm

    this i think is impowering some of the others talk about moving on not impowering #beyonce best thing i never had

  285. BeFree permalink
    January 12, 2012 4:53 pm

    For an angry song, I like Kiss Me Fool by Fefe Dobson. It’s not exactly about a break-up; it’s more about that asshole who strings you along, makes you feel like shit about yourself, dates you out of boredom and THEN breaks up with you without batting an eye… Yah I’m not bitter at all. Haha :P.

    Other faves:

    Low Rising- The Swell Season
    It doesn’t matter anymore- Don Maclean (but I really like the Serena Ryder cover)
    Leave- Glen Hansard
    Lies- Glen Hansard & Marketa Irglova
    When Your Mind’s Made Up- Glen Hansard & Marketa Irglova
    Say it to me now- Glen Hansard
    Miles and Years- Del Barber

    Finally, Clarity by John Mayer. This song really, really put me at peace after a bad break-up.

    And I will wait to find
    If this will last forever
    And I will wait to find
    If this will last forever
    And I will pay no mind
    When it won’t and it won’t because it can’t
    It just can’t
    It’s not supposed to…

    …And I will pay no mind
    Worried ’bout no rainy weather
    And I will waste no time
    Remaining in our lives together

    • BeFree permalink
      February 2, 2012 3:46 pm

      Also, “I Could Say” by Lily Allen.

  286. Keep the faith permalink
    January 14, 2012 8:49 pm

    I love the blog. I searched this just now a year and a half after being out of a relationship but it really still hurts a lot. I know we still like eachother but we aren’t together and had our problems. Anyway, I would like to add two songs from irish artists.
    The first is the long goodbye by paul brady. It can make you feel sad but makes you think what’s the point dragging it out.
    ‘Come on, baby, it’s over, let’s face it
    All that’s happening here is a long goodbye’
    The 2nd song is ‘someone elses hands’ by the coronas. It actually hurts a lot but reminds you that do you actually want to be with someone when they don’t wnat to be with you??

    In addition I would just like to say, someone asked me recently do I believe in ‘the one’.. They don’t. It made me think. There most certainly is more than one person we can all be happy with.. mostly timing decides. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that if you feel you lost the ‘one’ I don’t think that’s true.

    To finish I would like to share a nice quote I read..

    ‘One day, you’ll meet someone who will make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else’

    Keep the faith guys :-)

  287. Lauren permalink
    January 17, 2012 5:46 pm

    I’ve made myself a playlist now thy my boyfriend broke up with me. Some or my favorites of these kinds of songs are a little not stronger by Sara Evans (I have the leighton meester version), best days of your life by kellie pickled, and lost the best thing by charice.

  288. Laner permalink
    January 21, 2012 2:04 am

    For those just starting to come back into the sun post breakup, Sara Evans “A Little Bit Stronger” is great. The chorus is….
    I’m done thinking we could work it out, I’m done with how it feels spinning my wheels lettin you drag my heart around and oh oh and I’m done thinking you could ever change I know my heart will never be the same but I’m telling myself I’ll be ok even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger!

    • January 22, 2012 6:34 am

      I’d like to add a few more obscure ones:

      1) Lover’s Cross by Jim Croce:

      Guess that it was bound to happen
      Was just a matter of time
      But now I’ve come to my decision
      And it’s one of the painful kind
      ‘Cause now it seems that you wanted a martyr
      Just a regular guy wouldn’t do
      But baby I can’t hang upon no lover’s cross for you

      I really got to hand it to ya
      ‘Cause girl you really tried
      But for every time that we spent laughin’
      There were two times that I cried
      And you were tryin’ to make me your martyr
      And that’s the one thing I just couldn’t do
      ‘Cause baby, I can’t hang upon no lover’s cross for you

      ‘Cause tables are meant for turnin’
      And people are bound to change
      And bridges are meant for burnin’
      When the people and memories they join aren’t the same

      Still I hope that you can find
      Another who can take what I could not
      He’ll have to be a super guy
      Or maybe a super god
      ‘Cause I never was much of a martyr before
      And I ain’t bout to start nothin’ new
      And baby, I can’t hang upon no lover’s cross for you

      Others:
      2) Time for me to Fly (CLASSIC!!!!!!!!!!)
      3) It’s Too Late by Carole King
      4) Heart of Gold- Neil Young

      • January 22, 2012 6:41 am

        Another I forgot:

        Photographs and Memories- Jim Croce
        Photographs and memories
        Christmas cards you sent to me
        All that I have are these
        To remember you

        Memories that come at night
        Take me to another time
        Back to a happier day
        When I called you mine

        But we sure had a good time
        When we started way back when
        Morning walks and bedroom talks
        Oh, how I loved you then

        Summer skies and lullabies
        Nights we couldn’t say goodbye
        And of all of the things that we knew
        Not a dream survived

        Photographs and memories
        All the love you gave to me
        Somehow it just can’t be true
        That’s all I’ve left of you

        But we sure had a good time
        When we started way back when
        Morning walks and bedroom talks
        Oh, how I loved you then

  289. January 22, 2012 7:06 am

    Annnnnnnnd

    Fiona Apple “Parting Gift”

  290. PRINCESS27 permalink
    January 22, 2012 3:31 pm

    My girlfriend broke up with me cause I have guy friends !!

  291. Elizabeth permalink
    January 24, 2012 3:31 pm

    I’m listening to this one ALOT
    By: Eamon
    Title: Fuck it (I don’t want you back)
    Best Lyrics:
    See, I don’t know why I liked you so much
    I gave you all of my trust
    I told you, I loved you, now that’s all down the drain
    You put me through pain, I wanna let you know how I feel

    Fuck what I said, it don’t mean shit now
    Fuck the presents, might as well throw ‘em out
    Fuck all those kisses, they didn’t mean Jack
    Fuck you you ho, I don’t want you back

  292. Anklebiters permalink
    February 1, 2012 11:11 pm

    Bee Gees – How Can You Mend A Broken Heart

    I can think of younger days when living for my life
    Was everything a man could want to do.
    I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow.

    And how can you mend a broken heart?
    How can you stop the rain from falling down?
    How can you stop the sun from shining?
    What makes the world go round?
    How can you mend a this broken man?
    How can a loser ever win?
    Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.

    I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
    And misty memories of days gone by
    We could never see tomorrow, noone said a word about the sorrow.

    And how can you mend a broken heart?
    How can you stop the rain from falling down?
    How can you stop the sun from shining?
    What makes the world go round?
    How can you mend this broken man?
    How can a loser ever win?
    Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again

  293. Tatiana permalink
    February 2, 2012 9:14 pm

    i just broke up with my boyfriend Isaac and i cried on and off at everything that reminded me of him meaning anything id ever seen that had associated with him the next morning i walk into my kitchen with my tear-filled eyes and bawled for so long because i knew id never seen him standing there making the coffee ever again but after some Leona Lewis, Adele, and Beyonce reached my heart i really recovered its been 3 weeks since the break up and IM A SURVIVOR I AINT GON GIVE UP IM A SURVIVOR KEEP ON SURVIVING!

    • February 6, 2012 9:03 pm

      Tatiana,
      LOVE THIS COMMENT! So proud of you. Keep it up – you are gonna be just fine!

  294. Emi f. baby permalink
    February 5, 2012 6:45 pm

    z-ro “i hate you bitch”. its the best song and it is so tru. I sing it all the time to my ex.
    so many years i done paid the price-
    y u wana bring all this drama 2 my life?

    i hate you bitch….
    i neva thought i’d say…
    i hate you bitch….

  295. February 5, 2012 11:51 pm

    jh

    Here is the best break up mix that’s helped me. I play it every day.

    Best Thing I Never Had Beyonce 4 (Deluxe Edition) R&B
    The War Is Over Kelly Clarkson Stronger Pop
    Let Me Down Kelly Clarkson Stronger Pop
    Breakaway Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
    Stronger Kelly Clarkson Stronger Pop
    Don’t Waste Your Time Kelly Clarkson My December Pop
    Walk Away Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
    Mr. Know It All Kelly Clarkson Stronger Pop
    Just Like A Pill Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition]
    So What Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition] Pop/Rock
    Raise Your Glass Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition] Pop/Rock
    U + Ur Hand Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition] Pop/Rock
    Fuckin’ Perfect Pink Greatest Hits…So Far!!! [Deluxe Edition] Pop/Rock
    Gone Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
    Since U Been Gone Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
    Addicted Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
    Beautiful Disaster (Live) Kelly Clarkson Breakaway Pop
    Over You Daughtry

  296. February 7, 2012 4:00 pm

    I love your song list! I’m always looking for new songs to add to cd’s for my friends after a break up. My all time favorite is “Never Again” by Kelly Clarkson. I also like “A Little Bit Stronger” by Sara Evans.

  297. Ashley permalink
    February 11, 2012 3:15 am

    I love this blog. My ex left me 2 weeks ago…. Its been so hard. I just cry all the time and my friends say I deserve better and he missing out. Then they push all these guys at me and Its still to soon. We all have different situations and circumstances but we all feel hurt and I know atleast for me it feels like it will never end… But it ALWAYS gets better.

    Not cut out- Katy McAllister
    Let me be myself- 3 doors down
    Was I the only one- Jordin Sparks
    I cant make yu love me- Tank
    Take it all- Adele
    Im moving on- Rascal Flatts
    Let it Rain- David Nail
    What do you want- Jerrod Niemann
    I got nothin- Darius Rucker
    oh well oh well- Mayday Parade
    Disaster- Jojo
    Not over you- Gavin Degraw

    Hopefully some of these songs can help someone!
    Good Luck :)

  298. Allie permalink
    February 13, 2012 6:27 am

    Just came out of a 2 and half year relationship with my (then) current boyfriend and it’s hard. We split 2 days before my 17th birthday after i found a chat between him and an american girl where they were discussing their love for each other and i decided i couldn’t trust him anymore and i didn’t want to be part of his life. Since then i’ve been in floods of tears on and off, even on my actual birthday and I’ve sworn to hate him. Afterall, he made me feel like absolute crap on my day. It’ll be a week on Wednesday the 15th and instead of sitting there in sobs, I’m going to gut out my room of all his stuff and everything he ever gave to me and hide them away. I’ll keep the presents but give back his stuff.

    For the past few days, I’ve been listening to Liquid Confidence by You Me At Six
    ‘You’ve got nothing to lose, except for me and you.
    And I love that attitude, when you know I can do.
    I’ll do better than you.’

    Just the chorus has given me so much power. I seriously do love that song right now and I’ve also been listening to Somebody I used to know by Gotye
    ‘now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over.
    Had me believing it was always something that I’d done.
    but i don’t wanna live that way, feeding in to every word you say,
    You said you could let it go and i wouldn’t catch you hung up and somebody you used to know’

    I hope everyone finds the one that can fix their hearts for good but until then, protect your hearts, but don’t over protect them. There’s always someone better than the last. <3

  299. Cori permalink
    February 14, 2012 12:12 am

    Christina Perri “Jar of Hearts” and The Wreckers “Leave the Pieces”

  300. David permalink
    February 21, 2012 3:29 pm

    Hi, I still love my ex and she has been with a real loser for a year. She is saying she wants to leave but she’s the type that finds it hard to be alone for a minute. I’ve just dug up a great, upbeat song, Roll to Me by Del Amitri, about my feelings but am looking for anything else upbeat, empowering and speaking of a guy (I’d like to believe a good guy) replacing a bad one.

  301. Anklebiters permalink
    February 22, 2012 11:20 pm

    Natasha Bedingfield – Soulmate

    Incompatible, it don’t matter though
    Because someone’s bound to hear my cry
    Speak out if you do
    You’re not easy to find

    Is it possible, Mr. Loveable
    Is already in my life?
    Right in front of me
    Or maybe you’re in disguise

    Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
    Who knows how to love you without being told
    Somebody tell me why I’m on my own
    If there’s a soulmate for everyone

    Here we are again, circles never end
    How do I find the perfect fit
    There’s enough for everyone
    But I’m still waiting in line

    Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
    Who knows how to love you without being told
    Somebody tell me why I’m on my own
    If there’s a soulmate for everyone

    If there’s a soulmate for everyone

    Most relationships seem so transitory
    They’re all good but not the permanent one

    Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
    Who knows how to love you without being told
    Somebody tell me why I’m on my own
    If there’s a soulmate for everyone

    Who doesn’t long for someone to hold
    Who knows how to love you without being told
    Somebody tell me why I’m on my own
    If there’s a soulmate for everyone

  302. February 27, 2012 6:31 am

    You have left out some very powerful break-up songs:
    Melanie C. – Goin’ Down
    Alanis Morissette – You Oughta Know
    :)

  303. February 29, 2012 8:38 pm

    Great list!!
    one of my favorites is Sorry by Art of Dying! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyvyJ6SGhp4)

  304. March 2, 2012 9:06 pm

    I really enjoyed reading through this… I would definitely say that Kelly Clarkson is the best person to listen to, not just for empowerment after break-ups, but for life in general.

    I did just get out of a horrible relationship where the other person ended up being so dishonest and hurtful. These KC songs helped me the most because I connected with all of them on a deeply personal level word for word.

    Mr. Know It All
    What Doesn’t Kill You
    The War is Over
    Alone
    Let Me Down
    The Sun Will Rise
    Einstein
    Never Again
    Whyyawannabringmedown
    Since U Been Gone
    Walk Away
    Miss Independent

  305. Jess permalink
    March 4, 2012 12:35 am

    My boyfriend txt me saying he was taking his ex girlfriend on a date. We had been on and off for almost a yr but listening to Beyonce’s Irreplaceable will surely get me feeling better hopefully.

    • March 4, 2012 8:44 pm

      Jess,
      That’s awful, I’m sorry. That song helped me a lot too. I’m hoping things get better for you soon.

  306. Fernie permalink
    March 6, 2012 12:33 pm

    Love interruption from Jack White.

    “I won’t let love disrupt, corrupt or interrupt me”.

  307. d0rk permalink
    March 7, 2012 1:05 pm

    #1 should be CAKE – I will survive, which although it never happens, it is *Better* then the original.

  308. Kat permalink
    March 12, 2012 10:53 am

    A really good breakup song to listen to if you’re angry is “if looks could kill” by Heart.

  309. Kat permalink
    March 12, 2012 10:58 am

    Also Jerk by Kim Stockwood

  310. Scar permalink
    March 18, 2012 5:28 pm

    Here’s a few I didnt see mentioned so far…

    no doubt- sunday
    no doubt- ex girlfriend
    destiny’s child- hey ladies
    blue cantrell- hit em up style
    no doubt- happy now
    ashton shepard- look it up
    taylor swift- mean
    dixie chicks- goodbye earl
    kelly clarkson- what does kill you makes you stronger
    destinys child- indepedent women
    justin timberlake- cry me a river
    taylor swift- you’re not sorry
    eminem & lil wayne- no love
    eminem- superman ( have no idea how this helps but it did for me!!)
    I think eventually any song making me feel like I didnt need anyone to make me happy helped. Stick to positive stuff, ladies (& guys :) ) music, movies, ppl etc…Tell anyone or anything thats hindering your healing process to GET LOST! :D

  311. Jennifer Sessoms permalink
    March 22, 2012 6:48 pm

    Evanescence Going Under I love this song!

  312. Levi permalink
    March 25, 2012 12:21 pm

    Grinspoon better off alone is missing

  313. anklebyters permalink
    March 29, 2012 11:50 pm

    Making April – Don’t Go

    It seems the moments went so fast
    I couldn’t bask in one for long before it passed
    And now they slip right by
    And my thoughts, they’re craving you and I
    No they don’t have us no, not anymore
    You journey back to our hometown
    We spend an evening graced with all our sights and sounds
    But the morning breaks our high
    When you say, it was only one more night

    Don’t go cause I made it through goodbye
    Now I’ll make it better
    I know we needed a little time to our lives
    And I believed that you would never make it back
    I take it back baby but now that you’re here
    Don’t go

    The broken sidewalk looked like states
    I stood on Tennessee and begged for you to stay
    But you kept your eyes down low
    And you took the Colorado’s home

    Don’t go cause I made it through goodbye
    Now I’ll make it better
    I know we needed a little time to our lives
    And I believed that you would never make it back
    I take it back baby but now that you’re here

    Don’t leave me stranded on the street
    We used to meet that split between our houses
    I don’t wanna go back alone, no

    Don’t go cause we made it through the night
    Now we’ll make it better
    I know we needed a little time to our lives
    And I believed that you would never make it back
    I take it back baby now that you’re here
    Don’t go

  314. Amberlt permalink
    April 4, 2012 2:53 am

    Red high heels is one of my favorites, by kelloe pickled

  315. Amberly permalink
    April 4, 2012 2:55 am

    I meant kellie pickler, gotta love auto correct.. Amberly

  316. D.W. permalink
    April 4, 2012 2:30 pm

    Cry Me a River– Justin Timberlake, White Horse — Taylor Swift, Last Call — Lee Ann Womack

  317. Loulou permalink
    April 22, 2012 8:49 am

    My boyfriend of 8 years recently came clean about being unfaithful to me. After 5 years of long distance dating, me moving over the other side of the world to be with him, spending almost a year going through the immigration process, leaving my friends and family he tells me he cheated after we went and applied for a marriage licence.
    What do you do with that sort of news? I get that everyone makes mistakes and I was willing to try and work things out. But he let me get on a plane and leave the country, knowing what he had done. Little did I know most of his friends knew that he had cheated and no one said a word to me. Instead I was thinking I was paranoid that the girl who was constantly text messaging him and calling him was some stalker who wouldn’t take no for an answer. Instead this was the girl he only had a “one night stand” with 6 months prior.

    This is all still new, only have we been separated for 6 weeks. I don’t hate him, in fact I feel sorry for him. Because he has lost the best thing that will ever happen to him. I’m just thankful that I never got married to him and can live my life.

    How do other people get over their partners infidelity? What hurts more the fact they done it, or the lies that come with it?

    Anyways, here are my top 3 break-up songs….

    Christina Perri- Jar Of Hearts
    I hear you’re asking all around
    If I am anywhere to be found
    I have grown too strong
    To ever fall back in your arms

    Beyonce- Best Thing I Never Had
    I wanted you bad,
    I’m so through with it,
    ‘Cause honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had,
    I say, you turned out to be the best thing I never had,
    Hmm and I’ll never be the best thing you never had,
    Oh baby I bet it sucks to be you right now!

    I know you want me back,
    It’s time to face the facts
    That I’m the one that’s got away,
    Lord knows that it would take another place, another time, another world, another life,
    Thank God I found the good in goodbye!

    Alanis Morissette- You Oughta Know
    And every time I scratch my nails down someone else’s back
    I hope you feel it…well can you feel it…

    • April 25, 2012 9:41 pm

      Loulou,
      Gosh I’m so sad hearing your story. What an absolute jerk. You said, “I’m just thankful that I never got married to him and can live my life.” That is so true. Keep thinking that way. You deserve so much better and I know you’ll find it.

  318. devin taylor permalink
    April 22, 2012 5:09 pm

    good songs but get the artists names right You’ll think of me is by rascal flatts not keith urben and gloria gaynor is gloria garinor

  319. anklebyters permalink
    April 23, 2012 11:13 pm

    Train – Drive By

    On the other side of a street I knew
    Stood a girl that looked like you
    I guess thats deja vu ut
    I thought this can’t be true
    Cause you moved to west L.A or New York or Santa Fe
    Or where or ever to get away from me

    Oh but that one night
    Was more than just right
    I didn’t leave you cause I was all through
    Oh I was overwhelmed and frankly scared as hell
    Because I really fell for you

    Oh I swear to you
    I’ll be there for you
    This is not a drive by
    Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
    Hefty bag to hold my love
    When you move me everything is groovy
    They don’t like it sue me mmm the way you do me
    Oh I swear to you
    I’ll be there for you
    This is not a drive by

    On the upside of a downward spiral
    My love for you went viral
    And I loved you every mile you drove away
    But now here you are again
    So let’s skip the “how you been”And
    get down to the “more than friends” at last

    Oh but that one night
    Is still the highlight
    I didn’t need you until I came to
    and I was overwhelmed and frankly scared as hell
    Because I really fell for you

    Oh I swear to you
    I’ll be there for you
    This is not a drive by
    Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
    Hefty bag to hold my love
    When you move me everything is groovy
    They don’t like it sue me mmm the way you do me
    Oh I swear to you
    I’ll be there for you
    This is not a drive by

    Please believe that when I leave
    There’s nothing up my sleeve but love for you
    And a little time to get my head together too

    On the other side of a street I knew
    Stood a girl that looked like you
    I guess thats deja vu
    But I thought this can’t be true
    Cause

    Oh I swear to you
    I’ll be there for you
    This is not a drive by
    Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
    Hefty bag to hold my love
    When you move me everything is groovy
    They don’t like it sue me
    mmm the way you do me
    Oh I swear to you
    I’ll be there for you
    This is not a drive by

  320. anklebyters permalink
    April 23, 2012 11:14 pm

  321. IMSORRYIGOTTAGO permalink
    April 26, 2012 5:23 pm

    Good songs yes…. I’m sorry to say this though… I think I need to break up for a reason more complicated than can be found on a song…. how about a song thats about moving on because well there’re too many differences, and then some… about giving up the goods not regretting any of it but admitting wrongs and about forgive me but i can’t deal with loving you right now???

  322. IMSORRYIGOTTAGO permalink
    April 26, 2012 5:39 pm

    I’m Sorry to hear this story and I feel a bit guilty because maybe i’m that type of guy…. I’m just in a realationship, I got into it a week before I left home, a year and 6 months later, this person on the other end loves me more than I think I do, spending a lot of money and time…. i just dont want to lead em on any longer before something like THIS happens… thats a bit extreme. I’m only 25 and I guess I effed up yes I admit it… but I just want to let it go… I think…. Say Goodbye by Chris Brown is the one that should take the cake in this situation… maybe…
    ” there’s never a right time to say goodbye but i gotta make the first move cuz if i dont you’re gonna start hating me….”

    I’m sorry but i gotta go…

  323. anklebyters permalink
    April 29, 2012 12:18 am

    Incubus – Love Hurts

    Love hurts…
    But sometimes it’s a good hurt
    And it feels like I’m alive.

    Love sings,
    When it transcends the bad things.
    Have a heart and try me,
    ’cause without love I won’t survive.

  324. Ariesstorm permalink
    April 29, 2012 9:54 am

    I dont know if this one has been mentioned yet but hate me by blue october was my theme song for a long time. My ex husband developed a horrible drug problem and he pretty much destroyed our lives. I tried to help him thru it but no amount of love was goin to fix his issuses. After i finally kicked him out he went to rehab and has been clean 4 years but i would never ever think about bein back with him.

    • Sarah permalink
      June 8, 2012 9:51 pm

      omg I have just kicked my bloke out for the same reason, he will never change though and I would be like you, I would never give him anouther chaance evenif he did get clean cos I know how quick they can go back to it, 14 years I tried to make it work for, all along I was kidding myself, its a shame how it destroys lives

  325. Delia permalink
    April 29, 2012 12:54 pm

    Another suggestion:
    Go Away by Gloria Estefan
    I like it because it has a carnival sound

    A taste:
    And when you go I won’t miss you at all,
    And when you go I’ll be having a ball
    Everyday!
    Thoughts of you won’t even cross my mind
    It’s the truth, don’t mean to be unkind

    The people have a right to party
    And you won’t let them have their fun

  326. Beth permalink
    April 30, 2012 1:39 pm

    dont forget the streets -dry your eyes mate

  327. Hanna permalink
    April 30, 2012 2:04 pm

    Im Stuck On “I Miss You” Blink 182.

  328. jess permalink
    May 1, 2012 2:34 pm

    alicia keys and john mayer – “lesson learned”

    He broke my heart
    And now it’s raining
    Just to rub it in
    I’m at your door
    I feel so crazy about it
    You’ll say I told you so
    You saw it long ago
    You knew he had to go
    I finally came ’round
    I’m back on solid ground
    Can’t let it get me down

    Yes I was burned but I called it a lesson learned
    Mistake overturned
    So I call it a lesson learned
    My soul has returned
    So I call it a lesson learned
    Another lesson learned

    Sometimes
    Some lies
    Can take a minute
    To fully realize
    His tears
    Your eyes
    Thirty seconds to apologize
    You give it one more chance
    Just like the time before
    But he already know you’d give a hundred more
    Until that night in bed
    You wake up in a sweat
    You’re racing to the door
    Can’t take it anymore

    I was burned but I called it a lesson learned
    Mistake overturned
    So I call it a lesson learned
    My soul has returned
    So I call it a lesson learned
    Another lesson learned

    Life perfect
    Ain’t perfect
    If you don’t know what the struggle’s for
    Falling down ain’t falling down
    If you don’t cry when you hit the floor
    It’s called the past cause I’m getting past
    And I ain’t nothing like I was before
    You ought to see me now

  329. Roske permalink
    May 5, 2012 7:21 pm

    You should include “You suck at love” by Simple Plan. Made me feel a million times better about the divorce I’m going through!

  330. Sabrina permalink
    May 8, 2012 9:13 am

    Love these songs. A few good songs i found are Breakeven – Maddie Jane (she doesnt original sing it but sings it from a chicks side) Hanging on by a moment – Life house, Before he cheats – Carrie Underwood, Undo it – Carrie Underwood, Good in Goodbye – Carrie Underwood (most her stuff pretty good actually) Best song for coming back is “A little bit stronger – Sara Evans” I miss you – Incubus, Somebody that I use to know- Gotye, Life goes on- Leann Rimes, Right kind of wrong- Leann Rimes, All for you- Cold Chisel, Foolish Games-Jewel, Linger-The Cranberries, Last thing on my mind-Steps, King of wishful thinking, Black eyes, Blue Tears-Shania Twain, Never gonna give up on you-Rick Astley, Wish you were here-Avril Lavinge, I miss my friend- Mario, When it’s over- Surgar Ray, All the things she said- tAtU, 20 good reason-thirst merc. I clearly have had too much heart break.

  331. May 14, 2012 2:51 pm

    Yeah, I can totally relate this song stuff – my ex recorded me 2 CDs with about 30 songs I still cry whenever I catch any whistle of on the radio. Ironically, one of them was Whitney Houston´s version of “I will always love you”.
    On my lonesome way to resilience, a song that helped me a great deal was James Morrrison “Please don´t stop the rain”, specially the words “You just can´t stand it, when things don´t go your way, but you´ve got no control over what happens, anyway”. Some things are not meant to be…
    Keep the hope alive there, and a warm hug from Brazil!

    • May 26, 2012 11:34 pm

      Wow, that’s a really amazing line. I’m so excited to see someone from Brazil here! Thanks for sharing!

  332. anklebyters permalink
    May 15, 2012 1:04 am

    Hope – Who Am I To Say

    Love of my life, my soulmate
    You’re my best friend
    Part of me like breathing
    Now half of me is left

    I don’t know anything at all
    Who am I to say you love me
    I don’t know anything at all
    And who am I to say you need me

    Color me blue I’m lost in you
    Don’t know why I’m still waiting
    Many moons have come & gone
    Don’t know why I’m still searching

    Don’t know anything at all
    And who am I to say you love me
    I don’t know anything at all
    And who am I to say you need me

    Now you’re a song I love to sing
    Never thought it feels so free
    Now I know what’s meant to be
    And that’s okay with me

    But who am I to say you love me
    And who am I to say you need me
    And who am I to say you love me

    I don’t know anything at all
    And who am I to say you love me
    I don’t know anything at all
    And who am I to say you need me
    I don’t know anything at all

  333. Pathetic girl permalink
    May 15, 2012 7:04 pm

    I love all the songs!
    For me this is kinda hard, cause the guy I’m in love with was never in a relationship with me. We don’t even know each other. He lives in America and I live in México. Dx And dammit I FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM! We talk almost everyday, but the dude has a friggin girlfriend. And the fact that I can’t even fight for him just brings me down. I hate her, I hate him, I like him, I don’t even know anymore. He knows about this, but what can he do? Break up with her? Of course not!! When we talked he didn’t even say: If you were here I’d be dating you. He just acceppted my feelings and told me I could do better. ..dah fuck?

    And what about me? I’m down here, alone, I cried a lot, then I stopped and now I’m starting to cry again. I’m real, my feelings are killing me, when he talks about her I get so angry.
    And yet, he is really a nice guy. He is so like me. GEEZ. You see? I’m pathetic. D':
    I don’t know what to do anymore. Help?
    Btw, sorry for crappy english. T_T
    BTW2: I love your blog, you are so charismatic and funny! :D I’m totally following you! B)

  334. Lizzie permalink
    May 19, 2012 5:13 am

    Those are all great which you have mentioned, girls! Must admit that I’ve read all the comments :))
    These are the songs I have found recently.

    Fun. – One Foot
    Daniel Cirera – Motherf*cker Fake Vegetarian Ex Girlfriend
    Jaron and the Long Road to Love – Pray for You
    Amy Winehouse – Tears Dry On Their Own

  335. May 19, 2012 1:51 pm

    When you’ve chucked out all their stuff and cried for the very last time, I prescribe you THIS song to propel your booty back into the real world – with a bang, with class and with utter funky coolness.

    Back in the game, diva!

    ‘Weekend’ by Class Action:

    I can’t take the heartbreak
    Of you leaving me again
    And I’m not the woman I was back then, oh no no no
    One thing I can’t take is to sit here all alone
    Do you what you my dear, but I’m not staying home!

    ”Cause night and day, I was patient
    But I’ve had all I can take..!

    Tonight’s the night, the time is right
    Maybe I’ll find a friend, to spend the weekend
    Going out, take my chances now
    Going to find a friend, to spend the weekend, tonight
    It’s party time, it’s party time tonight
    Tonight it’s party time, it’s party time tonight!!

  336. May 20, 2012 6:09 pm

    alan jackson so you don’t have to love me

  337. Sid permalink
    May 22, 2012 5:09 am

    She’s so high by EverClear is a definite must for this list, It made me feel like I am wonder woman and he just is not good enough for wonder woman. Haha very similar to that feeling you get when you put on a brand new bra :)

  338. Emily permalink
    May 23, 2012 8:59 pm

    What about Somebody that I used to know by Gotye. It’s great and it’s another dude!

  339. Espe permalink
    May 24, 2012 4:11 pm

    I have spent the last two days poring over this post and subsequent comment thread for new songs. I am four days into a break up (in which I did the breaking [which now that I think about is very interesting because I also initiated the end of my marriage as well]) and while I’ve allowed myself to wallow a bit, I’m feeling far more empowered than usual. In addition, my music tastes are varied, and I agree that Kelly Clarkson and Adele are the mantras for breakup music. However, here are some other additions.

    Part of Me by Katy Perry (I’m quite surprised no one has mentioned her)

    Now look at me, I’m sparkling
    A firework, a dancing flame
    You won’t ever put me out again
    I’m glowing, oh woah oh
    So you can keep the diamond ring
    I never liked them anyway
    In fact you can keep everything
    Yeah, yeah
    Except for me

    This is the part of me that you’re never gonna ever take away from me, no
    This is the part of me that you’re never gonna ever take away from me, no (away from me)
    Throw your sticks and stones
    Throw your bombs and your blows
    But you’re not gonna break my soul
    This is the part of me that you’re never gonna ever take away from me, no

    The Kill by 30 Seconds to Mars
    I tried to be someone else
    But nothing seemed to change
    I know now, this is who I really am inside.
    Finally found myself
    Fighting for a chance.
    I know now, this is who I really am.

    The Middle-Jimmy Eat World
    Hey, don’t write yourself off yet
    It’s only in your head you feel left out or looked down on
    Just try your best, try everything you can
    And don’t you worry what they tell themselves when you’re away

    It just takes some time
    Little girl you’re in the middle of the ride
    Everything, everything will be just fine
    Everything, everything will be alright, alright

    Hey, you know they’re all the same
    You know you’re doing better on your own, so don’t buy in
    Live right now, yeah, just be yourself
    It doesn’t matter if it’s good enough for someone else

    Three Little Birds-Bob Marley
    Singin': “Don’t worry ’bout a thing,
    ‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right.”
    Singin': “Don’t worry (don’t worry) ’bout a thing,
    ‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right!”

    I Hate Everything About You-Three Days Grace
    Only when I stop to think about it

    I hate everything about you
    Why do I love you?
    I hate everything about you
    Why do I love you?

  340. Alana permalink
    May 25, 2012 9:47 am

    Wowww this thread did really well considering it was made over a year ago! If you are still reading this, thanks Catherine for the amazing blog post and your wonderful readers with their suggestions. I hope everything has worked out well for you since :)

    I came off a break up with a guy just over 3 weeks ago who I’d been together with for 18 months. I thought he was the right guy, we had so much in common and then suddenly we were getting into fights about everything all the time (mainly about his priorities – he was addicted to an online gaming chess website and wouldn’t talk at all during the hours he was on it). It has sucked.

    Anyway some more to add to the list (if they haven’t been suggested):
    – Somebody that I used to know (Gotye feat. Kimbra)
    – Taylor Swift songs – basically had “Breathe”, “Forever and Always” and “Back to December” playing through my head.
    – Goodbye My Lover – James Blunt
    – Breakeven (Falling to PIeces) – The Script
    – Not Over You – Galvin DeGraw – “If you ask me how I’m doing / I would say I’m doing just fine / I would lie to say that your not on my mind”
    – Bridge of Light – Pink

    Some of these songs might belong on the depressed list however… :)

    • May 26, 2012 11:15 pm

      Thank you Alana! I too love that people still find this post. I’m glad there are so many songs to help people get through a break up here. It’s kind of remarkable. Good luck to you and thanks for stopping by!

  341. May 26, 2012 8:52 pm

    I’m still standing….Elton John
    Goodbye to you..Patty Smythe

  342. Tom permalink
    May 30, 2012 10:22 pm

    Wow…………… can’t believe y’all missed the best breakup song of all time… Amanda Marshall (Canada)………. BEAUTIFUL GOODBYE:

  343. Elyse permalink
    May 31, 2012 1:55 am

    Ok ok….I gotta add 2 to this list. These 2 songs are just great and an awesome proverbial middle finger: Jaked on Green Beers-Alkaline Trio.
    “it’s been a long time since I’ve been close to you, it’s a long time since I’ve been sad. It’s been a while since I’ve really spent time with you wish I could take back the times that I had. THe only thing that you ever really did for me was make me oh so miserable. And the hope that I never see your face again is anything but questionable. I hope this is goodbye.”

    That song ROCKS.

    Also, Leona Lewis “Best You Never Had”
    It’s a great song about somone who WANTS back with you, but you’re over it. “I told you you’d live to regret it, and now I don’t wanna make you feel bad. When it comes to me just forget it, I’ll be the best you never had”

    Leona Lewis “Take A Bow” is also great! It’s about a guy who really just lies “Take a bow, cuz you’ve taken everything else. You played the part and like a story you played it so well. Take a bow cuz this scene is coming to an end. I gave you love all you gave me was pretend. So now, take a bow.”

  344. Anklebiters permalink
    June 2, 2012 10:53 pm

    Titanium – David Guetta ft. Sia (Madilyn Bailey – cover)

    You shout it out
    But I can’t hear a word you say
    I’m talking loud, not saying much
    I’m criticized
    But all your bullets ricochet
    You shoot me down
    But I get up

    I’m bulletproof, nothing to lose
    Fire away
    Ricochet, you take your aim
    Fire away

    You shoot me down
    But I won’t fall
    I am titanium

    Cut me down
    But it’s you who have further to fall
    Ghost town and haunted love
    Raise your voice, sticks and stones may break my bones
    I’m talking loud, not saying much

    I am titanium

    Stone-hard, machine gun
    Firing at the ones who run
    Stone-hard, those bulletproof glass

    You shoot me down
    But I won’t fall
    I am titanium

  345. Ingrid2 permalink
    June 6, 2012 7:45 am

    There’s More To Me Than You by Jessica Andrews

    Chorus:

    Oo Ooo Oo There’s more to me than you
    Oo Ooo Oo Don’t underestimate what I can do
    Well I’m alright, It’s okay, I know I’ll make it through
    Cause there’s more to me than you

    There was always something
    That meant more to you than me
    And I’m just sorry It’s taken
    This for you to see

  346. overyou permalink
    June 7, 2012 4:05 pm

    This is a great list. I also love Shake it Out by Florence and the Machine, Happy Pills by Norah Jones and Pray for you by Jaron and the long road to love. I’m all about the angry/empowering songs right about now after the crap I was put through. Fighter was my epiphine song and the lyrics gave me chills when I listened to it from a new perspective.

  347. Sarah permalink
    June 8, 2012 9:44 pm

    The songs I would add are= Salute, Whitney Houston and walk away, gabrielle
    The words are fantastic and make me feel great, let me know what you think

  348. Ozan permalink
    June 10, 2012 2:25 pm

    I see white flag and hunter from Dido. But i think “don’t think of me” one of the best empowering songs after a brake up especially when you’re dumped for somebody else.

    So you’re with her, and not with me,
    I hope she’s sweet, and so pretty
    I hear she cooks delightfully,
    A little angel beside you
    So you’re with her, and not with me,
    Oh how lucky one man can be
    I hear your house is small and clean,
    Oh how lovely with your homecoming queen
    Oh how lovely it must be

    When you see her sweet smile baby, don’t think of me
    When she lays in your warm arms, don’t think of me

    So you’re with her, and not with me,
    I know she spreads sweet honey
    In fact your best friend,
    I heard he spent last night with her
    Now how do you feel, how do you feel

    When you see her sweet smile baby, don’t think of me
    When she lays in your warm arms, don’t think of me

    And it’s too late and it’s too bad, don’t think of me
    Oh it’s too late and it’s too bad, don’t think of me
    Does it bother you now all the mess I made
    Does it bother you now the clothes you told me not to wear
    Does it bother you now all the angry games we played
    Does it bother you now when I’m not there

    When you see her sweet smile baby, don’t think of me
    When she lays in your warm arms, don’t think of me

    And it’s too late and it’s too bad, don’t think of me
    And it’s too late, and it’s too bad, don’t think of me.

  349. Polly permalink
    June 11, 2012 2:46 pm

    This site is amazing! Really helped me :) Nick Lachey – I can’t hate you anymore & Outside Looking In, are good empowering songs :D xx

  350. Nicole V. permalink
    June 12, 2012 4:56 am

    Hope it gives you hell by All American Rejects
    and another uplifting song “You Gotta Be” by Des’ree

  351. Ritika permalink
    June 13, 2012 2:48 pm

    hey
    This blog is seriously helping me a lot, i’m going through the break of a three year relationship, i know i did the right thing for me .. but feeling ..like this sucks pretty bad too, just reading through the comments gave me hope that i’ll get over this one day… but till that day comes i’ll find comfort in all the beautiful songs listed above!

  352. toni permalink
    June 14, 2012 7:41 am

    BETTER TODAY – NEYO

    DEFINITLY MAKES YOU FEEL 100% better <3

  353. toni permalink
    June 14, 2012 7:43 am

    better today – neyo , definitly helps you look at the brighter side. and really makes you feel alot stronger! im feeling much better today ! <3

  354. jode permalink
    June 15, 2012 3:07 am

    Fleetwood Mac – You can go your own way

  355. Emma permalink
    June 16, 2012 1:34 pm

    my boyfriend decided 2 weeks ago that he wanted a change so dumped me by text, and has since been chasing me to get me back, but i can’t forgive him for things he has done and said so its his loss now

  356. Tonya Williams permalink
    June 18, 2012 3:32 pm

    My fiance recently called things off for no reason at all, and i listen to Sara Evans- A little bit stronger its so amazing!!
    And im done hoping that we could work it out, im done with how it feels spinning my wheels letting you drag my heart around. And oh im done thinking that you could ever change
    I know my heart will never be the same, But im telling myself I’ll be okay, Even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger
    Doesnt happen overnight but you turn around and a months gone by and you realize you havent cried!!
    Anyways you gotta listen to it, its soo great and actually makes you realize your going to be fine, and maybe even better than you were with him!!

  357. Lauren Derulo permalink
    June 18, 2012 10:48 pm

    for a song that depresses the hell out of you would definitely be “Miserable at best” by Mayday Parade and an empowering song would be “Deuces” by Chris Brown. By the way both of these songs are catchy and fun to listen to no matter what. These are two of my favorites

  358. single&lovingit! permalink
    June 19, 2012 9:49 am

    Ok, my b.f. broke up with me OVER TEXT first of all, second, I found out from my BFF who is dating the jerks BFF, the BFF told my BFF that he was breaking up for one of my friends, and so I texted him,”so so what? I’m having more fun, and now that we’re done, I’m gunna show u tonite, that I’m alright, I’m just fine, and you’re a tool so so what? And tell ______ that I say hi.

    XD I hope he’s like, well d@**, that girl was Irreplacable.

  359. Angie permalink
    June 20, 2012 2:19 am

    Thank you soo much for your posts. It is motivating and has encouraged me to try to move on. The guy I was with for a year and half left me and it has been an excruciating long few weeks :( I think about him everyday and it’s so hard to move on! Another song for people to check out is a song called “A Little Bit Stronger” by Sarah Evans and Bluebird by Christina Perri :)

  360. ASDASD permalink
    June 23, 2012 4:34 pm

    Just wanna share my breakup songs:
    Maroon 5 – through With you
    My Chemical Romance – I don’t love you
    The Used – buried my Self Alive
    Ne Yo – So Sick
    Boys II Men – Water Runs Dry
    Eminem – 25 to life
    Plain White T’s – Hate (I really don’t like you)
    The Killer – Mr Brightside

  361. Rita permalink
    June 23, 2012 11:51 pm

    Just remembered this one by Anastacia…

    I’m Outta Of Love

    Ooooha
    Whoa
    Yeah yeah yeah yeah
    Oh yeah
    Aha

    Now baby come one
    Don’t claim that love you never let me feel
    I should have known
    ‘Cause you brought nothing real
    Come on be a man about it
    You won’t die
    I ain’t got no more tears to cry
    And I can’t take this no more
    You know I gotta let it go
    And you know

    I’m outta love
    Set me free
    And let me out this misery
    Just show me the way to get my life again
    ‘Cause you can’t handle me
    (I said) I’m outta love
    Can’t you see
    Baby that you gotta set me free
    I’m outta love

    Yeah

    Said how many times
    Have I tried to turn this love arond?
    But every time
    You just let me down
    Come on be a man about it
    You’ll survive
    True that you can work it out all right
    Tell me, yesterday
    Did you know?
    I’d be the one to let you go?
    And you know

    I’m outta love
    Set me free
    (Set me free, yeah)
    And let me out this misery
    (Oh let me out this misery)
    Just show me the way to get my life again
    ‘Cause you can’t handle me
    (I said) I’m outta love
    (I’m outta love)
    Can’t you see
    Baby that you gotta set me free
    I’m outta

    Let me get over you
    The way you’ve gotten over me too, yeah
    Seems like my time has come
    And now I’m moving on
    I’ll be stronger

    I’m outta love
    Set me free
    (Set me free)
    And let me out this misery
    (Yeah yeah)
    Show me the way to get my life again
    (Show me the way, my life again)
    You can’t handle me
    (No, no, no, no)
    (I said) I’m outta love
    (I’m outta love)
    Set me free
    (Set me free)
    And let me out this misery
    (Yeah yeah yeah yeah)
    Show me the way to get my life again
    You can’t handle me
    (I said) I’m outta love
    Can’t you see
    (Can’t you see)
    Baby that you gotta set me free
    I’m outta love
    Yeah yeah yeah yeah

    I’m outta love
    Set me free
    (No no no no no no)
    And let me out this misery
    Just show me the way to get my life again
    You can’t handle me
    (No no nobody)
    (I said) I’m outta love
    (Oh yeah oh yeah)
    Set me free
    And let me out this misery

  362. Ill permalink
    June 24, 2012 9:37 am

    I’m still in crying mode, even 7 months after I got dumped… so here’s a few things that are great for sobbing…
    No Doubt – Don’t speak
    Mariah Carey – Against all odds (makes me cry every time!)
    Lana Del Rey (everything! Born to Die, Dark Paradise, …)

  363. June 25, 2012 2:07 pm

    Reblogged this on scaredemcee.

  364. Pete permalink
    June 27, 2012 8:16 pm

    Craig David’s ‘Walking Away’ (UK version) is ‘my song’. Perfectly described my feelings at a time of real turmoil in my life.

    Empowering rock songs? I’d have to go for Skunk Anansie’s ‘Weak’. No matter how much she’s hurting, she won’t go back to him.

  365. Anklebiters permalink
    June 29, 2012 9:32 pm

    Kelly Clarkson – Dark Side

    There’s a place that i know
    it’s not pretty there and few have ever gone
    if i show it to you now
    Will it make you run away

    Or will you stay even if it hurts
    Even if i try to push you out will you return?
    And remind me who i really am
    Please remind me who i really am

    Everybody’s got a dark side do you love me?
    Can you love mine?
    Nobody’s a picture perfect but we’re worth it
    You know that we’re worth it will you love me?
    Even with my dark side?

    Like a diamond from black dust
    It’s hard to know it can become a few give up
    So don’t give up on me
    Please remind me who i really am

    Everybody’s got a dark side do you love me?
    Can you love mine?
    Nobody’s a picture perfect but we’re worth it
    You know that we’re worth it
    Will you love me?
    Even with my dark side?

    Don’t run away
    Don’t run away
    Just tell me that you will stay promise me you will stay
    Don’t run away
    Don’t run away
    Just promise me you will stay promise me you will stay
    Will you love me? ohh

    Everybody’s got a dark side do you love me?
    Can you love mine?
    Nobody’s a picture perfect but we’re worth it
    You know that we’re worth it
    Will you love me?
    Even with my dark side?

  366. Alejandra permalink
    July 4, 2012 5:52 pm

    Man who cant be moved by The Script

  367. Travis permalink
    July 12, 2012 3:48 pm

    Go On Girl by Ne-Yo is an outstanding one.

  368. July 13, 2012 10:08 pm

    gives you hell would be nice here

  369. Connie permalink
    July 14, 2012 11:59 pm

    Few of my favs…

    Wanted You More – Lady Antebellum

    “No I never saw it comin’
    Somethin’ in you
    Must have changed

    All the words unspoken
    Promises broken
    I cried for so long.
    Wasted too much time
    Should have seen the signs.
    Now I know, just what went wrong

    I guess I wanted you more
    And looking back now I’m sure
    I wanted you more
    I guess I wanted you more”

    Blow Me (One Last Kiss) – P!nk

    “I’ve been crying, I’ve been crying, I’ve been dying over you
    Tie a knot in the rope, trying to hold, trying to hold,
    But there’s nothing to grab so I let go

    I think I’ve finally had enough, I think I maybe think too much
    I think this might be it for us (blow me one last kiss)
    You think I’m just too serious, I think you’re full of shit
    My head is spinning so blow me one last kiss

    Just when I think it can’t get worse, I had a shit day
    You had a shit day, we’ve had a shit day
    I think that life’s too short for this
    I’ll pack my ignorance and bliss
    I think I’ve had enough of this, blow me one last kiss.”

    Wide Awake – Katy Perry

    “I’m wide awake
    Not losing any sleep
    I picked up every piece
    And landed on my feet
    I’m wide awake
    Need nothing to complete myself

    I’m wide awake
    Yeah, I am born again
    Outta the lion’s den
    I don’t have to pretend
    And it’s too late
    The story’s over now, the end”

    Everybody Does – Martina McBride

    “He broke your heart
    You can’t cry hard enough
    But you’re not the only one

    Everybody loves someone
    Everybody hurts sometimes
    Everybody says they’ll never fall again
    But everybody does
    Yeah, everybody does”

    Don’t Stop – Fleetwood Mac

    “If you wake up and don’t want to smile,
    If it takes just a little while,
    Open your eyes and look at the day,
    You’ll see things in a different way.

    Don’t stop, thinking about tomorrow,
    Don’t stop, it’ll soon be here,
    It’ll be, better than before,
    Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone.”

    Live To Love Another Day – Keith Urban

    “Lord I fell for her smile
    And she loved me for a while
    Then she said good-bye gotta go
    Left me standing on the side of the road
    Now she’s gone and I’m a memory in her past
    And the long and short of it some things never last

    Oh because summers come, summers go
    I’ll keep walking down this road
    It’s alright and it’s okay
    I’ll live to love another day
    I’ll live to love another day”

    Blue Sky – Emily West ft. Keith Urban

    “So your conscience finally hit you
    And you’re feeling guilty

    Weather man says it’s gonna rain tonight
    The kind of storm where the basement floods and you lose the lights
    Should have thought of that before
    ‘Cause I’m not your blue sky anymore”

    You Won’t Find This – Carrie Underwood

    “There’s once in a lifetime
    And there’s once in a while
    And the difference between the two is about a million miles
    Oh, you might get lucky while the moon is looking up
    But in the truth of the morning, the stars will be long gone

    You can hold any girl that you like
    Fall in love when it’s easy at night
    But, you’ll wake up wondering why she ain’t ever something better
    When you’re lost and run out of road
    Find what I already know
    In the end close is all there is
    But you won’t find this”

  370. Emma permalink
    July 17, 2012 10:49 pm

    Daughtry’s “Over you” is the best ever and Zornik’s “I’m Better Off Without You” is a real close second!!

  371. Austin permalink
    August 4, 2012 5:51 am

    Sounds weird but 25 to life by eminem may be a good one. Me and my gf were together 11 months and I found out she likes me best friend. I couldn’t hang on to her knowing she likes someone else.

  372. Austin permalink
    August 4, 2012 5:53 am

    Another good one is nobody knows. The nights are so lonely the days are so sad I keep thinking about the love that we had and I’m missing you. And nobody knows it but me..

  373. August 5, 2012 6:13 pm

    Regret by LeToya Luckett

    Stronger by Britney Spears

    Sensitivity By Ralph Tresvant

    Aint Thinkin Bout You by Bow Wow feat. Chris Brown

    Outta Here by Esmee Denters

    I Just Want It To Be Over Keyshia Cole

    Green Light Beyonce’ Knowles

  374. Whiggy permalink
    August 7, 2012 8:09 pm

    Another Day by Whigfield is a brilliant empowering break-up song!

  375. Anklebiters permalink
    August 13, 2012 10:42 pm

    Joshua Radin Ft. Ingrid Michaelson – Sky

    I woke dreaming we had broke
    Dreaming you left me for someone new,
    And you cried drying those brown eyes
    Crying you’re sorry, sorry won’t do.

    But this is the way I need to wake
    I’ll wake to you, and you never left me
    All that I dreamt had been untrue
    Open my eyes I see sky

    Oh oh oh oh you know
    The way to keep me on my toes
    I I I I’ll be just fine
    Just say you’ll stay forever mine
    Till we fall asleep tonight

    Last night we had a great fight
    I fell asleep in a horrible state
    Then dreamt you loved my best friend
    My heart would not mend
    Seemed it was fate

    But this is the way I need to wake
    I’ll wake to you, and you never left me
    All that I dreamt had been untrue
    Open my eyes I see sky

    Oh oh oh oh you know
    The way to keep me on my toes
    I I I I’ll be just fine
    Just say you’s stay forever mine
    Till we fall asleep tonight

    Sometimes I forget to love you like I should
    But I’d never leave you
    No I never would, I never would

    Oh oh oh oh you know
    The way to keep me on my toes
    I I I I’ll be just fine
    Just say you’ll stay forever mine
    Till we fall asleep tonight

  376. da SuppaTramp permalink
    August 18, 2012 5:26 am

    how it’s anxious, painful… difficult to find the exact word!
    I just wanna forget her, forget all the crazy things we did, forget her words, her whispers, kiss…! :( :( :(

  377. Anklebiters permalink
    August 20, 2012 12:20 am

    Demi Lovato – Skyscraper

    Skies are crying, I am watching
    Catching teardrops in my hands
    Only silence as it’s ending, like we never had a chance
    Do you have to, make me feel like there’s nothing left of me?

    You can take everything I have
    You can break everything I am
    Like I’m made of glass
    Like I’m made of paper
    Go on and try to tear me down
    I will be rising from the ground
    Like a skyscraper
    Like a skyscraper

    As the smoke clears
    I awaken, and untangle you from me
    Would it make you, feel better to watch me while I bleed?
    All my windows, still are broken
    But I’m standing on my feet

    You can take everything I have
    You can break everything I am
    Like I’m made of glass

    Like I’m made of paper
    Go on and try to tear me down
    I will be rising from the ground
    Like a skyscraper
    Like a skyscraper

    Go run, run, run
    I’m gonna stay right here
    Watch you disappear, yeah
    Go run, run, run
    Yeah it’s a long way down
    But I am closer to the clouds up here

    You can take everything I have
    You can break everything I am
    Like i’m made of glass
    Like i’m made of paper, Ohhh woaah
    Go on and try to tear me down
    I will be rising from the ground

    Like a skyscraper
    Like a skyscraper

  378. August 29, 2012 2:19 pm

    I guess at the time of this post, Adele wasn’t a mega star yet. But… “Someone Like You” is such a powerful post-breakup song.

  379. August 30, 2012 11:20 am

    Wasting my time- default …is a good one.. :)

  380. Michal permalink
    September 3, 2012 2:59 pm

    Bulletproof by La Roux =)

  381. September 10, 2012 11:47 pm

    here are MY personal top ten empowering break up songs
    1. Fuck you I don’t want you back-Eamon
    2. So what? Pink
    3. Fuck you-Ce loo green
    4. Bye bye bye-nsysnc
    5. Since you,ve been gone=Kelly Clarkson
    6. Single ladies-Beyonce
    7. Goodbye to you-
    8. Heart of Gold
    9. Eye of the Tiger
    10. So sick neyo

  382. Kaitlin permalink
    September 13, 2012 12:38 am

    A great song would be Gives You Hell by the All-American Rejects.

  383. Anklebiters permalink
    September 20, 2012 12:23 am

    Fireflight – Stronger Than You Think

    I know your intentions
    I’ve seen the way you work
    You love destruction
    You love pouring on the hurt
    I used to chase you
    But now I hate you
    I’m safe inside the light
    So go on do your worst, your worst

    I am stronger than you think
    I believe you’ll never get the best of me
    No I don’t buy the lies you sell
    My heart belongs to someone else
    I am stronger, stronger than you think

    I’m tasting freedom
    Something you will never know
    Just give up now ’cause
    You will never have control
    My life is paid for
    So what are you here for
    I’m safe inside the light
    So leave me alone, alone

    I know your intentions
    I’ve seen the way you work
    Since you love destruction
    This is gonna hurt

  384. Anklebiters permalink
    September 20, 2012 12:36 am

    Gary Moore – Still Got The Blues

    Used to be so easy to give my heart away.
    But I found out the hard way,
    There’s a price you have to pay.
    I found out that love was no friend of mine.
    I should have known time after time.
    So long, it was so long ago,
    But I’ve still got the blues for you.
    Used to be so easy to fall in love again.
    But I found out the hard way,
    It’s a road that leads to pain.
    I found that love was more than just a game.
    You’re playing to win, but you lose just the same.
    So long, it was so long ago,
    But I’ve still got the blues for you.
    So many years since I’ve seen your face.
    Here in my heart, there’s an empty space
    Where you used to be.
    So long, it was so long ago,
    But I’ve still got the blues for you.
    Though the days come and go,
    There is one thing I know.
    I’ve still got the blues for you

  385. Brittney permalink
    September 21, 2012 2:41 am

    I love your post all those are great songs but some on my break-up list are (In no particular order)

    “It’s Not Right, But it’s okay” Whitney Houston

    It’s not right But it’s okay
    I’m gonna make it anyway
    Pack your bags up and leave
    Don’t you dare come running back to me
    It’s not right But it’s okay
    I’m gonna make it anyway
    Close the door behind you
    Leave your key I’d rather be alone
    Than unhappy

    “We are never ever getting back together” Taylor Swift

    Think the title kinda speaks for itself on this one :)

    He wasn’t man enough” Toni Braxton

    Not really a break up song but still great :)

    “Cry Me Out” Pixie Lott

    Baby, you ain’t all that
    Baby, there’s no way back
    You can keep talkin’
    But baby, I’m walkin’ away
    When I found out
    You messed me about, I was broken
    Back then I believed you
    Now I don’t need ya no more

  386. josh permalink
    September 24, 2012 4:20 am

    last to know – three days grace.

  387. Anklebiters permalink
    October 9, 2012 12:28 am

    Scars On 45 – Heart On Fire

    And bowl me over black and blue
    It’s far too hard to say I’m all over you
    And take my pulse and hose me down
    My hearts on fire

    I’ve said these words a thousand times
    The bathroom mirror stopped and smiled
    So take my pulse and hose me down
    My hearts on fire

    Cause when you’re standing on your own
    And you feel you’ve got nobody round you
    Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
    When you’re standing on your own
    And you feel you’ve got nobody round you
    Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
    My hearts on fire
    My hearts on fire

    I wish you’d never show me now
    It seemed to easy to turn you down
    And so it seems you are my tears
    Is your heart on fire?

    Cause when you’re standing on your own
    And you feel you’ve got nobody round you
    Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
    When you’re standing on your own
    And you feel you’ve got nobody round you
    Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
    Yeah you know I’ll be the one who helps you from your knees
    My hearts on fire
    My hearts on fire
    So bowl me over black and blue
    It’s far too hard to say I’m all over you

  388. Matt permalink
    October 10, 2012 1:24 am

    Your Gonna Miss Me – Andy Grammar

    • Aurélie permalink
      October 12, 2012 8:01 pm

      “Plug In Baby” – Muse
      “L’Adorer” – Etienne Daho

      http://videos.tf1.fr/clip-musique/2008/etienne-daho-son-nouveau-clip-l-adorer-4356374.html

      Avant que l’infidèle à la beauté assassine,
      ne me morde la main,
      ne me couronne d’épines,
      désadorer l’adorer.
      Avant que ses baisers ne deviennent couteaux,
      que ses bouquets de fleurs ne me fassent la peau,
      désadorer l’adorer,
      mais arborer ce chagrin si haut, que je porte,
      beau comme un drapeau,
      en vainqueur,
      dont on admire le sort,
      courageux qui sait aimer trop fort,
      car comme les dieux qu’on adore adorer j’adorais l’adorer.
      J’ai été si vivant,
      chaque minute,
      chaque seconde,
      mais avant d’abhorrer ses humeurs vagabondes,
      désadorer l’adorer.
      Avant que l’infidèle à nouveau ne sévisse,
      qu’inéluctablement,
      le destin s’accomplisse,
      désadorer l’adorer,
      mais arborer ce chagrin si haut, que je porte,
      beau comme un drapeau en vainqueur,
      dont on admire le sort, courageux,
      qui sait aimer trop fort,
      car comme les dieux qu’on adore adorer,
      j’adorais l’adorer.
      Désadorer l’adorer…

      And once you fall in love again :
      “Unintended” – Muse
      “Wonderwall” – Oasis

  389. Traumatic permalink
    October 14, 2012 8:40 am

    Thank’s for all the inspiring songs posted here, I am really having a hard time moving on. My 4 yrs and 7 months GF had an affair with another guy. The feeling is really killing me because I really love her :-( . and to know that she is happier with that person makes it more difficult.

    I am currently listening to ” I’ll be over you – Toto” and ” It must have been love – Roxette”
    The Ace of Base song, made me smile, I thought it was a happy song. not Until now

    • Thomas permalink
      February 12, 2013 4:32 pm

      Good luck man, i fucking hate hearing it but its true, plenty of fish in the see bro, and im sure one day you will catch one who actually wants to be with you and apritiate you. 4 years if damn tough and i couldnt imagine but time heals all wounds, it may feel like you got an emptey space only she can fill but its just a heart shaped hole any good women can fill. just be glad it happend now and not later, you deserve better, give your time and engery to someone else who deserves it and apritiates it.

  390. Andrew permalink
    October 15, 2012 9:43 am

    And who do you think you are?
    Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
    Collecting your jar of hearts
    And tearing love apart
    You’re gonna catch a cold
    From the ice inside your soul
    So don’t come back for me
    Who do you think you are?

    Dear, It took so long just to feel alright
    Remember how to put back the light in my eyes
    I wish I had missed the first time that we kissed
    ‘Cause you broke all your promises
    And now you’re back
    You don’t get to get me back

  391. chewykk permalink
    October 24, 2012 6:49 am

    solo jason derulo, best empowering song EVA!!!

  392. Maja permalink
    October 26, 2012 7:22 pm

    I really liked this list :) “I will Survive”really is THE break up song..

    we have what I think is a really cool break-up song in German it’s called “Freunde bleiben” which means “Staying friends” by Revolverheld and I really like the lyrics they are so raw and open..:

    And then you look me in the face
    And you say “I hope I’m not hurting you”
    -Pack all your things and out
    This is not your home anymore
    And fuck staying friends
    -Pack all your things and out
    This is not your home anymore
    And fuck staying friends
    And when I walk into my bathroom
    and see your stains on my mirror
    I notice that I don’t admit to myself
    That although I wasn’t alone
    Not a single day last year
    The love wasn’t really love

    and another one I personally like very much which is called “Blaue Flecken” (Bruises) by Rosenstolz

    I still have bruises
    And some of them from you
    And I still have this fear
    I could lose them all
    But tonight I will give myself my all
    As if it was my last
    Because I will celebrate us
    And look to what we were
    And I still can’t sleep
    Feeling awake for months
    As if I am secretly waiting for you
    I keep watch till daytime
    The glass in front of my eyes is completely empty again
    is completely empty again
    I want to celebrate not grieve
    All by myself
    Without you I go crazy
    Carry my heart in my hand
    And I throw it after you
    Catch it, keep it
    Or just throw it away
    Maybe I won’t need it anymore
    I still have bruises.

    Really like these two as well :)

  393. October 28, 2012 6:50 pm

    Picture to Burn by Taylor Swift is a good one as well :-)

  394. Tina permalink
    November 1, 2012 1:03 pm

    Never Getting Back Together – Taylor Swift
    My all time favorite break up song to empower?

    Best Thing you Never Had – Beyonce
    Listened to it over and over and OVER and the one more time when “the one” and I broke up a few months ago. Still makes me feel like a strong moving on woman!

  395. Anklebiters permalink
    November 3, 2012 5:30 am

    One Less Reason – A Day To Be Alone

    Lyrics are in the video……

  396. November 6, 2012 3:49 am

    Ok here is my official list, this blog is awesome!! Thanks for some of the ideas everyone!

    1. Leave the pieces – the wreckers
    2. Happy Ending – Avirl Lavigne
    3. You Oughta Know – Alanis Morisette
    4. Simple Together – Alanis Morisette
    5. You Learn – Alanis Morisette
    6. Goodbye To You – Michelle Branch
    7. Undo It – Carrie Underwood
    8. Empty Handed – Michelle Branch
    9. Papa Roach – Scars
    10. Are You Happy Now – Michelle Branch
    11. Irreplaceable – Beyonce
    12. Since You Been Gone – Kelly Clarkson
    13. Rolling in the Deep – Adele
    14. Nothing New – Ashlee Simpson
    15. X-Factor – Lauryn Hill
    16. Better in Time – Leona Lewis
    17. Ex – girlfriend – No Doubt
    18. Survivor – Destiny’s Child
    19. I will Survive – Gloria Gaynor
    20. Over You – Daughtry
    21. Jar of Hearts – Christina Perri
    22. Stronger Woman – Jewel
    23. Til I Get Over You – Michelle Branch
    24. Not Meant to Be – Theory of a Deadman
    25. Torn – Natalie Imbruglia
    26. White Horse – Taylor Swift
    27. Foolish Games – Jewel
    28. Be Ok – Ingrid Michaelson
    29. The War is Over – Kelly Clarkson
    30. What doesn’t kill you – Kelly Clarkson

  397. Laurie permalink
    November 12, 2012 5:54 am

    When my husband recently wandered from 15 years of what I’d been believing was a beautiful marriage, to be with the town tramp; I found a lot of strength in belting the words to Carrie Underwood’s “You Won’t Find This…” cuz’ tell you what…. I treated him like a king and he definately won’t find this!

    Did you check the tires?
    Put gas in the car?
    Don’t think you’ll need to much cuz
    you ain’t gonna get that far
    did you pack the good times?
    don’t forget a map
    just in case the route you take isn’t there to take you back

    You can hold any girl that you like
    fall in love when it’s easy at night
    but you’ll wake up wondering why
    she ain’t ever something better

    when you’re lost and you’ve run out of road
    you’ll find what I already know
    in the end, close is all there is
    cuz you won’t find this
    no you won’t find this…

  398. Aku permalink
    November 21, 2012 1:44 pm

    Check out Dirty Man by Joss Stone. Here are the lyrics :

    You’re a dirty, dirty man
    And you gotta dirty mind
    You’re a dirty, dirty man
    You and that other woman, you’re 2 of a kind
    But you forgot 1 thing baby when you were doing me wrong
    That Im a good house keeper
    Im gonna take my broom and sweep
    All of the dirt out in the street

    You’re a dirty, dirty man
    Oh in so many, so many dirty ways
    You’re a dirty, dirty man
    And you’ve been hidding your little dirt all over this here place
    I know you have
    Oh here’s my chance baby to throw some mud in your face

    Coz Im a good house keeper
    Im gonna take my broom and sweep
    [ From: http://www.metrolyrics.com/dirty-man-lyrics-joss-stone.html ]
    All of the dirt, yes I am, out on the street

    Oh, Im cleaning outl my whole house
    Fast as I can
    Its time to make everything spick and span

    You’re a dirty, ooh you’re a dirty man
    You do me dirty for so many years, yes u did
    You’re a dirty, dirty man, yes u are
    And Im tired of you and your woman and your dog too
    You’re a dirty man
    You’re a dirty man
    Now get outta my house
    Dont u never, never, never come back again
    Dont u never
    You’re a dirty, dirty man

    And Im done with your dirty ways

  399. December 11, 2012 5:09 pm

    Justin Timberlake – Cry me a river

  400. Anklebiters permalink
    December 12, 2012 10:04 pm

    Andrew Belle – In My Veins

    Nothing goes as planned
    Everything will break
    People say goodbye
    In their own special way
    All that you rely on
    And all that you can fake
    Will leave you in the morning
    But find you in the day

    Oh, you’re in my veins
    And I cannot get you out
    Oh, you’re all I taste
    At night inside of my mouth
    Oh, you run away
    ‘Cause I am not what you found
    Oh, you’re in my veins
    And I cannot get you out

    Everything will change
    Nothing stays the same
    Nobody here’s perfect
    Oh, but everyone’s to blame
    Oh, all that you rely on
    And all that you can save
    Will leave you in the morning
    And find you in the day

    Oh, you’re in my veins
    And I cannot get you out
    Oh, you’re all I taste
    At night inside of my mouth
    Oh, you run away
    ‘Cause I am not what you found
    Oh, you’re in my veins
    And I cannot get you out

    (No, I cannot get you out)
    (No, I cannot get you)
    (Oh no, I cannot get you out)
    (No, I cannot get you)

    Everything is dark
    It’s more than you can take
    But you catch a glimpse of sun light
    Shining, shining down on your face
    On your face
    (On your face)

    Oh, you’re in my veins
    And I cannot get you out
    Oh, you’re all I taste
    At night inside of my mouth
    Oh, you run away
    ‘Cause I am not what you found
    Oh, you’re in my veins
    And I cannot get you out

    No, I cannot get you out
    (Oh, you’re in my veins)
    No, I cannot get you out
    Oh no, I cannot get you

  401. Kaylee permalink
    December 21, 2012 9:28 pm

    I just recently went through a break up, and I’ve had this song on my iPod forever, and just realized it completely explains my situation. “Fallout” by Marianas Trench is definitely a song you wanna hear if you’re mad at your ex but still want them back. Here are some lyrics:
    An empty room,
    I’m empty too
    And everything reminds me of you
    So many things that
    I shouldn’t have missed
    The more that I push
    And the more you resist
    It’s easy to say it’s for the best
    When you want more,
    Well you leave me with less

    I know you’re fine, but what do I do?
    I know you’re fine, but what do I do?

    I’m awake, and trying
    While you’re sleeping like a babe
    Beside him
    I’m on the ledge while you’re so
    God damn polite and composed
    And I know you see me,
    And you’re making it look so easy
    What comes and goes,
    I go without.

    I know you’re fine but what about
    (Fallout), Fallout, (fallout), fallout (fallout)
    Through the Fallout
    (Fallout), Fallout, (fallout), fallout, (fallout)
    You’re the fallout

  402. Tolu permalink
    December 31, 2012 4:33 pm

    I will survive is definitely the best one….

  403. Debbie Reuther permalink
    January 9, 2013 1:54 pm

    Reo Speedwagon “Time for Me to Fly”

  404. January 11, 2013 3:20 am

    Thank you thank you thank you for your page and playlists. I just had my heartbroken and am so tired of crying.

  405. Anklebiters permalink
    February 10, 2013 12:00 am

    Jake Coco – Re-defining Love

    I was put here for a reason, and I’m pretty sure it’s you
    I wanna dance with you in shadows, till all your lies become the truth
    We can stop and smell the roses, put the petals in your hair
    We can lay in bed all evening, call in sick cuz we don’t care.

    Singing I do believe you were meant for me.

    I wanna sing to you all over
    Under the stars in Tennessee
    Grab a drink in Carolina
    Make love from Boston to DC
    Well have a slice in New York City
    Then stop in Paris on the way
    Ride a hurricane through Cleveland
    Then catch a train back to LA

    Singing I do believe you were meant for me.

  406. Thomas permalink
    February 12, 2013 4:16 pm

    Hi there everyone, So just got dumped a few days before valentines day, i know awsome right? one minute she was on vaction and couldnt wait to get home too see me then its i think we need time apart… probly has something to do with all the guys she went with (just friends) but she was the only chick. guess ill cancle the dinner res. roses already sent tho… ill chalk it up to good guys always loose haha story of my life. anyway blah blah … heres a few songs ive been listening too.
    mostly for the boys but could work for the women
    1.ne-yo gon on girl
    2. got a brand knew girlfriend- steve holy
    3.justin timeberlake- goes around
    4.ne-yo so sick
    5.theory of a deadman -not ment to be

    alll the rest have been mentioned.

  407. Thomas permalink
    February 12, 2013 4:39 pm

    ohh, 99 problems – hugo or jayz

  408. Madison permalink
    February 23, 2013 10:38 pm

    Chris Brown – Say Goodbye
    Plain White T’s – Hate (I Really Don’t Like You)
    Frankee – F U Right Back

    Those are some of my favorites :)

  409. Ahri permalink
    March 1, 2013 9:21 am

    i’m listening to these kind of songs tonight because i’m currently at war with my boyfriend. i listened to my phone then i realized the songs i was hearing were the same songs since my last last boyfriend which was years ago when i was still 15.im now 20. Haha. So i googled and found this list. I wanna share some of mine:

    Single Again – Trina?(the baddest b!tch)
    You know how they do
    How they act
    They see you with another man
    And they want you back
    Im single again
    Back on the prowl
    I thought it was perfect
    I dont know how im single again

    Emergency Room – Rihanna
    Good girl gone bad – Rihanna
    Stronger – Kelly Clarkson
    Roll the credits – Paula Deanda
    Best thing i never had – beyonce
    It ends tonight – american rejects or hifi ?
    Good Girl – paula deanda

  410. Anklebiters permalink
    March 5, 2013 11:07 pm

    Liz Longley – Goodbye Love

    I swear I felt you kissing her from miles and miles away
    It hollowed out my chest, I felt your love escape
    While your lips were pressed against her my head was on a pillow case cry
    “Goodbye Love, I’m gonna be okay”

    Now my thoughts keep running wild… like a child running through a field
    I wonder if you’re crazy about her and how holding her must feel
    Did you take her to your bed?
    Did she sleep there on my side?
    Oh goodbye love, I’m gonna be alright

    Goodbye love, I’m gonna be okay
    Goodbye love, I know it has to be this way
    Goodbye love

    There’s a place our love remains
    It is captured in time
    It’s still sitting by the river, your hands woven into mine
    It is perfectly untouched

    It knows no loss, no pain
    Oh goodbye love, I’m gonna be okay

    Goodbye love, I’m gonna be okay
    Goodbye love, I know it has to be this way
    Goodbye love

    I’m gonna be okay

  411. March 15, 2013 7:40 pm

    I just found your blog, and YAY just when I needed it.
    My favorite empowering song is “Happy Now” by No Doubt, with lyrics such as;
    “You had the best but you gave her up”,
    “You broke the pair, now there’s only singles, there’s no looking back, this time I mean it!”
    “Are you happy now?”
    “no more leaning on your shoulder, I won’t be there, no more bother, If you feel you just might want me, that’s too bad, I’m *not that easy*!”

  412. lavedams permalink
    March 20, 2013 9:21 am

    i just break up my bf last week freaking hurt me a lot..all i do listen music.still didn’t find good music until now.i wanted to move on..

  413. Starbuck permalink
    March 29, 2013 1:47 am

    I broke up with fiance about 6 months ago and we were together for about 7 years, but whatever. But I wanted songs that made me feel better rather than angry and sad so I’ve been compiling for awhile. And then my friend broke up with her bf finally so I decided to make a playlist for her.

    So here is my spotify playlist. I literally just made it, so I’m still adding. If there’s any suggestions I’d like to hear them. But I wanted songs that make you feel good about yourself and make you feel ok to move on.

  414. April 4, 2013 8:13 pm

    When a Worman’s Fed up by R Kelly, Call Tyrone by Erykah Badu, F*#@ It (I Don’t Want You Back)

  415. AnonymusRexie permalink
    April 9, 2013 6:31 pm

    never Getting Back Together by Taylor Swift

  416. courtney permalink
    April 18, 2013 10:43 pm

    done by the band perry, over you by daughtry and if your looking for a good laugh i pray for you by jaron is just too perfect

  417. May 8, 2013 4:38 pm

    Miss me – Andy Grammar
    Brilliant.
    *sigh*

  418. Jessica permalink
    May 11, 2013 2:20 pm

    Disciple – dear ex you don’t own me(rock)
    Mary J blidge – enough cryin, no more drama
    Keyshia cole – enough no love, should’ve let you go, I changed my mind, I should’ve cheated
    Rihanna – fading,rehab, we found love, we ride
    R.kelly – feelin single
    Eamon – fuck it
    Frankee – fuck you right back
    K.michelle – how many times
    Fantasia – I feel beautiful
    Christina perri – jar of hearts
    Prima j – left overs
    Profyle – lair,cheater,deceiver, heartbreaker
    Sara Evans – a little bit stronger <3333
    Stevie hoang – no coming back
    Papa roach- scars (rock)
    Joe Joan's – see no more
    Kayne west – see you in my nightmare
    Mariah Carey – shake it off
    Kelly clarkson – stronger , since you been gone , never again
    Fefe Dobson – stuttering
    J rice – thank you for the broken heart
    Pink – there you go
    Jennifer Hudson – think like a man
    Kelly price – tired
    Jojo – too little too late, leave get out
    Adele – turning tables
    Taylor swift – we are never getting back together
    Justin timberlake – cry me a river , what goes around comes around,
    Nsync – bye bye bye
    Katy perry – wide awake
    Eminem – 25 to life <333
    Demi Lovato – skyscraper <333333

    • Bnb permalink
      May 20, 2013 9:58 pm

      Here’s a good one. Michael Buble, Its a Beautiful Day.

      I don’t know why
      You think that you could hold me
      When you couldn’t get by by yourself
      And I don’t know who
      Would ever want to tear the seam of someone’s dream
      Baby, it’s fine, you said that we should just be friends
      While I came up with that line and I’m sure
      That it’s for the best
      If you ever change your mind, don’t hold your breath

      Pre Chorus
      ‘Cause you may not believe
      That baby, I’m relieved
      When you said goodbye, my whole world shines

      Chorus
      Hey hey hey
      It’s a beautiful day and I can’t stop myself from smiling
      If I’m drinking, then I’m buying
      And I know there’s no denying
      It’s a beautiful day, the sun is up, the music’s playing
      And even if it started raining
      You won’t hear this boy complaining
      ‘Cause I’m glad that you’re the one that got away
      It’s a beautiful day

      It’s my turn to fly, so girls, get in line
      ‘Cause I’m easy, no playing this guy like a fool
      Now I’m alright
      Might’ve had me caged before, but not tonight

      Pre Chorus
      ‘Cause you may not believe
      That baby, I’m relieved
      This fire inside, it burns too bright
      I don’t want to say “so long”, I just want to say “goodbye”

      Chorus
      Hey hey hey
      It’s a beautiful day and I can’t stop myself from smiling
      If I’m drinking, then I’m buying
      And I know there’s no denying
      It’s a beautiful day, the sun is up, the music’s playing
      And even if it started raining
      You won’t hear this boy complaining
      ‘Cause I’m glad that you’re the one who got away

      ‘Cause if you ever think I’ll take up
      My time with thinking of our break-up
      Then, you’ve got another thing coming your way
      ‘Cause it’s a beautiful day
      Beautiful day
      Oh, baby, any day that you’re gone away
      It’s a beautiful day

      More lyrics: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/m/michael_buble/

  419. joanbeem@yahoo.com permalink
    June 13, 2013 6:18 pm

    My favorites are:
    I am Woman by Helen Reddy
    These Boot Were Made for Walking by Nancy Sinatra
    Wrong Again

  420. Rachel permalink
    June 16, 2013 5:48 pm

    Great song suggestions! Another one to add to the list is Joanna Pacitti ‘Watch me shine’.

    Can’t go to the gym without it!

  421. Natalie permalink
    June 29, 2013 3:41 pm

    This was great thank you!
    I’d also recommend How You Remind Me by Nickelback!

  422. tequila.knowles permalink
    July 2, 2013 9:10 pm

    ex bfs..big losers..broke up wf me cz i wsnt his typ aftr evryfin v had…lol…still hvnt found a song to help me muv on…

  423. July 12, 2013 11:27 am

    Reblogged this on thekogm's Blog and commented:
    play listing them now…

  424. Nora permalink
    August 19, 2013 5:49 pm

    Shake it off – Mariah carey

  425. August 20, 2013 1:09 pm

    I love “Unanswered Prayers” by Garth Brooks. It’s one of my general favorite songs, not just breakup songs.

  426. September 2, 2013 9:32 pm

    I love breakup songs, but I have never been in a relationship so I really don’t know why. Kelly Clarkson has some really awesome breakup songs.

  427. Janice permalink
    October 4, 2013 10:33 pm

    Michael Bolton – When I’m back on my feet again

    Awesome song belongs on the list!

  428. Countrygirl permalink
    November 18, 2013 12:50 am

    How about Tyler Farr’s “Redneck Crazy”
    “Wish I knew how long it’s been going on
    How long you’ve been getting some on the side
    Nah, he can’t amount to much by the look of that little truck
    Well he wont be getting any sleep tonight

    I’m gonna aim my headlights into your bedroom windows
    Throw empty beer cans at both of your shadows
    I didn’t come here to start a fight, but I’m up for anything tonight
    You know you broke the wrong heart baby, and drove me redneck crazy
    Redneck crazy”

    Or Garth Brooks “The Thunder Rolls”
    “But on the wind and rain
    A strange new perfume blowsAnd the lightnin’ flashes in her eyes
    And he knows that she knowsAnd the thunder rolls
    And the thunder rolls
    The Thunder rolls
    And the lightening strikes
    Another love grows cold
    On a sleepless night
    As the storm blows on
    Out of control
    Deep in her heart
    The thunder rolls
    She runs back down the hallway
    And through the bedroom door
    She reaches for the pistol
    Kept in the dresser draw
    Tells the lady in the mirror
    “He won’t do this again”
    Because tonight will be the last time
    She’ll wonder where he’s been
    The Thunder rolls
    And the lightening strikes
    Another love grows cold
    On a sleepless night
    As the storm blows on
    Out of control
    Deep in her heart
    The thunder rolls

  429. December 7, 2013 10:39 am

    “High on Cruel” – Neko Case.

    I’ve got all of what you’re crying for now
    Your tears have come too late
    You break down the door
    There’s already nothing
    I’d only one heart to break
    You’re crawling on the floor like a fool
    And I’m so high on cruel
    You’ll drown in the light
    And I’ll burn like a star
    Your tears are gonna give me fuel

  430. Going through now permalink
    December 15, 2013 11:36 am

    Thanks! Very nice list! I would add “stronger” by kelly clarkson. :)

  431. Sageman permalink
    January 7, 2014 12:14 am

    Nice list. I’ve been listening to the song “Fell on Black Days” by Soundgarden for my breakup. I realize this genre may not fit what you normally listen too, but if you know of any other songs of this heaviness and darkness, I could use some. Thanks.

  432. RED permalink
    January 11, 2014 3:04 am

    Mariah Carey’s “SOMEDAY” and “You had your chance” are good break-up songs too.Ü

  433. February 28, 2014 7:47 pm

    Have you thought about “the climb” by miley Cyrus or Wrong baby wrong by Martina Mcbride.

  434. Henrique permalink
    March 23, 2014 2:50 am

    Nice list, a good addition would be “I’m Looking Through You” by The Beatles!

  435. Anklebiters permalink
    March 27, 2014 12:13 am

    Haven’t visited here in a while….

    Sarah Bareillis – Gravity

  436. April 12, 2014 3:09 am

    After looking for songs to heal a broken heart, I found so many that just made me feel worse about it, or indecisive or attached to a relationship that hurts. This playlist is to keep me and you inspired and strong. The choice of music is eclectic – the words are empowering, self-affirming, they avoid attachment to the relationship, but they are still kind.

  437. May 1, 2014 12:58 pm

    Ashton Shepherd’s Look It Up is a good one too. It starts:
    “The word is faithful, look it up
    It don’t mean sneakin’ around
    Behind my back like you ain’t gettin’ enough
    How ’bout forever, just look it up
    It means through thick and thin and
    Pitchin’ in even when the times get tough

    The word is easy, look it up
    And you’ll see a picture of that piece of trash
    Ridin’ ’round in your pickup truck
    Let’s try liar, just look it up
    But you’ll need boots to wade through all the bull
    You tell me when you come home drunk
    It’s just like you to be so clueless
    Cause you never thought I’d do this

    I said go, goodbye, get lost, get out, get gone
    The word is over
    Look it up

  438. Tina permalink
    May 2, 2014 4:01 pm

    A little bit stronger by Sara Evens ” woke up late today and I still feel the sting of the pain but I burs my teeth anyway. Got dressed through the mess and put a smile on my face. I got alittle bit stronger.

    Also BC Jean “I’ll survive you” both amazing and helping me.

  439. May 8, 2014 9:20 pm

    My gf left me after 3 years of friendship saying she wants freedom because she is still young and still wants some fun. OH WELL fuck me right… So many good songs. really thankful for all of you sharing some :)

  440. May 22, 2014 5:20 pm

    THE VERY BEST EMPOWERING BREAK UP SONGS ARE DEFINITELY, “THE DANCE” AND “UNANSWERED PRAYERS” BY GARTH BROOKS!!!!