Crazy Stuff We Do During Breakups
Okay, so we’ve established I’m a little crazy. Not Sperm Hunter or Snapped crazy (which is the Simply Solo standard for truly crazy), but slightly crazy. But aren’t we all? And what brings out the crazy in you like a breakup? Or an unhealthy relationship?
The other day I was talking with my dental hygienist, and she was telling me about how she and her husband are recently separated. She told me that when they were having problems, he would go away for long time periods and refuse to tell her where he was going. And then she had the crazy thought: she could hide in the bed of his truck and see where he was going.
Crazytown. Luckily, she realized it was a bad idea and didn’t follow through.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m not judging. I’m in a glass house here. When considering writing this post, I started recounting all the crazy stuff to which I’ve admitted on this blog. Over the past 10 months, I’ve revealed a lot. Perhaps, I’m being a little too honest on here. Maybe I should keep some of this crazy to myself. Like the time I drove by my ex fiancé’s house, or the time I stole a shirt from him right before I moved out and I currently keep it in my closet, or all about my baggage/trust issues where I want to check up on my partner by checking his phone for suspicious messages. There’s plenty more I have yet to reveal, like how when my ex and I broke up, I found out about some lies he told me and then I proceeded to go through every bank account, every email, every phone record, every little slip of paper I could find in our home, to try to find out the entire truth. I wanted to know everything there was to know. So yeah, I’ve done some crazy stuff.
I was talking with some friends about crazy stuff they did after a breakup, and heard some great stories. It seems that almost everyone has at least one incident in their past of which they’re not proud. One friend ended up sleeping with more than 20 people after her ex, including a few of his very close friends. Another friend continued to check his voice mail (she had the password – and he didn’t know it) for months and months after the break up, and took the liberty of deleting any voice mails from other girls. One friend broke into her ex’s house, and went through his new girlfriend’s things (and came close to stealing or breaking some of her stuff!). Other friends lashed out by getting various piercings and tattoos immediately after their breakups. And, others are a lot more tame, and just dramatically changed their hair by dying it or chopping it all off. And let’s just be honest here, we’re all guilty of Facebook stalking a time or two!
On some level or another, we all have some crazy s*it. Now that I’ve put all mine out there, I ask you: What crazy sh*t have you done related to breakups or unhealthy relationships? Don’t leave me hanging out here alone now! And you know, the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem!